Nostalgia for the life of others. This is because, seen from the outside, another’s life forms a unit. Whereas ours, seen from the inside, seems broken up. We are still chasing after an illusion of unity.
When you hype something up to be a special episode, we as fans take notice. We wait on pins and needles, absorbing any kind of spoiler we can get our hands on hoping to piece together what is going to happen. We want to be surprised but we are super fans and find it almost impossible to stay spoiler free.
Then the episode comes to pass and you sit and let it digest for a moment. Now most people say that you should get a life and not think so hard about a tv show, however, there is nothing wrong with feeling strongly about entertainment. Just like people feel strongly about music, art and science, tv is another form of art that can generate just as much love and hate. So as you sit and let the episode sink in a part of you wants to justify things in it so you don’t automatically pass judgment. After a good nights sleep, I think I am ready to actually look at this episode.
Now, for the record, I actually like Mxy. He represents a part of the alien world we don’t normally see. Most times, the aliens in this universe are portrayed as good or evil and they all seem to have baggage. He was neither. His intentions were misguided and so the results were catastrophic. Since he is an all seeing godlike being, for him to want to come in and take his bride, whatever means necessary, would seem about right. He wanted love but didn’t really understand how we humans perceive love to be. So I guess it’s kind of lost in translation.
That being said, that’s where I justify why Kara would pick Mon-el. We all have that friend who dates the one person you despise – not because they aren’t a match, but because they aren’t truthful about things and they just annoy the crap out of you. They are arrogant and they think that a few words can make you overlook all their flaws. Now to me, that seems somewhat manipulative, but that would fit in the context of your friend falling for the wrong guy. So… I will give the writers leeway as to why they would go that route no matter how cringeworthy their scenes are.
Now many would argue that the main story of this episode was that it was Valentine’s day… Really? That’s just weak. But as I take a harder look at this episode, I realize this was just filler space to make it alright for Kara and Mon-el to come together. Hey man, whatever floats your boat, because we all have couples we cheer for. What I don’t agree with is the fact that you tease this as a certain centric episode and this is actually your main content.
Now I know that many would argue that I am biased, and yah I am. But to make things fair, I loved the Winn scenes. It has taken Winn 2 and a half seasons to finally find that one girl who makes him stutter like an idiot and she is genuinely interested in him. For the 5 minutes they had on screen I was cheering the writers for finally giving my boy someone to call his own. He didn’t have to play second fiddle to Jimmy or Mon-el, and honestly I have no problems with that. Now did it fit the show? Nah… It had nothing to do with the main storyline, you could literally delete all those scenes and no one would have noticed, but because they added it in, it gave people a chance to cheer for Winn.
Why was that important? Because Winn is integral to the show, but by no means can you say that this was a winn-centric episode. That being said, this brings me to Sanvers. They teased it as a Sanvers-centric episode, and just like my boy Winn, they got about 5 minutes of actual screen time. If you delete their scenes, the storyline would still progress and no one would have been the wiser. So why do it?
Because, unfortunately, one of my favorite shows is falling prey to popular opinion. Ever hear that old adage “You can’t please everyone?” If you want to tell a story, you’re going to have to toughen up. The thing about any gay storyline, you will have die hard fans because let’s face it, there aren’t many shows to pull from. We are starved for any kind of representation but we aren’t stupid.
I thought that the Alex storyline was progressing well. She is an integral part of the show, just like Winn, so what’s the hurry? Social pressures state that we want representation and we want it now, however, understand if you tell it right, we will wait. This is why, for Alex to take 7 episodes to realise she was gay, tell her family and friends, sat right with us. Did it dominate the main stories? No, it was told on the side and you got a glimpse of what her personal life looked like. That was important because just like when we got a glimpse of J’onn’s real story, this character became real to us.
Now this is still a show about a superhero and it is grounded in the relationship between sisters and friends. If you cut everything out, the one thing everyone relates to are the real feelings surrounding these characters. Also, they have built very strong female characters that empower younger fans, and I think they need to stick to that.
Understand, I loved this episode, but not because everybody got their man / woman, but because it was a little different from your normal episodes. We know that Cadmus is the main storyline of the season, and we know that somewhere Mon-el’s storyline will come to fruition as well, so the lightheartedness of this episode was a nice change. Could it have been told better? Probably… But this is what it is.
On a side note, writers please don’t give into social pressures. I feel you have done an awesome job in telling the different stories and weaving these characters into people we can care about. Take the time that’s needed to fully round out these storylines because your fans deserve that. And for the life of me, don’t tease something and then fall short. You are better than that.
SHORT STORIES, my favorite kind of poetry ( meme ).
SIX WORDS .
