Oh my god I'm looking at all the advice that you give people and it's giving me chills. Like the power that you have with words can really comfort someone in seconds and I really appreciate it .
I am really fortunate that I am able to make even a small difference in these peoples lives. Knowing I could be partially responsible for helping someone see tomorrow, and live their life less stressed is truly what I strive for.
Thank you for your kind words and the motivational undertone that is going to keep me going!
my boyfriend seems to have depression. what should I do? :(
it’s okay to care for him and try to help him in the healthiest way possible, but at the same time you can’t make his feelings your responsibility. That will crush you overtime and the stress is horrid. Separate yourself from the situation.
I don’t know much about what you’re saying but if there’s not certain reason as to why he’s depressed my best advice would to just be there for him. Sometimes it’s not about acting out but about being a constant rock in their life. It’s very simple but very powerful. Whether they’re happy or sad if you’re there they’ll see the love you have for them and maybe, over time, that will be a contributing factor of their healing. In the end though, it’s up to him whether or not he wants to get better- not you. Don’t put this weight on your shoulders, recognize that it’s his life and his feelings. It’s not your fault.
We want to be noticed and appreciated, yet we hate attention. We want to make others feel happy and comfortable, yet doing so causes a great deal of stress for us at times. We like to be alone and are very independent, yet we yearn for companionship. We are able to think very logically, yet are willing to disregard logic if our intuition tells us something different. At times, being an INFJ can feel like being two people at once, and we regularly struggle with balancing these different personas.
~ 27.02.2015 ~
Hope you had a nice day. My day was not that nice. I got very stressed at school because we were supposed to write a big test in maths and I couldn’t concentrate on anything so I didn’t really answer any tasks. I just feel so sad about this because I studied the whole week and I really can’t figure out how this could happen. So this makes me a bit sad.
I miss my best friend a lot and my grandfather too but although it will not bring them back to life. In general there is so much on my mind currently.
→ My parents are so annoying because they scream at each other the whole time and I could really punch them in their faces. Hate it! → I got a fight with one of my really good friends and now she is angry and does not want to talk to me. → School is just getting so complicated because we have so much to do and there is so much homework and we have to study for exams soon.
→ Sometimes I just feel so lost because I feel so alone and I just want to be hugged but there is nobody who wants to hug me. You should know that I love hugs and they always make my day a lot better. But there are also times when I am really difficult because I push lovely people away because I’m afraid to get hurt and that is really bad. Have to work with this.
→ But my good news: I’m 51 days clean with self harm again and this really makes me happy!
→ Another (maybe) interesting message is that I started writing a song and I want to play it on guitar. And I’m still writing my book too =)
~ Stay Strong! ~
Again, for those who missed the memo, I will be deleting my tumblr permanently in a couple weeks. Feel free to add me on facebook (link on my blog), on Instagram (tkfreezes), and Pinterest (tkfreezes). Be warned my Pinterest account is a little disorganized right now because I’m pinning a lot in relation to things I’m learning atm (weaving, tapestry, embroidery, nålbinding, spinning, open hearth cookery, etc).
I must admit that I have been in a really good place the last few months. I’m happy with my self, my work, my home, my solitude. I enjoy a feeling of connectedness with everything every day, and my life is very nearly completely free of stress. I’m learning more and more old fashioned type arts, am studying math, physics, chemistry, and reading a lot on neuroscience, philosophy, and psychology. I’m making plans to within the next three years begin the adventure of buying land, building a small cabin, and acquiring livestock. I would like to have sheep, chickens, and geese in particular.
I have discovered an unwavering stillness and understanding within myself. I’m at peace, and that’s where I’d like this blog to come to rest.
I was literally sitting here and stressing about how I looked after spending too much time nitpicking myself in the mirror, and what you've said has really helped to make me feel better. My biggest fear is to be alone becasue of how I look.
I know that feel, boo.
My biggest fear for a long time was abandonment. I won’t get into why, but I will say it was a massive theme in my younger life. I gotta say, being fat, physically weak, highly emotional, very sensitive, and extremely empathic (not empathetic, two different things) and not knowing why, or how, or what was going on in my world scared the shit out of me. Every time something happened where a person wasn’t around suddenly, I took it to heart, and decided it was my fault. I wasn’t good enough, they didn’t want me. I was a failure. I was pathetic. I was too young to understand my world, but my brain is such that I began processing information at a high-school level before I hit double-digits. My brain was too fast for me to keep up, and emotions flew around like shrapnel.
I probably should have been on adderal from childhood, and put into gifted classes, but nobody paid me that much attention, so I just kinda spiraled out of control.
