and-gender

I know what you’re thinking – “didn’t you make the last one of these like 6 months ago??? it’s taken you this long to do the next one?” Yes. You are correct. I’ve had it sitting in my notebook to post and here we are, finally, posting the next one. My previous one (you can find it here) was a theme of “I appear more masculine” and this one will be the contrary and be based around “I appear more feminine”. (I would also like to thank the group of lovely people I consulted with, ages ago.)

In addition, many of these things are equally helpful for people trying to appear more masculine or dealing with dysphoria.

 So let’s get started! 

“I appear more feminine”

SPELL JAR – by myself 

sea salt - protection
basil - protection, dispels fear, confusion and weakness
black pepper - courage
geranium - overcoming negative thoughts & attitudes, lifting spirits, protection & happiness
jasmine - femininity & softness
rose - femininity & softness
catnip - beauty & happiness  

Focus your intent for each and every layer, say your intent out loud (even over and over) if it helps! Meditate and focus your whole purpose for the jar, cork and seal it (I have a simple tutorial how to do so here). Don’t forget to stick it in the moonlight to charge it if you feel like it needs a kick!


SIGILS

I am confident in my gender
+ This is a trans safe space
+ I am not misgendered

Confidence in your gender expression
Protection for trans and intersex people
“Shapeshift” sigil for trans glamours
I Control My Dysphoria
Dysphoria be gone
Protection from dysphoria and transphobia
My pronouns are respected and used consistently 
Increased Femininity 
I am full of femininity 


GLAMOURS & SPELLS

Confidence Mirror Spell
Protection Spell for Coming Out As Trans
Magic Clothing
Glamour to Prevent Misgendering
Voice Dysphoria Glamour
Dysphoria Bottle
Gender Clarity Spell


ADDITIONAL

A Word of Advice for Transwomen – a helpful post!


I hope this was helpful. Please let me know what else you’d like to see LGBTQ wise for this series. 

You can find my other original posts here if you’re interested. 

I love y’all and I hope you are having a great day! 

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Lin-Manuel Miranda BroadwayCon 2017
Surprise Playbill Periscope

  • Generous quantities of Lin’s face 
  • Advice for theater majors
  • “think of the first Mary Poppins–I’m doing that much dancing”
  • His favorite recent ripples from Hamilton, including “Immigrants (We Get the Job Done)” and cast album lyrics at recent protests
  • On women performing men’s roles in Hamilton
  • Okieriete Onaodowan in person (including a beautiful answer about young people, theater and inclusion at 15:25)

They fix the volume problem and start questions at 6:45

1/28/17 (x, x)

medium.com
4chan: The Skeleton Key to the Rise of Trump
Trump’s younger supporters know he’s an incompetent joke; in fact, that’s why they support him.
By Dale Beran

This article is the absolute gold standard of tracking the evolution of a certain segment of online geek culture as it went from lonely snickering failures to unabashed self-aware Trump supporters.

I cannot praise this work highly enough, or excerpt it shortly enough to accurately encompass its scope and clarity and illumination into what I thought I already knew. I have never seen any examination of the borne-out consequences of 4chan “culture” that was as thoroughly wrought as this. It is brilliant.

It must be read in full to be understood, and it is a long read.

Still, to give you an idea, here are some choice paragraphs to provide an incomplete skeleton of the fully-fleshed work:

And thus the campaign proceeded like the video game it wasn’t. Menus of “target lists” were drawn up, their enemies (mostly women they wanted to harrass) labelled “warriors”. 4chan users pretended a furious amount of mouse clicking and virtual action would somehow translate into a concrete reward appearing in their computer screens, like it does, say, in World of Warcraft.

All that work cracking Skype accounts with wordlists did not yield the tangible reward of evidence of a cabal. The real world behaves differently than a video game. There were shades of grey. It disappointed. What you did and what you got for your efforts were muddled. It was more challenging than the safe spaces of a video game, carefully crafted to accommodate gamers and make them feel — well, the exact opposite of how they felt interacting in the real world — effective. In the fantasy world of the game, actions achieved ends.

It was almost as if all these disaffected young men were waiting for a figure to come along who, having achieved nothing in his life, pretended as though he had achieved everything, who by using the tools of fantasy, could transmute their loserdom (in 4chan parlance, their “fail”), into “win”.