❝ i heard you were doing good. ❞ ❝ you don’t grow your horns overnight. ❞ ❝ i promise, it gets better eventually. ❞ ❝ & we never talked after that. ❞ ❝ am i really, truly, that unlovable? ❞ ❝ don’t talk like you’re coming back. ❞ ❝ my most dangerous habit is trusting. ❞ ❝ we’re made of stars & stories. ❞ ❝ you didn’t have to do that. ❞ ❝ everything is poetry when you’re drunk. ❞ ❝ did i mean anything to you? ❞ ❝ real feelings don’t just go away. ❞ ❝ you came & changed the weather. ❞ ❝ when can you just be mine? ❞ ❝ there was no love, only lust. ❞ ❝ darling, stop wishing on dead stars. ❞ ❝ art is another form of screaming. ❞ ❝ silence is the most painful goodbye. ❞ ❝ what the fuck did you do? ❞ ❝ i’m drunk, dizzy & missing you. ❞ ❝ kiss me like you’re losing me. ❞ ❝ i don’t feel like smiling today. ❞ ❝ not all good people are innocent. ❞ ❝ we’re a disaster in the making. ❞ ❝ some things are better left unsaid. ❞ ❝ we really should’ve talked about it. ❞ ❝ i’m so glad i met you. ❞ ❝ i wish i knew you earlier. ❞ ❝ i fucked (pronoun/name) to our song. ❞ ❝ i dreamed of you this night. ❞
TEN WORDS .
❝ you saw the messed up parts of me, & stayed. ❞ ❝ all i’ve ever wanted was for someone to save me. ❞ ❝ since you left, i have no one to talk to. ❞ ❝ i apologize for the nights in which i cannot breathe. ❞ ❝ everytime i look at you, i want to kiss you. ❞ ❝ we said no strings attached but now we’re in knots. ❞ ❝ there’s a difference between missing someone & missing having someone. ❞ ❝ for which f are you drinking? fuck, forget, or fun? ❞ ❝ my biggest mistake was thinking i could live without (pronoun/name). ❞ ❝ whenever (name/pronoun) rose to kiss me, i fell even more. ❞ ❝ i wish that ‘goodnight’ was followed by ‘i love you’. ❞ ❝ let’s smoke a pack of mentholds & talk about love. ❞ ❝ your deep, sleepy voice makes me feel like i’m okay. ❞ ❝ i read both of our horoscopes looking for an answer ❞ ❝ reality is the absolute last place i want to be. ❞ ❝ i didn’t expect that drunk kiss could mean this much. ❞ ❝ all i need is a late night drive with you. ❞ ❝
feeling pain is nowhere near as terrifying as feeling nothing. ❞ ❝ your eyes are the color of summer fading into autumn. ❞ ❝ you are the warmest home i will ever, ever find. ❞ ❝ the world is less scary when i am with you. ❞ ❝ i still can’t tell which of us was the victim. ❞ ❝ i just need an excuse to hang out with you. ❞ ❝ your expectations for me have been set way too high. ❞ ❝ i don’t want to feel this way about anyone else. ❞
What makes them feel uncomfortable and frustrated:
ENFP: They love dreams, possibilities, ideas and alternatives. Trying new things and taking on new projects excites them. Therefore, having someone belittling their ideas can be very disheartening and frustrating for them.
ISFJ: They thrive on routine and knowing what to expect at any given time. They are excellent planners who enjoy knowing how their week is going to unfold. A sudden change in plans without warning is therefore going to make them feel frustrated and uncomfortable.
ESFJ: Trolling. People who make statements or jokes for the sake of getting a reaction, angry or otherwise, can infuriate them. They see this kind of verbal manipulation as just another form of bullying and conflicts with their belief in showing kindness and respect to others.
ENTJ: People trying to control them or telling them what to do. They are fiercely independent and like to be leaders and free thinkers. Usually they make better bosses than employees.
INTP: Someone demanding respect because of their status or position without having earned it. They don’t aim to be disrespectful, they just feel that respect and admiration need to be earned.
ISTP: Emotional overreactions. ISTPs keep their emotions on a tight leash, and are surprised when others don’t do the same. They don’t like it when people have outbursts that seem disproportionate to the problem and it can make them seriously question their respect for you.
ISTJ: Not following through on your word. They take promises rather serious. What’s so good about this is that the promise of an ISTJ often means something.
INTJ: Small talk or being constantly interrupted. Their Ni is what connects the dots of life and form insights into their goals, dreams and theories. Ni requires personal space and/or energy, therefore interruptions are frustrating.
INFP: They don’t like people who are insensitive and arrogant because of their Fi dom. They don’t like pretentious people or people who act as someone they’re not because of their Fi dom (Fi = everyone are equal/being true to yourself, be who you are, don’t fake anything).
