and you are hurting someone's friend

I have learned, By Omer B. Washington

I’ve learned- that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I’ve learned- that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.

I’ve learned- that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I’ve learned-that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I’ve learned- that it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.

I’ve learned- that you should never ruin an apology with an excuse.

I’ve learned- that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something.

I’ve learned- that you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do.

I’ve learned- that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I’ve learned- that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I’ve learned- that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I’ve learned- that you can keep going long after you can’t.

I’ve learned- that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I’ve learned- that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I’ve learned- that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I’ve learned- that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I’ve learned- that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I’ve learned- that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I’ve learned- that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I’ve learned- that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

I’ve learned- that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I’ve learned- that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

I’ve learned- that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

I’ve learned- that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.

I’ve learned- that your family won’t always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren’t related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren’t biological.

I’ve learned- that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.

I’ve learned- that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

I’ve learned- that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I’ve learned- that a rich person is not the one who has the most, but is one who needs the least.

I’ve learned- that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

I’ve learned- that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I’ve learned- that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I’ve learned- that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I’ve learned- that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I’ve learned- that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I’ve learned- that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I’ve learned- that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

I’ve learned- that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings, and standing up for what you believe.

I’ve learned- that people will forget what you said, and people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

Please please think about the words you say to people. Words are powerful. They can be used to lift someone up or tear someone down. They can never be unheard. An apology cannot erase them.

Please before you talk to someone please think about what you say to them. No matter the reason you need to talk to someone - they made you angry, hurt a friend of yours, are depressed, or whatever. The words you say have an impact.

Words can break someone. Words can smash a spirit. Words can cause doubt. Words can take hope from someone who is hopeful. Word can push someone out of a healthy place into a negative space. Words can cause irrational thought to seem rational and true.

Words are powerful.

I know. Words were said to me today from someone I thought was a friend. Hateful words. Words that ripped through our friendship and my heart. I never saw them coming. Never expected them.

Words are powerful. Please be careful with them.

STOP!!

Look, I get it. Some people don’t wanna watch Once Upon a Time anymore, they are hurt, they are upset, some people are mad. But please, PLEASE, DO NOT USE MY EDITS TO HATE ON THE SHOW. EVER!!! I obviously LOVE OUAT, and even though I’m also hurt that Jennifer is not going to be a regular on the show anymore I refuse to hate on something that makes me so absolutely happy, something that gave me some of my greatest friends. I don’t make edits to upset people, I make them because I love creating stuff and making people smile in the process, so when you use something that took a lot of work to HATE on my favorite show IT HURTS ME! It really does… I’m not talking about tags, even though I read them all, I’m talking about someone who took my edit, posted it in an anti post knowing fully well that I could see that. I’m sorry for the people who do not deserve to read this, but I had to say it, because it really made me feel awful. I’m just so tired of all this negativity all the time… 

anonymous asked:

Hi! So I was wondering whether I could get some advice on something. I told quite a big lie to my close friend and although I've been keeping up the lie for around 4 years now, I'm planning to tell them the truth. Do you have any advice on how to approach this?

I’m glad you’ve decided to come clean. Lying can really damage a friendship.

Be prepared for your friend to be hurt, angry, and sad. Keeping a big lie from someone you’re close to for a really long time will probably make them feel betrayed and like the version of you they know isn’t the real you.

Be prepared for this response and give them space to work through their feelings without immediately pressuring them to make everything normal again.

Aside from that, a lot depends on what kind of lie it was. If you hadn’t come out to them yet, or hid that you were a sex worker or a member of another hypervulnerable population, if you lied for safety – that’s going to be a different situation than if you lied to seem cooler, to avoid accountability, or to get out of an awkward interaction.

If you lied for safety, explain the fear you walk around with as a person experiencing this kind of oppression, and talk about the reasons you stayed closeted etc., so they can understand why you felt the lie was necessary. Explain that coming forward now is a sign of trust in them – and make sure you DO trust them not to out you or put you in further harm. If you don’t, think about if it’s really worth it to you to share this with them. Your safety should be a priority.

If you lied for more frivolous reasons, make sure your apology includes an understanding of why what you did was wrong. Let them know that you understand the severity of what you did and maybe give them an incredibly short explanation about why you did it. Don’t make excuses. Give them plenty of space to be upset and leave it up to them whether to continue the relationship.