Long story short, my head was pretty screwed up by the time I got to an age where physical appearance was a thing.
I’m pretty sure I didn’t take off my shirt in front of another living person until I was well into college. Senior year, I think… did it maybe twice. I hated summer, because I love swimming, I love the climate, and I love pools, especially, but pools meant shirtless, and if I took off my shirt, people would vomit. Women would flat out stop talking to me. No end of misery and mockery would come.
I wouldn’t let anyone touch me for YEARS. I thought I was too disgusting. I got sick when I saw myself. It was pretty bad.
I don’t know what happened, or why it did, but one day, I just said, “fuck this,” and started hitting the gym. Hard.
I still have massive amounts of loose skin, and my weight is still a huge battle for me, but the deal is this: you are what you want to be, and you are what you see yourself as… not because other people see you that way (I found out in later years that I was crushed on by most the women in the performing arts department in college, including a couple professors, as well as a good portion of girls in high school… I was just so angry, scared, and alone in my head that I never saw it, and people were scared to talk to me. funny, huh?) but because you will not allow anyone else to show you what they see.
You’re perfect, if that’s what you think you are. If you’re content, then hey, go be all about that bass, or generally rock whatever it is that you got, but you have like what’s in front of you, because only you can allow yourself to see that you are seen.
We’re all beautiful to someone… you just have to let yourself be.
My daily struggle is that I have so many things to do everyday, so many homework and extra activities, so I’m constantly stressed, which makes me feel very tired, of course, and when I finally get the time to do the things I enjoy I can’t because all I want to so is rest a little bit and don’t think about life for a while, or use tumblr instead of doing something productive,
I used to feel motivated for a lot of things, and I still get excited, but I’m physically and mentally tired to enjoy them. I have this story I’m writing and I wish I could end it soon but I just can’t find the time to feel relaxed enough to continue it. Maybe I’m just exaggerating everything but I’m sure I’m not the only who lives struggling with these problems. And the saddest thing is that adults are always telling me this is the time of my life I am supposed to do stuff I enjoy and I’m not doing it and it is so frustrating?
I won’t be writing for a little while. Trying to get words out on paper has felt very stressful lately, and I need to reevaluate what sort of place writing has in my life and where to go from here. When I sit down to type my throat gets tight, my eyes fill with tears, and I feel like I’m on the verge of a panic attack. It’s not healthy. I don’t know what to do about it except stop for a while. This makes me feel like a failure, but if I continue in this way something worse is going to happen.
In the meantime I’m going to focus on calm and beauty and spirituality: I’m going to pray and meditate, drink less, eat more greens, read quietly, reach out to friends, write notes of encouragement, cook, do some spring cleaning, take pictures, exercise, edit other peoples’ words, take walks, go for runs, stretch, breathe.
I’m turning 27 next week. Like every year, I’ll bundle up to go see the sunrise at Montrose Harbor and have breakfast with a darling friend. I’m going to color my hair. I’m going to let myself be new.
I wanted to thank everyone who have be invested in this wonderful fandom. Also I wanted to thank all of my followers for stucking with me all this time. Thanks whoever liked o reblogged anything I posted. Thanks to every person I follow for making my dash a joy everyday: Entwife, pellegrinaleoni, rothelena, orchidsofwhite, redjohn-nydepp, mentalist1, brooklyn6666… And some many others I’m missing for sure (Sorry!). I wish I could have talk more to you, guys, but I’m not that good at English and I’m very shy because of this ;)
I haven’t been online much these months because real life has been so stressful lately (but I’m on holyday now, yay!) I want to keep posting about the Mentalist, though. And I hope to keep reading all of you!
Once again, thank you and be all prepared, we have a wedding to attend in a few hours!! :D
I have a medical thing that I don’t talk about here for personal reasons. It has caused a lot of stress and problems in my life, and it’s one of the first things I tell a therapist about because it’s had a big impact on me and my development.
For some reason, psychiatrists NEVER believe me. They either think that I’m making it up, exaggerating, or that it’s possibly self-inflicted in some way. YES, it’s a very rare thing, but it’s still a thing that exists among 1-5% of the population, so it’s not THAT weird.
This is extra “funny” because I have had several doctors tell me that I was just crazy or that it was caused by “stress.”
But, no, I have extensive documentation and proof and I’m really annoyed about shrinks thinking I’m just full of crap.
There's this guy he makes me smile a lot, I always get butterflies when we talk and I really fuckin like him, we've only been talking for a week but we have a lot in common we were even painting our hair at the same time, he thinks my laugh is cute and he thinks I'm cute also, this Monday I'm going to tell him I like him. what do you think I should do!? should I wait? or go for it :(( I'm scared of the outcome please help
honestly go for it, life is very short and don’t stress out about the outcome!!
