are you 14 year old boys

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I’m Kennedy
 a 15 year old girl who lives in the U.S. I am looking for a friend who has similar interest and is between 13-19. You can be any gender, race or sexuality. I want someone I can text about my problems and someone who can be a friend in generally.My interest include animals, traveling, adventures, music, photography and some t.v. shows. Photography is a big part of my life. I love traveling around and taking pictures of pretty much everything. Lately been taking pictures of girls at my school for there Instagram. My favorite t.v. shows are shameless, Walking dead, all Disney movies Bc who doesn’t love them, and 13 Reasons Why! I have 2 dogs, 3 mice, and 2 hermit crabs. So hit me up if you want a friend who you can talk to at most any time. Instagram: Kennedy.brooke.__
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let this man call his brother cute

do you ever think about how super fucked up danny phantom is

a 14-year-old boy fucking dies in a tragic lab accident, but the accident happens halfway into an alternate dimension, so he is both killed (in one dimension) and not killed (in the other). danny is literally schrodinger’s boy – both dead and alive. he’s a living corpse possessed by his own ghost.

I hate edgy culture, this is a real article about a real *14 year old* girl being shot in the head, she’s paralyzed and partially blind, and people are laughing reacting or “thankful” reacting to it on Facebook. 

Male violence against women is so common, that we find this funny. A young girl has gone from wanting to spend her summer horseback riding and because of two boys instead her goal is to move her fingers, and we’re acting like it’s a joke. Why do we, as a culture, hate women so much? 

(here’s the actual article if you wanted to read the story)

iconic moments from the early seasons of the 100

•"i was born in space"
•they introduced the hot bad boy character by having him do a flip off the drop ship
•"it’s an AUTOM OBI LE"
•when they took a tarp with them to carry Jasper who was injured but they ended up carrying their dinner in the tarp and they just made Wells carry Jasper hahaha
•also when they were playing peppy indie music and it was a Feel Good moment but then a spear struck Jasper through the heart and everyone started screaming
•"he tried to kill Jasper, too" “…..what”
•Murphy was trying to rally the crowd and was like “ALL IN FAVOR OF JUSTICE” and like 3 people raised their hands
•the entire Day Trip episode
•"you can’t just KILL PEOPLE to make yourself FEEL BETTER"
•they couldn’t communicate with the Ark and everyone was crying but Clarke and Finn just had angry sex
•they tied Atom to a tree and left him there as punishment
•Murphy peed on that guy
•Murphy spelled “die” wrong
•Jasper saw Murphy strangling a guy with a plastic bag and Murphy just tried to cover it by saying “he just….stopped breathing”
•honestly every goddamn line that came from John Murphy’s mouth
•Jaha hallucinated that baby that he found in a drawer
•"is that the Ark?“ "i hope they have shampoo”
•"i know who Oppenheimer is"
•Monty walked in on Finn and Raven fucking and he was wearing that lil hat
•"happy unity day here’s some unity juice"
•"storms coming…..“ and other such diva Bellamy moments
•14 year old Jasper doing straight shots of moonshine
•"herbs…..if you know what i mean”
•jasper woke up from near death and asked for some booze that kid sure does love alcohol
•everyone was like “Jasper’s had a bad week what with almost dying let’s let him fix the wristbands” and he fucked it up
•they all wanted to murder Jasper because he was keeping them up with his screaming
•just anything Jasper did was iconic bc he was always suffering (still is)
•someone was listed in the credits as “Boy Bullied By Murphy”
•bellamy was always like “no one leave camp” but when his little sister went missing he woke everyone up at like 3 am and was like “we’re all leaving this minute lets go party people”
•raven and finn were reunited and she was like i’m going to cut his greasy ass hair immediately
•bellamy and raven were always ready to fight each other they took every opportunity
•everyone wore bomber jackets
•finn’s trick to make girls like him was to create little sculptures for them and Raven got a pretty bird and Clarke got a two headed deer lmao
•any injury was cured by putting a hot blade on it problem solved
•murphy came back with a deadly disease and everyone was like “aw jeez guys he’s dying he won’t hurt anyone”
•and then he killed like 3 people
•murphy in general

Understanding Elizabeth Midford

So. I don’t usually involve myself in petty fandom feuds but HOLY. SHIT. This is pissing me off. We’ve gone through 100+ chapters and people STILL don’t understand Lizzy’s character? They manage to rationalize Kuroshitsuji enough that they give Sebastian feelings even though he’s a hungry demon who made a pact with a 10 year old boy because he sensed his soul was broken, desperate, and malleable to more further corruption. They manage to do all this for a DEMON but can’t find it in their hearts to apply that analytical mindset to a darling 14 year old girl whose human emotions drive her every decision?

“She’s selfish! She only wants to make Ciel smile so things can go back to the way they were!”

“She doesn’t understand him! She’s always trying to change him, that bitch!”

“She’s so ANNOYING. Like, her voice!”

“Oh my god, did you see her standing there in the third panel? Like who does that! RUDE.”

So in an attempt to bring some basic level of cognition into these…“arguments” I’m going to go through them one by one and you can disagree if you like. But please refrain from using derogatory terms, unsubstantiated arguments, and referrals to “proofs” that are nothing more than blog posts made from those who wish to paint Kuroshitsuji in terms more favorable to them and whatever else they ship. 


1. “She’s selfish! She only wants to make Ciel smile so things can go back to the way they were!”

Elizabeth Midford is, by far, the LEAST selfish person in the whole damn manga. This girl spent most of her childhood loathing the physical strength she possessed because the person she loved didn’t like it. She chose to shoulder her anguish by HERSELF because she didn’t want to burden Ciel (or her brother or her mother or her father) with her personal worries.

Lizzy is also incredibly aware that things can NEVER go back to the way they were. She expresses this concern to Sebastian when she admits that she wishes Ciel would talk to her more and that the only reason she overdoes her cuteness is because she wants to see Ciel smile. Why are comedians so outlandish and over-the-top? Because they want to see their audience laugh. Lizzy took that mindset and applied it to her goal of cheering Ciel up. Furthermore, the Easter egg chapter proved ONCE AND FOR ALL that Lizzy is perfectly aware of the change that’s occurred within Ciel—that he’s no longer the happy, smiling boy of years past.

Lizzy KNEW Ciel didn’t remember why the egg was nostalgic and if she was really selfish, she would’ve thrown a fit—had a full on temper tantrum then and there but instead, what does she do? She outwits the game master himself. Lizzy sets up an Easter egg hunt that she made up completely off the cuff, wears a happy smile throughout the entire event, and when Ciel hands her the egg what does Lizzy do? She laughs and wishes that the egg would bring CIEL lots of happiness. HOW IS SHE SELFISH? HOW. Selfish would be throwing a tantrum because Ciel didn’t remember the way things used to be. Selfish would be bringing up the past EVERY FRIGGIN SECOND. Selfish would be forcing Ciel to comply to the shared etiquette of their past.

