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Fëanor’s obsession with preserving his mother’s name reads pretty easily to me as stemming from his need to be in control of his mother’s legacy, and, consequentially, how he himself is perceived. 

Míriel’s death and refusal to be reembodied, and Finwë’s subsequent remarriage, were highly publicized events in Valinor when they really ought to have been private - both because Finwë is king and his family life is always exposed to the public gaze, and because the situation with Míriel, Finwë, and Indis is completely unprecedented. No one has ever died or been remarried in Valinor, and the societal rules about this are so strict that the Valar feel the need to debate whether this is even permissible. As such, the situation must have been highly controversial among the Noldor - in the text, it’s presented as though Fëanor is the only one to object to his father marrying Indis, but in reality there must have been many supporters of Míriel who saw the marriage as an insult to their first queen.

On the flip side, there ought to have been a fair amount of people who placed the blame for the situation on Míriel. A society in which there was no death wouldn’t be very well equipped to deal with suicidality, and there must have been a fair amount of sentiment floating around claiming that Míriel was selfish, or weak, or an unfit mother and wife. But mentions of Míriel grew more and more taboo as the time passed. The concept of death in paradise makes people uncomfortable, and most people were content to smooth the situation over by pretending that Míriel had never existed - or that if she had, she was a brief stain on the king’s life, a rather embarrassing detail, like a mad wife in the attic.

So Fëanor grows up in a society in which the circumstances of his mother’s death - a source of significant trauma to him - are considered public property, and open to whisperings and speculations. On top of that, he grows up in a mixed household with children from two marriages - a complicated enough set-up in our world, and even more so in a society in which this kind of familial structure is completely unheard of. He understandably perceives his father and Indis raising a nuclear family as a denial of his mother’s existence of significance. And he knows that his mother died because his birth drained her of her energy and will to live, and feels a massive amount of guilt because of it. He fiercely dedicates himself to being the best he can be because he feels that the onus on is on him to make his mother’s death meaningful. 

So his fixation on Míriel’s name might seem silly or fanatical or pedantic on the surface, and to a degree it is - it’s a very tiny detail to fixate on. But it’s representative of the larger social context of how his mother has been treated. By insisting that she be referred to by her preferred name, Fëanor is, on a micro level, trying to grant his mother the agency and self-determination that public opinion has denied her. And he wants to forcefully remind people of his mother’s existence and her importance to his own identity.

Wink, Blink, and Nod

With a hat-tip to @terrie01, I think we’ve finally got some words to use for the frustration many of us feel about so-called “queer representation” these days.

Don’t get me wrong; I’m glad to start seeing the back of the dead queer trope. But I’m not exactly jumping for joy at the replacement trio.

The Queer Wink: One step up from queerbaiting, this trope gives off a subtle, coded statement that yes, you’re right, there’s queer here, and it’s not just conspiracy theorists saying that. I mean, nothing like actual daily life queer, but at least there’s confirmation of the baiting for those who look hard enough. Look, a rainbow in the background! That’s good, right? Right? >.>

The Queer Blink: It’s the first! The first what? The first openly pan demi-woman on this particular network! Where? There! For just a second there, in the shot at 33:09. That one line in the fourth book about an ex. The third panel of page twelve. Totally obvious, great representation! The creators and publicists will now spend all their time talking about this in every interview, because they’re that awesome and we should all know it. >.<

The Queer Nod: At the very end, after fans have sweated blood and tears to keep going, there’s a scene. It’s a brief scene. There are no words. But there, in that moment, at least one major character is revealed to be almost-certainly-queer, if we assume things that cisstraight people assume about queerness but keep our queer goggles on at the same time. The creators wanted to do more, of course, but the network/producers/publishers wouldn’t let them. So they did it at the end, when there could not longer be consequences for their activism! Aren’t you glad you waited 5 seasons for this one moment of holding hands/half-hug/kid-safe and fully ignorable expression of same-gender affection? ;_;

So yeah, I guess the last couple years have been better than the dreck we deal with most of the time, but I saw better in the 90s, yo. I’m not about to go around thanking anyone for a wink, blink, or nod. I get that purse-string control is a beast, I do. But don’t hop into an interview and tell me you’re doing something for me if your “representation” falls into one of these categories. They are just pipe dreams. I’m a human being, and I expect to see no less than other human beings like me and mine in our media. If you can’t or won’t do it, I’ll go to the people who will.

And y’all wonder why fandom is so huge. Seriously?

so i was on my laptop rewatching the two latest b99 episodes and it was dark, so i couldn’t really see beyond the screen and all of a sudden someone came and ruffled my hair affectionately and i was so startled because i couldn’t see who it was but also kinda happy that they did that.

so i got up and went to the kitchen and my mom was there and i was like “was it you who just ruffled my hair?” and she was like “yeah, who’d you think it was?” and i went “idk, it was dark, i couldn’t see anything” and then, AND THEN MY FRIENDS, my mom said “you were smiling so widely that i couldn’t help it.”

and i just.

you guys, if even my mom sees how unbelievably happy brooklyn nine-nine makes me, especially after today because i had an excrutiating exam that i got up at 4 AM for and slept for the entire afternoon after it, is more evidence to how wonderful and incredible this show is.

fox get your shit together, man.

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Halsey // Badlands + favourite lyrics

I learned three things tonight while roaming AO3

1: I should really tag my fics properly

2: Other people need to tag their fics properly

3: If I have to spend 3 hours looking for it, I might as well write it myself

Blindspot pre-2x19 ficlet

Had the sudden urge a couple of nights ago to sit down and write some Jeller– so here, have some more kiss-speculation lol. (Because you can never have too much Jeller kissing, right??)

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The delivery guy was early.

As his knock echoed through the apartment, Jane shared a surprised glance with Roman, then slipped eagerly from the couch, wincing slightly at the pain that radiated through her battered muscles, a sharp reminder of the mistreatment they’d received during her little treasure hunt today.

A hunt that they most certainly hadn’t won; but which was a success all the same, their targets now safely behind bars and a very powerful weapon out of reach of the wrong hands.  

The hunt had also given her one other thing; something infinitely more precious, a prize that was as beautiful as it was dangerous.

Hope.

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tbh regs sound so much like cis straight people when they make those ~~mogai identity~~ jokes like thanks for that “pepesexual” joke it’s not like straight people haven’t done the exact same thing to invalidate my identities, I’m glad you feel proud of yourself for sounding so much like anti-sjws lmao

depeche mode announcing UK winter tour

depeche mode announcing UK winter tour when i have no money

SHYRLEY RODRIGUEZ GIF HUNT

Below the cut you will find 40 67 small/medium HQ gifs of the beautiful Shyrley Rodriguez, as requested by anon. Shyrley is a Cuban-American actress best known for her role as Regina Diaz in The Get Down. None of these gifs were made by me, they are all textless, and there are no repeats. This will be updated regularly.

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