[…]

To younger generations who never had such jobs, who had only the mythology of such jobs (rather a whimsical snapshot of the 1950s frozen in time by America’s ideology) this part of the narrative is clear. America, and perhaps existence itself is a cascade of empty promises and advertisements — that is to say, fantasy worlds, expectations that will never be realized “IRL”, but perhaps consumed briefly in small snatches of commodified pleasure.

Thus these Trump supporters hold a different sort of ideology, not one of “when will my horse come in”, but a trolling self-effacing, “I know my horse will never come in”. That is to say, younger Trump supporters know they are handing their money to someone who will never place their bets — only his own — because, after all, it’s plain as day there was never any other option.

[…]

Trump’s ventures of course, represent this fantasy: this hope that the working man, against the odds dictated by his knowledge, experience, or hard work will one day strike it rich — Trump University, late night real estate schemes, the casinos. Trump himself, who inherited his wealth, represents the classic lucky sap.

But Trump also equally represents the knowledge that all of that is a lie, a scam that’s much older than you are, a fantasy that we can dwell in though it will never become true, like a video game.

Trump, in other words, is a way of owning and celebrating being taken advantage of.

Trump embodies buying the losing bet that will never be placed.

He is both despair and cruel arrogant dismissal, the fantasy of winning and the pain of losing mingled into one potion.

For this reason, the left should stop expecting Trump’s supporters to be upset when he doesn’t fulfill his promises.

Support for Trump is an acknowledgement that the promise is empty.

He is both the “promise” (the labyrinth”, the “alpha”) and the empty center (“the promise betrayed”, the “beta”), in a sublime, hilarious combination that perfectly reflects the worldview of his supporters.

In other words, we can append a third category to the two classically understood division of Trump supporters:

1) Generally older people who naively believe Trump will “make America great again”, that is to say, return it to its 1950s ideal evoked by both Trump and Clinton.

2) The 1 percent, who know this promise is empty, but also know it will be beneficial to short term business interests.

3) Younger members of the 99 percent, like Anon, who also know this promise is empty, but who support Trump as a defiant expression of despair.

And after that, the tone turns there-but-for-the-grace-of-god personal before providing further examination of how the left and its stance on gender fails to help that third pillar.

Excerpting more would only lengthen this post. Suffice to say, the last fifth of the article takes what is already priceless and shines it to a mirror finish. I want to keep it under glass on a velvet cushion.

Oh, and it turns out the author has a Tumblr, too. @daleberan. Go read his work. Read it and learn more about your world.

To all my people struggling with their gender identity

I’m right there with you. It’s okay.

Take your time. Try different labels, different pronouns, different names until you find what makes you comfortable.

Your gender can be fluid. Just because yesterday you felt one way doesn’t mean you’re stuck with that forever. Even if it’s the label you have used for years. People grow and change and so can your gender.

Remember there’s no time limit to finding yourself. You have your whole life. And I know it might be uncomfortable now but just take a deep breath and know I’m proud of you and I’m rooting for you.

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself; cut yourself and your body a little slack even if it doesn’t match your ideal. You’ll get there, little bits at a time. Just try to be kind to yourself as you figure out who you are. It might not always be easy, it might not even always be possible, but try okay?

honestly,,,, i don’t like how i wrote this but it’s more of a preview anyways
mari and hannah, if this makes either of you uncomfy in any way, i’ll delete it in a heartbeat.
please tell me if i’m characterizing you guys horribly, if i’m gonna write this stuff i’m gonna try and write it correctly

so anyways, without further ado, this is my (miniature) rendition of say no to this.
featuring mari @exadorlion and hannah @gunsandboatsandgunboats (also i sincerely apologize to hannah cause i h i g h l y doubt i portrayed her well)

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huffingtonpost.com
Here's A Fact-Check On Milo Yiannopoulos' Incendiary Claims About Trans People
In short: He's wrong, wrong, wrong. Absolutely wrong.

This piece of shit is a waste of oxygen!

