anon doesnt say who it's from

anonymous asked:

(one) about the aro/ace thing: i totally agree with you! i was around 15 when i started questioning my sexuality (i'm bi but like 80%gay at this point lol) and i read about a lot of sexualities to understand myself. then i stumbled accros asexuality, and it fit me "perfectly". i didn't think about having sex/crave it or whatever, BUT i was 15. 3 years later i've come to realize that a) i really was too young to "know", and b) most of my fears about having sex stem from my own insecurities.

(two) but when all these people around me, the same age or even younger were also identifying as ace i really thought that that had to be the case. at first it felt great to finally identify as something (i was still scared of saying i was bi). however, when time went by i got worried that i’d change my mind and people would call me an attention seeker (i didn’t even tell anyone) so i almost felt like i had to be ace and couldn’t even think about other options for a few years.

(three) well then i basically grew up, realized that i wasn’t mature enough back then (some might be) and understood that i do want to have sex when i find the right person (even with women, which felt scary at first). if i hadn’t read so much about asexuality in the first place i don’t think that i’d have doubted myself. talking about sex/what we want to do in bed with is one of the most nicest things and i’m so glad i got over myself. sorry for so many long messages, i just needed to say this

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thank u for sharing this!!! its a rly good example of that i was talking abt. the argument was never abt that asexuality doesnt exist (which it does) or that its impossible to know that ur ace when ur younger (which it isnt), its abt what it does to ppl who wrongly identify themselves as ace and how it keeps them from growing 

i love when people call people with cluster B pds inherently abusive, as if they know everything that is to know about cluster B and they know everything about me as well, like yeah, you go you person who probably would hide behind anon just to argue with anyone.

and really, the only vaguely abusive behavior happening is coming from you! i love when people try to tell me how i feel and what i meant by something especially when i can’t remember myself. i love when people tell me what im doing and saying is manipulative on the basis of cluster B and leaving me confused and scaring me into thinking its my fault! doesnt that sound manipulative to you?

like do people forget the majority of the time cluster B, and more specifically the disorders I want to talk about, BPD and NPD, forms because of abuse? do they know NPD and BPD is a defense mechanism? ive talked about this months ago, how NPD usually forms because a person forms the mindset and symptoms to better themselves when theyre literally treated as if theyre nothing at all! its a coping mechanism first and foremost, does and can it affect relationships and the like afterwards? yeah, because its. a Disorder. disorders impair the person who has it and affects their life a lot. 

ill repeat that. Disorders impair the person who has it. Not the people around them, the PERSON. Because do people really think NPD is a joy ride which someone develops out of their own benefit to hurt people? Do they really forget that. I dont know. Its a mental illness and no matter what it hurts the person more than it does anyone else. 

In fact, if we want to go into what the dsm says, do people forget this, “My symptoms impair my personality and social functioning”

or even this whole section: 

  • I have cognition problems and difficulty perceiving myself, other people, and events.
  • I have affectivity problems and difficulty controlling the range and intensity of my emotional responses.
  • I have problems with interpersonal functioning and being aware of my own actions and feelings.
  • I have difficulty controlling my impulses.

God, it’s almost like its not fine and dandy!!!!

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To the anon-san who has been chewing me out saying aoinga had said she doesnt want her art reposted by anyone and how I steal art,me, er-chan and planetmilkthings managed to contact her .I asked her on both my accounts one in english and one in japanese on my official unisonraidd one and ironically she has yet replied to the English one which was a surprise.BUT as you see the artist has no problem with her art being reposted.Just wanted to put this here for anon to see :3 and all the other gruvia blogs who repost from her to know its alright^^

Okay can I just like talk about something.

Okay, so basically I’m here to set these fucking anons straight.

So this is @ any anon who basically sent/ or still sends hate.

1) Who are you? Why are you hiding behind an ugly ass circle? Oh that’s right you are a cowardly bitch who can’t hate on someone and actually say it to their face, but no, you have to hide behind a fucking circle.

2 ) “ Your blog isn’t even good ” from Anon : HEY BUDDY. THAT IS YOUR OPINION. MAYBE I LIKE HIS/HER BLOG. WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE. And even if I PERSONALLY DONT LIKE SOMEONES BLOG? I don’t fucking go in their ask box and say something to them. I just leave their blog and go about my day. How about you just not voice your opinion because it’s clearly irrelevant, like you.

3) “you are worthless ” from anon : UMM WHAT! OKAY IT DOESNT MATTER IF YOU SAID THIS TO A FRIEND OF MINE, A FAMILY MEMBER, OR MAYBE SOMEONE THAT I DONT EVEN KNOW. THAT PERSON IS NOT WORTHLESS. THEY ARE WORTH SO MUCH AND AO FUCKING IMPORTANT. DO YOU KNOW WHO IS WORTHLESS HERE?? ITS YOU YOU SCUL OF THE EARTH ASSHOLE.

4) “ ew your sexuality makes me wanna puke ” from anon : HEY BUDDY, ITS 2015. 20FUCKING15. First off, ITS LEGAL TO BE YOURSELF NOW. ITS ACCEPTED BY OVER HALF THE POPULATION. AND THERE IS A WHOLE GROUP OF PEOPLE THAT WILL EXEPT THE PERSON YOU SENT THIS TOO AND ISNT AFRAID TO TEAR YA ASS UP. Good day

5) “ kill yourself ” from anon : Do I really need to even go over how FUCKED up it is to say this to someone? Because if you don’t understand why it’s so FUCKED up, you need physiological help.

6) “ your ugly ” from anon : So is that circle you are hiding behind hunty. You need to realize that people are beautiful in their own way. Hey maybe that person just realized that she is beautiful or he is beautiful and an ugly ass circle just ruined their day. Congratulations fucktard you need fucking help. Oh and if you think that hiding behind a circle is gonna cover up your ugly face, then by all means go ahead. But you sir, are the scum of the fucking earth. Bye dicktard.

7) “ your fat ” from anon : LITERALLY WHY THE FUCK WOULD YOU SAY SHIT LIKE THIS TO SOMEONE. Literally, this one makes me wanna puke. You cannot tell someone about their own fucking body. Okay. Are you a doctor? No. Are you an asshole? FUCKING YES. You need to understand that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and you need to stop listening to the media on what you think “ pretty ” or “ accepted ” is. You really need a reality check hunny, and try and get it asap. Thank you.

And if you, reading this is getting anon hate, listen to me, because I’ve been there. These people just want to ruin your day. And you can’t let them win. They literally have no relevance because they are hiding behind a circle with some crusty ass glasses.

Just know that those people that send you anon hate are cowardly and deserve nothing.

Come to me if they are bothering you, just tag me and I’ll set their asses straight.

Peace out ✌🏼️

anonymous asked:

just because its your opinion doesnt mean it wont offend people though

yeah but this is the topic of religion, and i’m getting so many messages from speicifically angry christians, who apparently think their religion is the best and the only, and that’s why they’re offended. i literally didn’t say anything offensive in my original post, and i have every right to have my own religious opinions as does everyone else, at LEAST i’m not being an asshole about my agnosticism and trying to shove it down everyones throats like some of these anons are doing with me :///////