and you don't even understand what they say!

anonymous asked:

Hi Alice, odd question but: Do you believe asexuals belong in the LGBT community? I have a friend who identifies this way, but as a trans girl, I'm struggling to understand how she has to go through the same things as an LGBT person by being asexual. And struggle aside, I don't even see how asexuality is THAT different from heterosexuality, just with more... hesitation!? Maybe this sounds rude, but I know you've written about asexual people etc, and I wondered what you thought. No shade intended

Hi there. I’m glad you reached out to me about this because you must have really upset your friend by saying stuff like this to them.

It’s easy to see why not only cishet people, but also LGBT+ people, think that asexuality is fake. The world is awash with sex and sexual attraction. It’s everywhere. And everyone is supposed to want it and feel it. It’s so extremely normalised that the idea that someone could be literally UNABLE to feel sexual attraction is, to many people, absolutely bizarre and a joke.

Even if you acknowledge that asexuality is real, it’s also easy to see why you would be so quick to reject and get angry at asexual people who call themselves LGBT+. Because asexual people are not like you, are they. Unless they are trans, asexuals don’t have gender troubles, and unless they experience same-gender romantic attraction, asexuals don’t experience same-gender attraction! Lesbian, bi, gay etc people can all be joined together in their experience of same gender attraction, and all trans folks, binary and non binary, can be joined together in their experience of feeing a disconnect from their assigned birth gender.

The result? No one wants asexuals near them. People can’t relate. No one else feels the way asexuals do and people don’t think they should be part of the group. They’re not the same as you.

But oh god, they are not allowed in the cishet club either.

The first thing you need to try and unlearn is that asexuality is in any way similar to heterosexuality. It’s not. It’s so, so fucking not. It’s painful how different it feels to be asexual compared to being heterosexual. Telling an ace person that asexuality isn’t ‘THAT different from heterosexuality’ is about as accurate as saying being gay isn’t ‘THAT different from heterosexuality’. Being asexual means you do not experience sexual attraction, ever. EVER. And while that might seem easy to you, it’s an extremely painful and terrifying thing to learn about yourself, in a world where everyone is expected to have an array of sexual experiences, fall in love, get married, and anyone who doesn’t do that is strange and a freak.

Learning you are asexual can be terrifying. When you realise you’ve never had a crush, when all your friends have had ten each, you are terrified. When you pass the age where people have started dating and having sex and you still feel nothing - NOTHING - you are terrified. When you think about ever falling in love and the idea disgusts you, or you think about falling in love and you crave it, god you CRAVE it, but you know you can’t ever feel that, you are terrified. When you realise you will never be able to enjoy a normal romantic/sexual relationship, the ones full of passion like you see in the movies, and people will reject you because you can’t fancy them in that way, and there’s a higher chance for you than anyone else that you will simply die alone, without love, without children - you are terrified.

You think being ace is the same as heterosexuality? You think it’s an easy thing to learn about yourself? Explain the terror, then. I’m all ears.

The fact you see asexuality as 'hesitation’ is really horrifying to me. Asexuals aren’t attracted to the opposite gender but 'hesitant’ to act on it. Asexuals DO NOT feel attraction. To anyone. It’s not a choice. It’s not a way of life. It’s not the same as celibacy out of choice, or being a 'prude’, or waiting till marriage. It is ingrained in you, just like being gay is, just like being trans is. It is a part of you that no matter how hard you try to will it away, no matter how hard you try to persuade yourself otherwise, you cannot help it. You DO NOT feel attracted to ANYONE.

And in saying all this, I fully acknowledge that asexuals do not experience the extent of oppression that other LGBT+ folks do. There are no laws regarding asexuality. Lesbian, gay, bi, trans, and other LGBT+ folks no doubt experience a higher level and intensity of systematic oppression to asexuals, more frequently go through hard experiences due to their orientation or gender. But since when did being LGBT+ become a competition for 'who’s the most oppressed’? Is that what LGBT+ is? You’re only allowed in the club if you’re 'oppressed enough’? If you’re 'gay enough’? If you’re 'trans enough’?

