androgenic alopecia

anonymous asked:

Yo, so you're talking about balding and stuff? I'm a 20 year old trans gal, but I started losing my hair at 15. Wigs are great and all but expensive as heck. Y'all got any tips or resources or anything for this? Much love xo

Ren says:

Wig sites that I’ve seen vouched for and are fairly cheap: 

There’s also some medical treatments for androgenic alopecia! (I like that term more than saying “male-pattern baldness”, because the latter implies that your hair is male, while the former just says “this is testosterone’s fault, dangit”.)

Finasteride (Propecia) is a medication that is sort of an anti-androgen, it’s not quite as effective as, say, spiro, in terms of everything else, but is definitely effective for hair. (Spiro is also pretty effective for this, actually.) And then of course there is minoxidil (Rogaine), but that’s usually a last resort, since it doesn’t always work.

There are also some surgeries - hair replacement (using your own hair) and scalp reduction (for back / side baldness). Apparently they aren’t as bad as they sound?? Also, check out the American Hair Loss Association for information on alternative hairpieces, which I do not really understand and thus could not tell you much about. Hopefully that helps!

Fun fact: I have androgenic alopecia.  It is not the kind of alopecia that my friend Kris has, where stress made all the hair on his entire body fall out, but it might grow back someday.  Nope.  Androgenic alopecia is hair loss caused by a combination of genetics and hormones.  Basically, male pattern baldness, but I am not a male.  So I can’t just polish my head and get on with life, or I get mistaken for a dude.  And there is absolutely 0 chance that it will ever grow back.  And I still have all of the unwanted body hair.

So I wear headscarves, wigs or hats whenever I go out, but when I hang out at home, I can’t be bothered.

I cut all my hair off a few months ago out of boredom and frustration.  It started out a cute-ish pixie cut kind of thing.  Then I decided I liked it a little longer, so that I could use what hair I have to anchor wigs a bit better (with hidden bobby pins).  So I’m letting it grow back.

My hair is naturally curly.  Right now my hair looks like a cross between Moss from “The IT Crowd” and Krusty the Clown.

I wore a wig to work yesterday because my coworkers had asked me to. 

When I got to work this morning, one of them says “girl, you should stick with the wigs!" 

While I know she was trying to be funny, my hair is the thing I am most self-conscious about. I have to keep it super short because I’m losing all the hair on the crown of my head. Hair is a huge part of feeling feminine, and while I do own a couple wigs, they’re problematic at best, and a constant reminder of what I can’t have biologically. I can’t just grow hair, it doesn’t work that way.  

I know my coworker was trying to be funny, trying to mess with me, but 10 minutes into my work day I was already crying in the bathroom. I trusted them with one of my biggest insecurities and got teased for it. 

If someone ever trusts you with something like that, it is a huge risk for them. How you respond has the potential to do damage. Please don’t be an ass.