cultural appropriation is when one culture adopts elements from another culture. if I get cornrows because I think they look pretty, that is not cultural appropriation. I’m not trying to steal cornrows and I’m not saying that it belongs to my culture now. I’m being completely harmless.
It pisses me off that Western media and radical modern feminism often portray motherhood as a weakness because like exCUSE ME but have you ever heard the expression "mama bear" it exists for a damn good reason like God help you if you cross a good mom and her kids she will go APESHIT if anyone threatens her family and she will literally sacrifice everything and probably fight to the death for them if she had to like please explain to me how that is an example of "weakness" if you ask me that's actually the epitome of true badassery right there I mean give me that shit over an emotionally stunted "tough girl" stereotype any day
I believe some males experience a subconscious pressure to appear more masculine to their peers of the same sex, which is what some people call “toxic masculinity”.
In my opinion, I think the term “toxic masculinity” is inaccurate. First of all, I believe the pressure to be more masculine is subconscious. Only a very small percent of the male population straight up says to the male, “be masculine like us”, etc. You’re comparing yourself to the general population, or the perfect male in your eyes. you, more often than not, want to fit in; be normal. That’s not toxic masculinity. Its a subconscious fear of being abnormal.
I also believe some females experience a subconscious pressure to appear more feminine to their peers of the same sex. Would this be called “toxic femininity”?
For example, some girls might feel internal pressure to do their makeup because all the girls at school do their makeup. Or they try to make themselves thinner and/or curvier to fit what they see as either perfect or the general population. Only a small percent of the female population would say to her face, “you can’t be friends with if you’re not a certain shape, or wear makeup”, etc. As said earlier, i believe it’s a subconscious pressure to be like everyone else.
It isn’t “toxic”. It’s normal. Both sexes experience it.
Warning: this will not help cure illnesses such as PTSD, this isn’t a replacement for therapy. However for typical nightmares, it’s intent that makes a spell work. Try not to doubt yourself! If you do, I recommend grounding yourself first before every spell you do!
Pouch or Jar (I put my pouch in a jar bc the ashes came through my pouch so make sure your bag isn’t permeable!) Metal bowl or cauldron (to burn safely) Ashes (possibly of sigil or just charcoal, add more paper to the sigil u burned so there’s more ash to work w) Rosemary (improves health & love) Pink Himalayan Salt (purification, Self-love, promotes healthy lifestyle) Bloodstone (healer) Lighter or match (to light candle) 5 or more drops of black candle wax (protection)
Optional: Dried or fresh lavender (promotes tranquillity, incense works too!) Nails (preferably iron but any are okay, these are for more protection)
1) Add the ash, salt and herbs 2) Add in your cleansed bloodstone 3) Drip in your black candle
Leave it in your bedroom while you sleep. Preferably on a windowsill, under the moonlight. Then bury the pouch somewhere far, where you don’t go too often and let go of it. Let the negativity go. You may get rid of the bloodstone or cleanse it with the rest of your gems. Good Luck! And get rid of your nightmares, repeat if needed
(Optional: find a cleansing bath you like to help rid more negative energy/ intrusive thoughts if you feel the need to)
they automatically assume that I’m a white heterosexual cis man. For an ideology that is supposed to promote women thinking independently, they can’t stand it when a woman disagree with their views and call them a traitor.
I hate how people think not being particularly pro-abortion would then mean that you have no respect for a woman’s body.
I’m not anti-abortion particularly, but this idea that you can only be pro-choice or pro-life is disgusting.
I’m generally pro-life, I’m also aware it’s not my choice nor my responsibility to dictate to other people how to live their life, I’d never impose my view on a pregnant woman by telling her what she should do with her child, but I’m also able to have my own belief so long as it’s respectful.
I find it quite disgusting certain people who are a feminist claim to be pro-choice but come across as more pro abortion, gloating about abortion and completely pushing this dehumanizing view that an embryo is not enough to be considered a life, how dare you push that as an argument in weird, smug, gloaty way?
Deciding whether or not you’re in a position to have a child based on what you want for your life, your health and your financial position is entirely up to you. I wouldn’t tell a woman to keep her child no more than I’d tell a couple not to put their child in care, it’s not my choice to make, but saying that you still can’t completely
dehumanize an embryo and strip it of it’s right to be considered a life simply based on what you feel should qualify as one, in fact that’s actually quite horrific.
Imagine we all had that power to just strip something of it’s status as human, sort of like the Holocaust or slavery, ironic especially since most of these people are of the SJW branch.