If you need persuading that asexuals do experience their own form of oppression, though, consider the number of asexuals who are coerced into sex in order to 'fix’ them. Consider the emotional pain that I have already discussed, of feeling that there is something fundamentally wrong and gross about you because you feel attracted to no one. Consider the number of asexuals who are hounded or emotionally abused by their families for failing to find partners. Consider the number of asexuals who force themselves to have sexual experiences, because it is the norm, because they don’t even know what asexuality is, because THEY think that they are just 'hesitant’, despite finding sex disgusting and feeling no desire to do it. Do you really think asexuals are just running around, free and happy and content in who they are? They aren’t. I’m not.

So go ahead. Cast aside asexuals if you want. Call them attention-seeking, call them special snowflakes. Ignore the pain they feel. Make them go through it alone, in pain, terrified of what they are. Why on earth would the LGBT+ community be a place to support people like that!?

Messages like the one you have just sent me gives me further reason to never talk about that part of myself. To just sit and cry about it at home day after day because I do not like myself. Because I feel that nobody will accept me or understand who I am. I could list the number of things people have said to me to discredit and laugh at this part of myself, but it’s people like you who make me embarrassed to talk about it, too scared to own a label and talk about it freely and openly.

I thought, going into this, that the LGBT+ community was one of total respect, understanding, and empathy. I learnt pretty quickly that it is not.

I send love to your asexual friend. I really, really do.

Disclaimer: I am very aware of the nuances of asexuality, of the differences between romantic/aesthetic/sexual attraction, but sadly it seems that many people can’t even grasp the basic concept of asexuality, so I don’t quite think they’re ready for that yet.

anonymous asked:

I'm really sorry, but I legit don't get the "finding out a cute girl is gay/straight" post. Can you explain it to me? I'm not trying to be rude, i just don't understand what the post is about. I'm sorry if I'm coming across as kind of an idiot here.

If you’re trans/nonbinary, you have a relatively small dating pool. Most people are cis, and most people of any sexuality prefer other cis people. Straight or gay, those who say they would date a trans person are a distinct minority - and those that mean it are even fewer. If you meet someone who’s straight and think, “I like them, they’re cute,” it’s unlikely that they would consider you as a potential partner. If you meet someone who’s gay, they might consider you a potential partner, but for the wrong reasons. Every time you meet someone you might like, it’s a crapshoot - nothing is more disheartening than being turned down because you’re trans. You might not even bother considering the possibility unless they’re bi or pan or openly make some statement declaring that they’d date a trans person.

So… finding out someone you like is straight: :/
Finding out someone you like is gay: :/ 

The joke is that neither option is hopeful news for your love life.

Things Keith Probably Says to Sick Lance

- “God, Lance. Don’t be so dramatic.”

- “You probably aren’t even that sick.” 

- “Did you steal my blanket, Lance??”

- “What? No! I will not cuddle you! Oh my god, Lance!”

- “LANCE, WHAT THE FUCK?? YOU’RE BURNING UP!!”

- “NO, JESUS, GET INTO BED. WHAT THE FUCK??” 

- “I DON’T UNDERSTAND?? YOU WERE FINE LIKE FIVE SECONDS AGO??”

- “WHY DIDN’T YOU SAY YOU WERE THIS SICK SOONER?” 

- “HOW THE FUCK DID YOU TAKE THAT GALRA OUT WHILE THIS SICK?”

- “Fuck, okay, it’s going to be fine. I can handle this. NO YOU HUSH AND REST, LANCE! I SAID I CAN HANDLE THIS!” 