As with any apology, be brief, be honest, and don’t get too much into your own feelings. Don’t expect them to comfort you, don’t expect them to listen to you describe your feelings and motivations in intricate detail, let it be about them. Don’t go on and on about what a horrible person you are or how you’ve ruined everything. Give them space to have their own reaction, don’t coach them into one.

You can find more on apologies in my “apologies” tag (link).

I hope this helps. Good luck!

if someone is seeking attention, and seem almost desperate for it.. i genuinely don’t get how you legit could be so cruel that you view that as an opportunity to be shitty to them and talk negatively of them.. instead of perhaps coming with some compassion.. because hey..

maybe there is a good fuckin reason that someone is constantly seeking attention and validation from people around them.. maybe it could have to do with years of abuse, familial neglect, having no friends, and being bullied?

just a thought.. and like? if someone isn’t hurting you what’s the big fucking deal?

anonymous asked:

Hey Kaz, lately I've been feeling down and I haven't gotten the chance to see my friends. It doesn't help that I live in a homophobic family which leads me feeling hurt, guilty, and more depressed. Sorry that this isn't what you usually get in your inbox but I just need someone to vent my feelings out before I explode.

Don’t worry about it at all anon, I’m glad you were able to vent to me. I know from personal experience how shitty homophobia can be but just remember that there are people out there who care about you and even though there are bad days there will be so many more good ones still to come too! Stay strong and never change who you are, I believe in you <3<3<3

I find it really hilarious that people can go through a bad experience with a toxic player who is *notorious* for doing things that are unpleasant and upsetting to multiple people, and when they try and warn other friends getting involved with them? (Not even by doing a public callout, just warning a friend privately) They get accused of being the ones in the wrong and that “they aren’t what they think” and also being blamed for any hurt and upset to the toxic person.

If you willfully befriend someone known to have hurt your friends or others, then you’re either just as bad as they are or completely responsible for the outcome after. Blaming the people they hurt beforehand, though? Not cool. Just because YOU haven’t yet faced the hurt others have experienced doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

Especially when it’s the toxic player’s modus operandi. You’re being selfish and insensitive all for the sake of justifying a bad choice and a small burst of “good” roleplay for your pleasure.

Sensible people remove themselves from what’s hurt them and not creating drama over it, but when you bring the toxicity to them by acting like it doesn’t exist? Then consider yourself removed as a friend, too.

You don’t call yourself a friend and not acknowledge something that’s been hurtful to your friends, especially when it’s warranted (and something that CAN and WILL eventually hurt YOU), and not a silly or petty thing that CAN be worked over.

anonymous asked:

This may sound rude, but what's your opinion on Vanessa? I find it a little strange that people ship Usnavi with someone not even in In the Heights and (most of the time) erase one of the best female characters? Do you pair her with someone else? Thanks for your time

Hey pal, I’m a gay man who works really really long weeks and I just want a little representation. Its not hurting anyone and it makes my friends and I really happy. I’m sorry if thats not enough for you.

Personally I ship Vanessa with Carla or Nina (but I love Nina and Benny sm)

If you are missing out on content or representation you can always make your own, I mean thats what I am doing.
Plus there are a few Vanessa heavy blogs out there to follow! There is the musical also.

Sorry please don’t hate me :( I’m a simple man with simple pleasures drawing shit on the internet. It helps me wind down from working two jobs and Im not upset about that

anonymous asked:

Hollie my boyfriend just broke up with me :( I'm sorry to send this in but idk, none of my friends are awake, and I feel so alone right now. I don't know how I'll get past this

So sorry Hun 😭 break ups are horrible but the hurt doesn’t last long. You just need to think he obviously isn’t the one for you if his broken up with you & you deserve better. When your friends wake up give them a text and go for s girly shopping day and have lunch, hang out with them regularly to try take your mind off things. You’ll get over him eventually and meet someone even better who’s right for you 💘try not to be sad Hun

92 Things Tag

I was tagged by @justinjeonseagull Aaaah I love when you tag me Kadie! 💗

Rule: Answer the 92 questions and tag 20 people!

