posting this again because i am just that mad:

The unfortunate circumstances we (SE fandom) find ourselves in as of late are that: Yes, Stelena has been trashed to the point where an endgame seems in no way conceivable (even though we all know that was the original plan before fan service got the better of TVD) and that if they were to be made endgame-by the end of the series-it just wouldn’t be the same as it could have been-without all the hurtful and insulting retcon that has so shamelessly been done by the writers. 

The love that Stefan and Elena shared was always the most meaningful part of the show and to this day remains that, but it is hard to keep that in mind when the writers have tried so hard to dismantle Stelena and everything that they were. However, regardless of what the writers would like us to forget, real fans of the show won’t. We know that Stefan and Elena were always and will always be drawn to each other, we know they will always be soulmates, we know they will always be each others homes, and we know they will always be the true loves of each others lives.

Even if the endgame that the writers want to force and shove down our throats in the name of fanservice-is in fact delena-the one true love story of the show that people will actually remember in years to come-is Stelena, because honestly, in the words of Elena Gilbert, no matter what happens, no matter who Elena is with, “It’s always gonna be Stefan”. Even when Elena is with Damon, Stefan will always have her heart. And that is what I try to remember when I watch how TVD continues to destroy the one thing that made it great: Stelena.

anonymous asked:

Not to be mean, I didn't watch the show, just a couple of episodes. But I know that you ship Spuffy, and I heard and actually watched the video where he tried to rape her (I know that he lost his soul or whatever but still no excuse tbh). I just don't understand how you can hate Delena (I do too tbh) and ship Spuffy in the same time? :/

Hi there! That’s an excellent question and im actually surprised no one has ever asked me before since the majority ships bangel/stelena or spuffy/delena. This is gonna be a rather long answer so i hope you wont get bored by reading it!:) 

First of all, due to the fact that you havent watched the whole btvs series some issues need to be addressed. In Buffy, when sb becomes a vamp he automatically loses their soul and they are a simply demons. No compassion, no remorse, just the utter feeling of killing and feeding. Concerning tvd, vampires HAVE THEIR HUMANITY ( which not exactly equals to having a soul but they still have the ability to love, feel guilty [ex. stefan]) and they choose when to turn it off. 

The main reason that i ship Spuffy is that Spike, without a soul, fell in love with Buffy. No one can deny the obsession she had for her at first, but he truly cared for her, her well being, her loved ones (her little sister dawn) SOMETHING THAT DAMON NEVER DID!!! ( tried to murder jeremy twice, kill caroline, hurt matt and many more examples.) Spike was able to to love her despite not having a soul.

Also, another point is that Damon- im the worst vampire to have ever existed- Salvatore never fucking cared for what Elena wanted. He disrespected her choices, taking away her free will in many ways. Spike never did that. He always stood by her, heard and comprehended Buffy’s problems in a such a great extent that even her was amazed of how she couldn’t fool him. ( i think that in s3 ep 8). Furthermore, its worth mentioning that Spike tried to make a move on Buffy after her relationship with Riley ( her 2nd boyfriend after Angel) had ended, in season 5, whereas Damon chased and hit on Elena while he knew quite well she had a relationship with his OWN FUCKING BROTHER since season 1.( sorry its been 6 years and ill never get over it).

Now, as for the rape scene, Im no way justifying Spike actions or blaming Buffy but it’s of utmost importance to mention that Buffy and Spike’s realtionship through season 6 was toxic and destructive af and something like that was expected. They both used each other for sex, selfishly. Buffy needed to feel after her resurrection, torn out for heaven by her own friends. She felt nothing, totally empty. The only times she felt anything was when she was having sex with Spike. The thing is Spike was never able to understand that. After several eps, she broke up with him, finally getting grasp of her actions, lefting Spike with many questions as why now? why doesnt she want to fuck me like old times? What changed? His demon couldnt understand that. Then, he probably thought, that if they had an intercouse Buffy would come back to him. Although, the exact moment Buffy kicked him and threw him over the wall in that scene, Spike’s expression completely changed. It gradually hit him, that he had almost hurt in an unacceptable way the woman he loves so deeply. His actions overwhelmed him, he need to do something drastic, to change. He travelled to Africa, in search of his soul,underwent several harsh trials, in order to be able to FIT! To be the kind of man that Buffy deserved, the kind of man that he would never hurt again. ( u could wacth 7x02 for that, it’s spike after getting his soul restored). To sum up, he absolutely regretted his actions, fully ashamed of it every day, trully changed!

Damon, however, never found redemption. Never really changed his way of life for Elena. He was always a piece of crap, a joke! Constantly lying to her face about stuff,the past, stefan etc. Elena couldnt even open up to him, have a real conversation, they always ended up having sex. And i shouldnt start with the fact that Elena did a 180 degrees turn,bending her morals, losing her character, so as to be with him. (using tyler’s words: You’re a joke Damon, or even Damon’s: STOP DEFENDING ME!!! ) 

That did not happen with Buffy.

Last but not least, Buffy the Vampire Slayer is an amazingly written show, with full character developments, strong women, logical storylines and no plotholes. The Vampire Diaries was worth watching until 4x01, then it turned into a cheap, fanservicing, nonsencse piece of crap written by fucking Julie Plec.

And thats why my dear anon, I ship SPUFFY TO DEATH with a fervent passion, while I loath delena to my effing guts. Hope my answer was sufficient :D Have a good day xx

anonymous asked:

Even though delena and chair are both abusive, I liked chair more because they were at least entertaining, and like you said Chuck did walk away to work on himself and then they got back together. Whereas delena never worked on their issues and Damon/Elena were very unlikeable together, everything from the way they got together to how their relationship played out was terrible and just unwatchable at times lol.