Instead, Lizzy is SELFLESS. Instead of throwing a tantrum, Lizzy wishes Ciel happiness. Instead of bringing up the past, Lizzy tries to ignore it because she knows it makes Ciel uncomfortable—that’s why she’s never asked him about “that month” even though she desperately wants to know what’s happened to the boy she loves. And instead of forcing Ciel to behave the way he used to (sweet, sympathetic, loving), Lizzy is learning to accept him for who he is now—how many times has Ciel ignored her? How many times has Ciel left the country without telling her? How many times has Ciel purposely hidden things from Lizzy and then disregarded her concern with a wave of his hand? Lizzy is learning to accept this new Ciel—this closed off, distant Ciel because she KNOWS something terrible must have happened to him. Because instead of crying and whining like she did at the beginning of Black Butler when Ciel refused to take off his ring, Lizzy has learned to ACCEPT. And that, my dears, is called character development—something Ciel hasn’t undergone since the beginning of this manga.


2. “She doesn’t understand him! She’s always trying to change him, that bitch!”

There is NOTHING about Ciel that Lizzy is trying to change. If anything, it’s Sebastian who’s always prodding and provoking Ciel to become darker—more cruel, less empathetic, and more focused on getting his revenge. She threw a party for Ciel at the beginning of the manga because she thought that might make him smile—fun colors, fine music, seeing Bard and Finny crossdressing…heck, even Ciel took a page from Lizzy’s book when he dressed the F5! It probably took Lizzy HOURS to choose Ciel’s outfit, decorate the mansion, coordinate the whole event and it probably hurt like hell to see Ciel dismiss all her hard work so casually.

As a reader, it’s easy for us to say “HELLO. Doesn’t she know? He was abused and tortured by the cultists! He made a deal with the devil to escape that wretched place, how could this dumb broad think a simple party would cheer him up?!”

And the answer is…Lizzy has NO IDEA what happened to Ciel. (Hindsight is a gift, ain’t it?) She has no idea that he became so desperate to escape the cult that he sold his soul to a starving demon. Lizzy is does not know what Ciel went through and this boy is doing his damnedest to make sure Lizzy never knows. Because he wants to keep her pure, ignorant, and encased in light.

People always point to the party chapter as Lizzy trying to “change” Ciel but all she wanted was to put a smile on his face. She even admits that she overdoes it at times but everything she’s done comes from a good place. Everyone wants to see their loved ones happy and Ciel is the boy Lizzy loves best of all—of course she’s going to try everything under the sun to try and put a little smile on his face.

And Lizzy DOES understand Ciel, to the best of her ability. She’s never once asked Ciel (or Sebastian) about his time in the cult. She uses games to figure out Ciel’s secrets. (Ex: Easter egg hunt—this is where Lizzy knew Ciel was only pretending to remember their Easter tradition and where Lizzy’s suspicions were confirmed—something life changing and drastic DID happen to Ciel during “that month.”) She doesn’t force Ciel to take her to public events because, let’s face it—as the only daughter to a high ranking marquess that serves directly under the queen, Lizzy’s bound to be invited to dozens of soirees a week. And as a gentlewoman of the aristocracy, Lizzy’s going to need an escort. In Victorian times, it was typical that the fiancé escort his bride-to-be but here is Lizzy—sweet, traditional Lizzy—ignoring precedent because she KNOWS Ciel dislikes social events. (Keep in mind, this is information being pieced together by a 14 year old girl who’s been taught to be an “unknowing angel.”)

Elizabeth understands the change that’s come over Ciel, knows that he won’t be interested in the same things he was interested in before. But in spite of Ciel shutting her out, in spite of Sebastian’s constant presence, Lizzy is still working her hardest to try and bring some happiness to Ciel’s life because she loves him. She loves him so much that Bravat was able to take Lizzy’s desperation and devotion and use it against her.

Let’s not forget—the reason Lizzy continued seeing Bravat was because she thought he could help her make Ciel happy.


3. “She’s so ANNOYING. Like, her voice!”

I think this is the most common excuse people use to not like Lizzy. They critique her high levels of energy (even though Finny and Soma are equally vivacious), her love for beautiful things (even though Ciel is probably the vainest little boy in the whole of London, England), and the fact that she “doesn’t understand” Ciel (counterargument already presented above).

You know, in a lot of ways I see Lizzy as a Scarlett O’Hara figure—strong, determined, unflinching in the face of danger. But also very, very misunderstood. Lizzy only behaves with an exorbitant amount of energy because she wants to make Ciel happy —to bring some sunlight into his gloomy, pessimistic world. The end results are not always successful but the intention behind Lizzy’s every action is pure—as pure as Soma’s decision to help Ciel simply because he saw him as a friend. Lizzy puts on a vaudeville for Ciel in a misguided attempt to help him heal and move on from whatever is tormenting him.


4. “Oh my god, did you see her standing there in the third panel? Like who doesn’t that! RUDE.”

Black Butler is told from the perspectives of Ciel and Sebastian. We only get brief glimpses into Lizzy’s psyche so it’s impossible for us to codify her completely. What I do know is that some people out there will always hate on Lizzy—whether it’s because they dislike her voice (well that’s her VA’s fault, not Lizzy’s) or because Lizzy “gets in the way” of someone’s ship. I’m not here to reason with those who refuse to be reasoned with. This is me expressing my adoration for a flawed, misguided, but pure of heart character whose unconditional love for a changed, callous boy makes me admire her all the more.

Oddly enough, people seem to relate “understanding” a person to “knowing exactly what happened to them to make them this way.” And to me, this is really giving Lizzy an unfair shake. By this definition, Lizzy could never understand Ciel because she doesn’t know what happened to him in that one month that’s made him the way he is (reason: he flat out didn’t tell her and uses every opportunity to prevent her from finding out. Ciel is so concerned about protecting Elizabeth’s goodness/light/purity that on the Campania, when Sebastian was slaughtering all those Bizarre Dolls, Ciel shielded Lizzy from seeing the carnage because he wants her to remain innocent and unaware). To quote Albert Einstein, “Any fool can know. The point is to understand.

I think Lizzy understands Ciel—she can sense the pain, the resignation, the drive towards something greater that Ciel is working towards. This is best exemplified in an early chapter (after Ciel’s fallen asleep and Sebastian is serving her tea) where Lizzy expresses sorrow that Ciel won’t tell her anything. Sebastian comforts Lizzy by telling her that while “It’s a difficult question for me as a butler…[I can tell you] one thing…He [Ciel] was able to spend a nice, free day with everyone.” To which Lizzy retorts that she wishes she could believe that. Elizabeth may not know what happened to Ciel during that month, but she understands.

