so i have no idea if this is normal?? but as a ftm trans headcanons making people trans just make me kind of uncomftorable?? and of course there's nothing wrong with the headcanons, i have nothing against them [ they're pretty cool ] but you're the smartest person i know about sexuality and this has kind of been freaking me out for the past couple weeks
OH that’s so weird you brought this up because i was just thinking about something like this last night. first off, i have no idea if this is a particularly common thing? if it is, i haven’t seen anyone post on it - but at the very least, i get where you’re coming from. so while i can’t give you generalized advice on this subject, i can give you my own personal experience in the topic
a while ago (and even nowadays whenever i have Bad Days), i used to be sort of in the same boat? and it really, REALLY got to me, because i had no idea why trans headcanons made me feel so uncomfortable when i wasn’t even cis myself, yknow??
it took me a REALLY long time to realize that the discomfort i felt was from dysphoria, and even then, i was still kind of upset?? because hcs generally make me feel more included and comforted but that just wasn’t the case in this situation, which i think may be because i experience dysphoria really, really frequently (i look/sound traditionally feminine, i guess, and i still go my birth name - i get misgendered all the time) and seeing that represented in things (even if the content wasn’t dysphoria-driven?) made me reflect on my own feelings and it just wasn’t a good situation. it’s an ongoing process, tho, because i’m slowly but surely overcoming all of that.
idk if it’s dysphoria specifically in your situation, tho! it took me a super long time to recognize that it came from that in the first place,,does any of that sound familiar? i dont even know if other ppl have experienced the same thing or if its just a me thing @__@ i hope i helped somehow..???