Chuck and Blair definitely had an actual storyline that was interesting, that’s true. Damon and Elena didn’t do anything except fuck,fight about being toxic and fuck some more, with some you-killed-my-brother-but-we’re-good bullshit in between. Chuck and Blair didn’t drag their show down, unlike Dullena. Dullena will forever be known as the reason why TVD started to suck ass.

Regardless of what happens - even if Stelena is not endgame, our ship was 100% real and full of love acknowledged by many characters. What’s said by and about Stefan and Elena can never be said about DE.
  • “I love Stefan. It’s always gonna be Stefan.”
  • “I love him, Damon. No matter what I feel for you, I never unfell for him.”
  • “It’s you and me, Stefan. Always.”
  • “I envy that. You and Elena. I envy the love that you have.”
  • “Crazy or not, that kind of love never dies.”
  • “After the accident, I kind of felt like I didn’t know how to live anymore, like I didn’t want to. But then being with Stefan, somehow I figured it out. And that’s what love should be. You should love the person that makes you glad that you’re alive.”
  • “He’s your epic love!”
  • “I met a girl. We talked, and it was epic. And then the sun came up and reality set in. Well this is reality, right here, right now.”
  • “You are the woman that I love. I love you.”
  • “I don’t pretend to be anything when I’m with her. That’s the whole point. I get to just be myself.”
  • “She’s the love of my life. I’d go back to her in a heartbeat.”
  • “All I see is Stefan and Elena.”
  • “I had to choose and I picked you. Because I love you. No matter what happens, it’s the best choice I ever made.”
  • “I love you, Stefan. Hold on to that. Never let that go.”
  • “If it were my choice, I’d want to be with you forever.”
  • “I was protecting Elena. I will always protect Elena.”
  • “If you walk away, it’s for you because I know what I want. I love you, Stefan.”
  • “But you know, the life that we had, that was amazing too. And it wasn’t a spell or a prophecy. It was real. We fell in love on our own.”
  • “Elena is warm, and she’s kind, and she’s caring, and she’s selfless. And it’s real. And honestly when I’m around her, I completely forget what I am.”
  • “I watched versions of Stefan and Elena find each other like magnets. Always the same story. Conquering all, falling in love.”
  • “I will always love you.”
  • “Stefan is your soulmate.”
  • “You were the perfect boyfriend.”
  • “The only thing stronger than your craving for blood is your love for this one girl.”
  • “I owe you everything because through all of this, you are the one thing that’s kept me from giving up. From turning it all off.”
  • “Must be hard trying to live up to Stefan. He stopped himself when I compelled him to feed on Elena. Now that’s love.”
  • “Every time I tell myself that I’m moving on, there’s this part of me that just can’t seem to shake her.”
  • “His love is pure and he will always be good for her.”
  • “Everything I did to get this, I did for you. So that the choice of whether you wanted to be a vampire or not, would always be yours.”
  • “What if Elena was the one?“ “She was. And she will always be an epic love.”
  • “I’ll be with you, forever.”
  • “She’s human, pure. Dating the good Salvatore [Stefan]. Then she became an undead blood bag, stopped caring about right and wrong, started dating the bad one.”
  • “Elena Williams. We’ve known each other for a very long time now, and you’ve always been my best friend. I have always loved you and I want to spend the rest of my life with you. Will you marry me?”
  • “I saw a perfect life. Stefan and I were married and we had kids. It was everything that we wanted.”
  • “If it meant that I got to be with her, have children, grow old with her. If it meant that we’d die together, be buried together, then yes. I’d take the cure.”

Is no one going to mention the disastrous scene between Damon and Elena in the last episode? The one where she’s crying on his shoulder for the future she had lost, and obviously still craves for, while he’s hiding the cure under his socks? 

The main problem is that Damon doesn’t really know, or understand, how much and why Elena wants to be human again. And the reason he doesn’t know it because Elena obviously feels that she can’t talk to him, or be honest with him. Because, taught by past experiences, she’s afraid her words might have negative consequences on everyone if she doesn’t feel the way he NEEDS her to feel. WANTS her to feel. If her state of mind does not match his. She apologizes to him for even bringing it up. She doesn’t want to talk about it because it might hurt his feelings. SHE APOLOGIZED TO HIM FOR HER FEELINGS AND WISHES AND DREAMS. Why should we take her feelings into account when we can feel sorry for him, right? Why should we be happy for her when we can worry about his man pain? Why should what she wants be more important than the fact he loves her and “can’t live without her”? When Elena cried to Stefan about not wanting to be a vampire, he held her in his arms, trying to calm her down, desperate and helpless, offering his life as a sacrifice for her aunts so she doesn’t have to lose one more thing. That’s the only thing he could have done in such a short period of time, unable to repair the mistake his brother had made. When Elena cried on Damon’s shoulder about how much she misses being human he didn’t do anything about it, but could have.

Damon Salvatore listened to the woman he loves cry about not being able to have a normal life she had always wanted, and he didn’t get up right that instant to go get the cure. A woman he loves felt jealous of another woman being pregnant - he can do something about it, and he didn’t, and that disgusts me. It disgusts me because they’re in the same place they were 2 seasons ago, having the same conversation, and she might still “choose” him. I can’t believe there are people writing this, telling us it’s progress. I can’t believe there are people watching it and supporting it, either.