ENTP: People who don’t take a stand in arguments. ENTPs usually likes to argue, but how can they argue if you’re trying to be all nice and diplomatic and refuse to take a stand?
ESTJ: Basically inconsistent people and unreliability. They do not think fondly of those who are late, lazy, don’t meet deadlines and so on. Neither do they hold much love in their hearts for those who give up without really trying.
ESTP: They like to fix problems, so people who rant and complain without wanting to find a solution frustrates them. ESTPs are great when you want a solution and not that great if you need emotional support.
INFJ: Condescension. Do not mistake their quiet, sensitive nature as a sign of weakness. They dislike being talked down to, patronized or condescended to.
ENFJ: They have a sixth sense for phony behavior and they can’t stand dishonesty. Their Fe percieves minor changes in body language that communicates dishonesty, so they often notice when you lie and they don’t like it.
ISFP: They are strong believers in being genuine and authentic. This makes them distance themselves from manipulation. Behavior used to manipulate or gain attention will irritate them.
ESFP: Making long term plans frustrates them. They want to think about now and let later deal with itself, they don’t know what they’re doing in two years- Having to plan it out right now is stressing them. To them, long term goals are less idealistic than short term goals.
underneath all the irony and the satire, i think there’s really something to be learned from some of the things dan has to say. because if you genuinely listen to his rants, they become less of a rant and become more of an opportunity for introspection. it really struck a chord when dan was talking about making the conscious decision whether or not to compromise your values and your authenticity to fit into a societal box in order to please other people. because it’s not just a youtube dilemma, it’s a human dilemma. we’ve all dealt with it in one form or another, myself included, and at the end of the day, authenticity overrules popularity. it makes me happy to know that dan has continuously utilized his platform to speak out about these kind of internal issues and i just. i respect dan. i respect his opinions. i respect the way he thinks
THANK YOU SO MUCH to everyone for your positive response to my covers of Stammi Vicino this past week! It really made my heart swell to read many of your comments, and to find that I’ve hit 100+ followers on my music blog! I want to do something special to commemorate this, because for me this feels like a milestone for a starter music blog as a performer and growing composer. For now, I wanted to share with you another cover form Yuri!!! On Ice ( possibly my second favourite song from the series), Serenade for Two. Thank you again to Rui for allowing me to collaborate with her lovely piano rendition. I really hope you enjoy this cover as well, and stay tuned for more upcoming music!
Oh my god, this infomercial. I think, in one form or another, it has existed for the better part of a decade. They keep filming vaguely new ones, each built on the refuse pile of terrible acting from the previous one. This commercial doesn’t advertise a product so much as dare you to buy it. You see how dumb this shit is, so why don’t you try to see if you can recreate the dumbfuckery in your own kitchen.
The problem isn’t the product (though if online reviews are to be believed, you might want to look into a different food processor). It’s the Saturday afternoon theater group of actors who try to bring it to life like Frankenstein trying to use friction instead of electricity on his monster, being awkward and weird until it mercifully ends. I have no doubt that infomercials are cheesy intentionally; it probably gets more attention then trying to have Tom Hanks and Daniel Day-Lewis dramatically espouse the virtues of a machine that can make me a quesadilla in two minutes. But there’s a fine line between cheese and “The fuck is this?”
Twelve seconds into this infomercial, we’re introduced to some sour old harridan lamenting the lack of food at what we can assume is a dinner party. And sure, these two hosts are assholes for inviting people over to eat and not only having no food ready but also making them sit for 20 minutes while they make every meal in the same shitty piece of equipment, but show some fucking tact. You’re a guest, you execrable crone.
No less than two seconds later, an older and cronier hag starts slinging shade, suggesting the hosts are either lazy shits or have spent all day boning. My interpretation is for the latter, because seriously, is the lady leading the infomercial wearing a nightgown?
just a PSA: everyone is their sun sign and acts it out in one form or another. if you disagree you’re either painfully self unaware, you’re the negative version of your sign, you don’t understand the sun archetype or you’re just trying to be edgy (see: painfully self unaware)
the reason abled people are praised for being kind to the disabled is because it is not normalized to be kind to the disabled.
it is seen as an achievement for an abled person to “look beyond” the disability and treat the disabled person like a person, because it is not normalized to treat the disabled like people.
Ableism is so bad in our society that we dont even see the disabled as people or as equals and thus put the abled on a pedestal for even acknowledging the disabled as people.
and yet people still tryna tell me that Ableism isnt real, or it isnt as bad as another form of discrimination, or that its just some tumblr fad.
and people do this because the ableism is so bad in our society that not being able to see the disabled as people who suffer and have struggles, as people who have emotions and feelings, as anything other than “not abled”, is seen as normal.
dehumanization of the disabled is by far, more normalized than the humanization of the disabled.