This then brings me to my next and final point—people wanting Lizzy to “accept” the situation by stepping aside and leaving the manga. Well, to quote Michael J. Fox: “Acceptance doesn’t mean resignation; it means understanding that something is what it is and that there’s got to be a way through it.” — And this is exactly what Lizzy’s doing. She’s fighting for a way to help Ciel, to help him move on, to do anything that might benefit it. Lizzy’s accepted the situation but she’s certainly not resigned for it—Lizzy’s a fighter, and she’ll continue fighting for the boy she loves until the very end.


Further discussion is encouraged. But, please remember: refrain from using derogatory terms, unsubstantiated arguments, and referrals to “proofs” that are nothing more than blog posts made from those who wish to paint Kuroshitsuji in terms more favorable to them and whatever else they ship. I am not disparaging other characters or ships—I merely ask that you don’t refer to those “did you know” blog posts that’s caused so much strife in the Black Butler fandom. Thank you.

Monsta x as Scottish Tweets (requested)
  • Shownu: 14 year old captioning selfies like “i took a pill in ibiza” no Elizabeth you took a paracetamol in spain because you had heatstroke, behave
  • Wonho: My maw gets so jel when i do anything fun like no ma fault am oot snorting lines n shaggin nines and you have to stay home and bake a lasagna
  • Minhyuk: why are boys so nasty to girls n think they're pure legends for it hahaha jokes on u when ur wanking into a sock
  • Kihyun: a canny deal wae materialistic ppl, your boyfriend bought you a louis vuitton bag? aye well mine bought me a kfc n i can tell you who is happier hen
  • Hyungwon: Asked the burd in krispy kremes for 5 nutella donuts and she says “have you got any nut allergies” aye pal am planning suicide by donut
  • Jooheon: The police came to ma door and told me ma dugs were chasing people oan bikes...ma dugs don't even have bikes
  • I.M: Pensioners just love gettin on buses when its roastin n shuttin aw the windaes, aww yes boil me alive Agnes, beat me wae a ladle and call me lentil soup
VERSUS KRUM [DRACO MALFOY]

request: “Hey can I request prompt 92 with Draco Malfoy? It’s okay if you don’t want to 😊” - by anon

a/n: what do you mean it’s okay if i don’t want to? OF COURSE I WANT TO IT’S DRACO MALFOY. (hope you like this ahaha. also, let’s just pretend they’re not 14-year-olds in this imagine bc it takes place in the goblet of fire lol)

92. “Not that I’d prefer him, but he is definitely more handsome than you are.”

Masterlist + Request here! 

    “Draco, look! There he is!” you whispered to the boy beside you, slapping him repeatedly on the arm to gain his attention while your other hand was pointing quite excitedly to the middle of the Great Hall where the Durmstrang students were now doing a very impressive entrance.

    Draco Malfoy scoffed, scowling at the sight of Viktor Krum walking along with his schoolmates. To be honest, he was definitely jealous by how you were giving the International Quidditch player so much attention as soon as he arrived that Draco didn’t even bother to please you by joining along the cheering.

    “Holy cow.” you gasped just as Viktor Krum took a seat not far from yours. “Do you think he’ll sign me an autograph if I walked out there and asked, Draco?”

    “I don’t know, Y/N. Why don’t you throw yourself at him and try?” he deadpanned.

    You sent him a glance of annoyance before leaning in slightly on your table to look sideways where Krum was chatting with some of your housemates already.

    Draco scoffed, “What’s with him, anyway? Anyone could play Quidditch -”

    “You got to be kidding me!” you cut him off. “No one plays Quidditch like Krum. And not only that, he is so …” you dreamily stared at him.

    “What?” Draco urged you to continued and finally, you flickered your eyes on him to see that he was grimacing.

    “Handsome.” you grinned.

    Draco clenched his hand into a fist. “Y/N, you might want to check your eyes and visit Madam Pomfrey.”

    You laughed at his expression, placing a hand over his. “Come on. It’s not that I’d prefer him, but he is definitely more handsome than you are.” you carried on teasing him.

    For a few weeks now, you and Draco had been going on dates after admitting to yourselves that the both of you indeed fancied each other much more than a friend. That was why he was so jealous and you were having so much fun knowing that he was, much to his disapproval.

    “Hey,” you shook the hand you were still holding when he gave you no response, the platinum haired boy didn’t look at you as he glumly picks on his food. “Draco, I was only kidding.”

    “Didn’t seem that you were.” he murmured.

    You were biting your lip to fight off the smile that was beginning to show. “Of course, I was. You are definitely, no doubt, one hundred percent, more good looking and attractive and handsome than Krum.” you over exaggerated, finally making Draco to look at you.

    You could see that he was trying hard not to laugh. “You are ridiculous.” he said, only chuckling.

    “Am I forgiven then?”

    Draco smirked. “I’ll think about it.”

    “Now you’re the one being ridiculous.”

    “Well, sorry, but I’m not the one who was fawning over another guy when she already has a boyfriend.” the scowl was on his face again.

     "Boyfriend.“ you repeated. “Is that what you are? Because honestly, you haven’t even asked me to be your girlfriend.”

     Draco was about to say something but decided against it, closing his mouth afterwards.

    Truth was, you were right. The two of you have been dating for a moderately long time now and still he hasn’t bothered to ask you to make it official which made you annoyed a little bit. But even though you felt that way, you never confronted him about it - until now, that is to say.

    “I thought I didn’t need to ask.” he murmured after a good minute.

    “How come?” you crossed your arms.

    Draco turned to you. “Because I thought we already were. I mean, Y/N, we’ve been kissing and going on dates - isn’t that what couples do?”

     "Yeah, but -“

    "And you know I’m only yours.” he raised an eyebrow.

    You blushed in embarrassment and also because of his statement. “Okay, fine, I’m sorry. It’s totally my fault.”

     He snorted. “Well, now that you mentioned it. Would you be my girlfriend?” he was now grinning.

     "Your lack of romanticism still amazes me, Malfoy. Jeez, I was kidding.“ you quickly added the last part when he gave you the look. "And yeah, I’ll be your girlfriend.”

    “Good.” he was about to lean in and give you a kiss when your eyes widened and you pointed behind him.

    “Blimey, Draco - it’s Krum! He’s walking towards us, look -”

    He rolled his eyes and cut you off by pressing his lips on yours like originally planned. Some of the Slytherins that were on the table whistled and shouted at the scene in front of them while you laughed against the kiss, the both of you pulling away shortly after.

    Your eyes were shining and your cheeks were crimson red. “What was that for?” you asked him breathlessly, Draco shrugging with a smug grin on his face.

     "Had to show Krum that you’re taken, of course. It occurred to me that he might be the only competition that I’m going to have.“

     "Believe me, there’s no competition.” you assured him.

      Draco nodded, leaning away from your face to start eating again, holding your hand the whole time as Viktor Krum walked passed behind the both of you.