Things You Can do to Help Disabled People That Don't Cost A Cent
  • Do not talk about an obviously disabled person in front of them as if they can’t hear or understand you.
  • Do not talk to a disabled person’s companion instead of them.  
  • Ask permission before touching people, or their wheelchairs/other equipment. Even if you want to help.
  • Ask disabled people about their lives and really listen to their answers.  (Within reason. Asking people personal questions about their sex lives, for example, is rude unless you are very close to them and they’ve communicated they’re OK with that).
  • Listen to what they say whether they are speaking, writing, typing, using text to speech, using a letterboard, using PECS, gesturing, using sign language, or using any other form of communication.  People who cannot speak can still communicate.
  • Stand up for people you see getting bullied.
  • Understand that disabled people don’t just need friends, they can be friends, too.
  • Every public place does not need to have loud, blaring music and TVs with flashing screens.  
  • If you blog, put bright, flashing images that can trigger seizures under a cut so that people with seizures can avoid looking at them.
  • If a job can possibly be done without a person driving, don’t require candidates to drive/have a driver’s license, and don’t interview candidates and then reject them because they don’t drive.
  • When talking to someone who has trouble speaking or stutters, and takes a long time to speak, wait for them to answer. Don’t keep repeating the question or pressuring them. Yes, if you’re like me and your mind is going really fast and you forget what people are saying if they take too long, it can be hard to be patient.  Do it anyway.
  • If you are talking to a deaf person, make it easier for them to lip-read by facing towards them while looking at them, and not covering your mouth with your hands.
  • If you are talking to someone with hearing impairment or auditory processing disorder, it is more helpful to slow down or rephrase what you’re saying than to just speak more loudly.  
  • Some disabled people have difficulty understanding nonliteral language such as metaphors and idioms (e.g., “a stitch in time saves nine”). If you’re talking to someone like this, try explaining what you mean by these figures of speech, or just not using them.
  • Recognize that failure to make eye contact does not mean someone is lying to you. It may be uncomfortable for them.
  • Recognize that unwillingness to go out to loud, crowded bars does not mean someone isn’t interested in socializing with you.
  • If people have difficulty spelling, or using the appropriate jargon/terminology for your social group, do not assume they’re stupid.  You may need to paraphrase some “jargon” for them.
  • Recognize that a person can need time alone and it doesn’t mean they don’t like you or want to be with you. It’s just something they need so they can function at their best.
  • If a person does not recognize you, do not assume they don’t care about you.  They may be face-blind.
  • If a person does not remember your birthday (or other major names, numbers, or dates) do not assume they don’t care about you. They may simply have a bad memory.
  • Understand that a disabled person’s talents, however esoteric, are real, not unimportant “splinter skills.”
  • Colorblindness affects more than just knowing what color something is.  To a colorblind person, colors that they can’t see will look the same if they have the same degree of lightness/darkness.  That means that to a red-green colorblind person, a red rose on a green background will blend in instead of contrast starkly, and the Chicago CTA El map will be difficult to understand.  Understand that something that stands out to you and seems obvious may literally not be visible to a colorblind person.
  • Accept stimming.
  • Don’t tell them “but you look so normal.” But, if they accomplish something you know they were working really hard to do, it’s great to compliment them on it.
  • Understand that a person can be working incredibly hard to do something and may still not perform as well as you’d like them to, as well as the average person would, or as well as the situation demands.
  • If someone has a major medical problem, disability, or chronic illness, then just eating some special healthy diet or exercising more isn’t going to cure it. It might help, it might hurt, it might do nothing, but they’ve probably heard it before, and it’s none of your business in any case.
  • A person with OCD knows that checking or counting or whatever compulsion they perform won't really prevent disaster from happening, it’s just a compulsion. That doesn’t stop them from feeling the need to do it anyway.  A person with anxiety may know at least some of their fears are irrational or unlikely to occur. That doesn’t stop them from feeling anxious.  A person with trichotillomania may know it hurts them to pull out their hair or pick at their skin, but they have trouble stopping themselves anyway.  A depressed person may know they would feel better if they got out of their house and talked to people, but that doesn’t make them feel any more up to doing those things. A person who hallucinates may know the hallucinations aren’t real, but that doesn’t make them go away or feel less upsetting.  You see the pattern?  You can’t cure people with mental illnesses by telling them they’re being irrational or hurting themselves.  If it were that easy, they’d have cured themselves already.
  • Do not tell a person with ADHD or mental illness that they should not be taking medication.  This is a personal decision. Furthermore, since medications have wide-ranging effects on people’s bodies and minds and often unpleasant side effects, most people taking medications have thought through the issue, done a cost-benefit analysis, and decided that the ability to function better is worth it.  Their decision should be respected.
  • A disabled person with intellectual disability who has the academic or IQ abilities of, say, a seven year old does not actually have the mind of a seven year old. They have different life experiences, needs, stages of life, bodies, and so on.
  • If a disabled person is having a meltdown, they are not angry, they are terrified.  They’re not throwing a tantrum or being aggressive, they have gone into fight or flight. The best thing you can do is remain calm yourself and help them calm down. It may help to keep your distance, keep your voice low and calm, let them retreat to a safe place if they know to do that, or remind them to do so if they don’t.  Reasoning with them won’t work well because they’re unlikely to be able to hear and understand you.  The worst thing you can do is start yelling yourself, threatening them, be violent to them, cut off their escape route, or get right up in their personal space.  

