me 3 years ago: I’m a pacifist. I just don’t think you should wield to your oppressor’s anger and violence, you have to rise up above it

me now: If you break a Nazi’s arm he has one fewer arm to do Nazi shit with. Crawl through hell and fight the devil with your bare hands because peace is a result and not a strategy.

100 coping skills

My therapist gave me a list of 99 coping skills. I added one. I thought this may be helpful if you don’t have money for a therapist or need a way to cope with things going on.

1: excercise (run, walk, etc.)

2: put on fake tattoos.

3: write (poetry, journal entry, story, etc.)

4: scribble/doodle on paper.

5: be with other people

6: watch a favourite tv show.

7: post on web boards. Answer others posts.

8: go see a movie.

9: do a wordsearch or crossword.

10: do schoolwork.

11: play an instrument.

12: paint your nails, do your makeup or hair

13: sing.

14: study the sky.

15: punch a punching bag/pillow.

16: cover yourself with bandaids where you want to self harm.

17: let yourself cry.

18: take a nap.

19: take a hot/cold shower or relaxing bath.

20: play with a pet.

21: go shopping.

22: clean something.

23: knit or sew.

24: read a good book.

25: listen to music.

26: try some aromatherapy (candle, lotion, room spray, etc.)

27: meditate.

28: go somewhere very public.

29: bake cookies or other treats.

30: alphabetize your CDs/DVDs/VHSs/books/records.

31: paint or draw.

32: rip paper into itty bitty pieces.

33: shoot hoops, kick a ball.

34: write a letter or send an email.

35: plan your dream room (colours/furniture).

36: hug a pillow or stuffed animal.

37: hyperfocus on something like a rock or your hand.

38: dance.

39: make a hot chocolate, milkshake or smoothie.

40: play with modeling clay or play dough.

41: build a pillow fort.

42: go for a nice, long car ride.

43: complete something you’ve been putting off.

44: draw on yourself with marker.

45: take up a new hobbie.

46: look up recipes and cook a meal.

47: look at pretty things, like flowers or art. Examine them.

48: create or build something.

49: pray.

50: make a list of blessings in your life.

51: read the bible.

52: go to a friend’s house.

53: jump on a trampoline.

54: watch an old, happy movie.

55: contact a hotline/therapist.

56: talk to someone close to you.

57: ride a bicycle.

58: feed ducks, birds or squirrels.

59: colour with crayons.

60: memorize a poem, song or play.

61: stretch.

62: search for ridiculous things on the internet. (Example: *your name* the hedgehog)

63: “shop” online (without buying anything)

64: colour coordinate your clothes.

65: watch fish.

66: make a CD/playlist of your favourite songs.

67: play the “15 minute game” (avoid something for 15 minutes, when time is up start again)

68: plan your wedding/prom/other event.

69: plant some seeds;) (had to lol. But actually plant seeds. It helps.)

70: hunt for your perfect home or car online.

71: try to make as many words as possible with your first/middle/last name.

72: sort through your photos.

73: play with a ballon.

74: give yourself a facial.

75: find some toys and play with them.

76: start collecting something.

77: play video/computer/phone games.

78: clean up trash from your local park.

79: perform a random act of kindness for someone.

80: text or call a friend.

81: write yourself a ‘I love you because…’ letter.

82: look up new words and use them.

83: rearrange furniture.

84: write a letter to someone you may never send.

85: smile at at least 5 people.

86: play with little kids (cousins, siblings, etc.)

87: go for a walk (with or without friends. Find a cool place to hangout.)

88: put a puzzle together.

89: clean your room.

90: try to do handstands, cartwheels, etc.

91: yoga.

92: teach your pet a new trick.

93: learn a new language.

94: move EVERYTHING in your room to a new spot.

95: get together with friends and play sports. 96: hug a friend/family member. 97: search online for new songs/artists. 98: make a list of goals for the week/month/year/next 5 years. 99: face paint. 100: watch animal live streams on YouTube.

7 Anger Management Tips

1. Don’t say anything until you’re feeling calm. We often regret what we say when we are mad.

2. Think before you speak as you can’t take back your words.

3. Be simple and clear when you express what bothered you. Don’t be disrespectful, rude or hyper-critical.

4. Choose to leave the room or to distract yourself when you feel your emotions are really being stirred.

5. Try, if you can, to get some exercise as that reduces stress, and changes physiology.

6. Think about the people you enjoy being with, as that will remind you that not everyone is bad.

7. Try to plan ahead so you have some strategies when you feel the anger rising, and you need to take control.