Try Something New (Josh Dun X Reader X Tyler Joseph) Smut

Originally posted by joshdunfuckme


Word Count: 3500+

Warnings: SMUT!, Threesome,

*** This is my first threesome smut ever, so I’m sorry if it sucks. Also it’s my first Twenty One Pilots fic also so I really hope I didn’t fail miserably. Enjoy!***


You sat on the floor of your’s, Josh’s, and Tyler’s apartment, back leaning against the small piece of furniture the TV sat on. Your boyfriend and Tyler and sat opposite you on the floor against the couch. Aside from Josh, Tyler was one of your closest friends and pretty much the reason you two were dating. Like the 14 year olds you all mentally were, you were playing a late-night truth or dare session which had, as usual, gone from innocent questions to much more risque ones. “Tyler, truth or dare?” You asked him, taking a swig of your wine cooler. The boys made of you for drinking them but they were freaking delicious so you didn’t care much.

He thought for a moment, “Truth.” He decided.

“Wimp.” Josh teased.

You were hoping he was going to say dare so it took you a moment before finally asking, “Have you ever had a sex dream with another guy?” You asked. He squeezed his eyes shut and ran his hands over his face groaning. “And you have to tell the truth or you have to drop ice down your underwear. That’s the rules.” You laughed devilishly since that rule was Tyler’s idea in the first place.

“Ok! Ok! Fine!” He shot an awkward look to the side, “It wasn’t really a wet dream but I had a dream about Josh a few weeks ago.” He said ashamed. Both you and Josh practically screamed in laughter. Although none of you were drunk, you were definitely about two drinks down so you were feeling a little tipsy. “But we didn’t actually do it! We were like making out and stuff and I woke up before anything happened! Before I fell asleep that night I got curious and looked up fanfic about us because it’s funny to see what fans think happens and I guess it was just in my head.” He said, his face red with embarrassment.

Josh scooted towards him and leaned his head on his shoulder, “If you wanted me that bad all you had to do was ask.” He joked.

Tyler shoved Josh off playfully, “Shut up. Ok, fine. Y/N, truth or dare?”

Of course he would pick you back. You thought for a moment. You wanted to pick dare but after what you made Tyler admit to, you didn’t trust him not to make you do something awful and embarrassing, “Truth.” You grinned nervously in anticipation of what he was gonna ask.

“Would you ever have a threeway?” He asked.

Again, you had to think about it. The thought had occurred to you and despite knowing a ton of your favorite singers through Josh and Tyler, you’d definitely had your fair share of fangirl threeway fantasies with band members. But would you ever actually go through with it? As a joke threeways always sounded fun but when it came down to it, you usually thought of sex as something personal and romantic and loving between you and Josh, even if it did get a little kinky sometimes (although not much). But you had to admit, the idea of a threeway was pretty fun. “I think so. But I would have to really trust the other two people.” You decided.

Both Josh and Tyler’s mouths were open a little bit, as if they found the idea kinda hot but they quickly covered it up. “Guy-guy-girl or guy-girl-girl?” Tyler asked, raising his eyebrow.

You rolled your eyes, “One truth at a time!” You glanced at the clock on your phone seeing it was 11:39 pm. You sighed, “I actually got to go to bed. I have to be at work at 6:30 tomorrow morning.” You stood up, walking into the kitchen to throw away your empty bottle before walking over to Josh and kissing him on the cheek, “Good night babe.” You looked at Tyler, “Keep your hands off my man while I’m asleep.” You joked. Tyler groaned and Josh laughed at the comment.

__________________________

Five days had gone by since that night and finally it was Friday. You had Saturday off and didn’t have to worry about going to bed early for work. It was your night to just chill with Josh. Hopefully Tyler would go out with some of his other friends so you and Josh could have some alone time. You loved Tyler but since he was always around, you and Josh hadn’t had sex since they got back from tour about two months ago. At first it sucked not ever having intimate time with him, but you both had gotten used to it. It was just like being teenagers again, always having the drive to do it if you had the chance but ignoring it if you didn’t.

You pulled into your parking space and walked up to your apartment, unlocking the front door and kicking your shoes off as soon as you got in. It was strangely quiet inside which was uncommon. Usually Josh and Tyler would be practicing or talking or something. Their cars were outside so they were definitely here. “Anybody home?” You called out curiously.

You walked down the hall, “Yeah we’re in here.” You heard Josh’s voice echo from your’s and his bedroom. You walked in and saw Josh sitting on your dark blue comforter while Tyler sat in the bright green bean bag chair in the corner. You giggled a little to yourself thinking that you guys just looked like a bunch of teenagers living together, not full grown adults. Unless all adults had bean bag chairs. You set your bag down on the floor next to the door.

“Hey you guys. Are you having a heart-to-heart? Should I come back later?” You asked.

Josh shook his head, “No, no you’re good. Don’t go anywhere.” He smiled. Tyler sat quietly in the bean bag chair, leaning forward with his elbows on his knees, leaning his chin on his clasped knuckles. He seemed… quiet… suspiciously quiet. Were they planning on pranking you again, because last time when they put baby powder in your hair dryer was not nearly as amusing as they thought it was. Josh must have seen the suspicious look on your face because he quickly stood up, laughing nervously and biting his lip, “Don’t worry, we’re not pranking you.” He said reading your mind. Tyler chuckled a little.

“Ok, then why are y’all so serious looking. Did someone die?” You asked with a joking tone but slightly worried after you said it.

“No… it’s just… we were thinking, well I was thinking- gosh I don’t know how to say this.” He ran his hand nervously through his pink-orange hair, “Well, you remember how we haven’t done anything in awhile?” He asked, quirking his eyebrow suggestively so you knew he what he was referring to. You nodded, “And well, I happened to have heard from a certain friend of yours that you’ve been wanting to try some new things in the bedroom.” You cursed your friend Y/F/N under your breath for telling Josh. You had always felt kind of awkward about trying new things in the bedroom and suggesting it. You guys were into rough sex, but that was about the extent of what you did. Josh got dominant sometimes but it wasn’t often. But gosh did you love it when he was, which you’d told him but he was always scared of hurting you. “And then the other night you said you’d consider a threesome…” He said trailing off.

When you realized what he was suggesting your gave him a strange look, “Wait, so you’re suggesting that we-” you motioned with your finger to all three of you.

Tyler quickly cut in, interrupting, “Only if you want to!” Josh nodded in agreement, “If you don’t feel comfortable then I’ll leave and you and Josh can go at it all you want.” You chuckled a little at what he said. He always had a way of being sincere and smooth and awkward all at the same time.

“Honestly, I’ve been wanting to switch things up in the bedroom too lately. And I read about some stuff that sounded kind of cool that I was thinking we could try and this was sort of one of them. But if you feel uncomfortable with it at all, then just say so.” Josh said looking you the eyes, “But you said if you trusted the other two people, then you might consider it.”