THE LAST:

1. Drink: lemon tea

2:. Phone call: my grandma

3. Text message: //To my friend// “Flower in my life, what are you doing?”

4. Song you listened to: LIMITLESS - NCT127

5. Time you cried: Last week, I think

HAVE YOU:

6. Dated someone twice: No, never 😂

7. Kissed someone and regretted it: definatelly yez

8. Been cheated on: No no

9. Lost someone special: Yeah, it still hurts

10. Been depressed: aaaahn, yeah

11. Gotten drunk and thrown up: Hahahahahaha…no I am still a fetus👶™/rt

LIST 3 FAVORITE COLORS:

12. Black

13. White

14. Blue!!!

IN THE LAST YEAR HAVE YOU:

15. Made new friends: Yes, irl and online!!!

16. Fallen out of love: yesss

17. Laughed until you cried: Everyday 😂

18. Found out someone was talking about you:  Yes but it wasn’t trash, so I’m ok

19. Met someone who changed you: Not yet, but I changed a lot of people lol

20. Found out who your friends are: Oh yeah

21. Kissed someone on your Facebook list: No, didn’t kiss last year

GENERAL:

22. How many of your Facebook friends do you know in real life: Most of them

23. Do you have any pets: No, I’m allergic 😭

24. Do you want to change your name: Hmmm… I guess my name is ok

25. What did you do for your last Birthday: Made cupcakes and ate all of them myself!

26. What time did you wake up: 9 o'clock A.M.

27. What were you doing at midnight last night:  eating hehe

28. Name something you can’t wait for: NCT Dream’s next comeback ✌

29. When was the last time you saw your mom: She is by my side in the car

30. What is one thing you wish you could change in your life: If I could finish school right now, everything else would be ok!

31. What are you listening right now: Around - Hitchhiker, TAEYONG

32. Have you ever talked to a person named Tom: YES IT WAS AWESOME

33. Something that is getting on your nerves: The today’s sunny/cold weather

34. Most visited Website: Tumblr, Youtube, Google lol

35. Mole/s: like freckles? If yes, a lot

36. Mark/s: I have a ton of scars 😂

37. Childhood dream: Realistically, becoming an architect… Unrealistically, becoming a K-Pop idol 😂

38. Hair color: Brown with red natural highlights, I don’t really know how

39. Long or short hair: Mid?

40. Do you have a crush on someone: I think?

41. What do you like about yourself: I love my personality, and also my little talents……..

42. Piercings: ear piercings in each ear, total of 2

43. Blood type: O- I really don’t know

44. Nickname: Nat, or Thalia, or Nana

45. Relationship status: Lonely 😭

46. Zodiac: Pisces

47. Pronouns: She/Her

48. Favorite TV Show/s: Masterchef, Criminal Minds and Sense8

49. Tattoos: I don’t have one, but want one.

50. Right or left hand: Both lol

51. Surgery: yeah, septum deviation correction

52. Hair dyed in different color: Nooo

53. Sport: Basketball!!!

55. Vacation: Anywhere

56. Pair of trainers: black Adidas Superstar

MORE GENERAL:

57. Eating: nothing yet

58. Drinking: Water 🤙

59. I’m about to: Start making lunch

61. Waiting for: NCT Dream to make a comeback, and my pork chops to be ready!

62. Want: Ice cream

63. Get married: Definatelly

64. Career: Currently I’m a senior, but I want to be an architect

65. Hugs or kisses:  Either 😂

66. Lips or eyes: Eyes

67. Shorter or taller: Taller

68. Older or younger: Doesn’t matter

70. Nice arms or nice stomach: Arms, I guess 🤣

71. Sensitive or loud: I am both, so both

72. Hook up or relationship: Relationship

73. Troublemaker or hesitant: Hesitant

HAVE YOU EVER:

74. Kissed a stranger: No

75. Drank hard liquor: Yes (long story…)

76. Lost glasses/contact lenses: No, thank god

77. Turned someone down: Maybe?

78. Sex in the first date: I’m a little baby too!

79. Broken someone’s heart: Yes…

80. Had your heart broken: Yes… ✌

81. Been arrested: Hahaha, noooo

82. Cried when someone died: Of course.

83. Fallen for a friend: Yes *hides*

DO YOU BELIEVE IN:

84. Yourself: Maybe. Not all the time

85. Miracles: I believe, but haven’t had the proof yet

86. Love at first sight: Yes

87. Santa Claus: OBVIOUSLY, WHO GAVE ME NCT?

88. Kiss on the first date: I don’t remember lol

89. Angels: YES


OTHER:

90. Current best friend’s name;

 Irl: Eduarda/Julia

Online: Isa, Sarah, and Kadie my little sis

91. Eyecolor: Brown, almost black

92. Favorite movie: Harry Potter, all of them 😁

I tag, and you don’t have to do it if you don’t want to~ (: @cherry-ten @blackbunshin @renjunsrealm @manyfandoms121702 @platonicloveremix @tyongie95 + anyone else who wants to do!

anonymous asked:

Evan isn't capable of hating anyone if you apologize he'll probably be friends with you again. I can tell he really cares about you seeing as though his only other friend talks to him for his car insurance. He needs you man

C: Honestly, I was stupid to think that being friends with him was a good idea. If anything, he’s just gonna get more hurt. I mean, no way he broke his arm ‘falling out of a tree’. Something happened and he won’t tell me, I wouldn’t doubt if it’s because someone saw us together.

Does anyone else feel like the Wade of their friend group? Like you’re the butt of every joke and even if you know everyone is kidding sometimes it cuts deep and hurts. Like, if someone looked at how you’re treated from an outside perspective they might think it’s wrong and bad but you’re used to it and you know your friends don’t mean anything by it. Idk I just feel like I’m the comedy relief and the butt of the joke and sometimes I’m okay with that while other times it makes me want to curl into a ball and cry. Like I know my friends love me, but sometimes it doesn’t feel like it.

Bts reaction to their crush saying “if I could lose my virginity to anyone it would be you”

Wow that’s a long ass title

Seokjin: You two were best friends who had a hell load of tension going on. You were over at Jin’s place to just hang out. He always thought that his feelings were one sited so he never even considered confessing to you. All of the sudden you asked him about his sex life, being afraid that the answer would hurt you since you have a crush on him too. Being confused he’d answer honestly: “Lately there’s not much going on. I’d feel uncomfortable doing it with someone who isn’t you.” he confessed by mistake. He’d feel really embarrassed as he realizes what happened. You said: “I didn’t thought you feel like this. Well, if I could lose my virginity to anyone it would be you”. Jin would be soooo happy saying: “I’d really be honored to take your virginity. I like you, y/n.” He’d approach you slightly giving you a soft kiss which leads to a heavy make out session. Being the gentleman he is, he wouldn’t let it come too far without dating you. 

Jin on the inside:

Originally posted by mscleaningfairy

Namjoon: You two were chilling alone at a house party together. Because you already drank a bit Namjoon felt confident enough to start asking private questions. Technically it wasn’t your idea to tell him you’re just the most honest person after only one shot of tequila. Without him having to ask you just went for it and said: “if I could lose my virginity to anyone it would be you” Namjoom had his facial expression under control only a dirty smile covered his face. “I knew that! You like me and I like you..” He’d immediately start acting all cocky and flirty with you which leaded to making out in a spare room. He was grinding on you making you horny and kissing your neck until he left hickeys. But Namjoon wouldn’t want you to regret anything the next morning so he delayed your first time to when you’d be sober. “You don’t want to be drunk on your first time, just call me when you want. Or should I call you?” 

Originally posted by seokkuk

Yoongi: Yoongi and you were these kind of best friends who spend all of their time together. Once the two of you were taking a nap over at his place. Having a light sleep Yoongi cuddled with you. He always acted like you were his girlfriend. You thought he was still awake and told him “if I could lose my virginity to anyone it would be you”. Yoongi would wake up totally confused and look at you. He’d hug you tight from the back and kiss your neck saying: “Y/n, is it that obvious that I have a crush on you?” Still being sleepy he’d unhook your bra under the shirt of him that you wore. Rolling you over he kissed you multiple times. Astonishing your now fully naked body he kissed you again. “It won’t hurt, I promise”

Yoongi when he wakes up confused:

Originally posted by amayskpoparchive

Hoseok: You and Hobi were at a club going crazy and dancing like there’s no tomorrow. That was the moment you fell for him, his cheerful and happy personality and -we’re not gonna ignore this- of course his handsome looks. When a sexy R’n’B song played you decided to dance seductively. Hobi was left with surprise as he joined you and the tension started to grow until he kissed you in the middle of the dancefloor. Hobi started to giggle like a little kid deciding to go home with you. As you made out on his bed you said. “If I could lose my virginity to anyone it would be you.” He’d smile really brightly feeling honored to take your virginity as he slowly unclothed you.

