I wish some of y'all would just say y'all don’t like trans people instead of talking around it like a bunch of politicians. Like we get it, you think our bodies are freaky and invalid, but you know what? We don’t wanna fuck with you just as much as you don’t wanna fuck with us. Probably even more so.
So stop acting as if trans people asking to be recognized for who we are is us getting mad bc y'all don’t wanna fuck us. That’s not what this is about.
TRANSGENDER BODIES AND TRANSGENDER LIVES ARE VALID AND WE DO NOT NEED AFFIRMATIONS OF OUR VALIDITY AND OUR VALUE FROM ANYONE BUT OURSELVES.
“Black women were paid 64 percent of what non-Hispanic white men were paid in 2013. That means it takes the typical black woman nearly seven extra months to be paid what the average white man took home back on December 31. That’s even worse than the national pay gap for all women, 78 percent, as reported in AAUW’s The Simple Truth about the Gender Pay Gap. Think about how that adds up in the course of a career, and we’re talking about losing a daunting chunk of change over a lifetime.
Gavin Grimm, the brave teenager who filed a lawsuit to defend his right to use the men’s bathroom at school as a trans guy, appeared in U.S. District Court yesterday to argue his case. The results were not great.
A federal judge on Monday dismissed one of the key legal arguments brought by lawyers for a transgender student suing to use the boys restroom at his Virginia high school. Stating that being transgender is a “mental disorder” and that he worries for student privacy in restrooms, U.S. District Court Judge Robert Doumar warned Gavin Grimm’s attorneys they they now face “an uphill battle.”
Grimm, who attends Gloucester High School, argued he must be allowed to to use school bathrooms that correspond with his gender identify under Title IX of the Education Act of 1972, which bans discrimination based on sex. Grimm’s argument is hardly an exception: The federal government has weighed in repeatedly in recently years — in letters, in court briefs, and to settle complaints — to say Title IX bans transgender discrimination as a form of sex discrimination.
But Doumar announced midway through Monday’s hearing that he was throwing out that argument. “Your case in Title IX is gone, by the way,” he told ACLU staff attorney Joshua Block, who argued on Grimm’s behalf. “I have chosen to dismiss Title IX. I decided that before we started.”
Oh, and some notes on Doumar? He’s not exactly a great person, or a great judge. Especially in a case like this.
While the case is certainly about Grimm, the hearing itself was almost as much about Doumar, 84, a Reagan appointee who is known for his courtroom style. Doumar once said that people with HIV who have unprotected sex “should be shot.”
On Monday, Doumar repeatedly interrupted lawyers and waxed on tangents about his frustrations with how the United States is changing. “Where the U.S is going scares me,” he said. “It really scares me.”
UGH. How in the hell do you not lose your credentials after making a statement like that? Keep up your fight, Gavin. We’re with you.
When we decided on a kitchen and cafe for Lucas’ first birthday, the biggest question asked was “isn’t that girly?” The answer is no, why is it girly? Do men not cook? Do men not own cafes? Can a man not work in a kitchen? It’s one of those questions that makes me annoyed, honestly.
Lucas spends 70% of his time playing in his corner, well one of many corners. He spends 10% watching TV, especially Disney Junior, and guess what his favourite programmes are? Mickey Mouse clubhouse, Doc Mcstuffins and Sofia the first! Once again I get comments like, “isn’t that girly?” “Why do you MAKE him watch this?” I don’t MAKE him watch it, he choses to, I am not going to turn over the TV everytime, the “girly” princess programmes come on.
When Lucas was learning to crawl we purchased “girls” leggings as he couldn’t crawl in jeans; Comments were made for example “why is he dressed in girls leggings?” and when we bought jelly shoes for him, as they were the only shoes that would stay on his feet and comments were made again about the fact “he had girly shoes on”
I wouldn’t go out and buy Lucas a dress or bow for his hair but if he choses this then thats fine with me. I cannot stand gender stereotypes. Why are things girly? or even boyish?
Children have no idea, nor do they care what colour toys they’re playing with, whether they’re reading about fairies or dinosaurs or whether they’re pushing a pram, playing in a kitchen or kicking a football around. Just remember that.
Apparently University of California’s applications now have 6 different genders (male, female, trans male, trans female, non-binary, and other) which my dad brought to my attention. He said that it’s stupid and unnecessary and the world is getting too politically correct.
My response: “Does this hurt you or your life at all?”
Him: “Yes because it’s stupid and annoying.”
Me: “No, I mean does this impede on your personal life, your rights, anything like that whatsoever?”
Him: “Well, no-”
Me: “Because if doesn’t hurt your life, and it helps others, leave it alone. This has nothing to do with you, and I have trans/non-binary friends in other states who would be elated if they had this option, so I really don’t see why this is such an issue to you.”
If it doesn’t have anything to do with your life, if it doesn’t endanger your rights or impede on your life, WHY DO YOU CARE.
This weekend, July 31st - August 2nd, will be our first Gender Euphoria Weekend here at Ways to Raise - and we are open for follower submissions!
Gender Euphoria is when trans and nonbinary individuals feel validated or resplendent in ourselves and our gender. Whether it stems from someone using our proper pronouns, a positive feeling towards our bodies, the way we express, or are interacted with, or new ways of thinking about ourselves - each of us feels and experiences Gender Euphoria differently and we want to hear your stories!
Labeling yourself proudly and unapologetically as gender nonconforming is far more radical and effective at dismantling the patriarchy than appropriating the struggles of a marginalized group, invading their safe spaces, and fucking up their access to resources.
I keep seeing posts saying things like ‘omg my 8 year old sister said this - she is a feminist I am so proud’, and similar. So this is a PSA -
If you hear a child say ‘girls don’t have to like pink’ or ‘boys are allowed to like pink’ that does not make them a feminist.
If you hear a child say ‘it’s OK for boys to cry’ or ‘girls can be strong’ that does not make them a feminist.
Firstly - you do not have to be a feminist to think those things. Those ideas do not belong to feminism and it is possible to want to break down gender norms without being part of the feminist movement.
And more importantly you are attaching a political label to someone who is probably too young to understand the full implications of it and without letting them choose for themselves. Don’t do that. Please and thank you.
Please help a dfab transmasculine artist out! I would draw you two digital commissions. The price would be a 40$ giftcard to Underworks made out to my email.
Both drawings can have any combination of the options given above. If you want one, or both, drawing(s) to have a complex background and/or two people, the price will go up to a 50$ giftcard. Simple backgrounds that are just a solid color don’t change the price.
If you are interested, please send me an ask. I’ll give you my email so we can talk through there. You would have to pay me first to avoid any scamming or theft.
3.OPEN(This commission would go towards a giveaway)