You thought for a moment. Was this actually happening? You had answered yes to a hypothetical situation. But what was hypothetical was somehow now a reality. You glanced at Tyler and then back at Josh, “Are you guys sure you’re alright with this? I mean, Josh. Tyler and I would be screwing. And Ty, would that be too weird for you to see your best friend naked? Or his girlfriend for that matter? I mean I’m ok with this, I just don’t want you guys to screw up your friendship for the sake of experimenting.”

Tyler stood up and stood a few feet away from you, leaning against the wall, “We’ve actually been talking about this since Sunday night after you went to bed.”

“Yeah, we’ve already agreed that there’ll be no jealousy or anything like that. And if it fails, we never have to do it again.” Josh reassured you.

You thought for a second, “Ok. I’m in.” You muttered, biting your lip and looking between the two boys. “But two things first. I’ve never had sex with anyone except Josh.” You admitted shyly, “And I have no idea how the heck a threesome works except for what I’ve read in smutty fanfic.” You chuckled awkwardly at what you just admitted to them.

Josh smirked, sucking his lip between his teeth as he stepped closer to you. One of his hands fell on your hips while the other was gently brought on your neck, pulling you in for a sweet simple kiss. Your eyes fluttered closed and when he pulled away, you were already breathless from his gentleness. “I guess we’ll just see what happens then. If you want to stop at any point just say so.” He tells you. You gaze up at him and nod. His voice was so comforting that you could pretty much agree to anything. “You are on the pill right?” He confirmed. You nodded and bit your lip.

He shot a glance over at Tyler who walked behind you from against the wall. Josh leaned back and kissed you passionately, tongue slipping into your mouth. Tyler’s hands roamed feather light down your sides and over your thighs shooting electricity down your spine. You leaned your head to the side, following Josh’s kiss and Tyler pressed his body closer against your backside, trailing hot open mouthed kisses across your now exposed neck. His hands trailed up your thighs to knead your breasts through the fabric of your low cut black t-shirt. You moaned against Josh’s lips and you felt him smirk through the kiss. Tyler’s teeth raked across the spot that made you moan, biting it lightly before smoothing it over with his tongue.

Already, you were overwhelmed by the sensations. Your core was hot and wet and your heart was racing. Josh’s hands left your neck and trailed down to lift your shirt over your head exposing your dark red bra. Tyler unhooked it and it soon followed your shirt on the ground. You were grateful that Josh was in front of you. Apart from the one guy in high school you flashed because you lost a bet, Josh was the only guy who’s seen your breasts. Josh’s head dipped down, leaving a trail of kisses down your neck, across your collarbone and on your breasts. You leaned back against Tyler’s body, arching your back as he sucked on your neck and Josh nibbled at your nipples.

You almost didn’t notice Tyler’s hands lightly running down your bare stomach and unbuttoning your dark skinny jeans. His hand slipped inside the front and he began rubbing you through your panties. You moaned loudly and Josh stepped away, taking off his grey t-shirt to reveal his body. Your knees were shaking from Tyler’s movement and you were moaning loudly. He wasn’t rubbing hard enough to get you off, but it was definitely enough to warm you up. “So wet already…” He whispered huskily into your ear, turning you on even more.

You knew if you didn’t move soon, your legs would buckle from underneath you. You stepped away from Tyler, chest heaving and turned towards him, placing a hand on each shoulder. You glanced over your shoulder at Josh who nodded at you, silently telling you to keep going. You leaned in and kissed Tyler deeply, parting to slip his shirt over his head. Josh sat on the edge of your bed and you began walking backwards, not breaking the kiss with Tyler until you were near Josh. You got on your knees, unbuckling Josh’s skinny jeans and pulling them down. Behind you, you could hear Tyler doing the same for himself.

Just as you were about to run your hands up Josh’s legs, he shook his head, “Uh-uh. Lay on the bed.” He said. His voice was almost commanding but there was still a bit of uncertainty. It turned you on to no extent. You did as you were told, lying down. Josh began crawling up your legs, kissing down your bare chest sending shivers throughout your body. Eventually he made it to your unbuttoned jeans, “Are you still ok with this happening?” He asked cautiously.

“Yeah.” You breathed. He slid your pants of, underwear leaving with the, until you were naked and exposed. Right away, you felt strange. Tyler was here. You knew you agreed to this but suddenly it was seeming really, really… real. You bent your knees, almost crossing them with how tightly you were squeezing them together. You didn’t exactly mean to do it, it was just sort of instinctual.

Suddenly, Tyler’s lips were on your’s, “Don’t worry.” He whispered, pulling away. It was strangely simple of him to say but it somehow eased your nerves slightly. You felt Josh’s large hands on your thighs, gently opening your legs and leaning between them. His tongue flicked over your clit and you gasped at the feeling. His tongue ran up and down to your entrance before returning to suck on your clit. You were already a writhing mess. Tyler had his mouth occupied on your breasts, licking and kissing and nipping at the already hickey covered flesh.

“Oh my gosh…” You moaned.

Josh leaned back just long enough to groan, “That’s it Y/N, tell me how good we make you feel.”

His teeth gently grazed your clit and your moaned loudly, “Oh god. Just like that Josh.” Tyler’s tongue flicked over your nipple while he gently ran over the other perked bud with his calloused thumb. You ran your hand up Tyler’s back, gripping lightly onto his hair. Your back arched as Josh slid a finger into your hot core.

“So tight.” He groaned, pumping quickly. Tyler captured your lips in a rough kiss. You broke the kiss, sitting up slightly, and Josh stopped his actions with a confused look on his face. You ran your hands through your disheveled hair and crawled over to Josh, missing the feeling of his lips. Tyler was good, no doubt, but you loved Josh. He bit your bottom lip teasingly. Tyler kept his eyes on your butt as you made out with his best friend, removing his erection from his boxers and slowly pumping himself at the sight of your naked body, sitting at the top of the bed. You sat up on your knees, Josh’s lips following you until he was standing and you hooked your fingers in his waistband, pulling his boxers down. His erection sprang free and you broke the kiss, gazing up at him through hooded eyes. His dark eyes were clouded with lust and it made your empty core ache for him. You bit your lip when Josh nodded his head slightly, “Get on all fours.” He demanded, that dominant tone more prominent than before.

Silently, you obeyed, turning to face Tyler’s naked body and being surprised at the size of his length. Josh stood at the foot of the bed and grabbed you roughly by the hips pulling you closer to him. Tyler quit pumping himself and positioned himself on his knees in front of your face. Josh’s soft hands caressed up your sides, cupping your breasts and moving back down to your bum. You savored every feeling the two men gave you.