Other ideas?  Please reblog and add more.  The more the merrier.

I don’t know y'all….but the world gotta be ending or something. You couldn’t tell me a few days ago that Jackson would be in the middle of something like this. You just couldn’t. Jackson? No way. Not him. So I definitely understand the fans who are shocked and surprised by this happening. It’s just wild as hell.

Also to the people saying it’s just a hairstyle, go tell that to the countless number of black women and men who have to either shave their heads or relax their hair in some way because they’re told that H A I R S T Y L E isn’t suitable for the workplace. Or the children that have to do the same because it’s too “unkept” and isn’t appropriate for school. If it’s just a hairstyle why are black children being suspended from school until they get rid of said hairstyle? If it’s just a hairstyle why do black men and women risk losing possible job opportunities for simply having it? If it’s just a hairstyle why is it “bohemian chic uwu” when non-black people do it, but “ugly”, “unkept”, “thuggish”, and “inappropriate” when black people do it?

Ask yourself why we have rules and shit for a “"hairstyle”“ and maybe you’d get why some people are upset.

On Ke$ha’s hit 2010 song, Blah Blah Blah, she says “zip your lip like a padlock”. I never even questioned this 7 years ago but I’ve been thinking about it lately. It makes no sense. Padlocks don’t zip. 

anonymous asked:

I really want to come out as nonbinary, but I feel like I'll never have the courage. I've been putting it off for years. I'm sick of hiding my identity from everyone, but the idea of telling even close friends is terrifying. what if they don't understand? what if they're dismissive? i just really don't know how to do this. do you have any advice?

My advice is this: WAIT.
I know, I’m supposed to say Bust that closet door open, be bold, tell the world!
But that doesn’t work for everybody. If you’re terrified, just wait. It’s ok to wait.

What you’re waiting for, is the moment when being closeted and pretending feels LESS SAFE than anything that could happen when you tell people. 💛💛💛💛

anonymous asked:

i'm just saying that dark skin doesn't fit with kawaii aesthetics lol. it's not cute like pale/white skin ^-^ i'm not racist, i just don't think it's cute

do you even understand what you just said mr. trump??

i’m just saying that dark skin doesn’t fit with the kawaii aesthetics” you’re telling me that cute shit only looks good on white skin?? what year are we in??

are you gonna sit on anon and tell me this girl here ain’t the cutest?? oh yeah cause you racist 

cause she’s owning that outfit 

you may say you ain’t racist but if you actually think dark skin people can’t fit into this “kawaii” style then get the fuck out of my inbox with your close minded way of thinking. you ain’t cute either, pasty

the signs as sweet couple things
  • aries: playful bantering, mock insults and teasing that neither of you means
  • taurus: eating each other's food without asking, buying your partner their favorite food for no specific reason
  • gemini: starting to leave your things at each other's places without noticing it
  • cancer: always being there for each other as a shoulder to cry on
  • leo: liking all of each other's selfies, calling your partner when they don't
  • virgo: hating all the same things/people, but hating them together
  • libra: staying up until morning talking to each other about anything and everything
  • scorpio: understanding each other without words, having a connection that runs deeper than what you project on the outside
  • sagittarius: having a million inside jokes and referencing them in public until people think you're both insane
  • capricorn: texting each other at 4am about a random fact or article that excited you -- then going on rants together about how cool it is
  • aquarius: knowing what your partner needs even when they don't say it, taking care of them without being asked
  • pisces: cuddling together on the couch, using each other's shoulders as pillows when you're tired in public

sawkinator  asked:

Hey WADTT, I saw your 'I love animals' post and it has me wondering what else to avoid saying/doing in an animal-related job interview? I have an interview late next week for a zoo position and I don't want to do something that might get me disqualified right away (I wouldn't consider myself a bunny-hugger but I don't want to come off as one)

Oooooh this is a good question, and I bet a bunch of other zoo folks will want to weigh in. 

