angry trans girl

tbh i really dont get why we need legitimate canon ‘evidence’ to say a character is trans?? u can headcanon all u want but as soon as ur like ‘idk i think this character is trans’ theres this whole army of cis people ready to rise up like yES BUT WHAT ABOUT IN EPISODE 7 AT 26.3456654 MINUTES THAT PROVES THEYRE CIS damn son maybe i just like the idea of josh washington being a trans dude step off

HOW TO BE A GIRL

1. Be delicate, but not stuck up. Be graceful, but don’t be conceited. Be sexy, but not sexual. Be smart, but don’t be witty. Have an opinion, but don’t speak your mind.

2. Take up as little space as possible.

3. Don’t be like the other girls.

4. But don’t be too different either.

5. Take care of your body. Not by weekends at the spa, evenings in your tub with useless, stupid bath bombs, sweet treats,  a walk in the park or, god forbid, masturbation, no, taking care of your body means making sure you stay in shape to look as appealing as possible. Go to the gym whenever you can, stick to that diet, ignore your hunger, you have to be slim, you have to be skinny. Not too skinny, though. So make sure your body stores fat in places where it’s considered attractive: Your breasts, your ass. No cellulite. No flab. No dimples. No stretch marks. No body hair. If you let it grow, you let yourself go.

6. It’s self-understood, but of course, you have to have a vagina.

7. Remember that every other girl you meet is your rival. There is no such thing as true friendship between girls. In the end, she is going to disappoint and backstab you anyway. That’s just what girls are like. So be ahead of her at all times. Be prettier than her, more succesful than her, thinner than her, just better than her. Being a girl means being in a constant competition with every other female being.

8. In terms of sex; give, don’t take. Don’t ask foor too much.

9. If he hurts you, it is your fault. Always keep in mind that falling for a liar and a cheater is a sign of your own weakness, because you were blinded by the dumb, immature illusion of true love that girls are so fond of. If you want to be a good girl, you have to lower your expectations of men and settle for less than what you actually dreamed of. That’s just how it is. You should be thankful for every man that is interested in you anyway. So don’t mourn and don’t complain if one of them lets you down, not all men are like that, and your own stupidity is to blame, not his inability to refrain from giving in to his desire for another girl. If you would’ve been better, he wouldn’t have left you in first place.

10. Deny your human nature for it is inappropriate for girls to openly express their basic needs, such as hunger, arousal, or the simple need to burp, fart, piss, shit. That’s a boy thing, it’s funny if they do it, but gross and repulsive if girls do.

11. Be in control, but never take control.

12. Don’t even try to convince anyone you’re dressing up like that for yourself. It’s okay, darling, you want to be stared at, you want to be whistled at. Deep down inside, you need that kind of affirmation and acknowledgement, so take it as a compliment when someone yells that he wants to fuck you. If they take it too far, if they grab and molest you, well, maybe you should’ve thought about that before you put on that skimpy dress, you dirty little slut. Because even if you think you’re dressing up for yourself, even if you think you’re putting on makeup because it makes you happy, it’s wrong. As a girl, there’s only few things that you do for yourself, because it should be one of your main priorities in life to serve, just as girls always did, and always will.

13. Last but not least; yes, it’s supposed to hurt. So better get used to it.

—  What Society Taught Me - An ironical take on the unwritten rules we’re supposed to follow
As a transgender woman

Caitlyn Jenner does not speak for me.
Caitlyn Jenner does not represent me.
Caitlyn Jenner does not represent the trans community.
Caitlyn Jenner is not a role model.
Caitlyn Jenner is not a hero.
Caitlyn Jenner is not positive representation.
Caitlyn Jenner is not an example.
Caitlyn Jenner is extremely privileged. Caitlyn Jenner is not a leader.
As a transgender woman.
Caitlyn Jenner does not speak for me.

if you’re calling Leelah he, and calling her a man/boy, unfollow me.

if you think it was selfish of Leelah to kill herself the way she did, unfollow me.

if you think that trans women aren’t real women unfollow me.

if you aren’t disgusted and angry that yet another trans girl has killed herself, and that it’s because of how she was treated by her toxic and transphobic parents, UNFOLLOW ME NOW.

transmysogynists on tumblr who call themselves feminists, and yet don’t advocate for the rights of transwomen are part of the problem and need to be STOPPED

Two common responses I received when I came out really irk me: 

1.  “I wont think of you differently!”  It’s like, okay, glad to know you wont hate me now.  But I’d like my identity to be in your thoughts as well.  I’m changing as a person; you shouldn’t think of me as the same person.  

2.  “Please correct me if I mess up your pronouns!”  This makes me probably unnecessarily annoyed, but I really wish people would stop saying it.  Please just give me the small comfort that you will put the small effort into getting my pronouns right.  It does not help my anxiety to know that I’ll probably have to correct you one day.  

Sometimes there isn’t going to be hope. No amount of looking to the future is going to cut it. It’s just going to be pain. For some way more often than for others.

I won’t lie to you, for some, things are really bad. I have a lot of disabilities and I’m pretty mentally ill in multiple ways. I’m poor. I’m not in the best of living conditions or around the best of people. Things get pretty bad for me. And I’m not the worst off either. I’m white. A black or latina trans woman with those same problems is facing some grim stuff. I have a home. Trans girls out on the street are in way worse straits.

Sometimes hope isn’t what will save you. Sometimes (even often) you have to find something else.

Some choose hate. Cold or hot. Staying alive to spit in the eye of the people who’d rather have you dead. Revenge is a dish best served alive and well and sticking your tongue out at those who despise you.

That doesn’t work for everyone, some stay alive because of others. The people who tell you “don’t live for others” are full of shit. You do whatever you need to live. If helping other trans girls, staying alive for them, because they need you and care for you and you care for them, if that keeps you off the edge, then that is a beautiful and necessary thing and thank god you have it. Hell, trans girls taking care of each other and loving each other as family is always beautiful.

And some are just stubborn. Some just dig their claws (or femme talons) in as far as they can and hold on tight until the storm winds calm down enough to breathe. Sometimes sheer hardheaded stubbornness (fuck you, life, you don’t end me) is all that keeps me alive.

Of course, there are lots of people for whom these only work for a time and then they need to switch. When you’re hurt by someone you can’t hate, when you lose the people you love or who depend on you, when the stubbornness battery has no juice left

You take what you can. I won’t lie to you. For many it is grim. It has beyond rough. There are trans girls out there facing shit I can’t even imagine and I’ve been homeless in winter and I’ve fucked for shelter and I’ve considered suicide through hypothermia (a worse idea even among bad ideas that make up suicide) and I count myself among the fortunate.

So you do what you have to. You take whatever thing you can to live.

You fight for one more day, one more week, one more month. And hopefully enough of us will stop being shitty people and this community will close in together and we’ll protect all of us and love all of us and save all of us. And maybe we’ll burn down this terrible world and make something better in its place while we’re at it.

Everyone. The crippled, the crazy, the lost. Everyone. Every trans girl of color. Every trans girl sex worker. Every angry trans girl. Every sad trans girl. Trans girls who’ve done bad things. Trans girls who’ve done good things.

No one left behind.