Reaching up, you grabbed Tyler’s hard member and ran your hand up and down it a few times, his thin body shivering and the contact. Josh ran his fingers through your wet folds. Leaning forward slightly, you took Tyler into your mouth, tongue swirling around his sensitive tip. You hand pumped what you couldn’t fit as you bobbed your head back and forth. Behind you, Josh positioned himself at your entrance and slowly pushed in. You moaned loudly around Tyler’s dick.

“Are you still alright?” Josh asked.

You nodded slightly but he must not have seen because Tyler’s strained voice chuckled a little, “Yeah she’s good.” Josh rocked his hips slowly at first but he soon matched your pace on Tyler. Tyler reached down and grabbed a fistful of your hair. You could see his muscles fighting to keep from moving your head for you, shoving himself deeper. He didn’t want to hurt you after all. Josh gripped tightly onto your hips, sure to leave bruises as he snapped his hips fast. A knot built up in your stomach and your legs were beginning to shake. You took Tyler out of your mouth and slowly licked up the underside of his shaft. His cock twitched in your hand and you knew he was close.

You pumped Tyler faster, trying to focus on how Josh was making you feel and still keep a good pace with Tyler. His grip on your hair tightened and he quickly pulled back, letting go of you. He pumped a few times and released all over your body, panting.

Now that you were totally focused on Josh’s movements, you noticed his movements becoming erratic. You knew he was close. His breathing was labored pants. Knowing that he wasn’t going to last much longer, he pulled out and climbed on top of the bed on his knees. He roughly grabbed your ankle and brought it over his shoulder before slamming back into you. He hit that spot deep inside you that made you scream out, “FUCK!” Your eyes screwed tight. Both and Tyler and Josh let out a small laugh at your profanities. It was rare when you cussed. “Oh shit right there.” You begged and Josh obeyed. Your whole body was on fire, every nerve burning with lust.

Tyler stood up and walked to the side of the bed, leaning over. With one hand, he spread your folds apart, exposing your clit. With the other, he rubbed fast harsh circles over your sensitive bud. That combined with Josh continuously pounding your g-spot had you screaming and moaning, “Fuck… me… Uh… Josh… Shit … Yeah… Oh god Tyler!” You moaned. Your entire being was on fire and how you hadn’t cum yet was beyond you because you felt yourself teetering on the edge.

“I’m so close babe.” Josh groaned. You reached down and held his hand tightly.

Suddenly, you felt your walls tighten uncontrollably as wave after wave of euphoria washed over you. “Fuck! Josh!” You moaned (or rather screamed), toes curling and legs bending as you orgasmed. The boys worked you through your orgasm, Tyler rubbing your clit and Josh slowing his hips. Your walls clenching around his length sent him over the edge. He pulled out leaning over your body and resting his head on the bed next to you. The two of you were panting uncontrollable messes. That was by far the most powerful orgasm you’d ever had, still feeling the effects after your breath calmed down.

“Holy shit, Y/N. You fucking squirted that was so hot.” Tyler commented and Josh chuckled into the mattress. You turned bright red, covering your face with your hands. You’d never squirted before.

“I have never heard you cuss that much. You’re freaking filthy. But sexy.” Josh laughed, propping himself up on his elbows to look at you.

“That was freaking amazing.” You panted, sitting up. You swung your legs over the side of the bed and set your feet down to walk to the bathroom but as soon as you put weight on your legs, your knees buckled slightly. Your core already ached. It had been a long time since you’d been screwed so hard you could barely walk and you honestly loved it.

You heard a snort behind you. “Are you alright?” Josh asked. You turned around stabilizing yourself.

You put up a hand and laughed a little, “I’m good. It’s just… been a while.” You said. You returned from the bathroom with a towel and cleaned up your guys’ mess. The three of you got dressed and met back up in the living room, sitting on the couch.

You were the last one to get into the living room. Josh and Tyler insisted to take a shower since Tyler kinda came all over you. They sat there with expectant looks on their faces, “So… was it awful?” Josh asked nervously.

You shook your head, “You heard me earlier. That was amazing. Did you guys enjoy yourselves?”

“A little awkward but not bad.” Tyler confessed. All three of you laughed and nodded in agreement.

“But thanks guys. Really. I never actually thought that dirty little fantasy was gonna come true. And I’m glad it was with you Tyler.” You said, sitting next to Josh who put his arm around you, letting you burrow yourself into his side.

physical-actual-trash-deactivat  asked:

Can you draw some mullette please? Your Lafayette is so beautiful and I want to see how you'd draw my OTP 😊

Is this okay?

SEVENTEEN’s Reaction to You Saying Something Dirty/18+

Seungcheol:
- Honestly, probably wouldn’t be that surprised
- Would give you one of those little smirks he does
- “You want to go test that out?” ;)


Jeonghan:
- You would be watching a movie on the couch with him; he would laugh it off with that cute “Ha ha ha” laugh of his
- Then would realize what you just said and be taken aback
- “J-Jagi, what did you just say?”
- “Well, I can’t deny my princess anything she wants, right?”
- You didn’t get to find out how the movie ended


Jisoo:
- GET THE HOLY WATER
- This boy wouldn’t even know what to say; he’d be so embarrassed
- “Jagi, please don’t tempt me.”


Junhui:
- This boy is a sinnamon roll okay
- He has the mindset of a 14-year-old but can do a complete 360
- “If I didn’t know any better, I would say you’re trying to seduce me right now, babe.”


Soonyoung:
- This cutie pie would be so shocked, he would probably think he misheard you and just pretend it never happened
- Then you say it again
- “… 뭐 ?!? ”


Wonwoo:
- You’re trying to get his attention but he’s too concentrated on his reading his book
- So you say something dirty, and he pretends not to hear you
- You say it again, and this time he closes the book 
- “Jagi, if you keep talking to me like that, I don’t know what’s going to happen.”


Jihoon:
- Would stop playing his guitar and look at you like you’re crazy
- “Don’t joke around at a time like this, jagi. I’m trying to write our new song.”
- You keep saying it, and his cheeks get redder and redder
- Abruptly puts down the guitar, grabs your hand, and walks out of the practice room


Seokmin:
- This ray of sunshine wouldn’t even know what hit him
- THE INNOCENCE
- “Haha, let’s not talk like that yet, jagi.”
- Would probably run off and tell one of the hyungs about it, asking what to do if you say something like that again


Mingyu:
- Would think you’re joking at first
- But when he realizes you’re serious… welp
- Unleash the beast


Minghao:
- THUGHAO
- After hearing you say it, his confidence would boost up 100000x
- Says something back to you in Chinese, you don’t know what it is, but it sounds sexy af


Seungkwan:
- Oh goodness, what can we do about DivaBoo
- This child would blush so hard, you could feel the heat radiating off of his face
- Would stutter and say he has to get back to practice


Vernon:
- As if he wasn’t already shy enough
- Awkward silence
- Can’t relax after hearing you say that; fidgets for the rest of the day


Chan: 
- WHAT WOULD THIS FETUS KNOW ABOUT BEING DIRTY
- DON’T TAINT THIS PURE LITTLE LAMB

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You don’t have to think critically about complicated scenarios wherein no one is wholly innocent or at fault if you just assert that the 14 year old boy with abandonment issues is despicable for lashing out due to intense trauma and grief toward another traumatized boy who has built his entire sense of self-worth around the approval of his friend

Modern Leeburr Headcannons

So I went through the Leeburr tag and now I ship it (damn it). I completely blame and thank @the-great-gay-jatsby for this idea so…

• Lee is a cuddler.

