I just don't believe Sarah has real health problems. She supposedly had a sinus thing but it didn't keep her from flying to Greece for vacation. She says she can't personalize books but somehow she can sign hundreds of them for preorders and for all the people buying tickets to events? She's just not willing to meet with readers anymore, even for photos and stamping. I've been with her since the beginning and this hurts.
I’ve been wrestling with whether or not I should even publish/respond to this ask because I don’t generally endorse contributing to drama in our fandom.
I may still delete this ask.
But basically my thoughts are as follows:
1. If I had a sinus infection but got antibiotics or other treatment fuck if that would stop me from travelling. I had invasive surgery in 2016 and a few weeks later went to Europe for a week (I live in the US so that’s a far, stressful trip). If you truly love travelling, like Sarah very obviously does, sickness (esp something minor like sinus stuff that can generally be treated easily) won’t stop you unless your doctor forbids you from going (and even then… maybe not).
2. I believe the point of not personalizing books is minimizing the pressure to her wrist. Like, she can sign a lot but adding personalized detail doubles or even triples the work on her wrist since that includes way more words than her signature. She likes to write a little sentence in addition to your name (it’s what she used to do) because she’s sweet and likes to talk to fans as long as she can. She even has her own book that fans can sign.
3. Please respect that authors are people. I have extremely bad anxiety and depression and if I had to deal with that many fans, especially when writers don’t often get as popular as SJM, I would eventually burn out if I didn’t check myself. I’m just saying that if Sarah isn’t meeting with fans as much maybe there’s a reason. Maybe she doesn’t live her life only for us (even though she loves us and says it all the time! Even though she appreciates us! That doesn’t mean she has to be there ALL THE TIME for all of the millions that buy her books! She’s a person with needs and she’s allowed to take breaks!). She has a marriage and a dog and more books to write and health problems to deal with. Even if it’s just sinus stuff and a sore wrist, health issues are stressful AF especially combined with any mental health issues or other issues. Anyway my point here is, Sarah isn’t just an author who loves her fans. She’s a person with a life that we don’t (and shouldn’t!) know everything about.
Thanks for reading and please know that I’m not saying OP is an awful person for being upset that SJM isn’t as interactive anymore. We’re all allowed to be upset and sad! We love her! But just please remember that she’s just a human being, like us.