10 things I hate about Online Dating
Ya know what? It really sucks. It drives me ABSOLUTELY CRAZY but yet I keep coming back to it. So here’s a list, so I don’t ramble on forever.
1.) Pay to chat services. Umm.. I have no money, and I don’t know if I want to talk to you dudes anyway…
2.) no control on who messages you on the apps that do allow it. OkCupid has some, and on Bumble, the girl has to message first within 24 hours in order for the dude to respond (which I like) still get randos on OkC that have nothing in common with me and just say “hey.” T_T ((but really, I think bumble is a “nicer” Tinder))
3.) getting hit on by creepy peeps (especially on a Christian site, unfortunately…)
4.) no one interesting is near me. ‘Nuff said.
5.) NO, I DON’T WANT TO HOOK UP. If you’d actually READ my info, you would know that. I’ve had some rather terse conversations once the dude figures it out.
6.) When you DO get a conversation going with someone interesting, it lasts two days (literally) and they refuse to message you first…. this is the test I do just in case (it may be too judgmental, but hear me out). If this is to be a relationship, it has to be a two way street. I want him to want to talk to me, instead of me carrying it. (Due to some bad experiences, this is important to me.)
7.) NO ONE CARES ABOUT THAT FISH YOU CAUGHT/DEER YOU KILLED/*INSERT DEAD ANIMAL HERE* … granted, I’m okay with hunting, but do you really think women are into that? I’m sure some are, but I don’t want to see it! ((Might be a midwestern USA thing))
8.) If dude is too hot, then it’s an automatic pass. I’m talking about the dudes who have professional looking shots and the six pack abs and perfect hair and face… I mean, I’m into that as much as the next girl, but I’m realistic about who may be into me. also, possibly fake. Also dudes with excessive pics of alcohol, partying, expensive boats, etc. don’t brag, k?
9.) dude with other girls in pics. REALLY. Also applies to kids, which are hit or miss.
10.) perhaps most importantly, what it does to my self esteem. I hate that I know that the majority of people wouldn’t be interested in me (which is true for anyone, I suppose). I hate that it makes me feel not good enough, and I hate that it makes me question my body image (which I’ve been trying hard to improve). All I want is to love and be loved, is that so much to ask? But this “hook up culture” is so vain and instantaneous. No one is willing to look at a person past a cursory “swipe left or right.” No wonder many millennial relationships don’t last. (Not all. I know. And I’m a millennial too!)
I just don’t know if it’s worth it anymore. I’m much better off on my own!