• Burr isn’t. But he’ll make an exception for Lee.

• Lee’s favorite time to cuddle is during their traditional Friday movie night. It’s just him, his boyfriend, and whatever cheesy movie they decide to rent.

• It’s almost always Eat Pray Love. Though he’ll never admit it, Lee loves that movie.

• Burr knows how much Lee loves the meaning behind the movie, so he insists that they watch it constantly.

• Aaron refuses to call him “Charles” unless he really wants something.

- Ex: “No Aaron we are not taking in a cat” “But Chaaaaaarles…look at her!” “… fine. Only because she’s cute!”

• They adopt the cat. She’s a fat, fluffy, tabby cat who hates physical exercise almost as much as she hates mornings.

• Lee. Loves. That. Cat.

• You will never see Lee without that cat in his arms or worrying about where the cat is.

• Burr has the suspicion that Lee loves the cat more than he loves him. Which may or may not be true.

• Lee’s worked in the office for a while, but before that, he was a veteran. He served two terms in Afghanistan before coming home.

• He has nightmares about all the trauma he went through and all the people he couldn’t save.

•It takes Burr a while to figure it out, but immediately leaps into Protective Boyfriend Mode the first time Lee wakes up sobbing and screaming different names.

• Burr quietly asks Lee why he didn’t tell him sooner while he holds him, slowly rocking them both.

• Lee starts sobbing and Burr holds him, Lee’s head buried into Aaron’s chest.

• “I d-didn’t want you to l-leave me, Aaron. I’m s-so scared of being alone. I’ve l-lost so many people…Please don’t l-leave me too. ”

• Aaron softly kisses the top of Lee’s head. “You’re not going to lose me, Charles. I promise you I’m not leaving.”

•Lee quietly cries himself to sleep in his amazing boyfriend’s arms, and Aaron never once judges him.

•Aaron is right there next to him on the 4th of July, holding his hand whenever a firework goes off. He manages to get through the day and he couldn’t be happier about it.

• Lee is the one to propose to Aaron.

• Its small and relatively quiet, just like the couple.

• Lee uses his day off to cook a huge, romantic dinner for Aaron when he gets home. When Aaron gets home, Lee guides Aaron to the dining table, which has so much good food on it. Aaron gets so touched, he doesn’t know how to thank Lee. Lee just laughs nervously, saying “Don’t thank me just yet, darling. ” After dinner, Lee takes Aaron out onto the fire escape and they just sit out there for a while, relishing each other’s presence. Lee decides to bring out the ring right there, no kneeing, no sappy speech. Just a straightforward Will You Marry Me?

• Of course, Aaron says yes, and that’s the story of how Lee got laid that night. Did I mention that they’re both really kinky? They don’t seem like that couple, but they are. Like REALLY kinky. Just wanted to drop that small fact in, sorry.

• They get married. It’s a small ceremony in June at Jefferson’s ranch Monticello. Everyone at the office attends. George officiated the wedding, Alexander Hamilton was Burr’s best man, while John Laurens made a speech which made Lee tear up.

• They are marriage goals. Legit marriage goals.

• Lee, being the southern cutie he is, calls Burr things like “Darling” “Dollface” “Honey” with a southern drawl. Burr secretly loves it.

• They go to every Pride Parade they can. Why wouldn’t they? They’re an interracial gay couple in New York for God’s sake.

• Despite the fact that they argue over every little thing, Lee and Burr are best friends with Laurens and Hamilton.

• People are constantly hitting on one of them, to the point that they’re both very jealous.

• One of Lee’s favorite memory of jealous Aaron is when a woman stopped them in the middle of the street to flirt with Lee. Before Lee could quietly tell her he was married, Burr slipped his hand into Lee’s and said, “His gay ass is married to me, keep walking” before dragging Lee away, who was laughing hysterically. Lee never lets Burr forget about it.

• They decide to adopt a selectively mute girl named Theodosia. She’s 14 year old and the sweetest person on earth.

• Both Burr and Lee learn ASL to communicate with Theo.

• Lee is very protective of his daughter, and Aaron is having to constantly remind him she’s a human being with rights.

• You can imagine how they both reacted when Alexander and Lauren’s son Phillip knocked on their door for permission to take Theodosia to the school dance.

• After sitting the boy down for a friendly chat, they give their permission for Theo to go to the dance with Phillip.

• The day of the dance, Pip shows up promptly at 7 in a suit and tie , smiling from ear to ear. Aaron and Lee decide to give him the “If you hurt my daughter, I will make your life a living hell” speech. Needless to say, Pip got the point VERY quickly.

• All three of them were shocked when Theo came out of her room wearing a simple dark red dress and ballet flats. Phillip was the first to react, smiling even wider then before and saying , “Theo, you look beautiful” which got the biggest smile out of Theodosia.

• Both men started crying when Theo came over to hug and spoke to them for the very first time.

• “Don’t worry Dads…I’ll be fine,” in a whispery tone.

• Pip and Theo leave, holding hands and smiling at each other.

• The second they leave, Lee calls Hamilton to gossip about their children. Burr invites Hamilton and Laurens over for a few drinks, and that’s how you get 4 grown men crying their asses off while watching Marley and Me.

• All in all, Charles Lee and Aaron Burr are just a happy couple with a beautiful daughter and a really fat cat.

((Feel free to add on!! Actually, PLEASE add on, I need more Leeburr Headcannons in my life))

Sometimes I see Scorbus fanart where the boys are all lanky and elegant looking with chiseled jaws and perfect hair, and I’m like, “friend, have you ever seen a 14-year-old?”

anonymous asked:

omg omg i just loved your design for monster marco!!!!!!........ Can you do a grown up version of him?!? *coff* *cough* (Maybe we can do a grown up star shocked by how handsome he is)

thank you very much!!! X3 , and … of course >u>

star in 14 years old: Ha! handsome?!  ,  Do not make me laugh! .

he´s just a pervert and stupid boy with handsome complex , i can´t never see him like a men

me: sure star, you can´t :V

“Harvest Moon is boring! It’s not even a real game!”