  • Don’t say you’re applying only because you ‘love animals’ or you ‘want to be around exotics’. Communicate that you understand what the realities of the job are and are prepared to do them, even the gross/backbreaking stuff. (This doesn’t mean don’t say you love animals, but frame it as ‘I have always loved animals and that informs my desire to be here because…). 
  • Don’t talk about animal rights - if you’re talking about animal welfare or animal captivity or animal ethics, use those terms. Be specific with your wording on sensitive subjects so you don’t unintentionally use something with a connotation you don’t intend. 
  • Don’t talk about PETA, HSUS, or Sea Shepherd in any positive sense. I know a great educator who almost didn’t get her first internship because she’d mentioned PETA offhandedly. 

Things that aren’t “don’ts”:

  • Have questions prepared. Really think through what you’d like to know about the structure of the area you’re applying to work in, what you’d want to know about the work environment, what their ethos is regarding enrichment, etc. 
  • Use the right words, if you can. If you’ve been following the blog for a while you should absorbed some of the animal management lingo, and that’ll help - coming off as already familiar with the language of the field is important. You can also check out the zoo terminology post to brush up on some of the vocab. There’s no need to drop buzzwords constantly, but you’ll come across as more professional if you refer to ‘shifting’ rather than ‘getting animals to go where people can see them’ and ‘exhibits’ or ‘enclosures’ rather than ‘cages’ or ‘pens’ or ‘yards’. 
  • Familiarize yourself with the facility before the interview. In person, if you can, but if not stalk the website and social media. You want to come across as well-prepared and you want to impress them with the fact that you’ve paid a lot of attention to what the facility you’re applying to join is working on improving and what it is proud of. (This doesn’t mean try to show off that knowledge too much in an interview - but it’ll help you with asking good questions at the end, and it’ll also inform you about what they’re looking for in a good employee who supports their ethos). 
  • Have a good answer prepared for questions both regarding what you think your strengths are and what your weaknesses might be. These are not questions you can think of an answer to on the fly, so prep that ahead of time, and use the weakness questions to identify something you’re actively working on improving - frame your answer to showcase that you’re aware of it and that you are cognizant of how it affects how you work and what you’re doing to get better at it. 

@speciesofleastconcern, @wheremyscalesslither, @zookeeperproblems, @zookeeping, @zookeepingitreal, @anyonewestofbree, @shipshapeseal, @themiddleflipper, can you guys weigh in too? 