Anyway, this is a topic that does piss me off, a lot. Again, not abortion itself, before someone tries to twist it, but the life debate.
also ouat: yeah let’s make the female protagonists’ LI ask her father she’s barely known for 6 years for his hand in marriage
also ouat: yeah let’s make the female protagonist have to ‘break down walls’ all for a man
also ouat: yeah let’s have two females on the show always taking very romantic duties for each other, but let’s never let them talk about it
also ouat: yeah let’s have the female protagonist literally take her family to hell for a man, let’s also have her willing to leave her own brother an orphan for a man, and let’s also make her willing to never speak to her parents again…FOR A MAN
There was a boy at my school wearing a Trump shirt.
All I heard from everyone that day was their disbelief that he would wear that. Some people said they hoped he would get dress coded. But the worst one was (said by a radical feminist): “if he killed himself, I would celebrate.”
The person wearing the Trump shirt was not embarrassing himself. Wishing someone would get dress coded for a harmless shirt, and wishing suicide on someone… now that’s making a fool out of yourself.
another coping post, people have told me to update it a bit and not limit the skills to delusions and auditory hallucinations. so now, the bigger and better coping post for psychotic symptoms (not just schizophrenia!) and i won’t do the “keep reading” thing, even though it’s a veeeery big post, because i kind of want people to see it.
• try to manage your stress -psychotic symptoms has quite a lot to with stress. it’s also important for any mental health issue.
• don’t “self-medicate” - marijuana has shown to make psychotic symptoms worse and makes the risk of falling back into a psychosis bigger. other substances that can trigger/worsen/even cause psychotic symptoms are cocaine, speed, crystal meth, ecstasy, LSD, magic mushrooms and ketamine
• take care of yourself - selfcare, mindfulsness, exercise, eat reguraly and healthy, sleep well… you get the idea.
• know your early signs - it’s good to know when you start getting signs of another episode, so you can adjust your medication or talk to your doctor more often so you can avoid another episode. early signs may be sleeping less or more, isolation, being annoyed or thinking “is medication even necessery?” i
• don’t isolate youself - this is a early symptom for me, before i get a psychotic episode, i often isolate myself and hate the world. that often lead to me being alone with my delusions and they get worse. so try to see friends often, especially when you have early signs.
• relax - voices are often caused by stress, so try to focus on your breathing.
• distract yourself - focus on a task or watch tv.
• ask your voices a question, that you dont know the answer to - if they dont know the answer the voices must be coming from within you.
• background sounds - people have reported that listening to music or having the tv on sort of drowns the voices.
• talk back to your voices - ask them to leave and say no if they order you to do things, remind yourself who’s in control.
• know your triggers - it may help to keep a diary of when the voices are more active.
• medication - modern anti-psychotics are 80-90% effective in revieling voices and will often make them disappear.
• hum or sing - it drowns the voices as well as distract you.
• read out loud - same with hum or sing
• open your mouth really wide - i have no idea why or if this works, but you can try it!
• just a symptom - try to think of your voices as just a symptom, and not something that has a special meaning. after all, it’s just a random thought you can hear.
this is quite a hard one, i haven’t experienced much visual hallucinations, so i don’t personally know what works and what doesn’t. and i don’t find much about it on internet. if you have any coping skills for visual hallucinations, let me know and i’ll include it!
• take a picture - if you’re unsure something is there you can try taking a picture
• turn away - or break eye contact, leave the room. if you don’t see it it’s not there
• shine on them - if you see shadows you can try shining light on them from your phone flashlight
• medication - well, yeah, you get the idea. they work.
• five senses method -
acknowledge five things you can see; four things you can touch; three things you can hear; two things you can smell; one things you can taste.
• keep your pet near - if you have a pet it may help to tell you if something is real or not. if your pet doesn’t react you can assume it’s not real.
• distraction - try to take your mind of it, even though it’s not that simple.
• give them facts - checking facts and statistics may help
• talk about them - in my case, the more i talked about my thoughts, the more unrealistic they seemed. That may not happen to everyone, but it is helpful to talk about them.
• know your trigggers - delusions are also good to know when they’re more active.
• medication - antipsychotis aren’t just helping for your hallucinations, but other symptoms as well - including delusions.
• count from one to three - start by thinking about (visualizing) the numbers in your head and focus on them before saying them aloud to align thought and speech centres of your brain.
trust me, i really wish i knew how to cope with the other symptoms. i don’t personally have much advice, and i can’t find much on internet, but if any of you know how to cope with these symptoms*, let me know and i’ll include it!
*some other symptoms are:
negative symtptoms - this could be not having energy, feeling indifferent towards things and gestures may decrease.
catatonic behaviour - a bit more rare. it’s when the person stops moving and can be completely still for a long period of time.
disorganized behaviour - appears as a decline in overall daily functioning, unpredictable or inappropriate emotional responses, behaviors that can appear bizarre and have no purpose, lack of impulse control.
trouble thinking -
having too much thoughts or having slow thoughts
trouble functioning in social situations, isolation, trouble handling jobs or everyday chores.
also, a big thank you to you guys who come with advice, you’re awesome