Hoseok seeing you dance:

Originally posted by sugabeats

Taehyung: You guys were friends but had secretly feelings for each other. You were totally in love with him but your lack of experience made you self-conscious. One day Tae was bragging about fucking this girl just to make you jealous. Your reaction to it had him SHOOK. You just said “if I could lose my virginity to anyone it would be you” as a response. Tae would need several moment to realize what just happened but once he did he’d confess.”I’m sorry for being such an cocky asshole but that was my way to make you jealous. I actually have a crush on you and it’ll make me really happy to fuck yo- I mean take your virginity.” You just laughed and kissed him. He’d pick you up like a bride and carried you to his bed.

Tae being shook because of your response:

Originally posted by cutae-hyungie

Jimin: All the other member knew about you being Jimin’s crush and tried to set you up. They invited you over to a house party. Everything went fine, you talked with Jimin the whole time, until Jungkook suddenly shouted:”LET’S PLAY TRUTH OR DARE”.. Namjoon called your name and you chose truth. “Who out of all the people here would you have sex with?”. You answered honestly with “if I could lose my virginity to anyone it would be you, Jimin” looking at him. He was blushing and smiling happy. Next Hobi dared Jimin to spend 30 minutes with you in his room. Arriving there he confessed to you. “I’m so sorry it had to happen like this. The other’s tried really hard.” he said. “Well it worked and by the way we have still 20 minutes left.” you smiled sheepishly. Being confident he kissed you slowing unclothing your body.

Jimin when you said you still have 20 minutes:

Originally posted by bwipsul

Jungkook: Kookie asked you out on a date after crushing over you for a long time. You were out walking around the city after having a drink. He was leading you to his favorite spot on a hill where you could see the stars and the whole city shining. You were sitting on a blanket his arm around you. You talked about so many different things until he asked you if you’ve ever been in a serious relationship. You answered with yes but admitted being a virgin. He was surprised because you seemed quite mature.“But actually if I could lose my virginity to anyone it would be you” you said. Jungkook would turn into JungSHOOK before acting really cocky. “I mean if you’re up to it..” You’d kiss. First slow but then it turned into a real make out session. He slid his hand up your skirt grabbing your ass. “We probably have to do this an other time unless you want to lose your virginity in a place were people could easily see us.”

Jungkook being cocky:

Originally posted by theking-or-thekid

So this took quite a long time hope u enjoyed it!

some people make me feel so worthless, it hurts sometimes, I just wish to sleep for over a week without dealing with anything.

How to Write (and how not to write) LGBT characters

I saw a post earlier about writing LGBT characters that I hated a lot so here’s my take, as a non-binary lesbian and as a writer, on tips on how to write/not write LGBT characters.

A couple notes:

1) First and foremost, if you’re not LGBT, you need to talk to actual LGBT people about your characters. Seeing posts like this aren’t going to Cure you of any internalized homophobic or transphobic ideas that you might have, and LGBT people can point out problematic aspects that you wouldn’t realize could hurt LGBT people. Even if you ARE LGBT, be conscious of writing identities you can’t personally relate to. If you’re not a trans lesbian and want to write about one, talk to trans lesbians.

2) Going off of this… not all LGBT people agree on everything. (Hence why i’m writing this post in the first place!) However, if you have MANY LGBT people saying something you’re writing is problematic, don’t dismiss it just because one person disagreed. This is also why it’s good to talk to multiple LGBT people, not just one, about your characters.

The Actual Tips:

1) Writing feminine gay men and masculine lesbians… is not a bad thing, so long as you do this respectfully. This is something I see being toted as a “NEVER, EVER DO THIS”, and that’s blatantly wrong. Butch lesbians and feminine men exist, and deserve representation. If you have one lesbian character who’s masculine, predatory, objectifies women, etc, yeah, that’s a problem- but you’re capable of writing gay characters without doing this. (And if you’re not… don’t write gay characters!) Edit (anon suggestion): Not all mlm characters are “smol beans”, either- there are lots of masculine mlm who need representation too.

2) Gay people have gay friends. Unless they literally have no friends at all, we tend to have gay friends. Even if they’re in the deep south and are deeply closeted, they *probably still know another gay person*.