“a year ago, around this time, I was at a very lost phase. I didn’t know who I was anymore, my love life was a mess, I wasn’t doing anything with my self but only working at a grocery store for 35 hours a week, making about less than $250 weekly. I didn’t have a set goal for who I wanted to become, how to get there, and what I needed to do. I was stressed all of the time. But mostly depressed. because I was taught that at the age of 19 you should already have a sense of what you need to be doing with your life…. but in fact, you don’t. You don’t need to know at the age of 18, you don’t need to know at the age of 19, 20, 21, 22— etc. you need to figure yourself out, with no age limit to stress you out about a non existent dead line. A year ago I never thought I’d be in the position I am today. I am now 20, I am a full time student at my Community College, Theater Major. A clerical worker at a property agency. & so deeply in love with the man of my dreams. It all takes so much time for things to fall into place, and even in the position im in, this isn’t the best or where I want to be, but it’s a start, it’s a great fucking start, and im so proud of myself for coming a long way. And I hope anyone reading this realizes it’s okay to be lost, it’s okay to not know. In time, step by step, you’ll get there. and you’ll keep improving, as long as you don’t give it up. Good luck.”
Hi guys! First, I wanna thank all the 4602 new followers I have! You guys are all awesome and I love you. ❤️
So, I’ll just be honest with you guys.
My personal life is awful at the moment. My mother being very sick, and my father about to have surgery next month, my family life being awful because of disputes, etc.
All the stress and anxiety of these things is…how should I put this? It’s making me think of doing things to myself I have never thought of doing, harming myself.
I’m okay, I can’t really do it anyways being here monitored every hour at boarding school.
So, I’ve decided to take another break.
Reading about any of these serial killers and school shooters is making these thoughts come more frequently than I’d like them to. Especially reading up on Columbine and Jeffrey Dahmer.
I really hope you guys understand. I wish I could be strong enough to keep this blog up, but I just can’t. I’m sorry. I’d appreciate if anyone has advice on how to block these thoughts out. All I’ve been doing is drawing and watching some movies. It isn’t helping that much anymore.
I’ll be updating the queue today and tomorrow. Tomorrow night I’ll be turning off the ask and let the queue run.
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lmao im skyping my best friend bc he just re-did his room for the first time since like 7th grade and as he was showing me around his room his mum came inside and she pushed him out of the screen and talked to me about life for like ten minutes :’)
#IGoPlaces: La Puerta al Paraizo Resort (Nueva Valencia, Guimaras) Part 2
If you wish to go somewhere peaceful and serene, where you can breath fresh air and be able to reconnect with nature at its finest, La Puerta al Paraizo is the place to be! I personally chose La Puerta because of its beaming beauty and distinct features. The place is very secluded, no wifi and mobile phones can hardly catch signals makes it more perfect to have a “me time”. The resort is well recommended for people like me who hates crowded, noisy and polluted places! It totally feeds my nature lover self.
I went there with my college besties (Coco, Bi, and Yao) who also felt the need to take a break from the stressful life brought about by their hectic work.
Day 1 in Paradise
We arrived at the resort at around 4:30 in the afternoon. A friendly and accommodating resort staff greeted us at the restaurant counter. After we had verified our reservation, the staff brought us to our room and explained to us some of the resort’s rules and regulations.
We reserved and paid for the most affordable fan room good for 4 (Php2,500) but we were surprised when the staff gave us this air-conditioned room, clean, well lit and with sliding doors. We felt very lucky that day! Haha! And by the way, the bathroom was also good with hot and cold shower.
This was exactly the view every time we opened the curtains of our room. Makes us all giddy to hit the white sand beach!
The Bakasyonistas! #BiYaoCoYanInLaPuerta
We didn’t waste our time. We immediately changed to our swimming outfits and head down to the beach. Just in time for the sunset!
We were the only guests in the resort that day so we had to shout, “We own the place!” Hahaha
The cliff where the rooms are located.
We enjoyed this golden magical hour taking selfies, jump shots and hair flips!
Our dinner was served at 7pm. We ordered Shrimp Sinigang, Beef with Mushroom, Chicken Pancit Canton and we had vanilla and chocolate ice cream for dessert. Our tummies were satisfied although the food was pricey. hehe!
We went back to our room after dinner and spent the rest of the night chitchattinguntil we fell asleep. We felt secured that night because there’s a 24-hour security guard roving around the area looking after for the safety of the guests.
(Part 3 of this post will be about our Day 2 in the island. You can read the part 1 for the resort amenities and tips & directions on how to go to La Puerta. Check ithere.)