Matthew Daddario Quotes
  • "We call our shoes ‘sneakers,’ right? But they're not really sneaking."
  • "Can't wait till they invent phones with keyboards."
  • "I don't know this guy. He came to hang out so I complimented his hair."
  • "How many artichokes can you eat in one sitting?"
  • "No, go back to my idea!"
  • "Maybe, they'll throw the books out. Just not follow the books anymore."
  • "Hey guys did everyone floss today? You gotta floss every day. Otherwise, your dentist makes you feel bad."
  • "I play piano but I won't call it a talent."
  • "I'm the funniest person in the cast and that's simply because everybody else is so painfully unfunny."
  • "There is literally no memory left in my phone. I took fourteen thousand blue sky photos and I need all of them."
  • "Send him photos of fried chicken and crab cakes."
  • "I have a dentist appt tomorrow. I'm not gonna brush my teeth tonight. Also not going to shower. This is going to be painful for everyone."
  • "You are not trash, you are lovely!"
  • "Don't sign contracts in your blood. It's usually not required by any reputable party."
  • "He's slippin' out his little tongue eating snail treats off the ground."
  • "I will eat anywhere in the house. I'll eat cheese crackers in bed!"
  • "He looks down and sees this wonderful man. He hops down there and smooches that man right on the face. Right in front of everyone."
  • "...it's not fair that he is more handsome than me!!!"
  • "Don't do the hokey pokey around witches."
  • "They're never gonna release the deleted scenes to you guys because they're racy and inappropriate."
  • "This video is going on social media!"
  • "I'm ashamed to admit I lied about the selfies. The phone is 98% cow pictures and I can't delete them. I need a new phone. Forgive me."
  • "Thank god I started sandpapering my feet when I was four."
  • "Is Alec appreciating at an increased rate because of an increase in demand? Or is it the same rate as before."
  • "Note, some alpaca do not appreciate head pats."
  • "If humans lived in barns, we'd be smelly, too."
  • "Had to delete all my cow photos to make room for selfies, so I will say 'I appreciate you, cows.'"
  • "Wow. It's spelled Gollum. Wow. So disappointed. Hiding my own cell phone for the next two weeks."
  • "You're a little kitty cat. Yummy, yummy, yummy, yummy kitty cat, kitty cat."
  • "Sometimes when I travel between dimensions, I think, man, I should really buy a sailboat."
  • "If I was running for President, my VP would be a well trained golden retriever."
  • "Who's not going to watch Hamlet in space? I mean, Space Hamlet!"
  • "I just think we should all acknowledge what is awesome about Harry!"
  • "I like eating food after dark."
  • "Generally, people avoid kissing their sister in a healthy life."
  • "If you don't like my zebra leggings, it's because you just don't understand zebra leggings."
  • "I think we should provide more showers for cows."
  • "If I'm having a bad day, I eat pizza."
  • "I hope Google uses the same algorithm to encrypt my email as my pocket does to tie knots with my headphones."
  • "I would own a farm. Not like growing crops but maybe have a few animals like cows, and maybe an alpaca or a llama. I would chop wood all day."
  • "Dog. #dog. Dog. Dog."
  • "Had fun tweeting with/at you guys. Phone is about to die. Gonna go get more double-A batteries."
  • "The jackhammer has been joined by his friend, the concrete saw. Rare that you get two music legends right outside your window like this."
  • "Interdimensional cat smuggling is severely punished. But you can make a killing on the black cat market."
  • "You should just give up on me like I did. So done with me right now I can't even."
  • "What am I fan of? No one's ever asked me this before! Oh man."
  • "I don't know why they say that. I think they're poking fun at me."
  • "Congrats. You deserve that sailboat."
  • "I don't know. I don't have any pet peeve. Yapping little dogs, I guess. Buttons that don't go up right."
  • "Donkeys look like rabbit horses."
  • "Everyone is all, 'follow your heart.' If that worked I'd be watching Shadowhunters in my spaceship."
  • "Am I making this up?"
  • "I don't condone it, but I understand it, and therefore, I will not pass judgment on it."
  • "I can eat a pound of pork rinds."
  • "I am your bird king!"
  • "Baby pigs or baby cows? They're both good options."
  • "I have deleted a single photo from my phone. I have room for one selfie. Living on the edge. If it happens, no second chances."
  • "She gets it at a Shadowhunter tailor where we get all our stuff. Are you serious?"
  • "My cell phone is not the most important thing in my life. It just feels that way."
  • "Kill her immediately. Problem solved."
  • "You're not me? Most people aren't, in my experience."
  • "Man I've spent a whole year talking about sailboats and I could have just jumped on this SHIP."
  • "Reminder not to cite 'game of thrones' as my motivation for getting into politics."
  • "To all the people who threaten to punch me in the face... Do I have to be concerned or is that a love thing?"
  • "Put this on?! Fit it on my body?!"
  • "I’m going to shave today. Nobody will recognize me and I’ll have to reintroduce myself to all my friends."
  • "Don't get me started on this question."
  • "Okay, quick question. What does it mean when someone says they are your 'trash?' Asking for a friend..."
  • "Wait, 'SexyBack' is by Justin Timberlake?"
  • "Everyone's smooching everyone and Alec just wants to do his job. That's why he's the best and deserves a big smooch."

anonymous asked:

What if aliens are even more confused about bicycles than we are? Like, we aren't entirely sure how they work but we just kind of brush that aside and use them anyways, while aliens are running around panicking b/c "holy crap humans are using something that they don't even know how it works but it does and we don't know how it works either what the hell" and they try to study it and they come back with nothing better than "it shouldn't work"

Why would you do this to me? Because now I can’t figure out if the bicycle thing is serious or not and most of what I find online says we do understand, i think, but I can’t tell and I found this which looks like a good discussion but the problem is I never took physics, I took chemistry instead which is not at all useful in situations like this (and, granted, most situations, but possibly also because it was literally my worst subject of all time) and while I am a fairly intelligent person I start seeing all these sciencey physicsy words and it’s like trying to read Japanese katakana–I can sorta understand them separately if I try really hard but mostly they’re strings of characters taunting me and my lack of knowledge that I feel I should know.