Certainly, we can and do try and discern various strategies that might contest dominant gender norms, and those strategies are essential to any radical gender and sexual politics. But we should doubtless make a mistake if we thought that we might remake our gender or construct our sexuality on the basis of a deliberate decision. And even when we decide to change gender, or produce gender, it is on the basis of some very powerful desires that we make such a choice. We do not precisely choose those desires.
—  Judith Butler, “Performativity, Precarity and Sexual Politics” (xii)
Not a stim and I’ll delete this later

But I’m having my hair cut tomorrow and I’m so excited. I don’t generally like having my hair cut as it’s sensory nightmare (I haven’t had my hair cut in about 9 years) but this time I can’t wait because it’s going to finally a. help with my gender dysphoria a lot and b. my long hair is a sensory nightmare and takes 30 minutes to detangle.

Sorry I know this is random and unrelated but I’m squeaking and flapping and rocking really excitedly right now.

anonymous asked:

What's lunarian, stellarian, and solarian?

Lunarian is the replacement for “fem-aligned”. It means having a complicated but nonetheless existing relationship with fem genders and/or alignment.

Solarian is the replacement for “masc-aligned”. It means having a complicated but nonetheless existing relationship with masc genders and/or alignment.

Stellarian is a new term used to describe rejection of the gender binary and any and being categorized as either binary gender. Someone who is stellarian can also be lunarian or solarian (stellunarian/nebularian, stelsolarian/novarian) but is defining their relationship with fem/masc-gender and/or alignment by how much they reject the ties they bear to said genders/alignments. 

It’s a bit confusing, seeing as the whole point of ‘stellarian’ is to align yourself with rejecting alignment, but they’re two different kinds of alignment I believe. 

You can be sollunarian (eclipsian), or even solstellunarian (galaxian). It’s all very complicated, and I recognize that it’s quite vague terminology, but at least it’s a replacement for the exorsexist terminology cis and binary trans people have been using for us. 

I call it the galactian system. It isn’t perfect, because it relies on a trinary range of identities that can be categorized into 3 different sections, but it’s a far cry from the gender binary. Also, I’m bitter because someone who is violently nbphobic took several of the urls of these terms, so that people who need them couldn’t use them.  

If you search them on my blog, you’ll be able to see more! I know that @temp-nb-blog and @goodpositivitylgbt are also familiar with the galactian alignments. 

The advent of capitalism created “the economy” as a seperate sphere, disconnected from other aspects of life. In a massive wave of expropriation, millions of peasants were forced off their lands and made to work in factories that were located somewhere other than where they lives, thereby creating the now common distinction between the workplace and the home. The new system created a new form of gender relationships - while it was the men who went to earn the wage, women were supposed to stay in the home, look after the kids and provide the necessary regeneration for the working male so he could turn up for work the next day. 

Of course this gendered allocation was always a more ideological than actually existing one - just as today women still have to flock into the factories by the thousands. As an ideology, however, it was powerful enough to create the binary, heterosexual gender system as we know it today: the world of wage labor required individuals who were rational, calculating, aggressive and competitive. The world of the home needed to be populated by people who would be gentle, managable, emotionally supportive and nurturing.

Nurturing that is necessary to continually reproduce labor power, can not be organized in market relations. Consequently all that can not be expressed in terms of ‘value’ becomes literally 'devalued’ and feminized. 


Some feminists saw the exclusion of women from the “male” sphere of wage labor and commodity exchange as the core problem. Others condemned capitalism as an inherently male project and called for a a revaluing of female emotional labor. Both traditions, while offering important insights into the gendered nature of economic practice, do not challenge the very distinction between 'male’ commodity exchange and 'female’ economies of giving and the persistent hierarchy between the two.


The heterosexual binary is built into the capitalist ecomony to such a degree that it is impossible to overcome without overcoming capitalism itself. The gendered division of labor is not so much an extension of patriarchy into capitalism but rather a genuine product of it. Capitalism creates the modern notion of 'masculine’ and ’ feminine’.

—  Stephanie Grohmann - Queering the Economy. In: Queering Anarchism (2012) 140-145.

Here’s one from earlier in the week! It’s so casual but I’m so in love with this outfit; it feels like the kind of thing that I’d just wear for a day out or a casual date.

So glad to have my own place now. There’s so much less stress on when I can dress up and I cam’t wait to do it more!

Also, I’ll be all dressed ip in London on Friday to go see Kinky Boots! Can’t wait!

- Jessica Blaise x x

Nonbinary people who use typically gendered nicknames, such as “mum”, “sis”, “bro”, “dude”, etc. are exquisite beings and still completely valid. Liking or using these nicknames does not change your gender, no matter what anyone says!