So I came out to my demi (imma use their positions instead of names from now on) in January.
And like then everyone kinda knew? I don’t know if it was from me posting about it on FB (where I Am friends with all my coworkers) or if it was Demi telling people (which I gave him permission to do. I was actually hoping for it so I wouldn’t have to do it)
But anyway my CDP (chef-de-partie) one day was like ‘so are you going to change your name?’
And I was like 'probably not. (Real name) is a unisex name, and I go by ziggi anyway’
CDP: ziggi is a terrible name. You have to get like a manly name … Like franky
CDP: yeah it’ll be great! From now on you’re franky
Me: fine. But you have to use male pronouns then.
Yeah nope. They continued to call me franky and use 'she/her’ all the time.
And it got to the point where I yelled at them. And like I don’t even know if some of the guys calling me franky knew why it was just so irritating and frustrating to me? Not to mention disrespectful.
And I don’t even know if CDP and Demi get why it bothers me so.
Anyway, they continue to try to find a male name for me (one of them being Sebas, which was actually my sous that came up with … And that is why the title of this blog) and still don’t use proper pronouns. It’s very bothersome