Alright fam, listen up. I used to be obsessed with Harvest Moon. You remember that shit? Probably not, so let me fill you in. The goal of the game is essentially to maintain a farm (crops, animals, and all), make friends with the townspeople, compete and participate in local festivals, get married, and have kids. Sounds boring as shit, right? All of my guy friends thought so too, when I described it to them. We were only 14, so back then their response, as it was with everything, was to describe the premise of the game as “gay as fuck”.

It was me, one very persistent girl, versus three of them, but eventually they relented, and agreed to give Harvest Moon a try. Now, let me make a confession. Harvest Moon is my jam. I fucking love that game. I could spend days at a time playing it with snack and bathroom breaks only. In fact, if there is an alternative way to play Harvest Moon, then I am not aware of it. But it is boring as hell to watch somebody else play. I confess that after maybe twenty minutes or so of watching them play it, and listening to them making passive-aggressive comments about “When is this going to get more exciting?”, I fell asleep.

I woke up the next morning, after probably six hours of sleep, and they were still playing it. All of these 14-year-old boys are still sitting on my bed beside me, having stayed up the entire night obsessing over this game, arguing with each other over which girl to marry, what to name their dog, how many cabbages to plant, insulting each other’s suggestions and threatening to go out and buy their own copy of the game so they could do it right.

Anyway, the point of this post is not to judge a book by its cover. If somebody suggests a game to you, especially if it’s something that you care about, why not give it a try? You might be surprised.

01. i don’t wanna go- lana del rey 02. falling- julee cruise 03. and dream of sheep- kate bush 04. love in the morning- ennio morricone 05. it’s always you- chet baker 06. dearest- buddy holly 07. dream- fleetwood mac 08. i’m on fire (cover)- chromatics 09. under your spell- desire  10. music to watch boys to- lana del rey 11. anthems for a seventeen year old girl (cover)- nicole dollanger 12. bang bang- nancy sinatra 13. down by the water- the drums 14. are you lonesome tonight?- elvis presley//LISTEN//

anonymous asked:

Tbh scientificaly there are only two genders and only two sex. Sex = penis or vagina. and in the rare case that you're intersex, that doesn't mean you're a third sex or gender. It means you're internal reproductive organs differ from your external reproductive organs. By calling yourself gender fluid, non-binary, other kin, gender fuck, agender, greygender you're dimeaning actual trans ecperiences people face in regards to gender dysphoria and bullying. It's disrispectful and invalid. pt 1

(it’s a trilogy, guys, i am going to add the other two messages here:

the fact that 14 year olds on tumblr invented thenew genders rles than a decade ago shows how invalid this argument is. Gender isn’t a social construct. Expectations of gender is. To put it simble stuff like boys like blue girl like pink girls wear dresses and skirts boys wear pants and shits and shit like that. THATS  a fucking social construcing. I feel so sorry for all the tom boys are tom girl that you’re comfusing. They might think they’re not one of the made up genders just beacuse pt 2            

they differ from their gender rolls. Also don’t you think it’s a bit of a coinscedince that these genders have NO bases. You guys don’t medialy transition you’re not diagnosed with gender dysphoria, all the made up genders are based on the existing 2 genders if not then they’re either based on not having a gender at all or being both (girl boy/ male female). I cba doing this because it’s so obviouse. just please face reality because its getting so annoy to listen to you about first world problem  pt 3

Okay so *cough* a word from the second world country over here *cough*

As far as I understand you have a problem with the idea that there are more than two options out there to “fit into”? And I get that, I do - growing up in a society that tells you constantly that you can only ever choose between two opposite options can take away from the flexibility of the mind to think for itself. That is why it is a good idea to educate yourself by reading about gender studies by sociologists and sexologists and not self-proclaimed scientists on the internet. So let’s get back to the idea that gender and how we as humans express it is a social construct and why it is in no way invalidating anyone’s self expression but on the contrary giving people the freedom to be whoever they want to be.

The gender role theory, considered by Alsop, Fitzsimons and Lennon (2002) is an early form of social constructionism. Social constructionism, briefly, is the concept that there are many things that people “know” or take to be “reality” that are at least partially, if not completely, socially situated. For example, Harvard psychologist Steven Pinker writes that “some categories really are social constructions: they exist only because people tacitly agree to act as if they exist.”

Gender, according to West and Zimmerman, is not a personal trait; it is “an emergent feature of social situations: both as an outcome of and a rationale for various social arrangements, and as a means of legitimating one of the most fundamental divisions of society.”

Doing gender according to west and Zimmerman “is to advance a new trap house understanding of gender as a routine accomplishment embedded in every day interaction”. Essentially, West and Zimmerman argued that gender is something that humans created. As humans, we have categorized and defined many aspects of life. If someone was not in favor of their gender role or did something that was not deemed “correct” for that gender this person would be committing an act of social deviance.

And I assure you Alsop, Fitzsimons and Lennon were not 14 when they were writing “Theorizing Gender” and neither were West and Zimmerman when they published “Doing Gender” in 1987 but still I do not get your ageism towards the young. How are the opinions of 14 year old people any less valid than those of older people?

Anyway, let’s get back to our “gender rolls”.

From someone who took a gender studies course: “It’s less that they’re saying, "society completely invented gender” and more “gender exists only on a social level, therefore it is mutable.” In other words, instinct is biological, but instinct can be ignored/overwritten. To me, I’ve always seen postmodernism as being about how there ARE NO incontrovertible truths, even if we want to believe people fit into these neat little categories, they don’t, because THOSE CATEGORIES are constructs. The traits by which we categorize may be biological, but the categories themselves are not.”

In other words, gender is a performance; it’s what you do at particular times, rather than a universal who you are. Judith Butler argues that we all put on a gender performance, whether traditional or not, and so it is not a question of whether to do a gender performance, but what form that performance will take. By choosing to be different about it, we might work to change gender norms and the binary understanding of masculinity and femininity. This idea of identity as free-floating, as not connected to an ‘essence’, but instead a performance, is one of the key ideas in queer theory.

Additionally, these categories are culturally constructed since they are fluid. What it means to be a “man” and “woman” have changed in the last 50 years alone. There is no denying gender roles changed and thus accept that these are things that societies construct. While sex is pre-determined, even though that can change, gender changes.

So yes, things change. Remember, for example, how homosexuality was considered a mental illness until 1973? And how homosexual people had to fight to prove they were just as “normal” as heterosexuals? Also how even before that some sexologists started studying sexuality properly and then we accepted the Kinsey scale and the idea that sexuality was in fact a spectrum? And then we ended up adding a couple of new letters to the LG making it LGBTQA+ plus all the non-binary categories? You know why? Because people are ever-changing creatures, we learn, we discover new things about ourselves and we want to be heard and accepted.

And hey, here we are again 44 years later and you’re telling me I should stop trying to explore my identity and just stick to what’s “normal” and okay. Because it annoys you.

So in the end the only person who is demeaning other people’s experiences and identities by making them seem invalid is you.