  • Baekhyun: You know what you'd look really cute in?
  • Kyungsoo: If you say Lolita again.
  • Baekhyun: But you'd look really cute in Lolita. There's even gothic Lolita. Why won't you let me make you pretty?
  • Yixing: You would look cute.
  • Kyungsoo: You don't understand, he dressed me in the middle of the night twice. Now I have to sleep under Chanyeol to stay safe.
  • Chanyeol: Thank you Baekhyun.
  • Nevra: Valkyon.
  • Ezarel: This is an intervention.
  • Valkyon: About what?
  • Nevra: You need to stop seeing Gardy.
  • Ezarel: Your human half is showing more and more each day.
  • Nevra: We can't even understand what you say anymore.
  • Ezarel: And you don't even talk that much.
  • Valkyon: I like being around someone as badass as me once in a while.
  • Ezarel: See?! What's up with that lingo.
  • Nevra: And it makes no sense because if I'm not Bad Ass I should be a Good Ass, and I, in fact, have a good ass, but that's not how things work?
  • Ezarel: So what do you call us, then? Regular Ass?
  • Valkyon: Not regular.
  • Valkyon: Basic.
  • Ezarel: Basic Ass?
  • Valkyon: No, just basic.
  • Nevra: Basic?! Just Basic?!
  • Ezarel: I can't even be an Ass!
  • Valkyon: Oh, come on, you can.
  • Valkyon: You just need to put your mind to it.
  • Ezarel: By the end of the day, Valkyon, mark my words...
  • Ezarel: I am becoming at least an Ass.
  • Valkyon: I'm sure it'll come naturally to you.
  • person: i know about DID! [starts spreading misinformation]
  • me: hey, what you're saying about DID isn't correct. i have it and i'm fine with sharing my experiences to help others understand.
  • person: [ignores me and continues spreading misinformation]
what producers don't understand about queerbaiting

You don’t have an iron grip over the story. The story happens. GOOD producers would go with what makes sense instead of what pushes your anti-gay agenda. Your story? Your story says it’s canon. People see it because it’s there. The ship is real. If there are legitimate other reasons why the ship isn’t canon? Fine, but there never is. It’s just you trying to deny something the story puts a fucking spotlight on. So maybe I’ll still follow the story even if you’re queerbaiting. You know why I’m still here? Because the story says the ship is THERE and the ship is REAL. You created the story, but you are no God of it. Fuck you for stifling a compelling story with your ugly homophobia.

anonymous asked:

i hate how tony's response to "he's my friend" which is basically just steve pleading with him, please, please don't do this is just "so was i" because not only is it really self centered, but also feel like it rings pretty false. like i feel like if bucky and tony's positions were reversed, bucky would never put steve in that position. don't you think?

It’s self centred for sure and also like….shows the lack of understanding that T has for Steve. Because i think had it hypothetically been anyone else stood where T was stood, or maybe not anyone but for sure like Sam or Nat or maybe even Wanda, if it was them that had heard that from Steve, they wouldn’t have even considered trying to compare their relationship with Steve with the relationship Steve will always have with Bucky. And that in itself, the fact that they wouldn’t say that and T did, is what makes the line so ironic. Bc they wouldn’t say that, they wouldn’t put themselves on that same level because they understand Steve, they know Steve, and that’s what actually makes them Steve’s friends. T saying what he said showed that actually, he didn’t understand Steve, he didn’t know Steve, he didn’t have any real connection with Steve bc if he did, he’d have known that he couldn’t compare a few missions together with the life that he had with Bucky. The fact he tries to compare that, the fact he inserts himself into that dynamic with the “so was i” actually shows that, no, he really really wasn’t.
And I agree, Bucky wouldn’t try and make Steve choose between him and someone else. He literally asks Steve what’s going to happen to his friends bc of everything Steve’s doing for him, and then tells Steve he doesn’t think he’s worth everything Steve’s doing and everything Steve’s friends have done for him.

anonymous asked:

"Maybe in Stefen more than Elena," Not picking on this anon because there's been others who've said this but it's not true. JP retconned everything by her own admission in s6 but even in that season Elena says she loves Stefan so much. Did she tell Damon she loved him SO much? You had a great post about the sire bond and I think ppl don't really understand what JP did to Elena's character with that and some ppl still think she was sired in s6 because it was only assumed that it was broken in s4.

