Japan is extremely sexist and the idol industry is no exception.
Whenever I see people defending the “no dating rule” with the excuse “it’s a different culture, learn about Japan first and then talk” I want to punch them so hard.
Yes, it’s a different culture. Yes, the whole “idol being the fans’ girlfriends” thing is far more complex and deep than it first seems like.
But there’s a line. They don’t deserve punishment. They don’t deserve shame. They’re human beings, not soulless robots that live for their job. They have lives too, they go to school too, they see other people everyday and they develop different kind of feelings for each of them.
I get it, the no dating rule has its purposes. It’s not there just because, since it’s part of the whole idol experience. But it doesn’t mean it’s ok. It shouldn’t be part of the girls’ contracts, and we shouldn’t be used to this.
There’s a fine amount of people who believe it’s fair to shame them for dating, because “they asked for it”, come on. These girls get extremely sexualized, and it’s ok for everyone to look at them like sex objects, like someone who lives for your masturbation sessions, yet they can’t go and have their own experiences?
It makes me sick.
We still have a long way to go.