3) Don’t write the GBF trope. Literally just don’t.

4) Give your LGBT characters personalities just like you would cishet ones. Give them quirks and fears and goals like anyone else. BUT, this doesn’t mean “don’t overdo telling people your character is gay!!!”, because that’s another thing I see said a lot (primarily by cishets). LGBT people talk about being LGBT, especially around other LGBT people. A lot of us LIKE to joke about how gay we are or jokingly call inconvenient things homophobia. You can make them developed characters without totally ignoring their identity altogether. (This, though, is still another thing to be done sensitively, as with writing ‘stereotypical’ characters.)

5) Don’t write trans characters using ace bandages unless you’re making it explicitly clear how harmful this is. Please. Yes, this happens IRL, but this is a form of harmful representation that can perpetuate trans people injuring themselves through unsafe binding. (And you can find afab trans people to ask about other forms of bonding if you really can’t figure out some other way to write this.)

6) Additionally, a lot of trans people don’t just pass automatically if they bind once or cut their hair or wear a wig or put on makeup. (Unless they haven’t hit puberty yet.) I have trans friends who have been presenting as their gender for years and are still misgendered. I’ve read a number of books where a trans guy puts his Long Hair in a hat and binds and then suddenly everyone genders him correctly. This isn’t the reality for a lot of trans people. We get misgendered by our family, by friends, and constantly by total strangers. And if misgendering is a factor of our dysphoria, it *hurts*.

7) Unless you have a lot of LGBT characters, don’t make your villain LGBT. Consider WHY the hell you feel the need to make your evil character(s) gay or trans. Even IF you have a lot of LGBT characters, you should still think about why making someone who we are meant to root against and hope gets defeated into a LGBT character is so important to you.

I’ll probably add on to this later because I have a lot of thoughts on this, but other LGBT people feel free to add on as well!

A few reminders about Hunk (for writers, or just in general)

idk, i was just reading some fanfiction and felt the need to post this. If I made a mistake about anything in Canon, or if you politely disagree with me on anything, please feel free to notify me! Also, add on if you see fit ^^

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1. Hunk is in no way consistently passive/cheerful :

I feel this depiction of Hunk is mostly due to the fact that most fanfictions are not revolved around him (a shame, really), and thus the conflict does not call for as much involvement/reaction from him. But, as we can see in the first Balmera episode, Hunk can get extremely frustrated, impatient, and so forth whenever someone he loves and cares for is in danger. In fact, he can be downright scary. If anyone was actively hurting his friends, on or off the battlefield, this boy is not going to be cheery.

2. Hunk isn’t afraid to be frank :

On sort of the same note, while Hunk likes to be and is supportive, he does not sugarcoat, or try to make things seem like something they aren’t. This guy tells it as it is, and if he thinks something is a bad idea, and/or going to put anyone in danger, he is going to let you know.

3. Hunk panics :

I will start this off by saying that I am not an expert when it comes to anxiety or panic attacks, but I do have personal experience with both. And from that personal experience, I believe that from a nonobjective standpoint, hunk shows a lot of signs of very real anxiety.

He fidgets/gestures with his hands a lot, looks around and widens his eyes frequently, talks in a hurried or low voice, and worries insistently once something doesn’t seem right to him. In the Belly of the Weblum episode, Hunk seemed very much on the verge of a panic attack, and if Keith had not known what to say to him to keep him focused, I could see Hunk breaking down right then and there.

This is an aspect of his character that I do not see addressed all that often, and while it can be a heavy/difficult subject to write, there are ways to make it a part of his character without it being a defining point. (Such as in the show itself.)

4. Hunk likes his details :

From the space mall episode, we can see that when it comes to himself, hunk is *particular* about what he makes. He wouldn’t let any food leave the kitchen area unless he deemed it perfect.

When it comes to planning, Hunk has been shown to ask several questions, looking from different viewpoints to find holes in their plans. He is more comfortable the more details he has about the situation he is in. (See the Belly of the Weblum episode where he seems *terrified* when Keith and him cannot watch Coran’s entire video)

You Don’t Understand

Requested with the prompt: ‘when your try to leave but they tug on your shirt because they want you to stay’

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Peter had done it again. He had promised that he wouldn’t be late again. That he wouldn’t flake out on your plans, again. After the first couple of times it had happened you brushed it off, but now it was now the norm that Peter didn’t show up. And a miracle when he did.