And even throughout season 4, Elena expresses deep attachment to Stefan that’s beyond platonic.

The episode she sleeps with Damon, she and Stefan share a charged moment:

When she finds out he’s been spending time with Rebekah:

When she finds out that he slept with Rebekah:

and I say this in another post but Bonnie’s facial expression is telling, she has an “oh shit” look on her face and she looks at Elena to see if she’s OK because she knows that this will hurt. And this didn’t happen when Matt and Caroline started dating so this isn’t about “anyone would feel a type of way if their ex started dating someone else.”

and in Nova Scotia Rebekah rubs it in Elena’s face that she’s close to Stefan and Elena is visibly upset about it:

and this actually harks back to 4x06 when Elena spent time in a room with a hallucination saying Stefan won’t like her anymore, while I think that entire scene was ridiculous I think it does speak to the fact that losing Stefan’s love is a deep fear of Elena’s:

and then when she turns off her humanity, she’s preoccupied with the physicality of her relationship with Stefan:

(whereas with Damon, she uses physicality to try and manipulate him)

and then she gets jealous of Caroline:

and at prom she brings up what happens in 4x10, that memory is still with her and still haunts her even though she has no humanity, she uses what Rebekah did to her relationship with Stefan to prove that she’s a bad person:

and I think it’s really telling that during their dance, after she says “What heart?” she continues to dance with him, she doesn’t walk away.

In 4x22 when Stefan tells Elena that she can’t kill Katherine, automatically her mind goes to whether or not he has feelings for her:

In season 5, after choosing Damon, the rage she concerning Stefan’s whereabouts was so strong, it triggered a compulsion that would make her kill every person in the dorm and then thinking about Stefan rid her of it:

This expression in 5x03

The way she holds his hand:

In 5x04 she’s preoccupied with getting Stefan to remember her and to remember them and they nearly kiss:

In 5x06, she storms down to Tessa’s cabin:

and she actually can’t stand to see them touching and then in 5x11 when she finds out that he slept with Katherine, she’s outraged:

and then they don’t really interact again until 5x18 and in 5x18 Elena is devastated at losing those visions:

and I always loved this scene because of that small, wistful exhale Elena has when Stefan agrees that what they saw felt amazing:

and then she asks if she will ever be able to talk this way with Damon:

and then from 5x18 onward the show makes sure Stefan and Elena don’t share scenes or dialogue together unless it’s about Damon/Delena and sometimes Caroline/Steroline but then in 6x22, Elena is talking about the life-changing, transcendental, unbelievable love the two of them share and as you said, she says “I love you so much” and considering all of the gifs I’ve presented, I don’t consider it to to be the platonic, soul friend love she has with Matt. Elena actually exhibits a lot of romantic attachment to Stefan, it’s just that her dialogue with Damon is so overwrought that’s what people think of but the way Elena acts toward Stefan is telling.

anonymous asked:

Hi! I started watch skating, but I don't understand skating skills very well. I've read what ISU takes in account, but when I watch an actual program, it's hard for me to say if they were good or bad in that section. Can you list examples of okay versus great skating skills? Sorry if this is a dumb question and for any mistakes, English is not my first language. Thank you! =D

(Super late reply, sorry haha) It does take some experience watching skating before you have a better sense of what skating skills are, so don’t worry if it takes you a while to get it. Even experienced skating fans sometimes have trouble understanding it. SS can be hard to explain in words. This is what the ISU looks for in SS:

Skating Skills: Defined by overall cleanness and sureness, edge control and flow over the ice surface demonstrated by a command of the skating vocabulary (edges, steps, turns etc.), the clarity of technique and the use of effortless power to accelerate and vary speed

  • Use of deep edges, steps and turns
  • Balance, rhythmic knee action and precision of foot placement
  • Flow and glide
  • Varied use of power, speed and acceleration
  • Use of multi directional skating
  • Use of one foot skating

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