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I’m gonna start this

Day One: Describe your system. What kind of system, how big, anything you feel is a good introduction.
Day Two: Who knows about your system? Who do you want to know? What do you feel like it’s like coming out as multiple?
Day Three: What are your thoughts on integration? Do you wish to integrate?
Day Four: Are you or any of the others in a relationship in or out of the system? How does dating work for you if you do it?
Day Five: How often do you switch? How often do you lose time? Talk a little about what dissociation is like for you.
Day Six: How do you feel about talking about the trauma which created your condition? Do you like to write about it privately or publicly? Why?
Day Seven: How many parts do you know of in the system? How many know about each other?
Day Eight: How did you first discover you were plural? Was it before, after, or during diagnosis?
Day Nine: What level of co-consciousness do you have? How do you feel your communication skills are within the system? How do you want to grow in those skills?
Day Ten: Have you ever done a system map? How extensively have you mapped your system?
Day Eleven: How much control do you have over switches? Do you know of any specific things which cause specific alters to front?
Day Twelve: What’s the worst thing you’ve woken up to finding out your alter’s done? What’s the best?
Day Thirteen: Has anyone ever noticed you were multiple before you told them? Do animals seem to know the difference in your switches?
Day Fourteen: To whoever’s fronting; what’s your favorite item to have around when fronting? Is it yours or do you share with other alters in the system?
Day Fifteen: What song(s) do you relate to your DID?
Day Sixteen: Where, as a system, is the safest place for you? Why?
Day Seventeen: Who’s an alter you’re interested in knowing more about or befriending? Which alter do you know best?
Day Eighteen: What’s your least favorite misconception or common misinformed fact spread abut Dissociative Identity Disorder?
Day Nineteen: Have you ever met another multiple offline? Tell us about it.
Day Twenty: Do you have a favorite book or TV show about or including DID?
Day Twenty-One: Tell us about your persecutor(s), protector(s), and gatekeeper(s).
Day Twenty-Two: Tell us about your littles.
Day Twenty-Three: Do you have an inner world? If so, who can access it? What’s it like?
Day Twenty-Four: Have you ever dealt with denial? What helps you work through it?
Day Twenty-Five: When did you first hear about Dissociative Identity Disorder? Was it before or after you discovered your plurality? In what context did you hear about it?
Day Twenty-Six: What aspect of DID do you find most challenging in daily life?
Day Twenty-Seven: What do you think the biggest differences between living as a singlet and living as a person with DID are?
Day Twenty-Eight: Share a memory of one of a different alter fronting which you’ve either been told about by them or by another friend.
Day Twenty-Nine: How do your alters like to express themselves on a daily basis?
Day Thirty: What’s one last thing you feel should be written about after answering all of that? Talk about whatever you want.

This Guy Spends His Entire Life in Front of a Webcam

Ari Kivikangas spends his entire life in front of a webcam. But unlike most vloggers devoted to sharing their lives with people who couldn’t care less, he doesn’t often do very much; there are no Kid Cudi ukelele covers or desperate pleas for followers, and at no point has he broken into a comedy routine.

That’s his first selling point. The second is that Ari—or “Cyberman”, as he’s called his Ustream show—claims to be online 24/7, except for brief gaps when he’s picking up his epilepsy medicine or, as he told me in an email, when he’s “getting some pussy (not often) or masturbating!”

What Ari does is called “life-casting”, which should be pretty self-explanatory, but basically involves live-streaming every single thing you do, like a self-enforced Truman Show with a fraction of the viewers. There’s something kind of fascinating about that; it takes a very specific type of confidence to not a give a shit about strangers watching you sleep.

So to find out a little more about his life online, I Skyped with Ari from his home in Finland. 

VICE: Hi Ari. So when did you start livestreaming your life?
Ari Kivikangas:
 I started about four years ago. I was stuck at home for three months and had a lot of time on my hands but nothing to do, so I started doing this. I’m epileptic and I don’t work any more, so I’m always at home.  

And you’ve spent all of your time online throughout those four years?
Yes, I’m online 24/7.

Have you always been quite an open person? Because letting people into your life to this extent seems like a pretty big step to take.
It’s a very big step, yeah, because I say exactly what I’m thinking at all times. I also tell everyone pretty much everything about my own personal history—not everything, but most things.

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Ari, showing viewers his setup

Give me a sample.
For example, I told my audience that I gave a man a blowjob. I’m bisexual. He came to see me, so I gave him a blowjob.

On webcam? 
No, not on webcam. I’ve masturbated on webcam before, though.

Regularly?
No, just once, a year ago. That wasn’t cool; it was really stupid. People were not cool about it.

Why do think that is? 
I had a really negative reaction to it, but I don’t care about what they say any more—I have a choice as to when I masturbate. 

Do you ever go offline?
Only when I’m picking up my medication or when I masturbate, but I can do that in other ways, like in my trousers.

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