After hours of waiting in your apartment for Peter to come through the door you had given up. You pushed all of the study notes and school books away from you as you moved away from the dining table. Glancing at your watch it was now just past half eight, about four hours since Peter was expected to be at your apartment. You could feel the anger boiling up inside of you, ready to explode at any minor thing. And you just begged to yourself that it wouldn’t be Peter to catch the brunt of it. So in an attempt to calm your bubbling emotions you stepped outside onto the fire escape, and allowed the fresh city air to try its best to wash away your emotions. But the longer you sat out on the fire escape the more your mind overanalysed everything Peter had done in the last month that had gotten on your nerves. You didn’t want to be doing this to yourself, but you knew that you were only doing this because Peter was your closest friend. He meant so much to you! And you just couldn’t understand why all of a sudden he didn’t seem to care about you anymore. Had you done something wrong? Had you said something? He would have told you. You would know if you had. It just didn’t make sense. You need the reassurance that everything was okay between the two of you. You couldn’t fathom losing Peter to something that must of been so minuscule for you to look over it.

Before you realised your body was taking you off the fire escape. Your feet guiding you to your room to grab your jacket. You were going to go to Peter’s apartment and see what was going on. In the back of your mind you really hoped that Peter wasn’t home, and that Aunt May would tell you he was still at that damn Stark Internship. You wanted to see what was going on with him but you were scared of what might happen, and what could be said.

You had made it to Peter’s apartment door. The adrenaline was wearing off and now you didn’t know what to do with yourself. Knocking on the door gently, you waited for either May or Peter to come to the door. It only took a couple of seconds before you were greeted by May’s smile.

“(Y/N)! I wasn’t expecting you! How lovely to see you again!” May smiled, opening her arms in front of her, engulfing you in a warm hug.

“I’m so sorry for just popping in like this. I didn’t even think of calling first.” You realised, following May over to the small dining table.

“Oh no, don’t worry about that! You’re always welcome here sweetheart.” May said reassuringly, “Peter’s just gotten home and is in his room, just go on through (Y/N). I’ve just got to run out and get something for dinner.” She continued, her warm hand placed on your back and nodding towards Peter’s bedroom. You thanked her quickly and headed towards Peter’s door. His door was cracked open slightly, but no sound was coming from the other side. You couldn’t make up your mind if you wanted to open the door slowly or just kick it open. You settled for the first. As the door opened you saw Peter sitting at his desk, his head placed in his hand in exhaustion. Your heart and mind softened slightly at the sight of him. He only moved slightly at the sound of his door closing completely. Turning his head slowly to have his brown eyes look at the source of noise. Shocked by seeing you in his room, he fumbled as he found his feet and stood up from the chair.

“What? What are you - why are you? (Y/N)? I um.. Oh I’m so sorry. I told you I wouldn’t - but I have. I’m so -” Peter rushed, his worlds tumbling over each other as he tried to form a sentence.

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Venus in Signs, people you might fall in love with, and warnings:

Venus in Aries: Pretty much everyone that excites you and can do crazy stuff together, keeping the fire of your passions (sexual and mental). Probably a close friend you can do everything with. Be careful to not hurt people when your passion is gone, or go over the person too quickly.

Venus in Taurus: Someone mature, well stablished, that knows how to enjoy the finer things in life. Probably someone older, that will help you to shape the kind of life you envision for yourself. Or at least someone with cooking skills. Be careful with liars or people who might spend what they don’t have to impress.

Venus in Gemini: Someone talkative, with good words. Probably fell for a teacher or someone really into new knowledges, a nerdy friend. Someone you can talk and listen forever and don’t see time flying. Be careful with those that are all talking and no action.

Venus in Cancer: Someone really caring. Maybe a babysitter, a teacher from kindergarten, someone older with a soft and kind heart that makes you feel like home. Be careful with those who might guilt trap you, or use your feelings against you.

Venus in Leo: Can be those fangirls of actors, singers, performers. Someone that can impress you and inspire you with their doings. Someone famous, or at least respected. Be careful to not give yourself to fake people, or people who might just use you as a tool for their ego.

Venus in Virgo: Maybe a co-worker, or someone you admire so hard everything they do you might not realize you’re in love. Someone clever, reference in their field. Someone that loves working and gets excited sharing ideas. Be careful with jealousy, cause you might underestimate your mental skills if they seem not as into you. You’re interesting enough.

Venus in Libra: Someone beautiful. You might pass as shallow because you like pretty people first. You might have a hard time loving people that doesn’t deserve you. Eventually you will learn to love the inside as well. Be careful with people who might use you through your love and kindness.

Venus in Scorpio: You might have a thing for broken things. People with problems, traumas, dark secrets. If they behave oddly, it gets your attention. If they share it with you, you’re in love to the point you might endure everything for them. Be careful with potential abusers.

Venus in Sagittarius: You might fall in love with adventurous people. Researchers, people who works traveling, even foreigners. People who will show you a new world. Be careful with people too weird or actually dangerous.

Venus in Capricorn: You like older people, or at least people who behave well and seem older. You can fall for your boss, or someone of superior status. You might like “daddys” even. Be careful with powerful people trying to control you too much and lose yourself.

Venus in Aquarius: you like the punk ones. The different, the rebels, the marginalized. You sympathize with them and fighting their fights is highly important. Be careful with victim complex, or to try to save people that don’t want to be saved.

Venus in Pisces: You tend to romantize people you don’t know very well and build a dream over them, or have unrealistic expectations that people will change for you. You probably fell for someone online or had a long distance relationship where you were loyal to the core. Be careful with people that loves your attention but just wants to be friends. Don’t settle for less.

“You’re a Superhero?” (Peter Parker x reader)

Originally posted by magneteers

Pairing: Peter Parker x reader (Tony Stark friendship with reader and Peteras well)

Summary: Peter and Ned are keeping something from Y/N, and she is determined to find out what. But, can she without letting her secret slip through too?

Warnings:none

Requested: Yes (anonymous)

Here’s another imagine for y'all! Hope you like it! It’s a little long lol. Some of y'all were asking about a masterlist and yes! Below:

MASTERLIST

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It had been exactly six days, four hours, and forty-two minutes since you had spoken to Peter or Ned. You didn’t really know how to act like a normal human being without their obnoxious tactics ringing in your ears of every second of every day. Especially since your small crush on Peter was slightly creeping up on you as the days passed on. They were your best friends, always had been. But, this time, it wasn’t a delicate topic, apparently.

You had walked up to them at lunch almost a week ago, clutching your lunch tray with both hands, a smile plastered on your face  as you were excited as all to tell them your news about the algebra test getting pushed back to Thursday. All three of you stayed up so late the night before studying for that test, and by the end of the night, none of you had any idea what was going on, which was odd. You usually nailed math within three seconds. But not this time. So, your excitement was very evident on your face.

You approached them, Peter’s back slightly turned around as Ned followed the position, their eyes fixate don something clearly much more important than lunch. Your eyebrows furrowed on confusion as you set down your backpack next to you and your lunch tray in front of you, taking a seat at the gray lunch. Your stare becomes more intent, neither of the boys turning around to notice presence.

“Uh, hello?” you questioned, knocking your knuckles against the hard surface. All of the sudden, their ears perk at the the sudden noise, both heads turning around completely.

Eyebrows raised, you make direct eye contact with Peter, his brown orbs widening at the sight of your presence, “Oh! H-Hey, Y/N.”

Ned’s hair falls in front of his eyes, a guilty yet seemingly confused smile rolls over his lips, shoulders slouching a little, “Heyyyy,” he said, rolling out the ‘y’.

Your arms fold across your chest, suspiciously giving them a stare down, eyes narrowing as they slide from Peter to Ned, and back to Peter, “What are doing back there?” Your tone serious yet skeptical.

Peter shot you a weak smile, “Nothing!” he blurted out suddenly, eyes still widen at your suspicious glare. “We were just checking our work from Mrs. Smith’s lab yesterday.”

“Uh, no,” you interjected, shaking your head, looking at them as if they thought you were stupid, “We turned in our labs yesterday. They’re already graded, Peter.”

His mouth popped open and closed numerous times, looking like a gaping fish out of water, knowing he’d been caught so easily. You scooted up further on the sat, placing your folded arms on the table, “What were you really doing, Peter?” you questioned, your tension rising for the last time.

Ned shot up, belting out before Peter could say anything, “It’s nothing! We can’t tell you, Y/N. Like we really, can’t tell you.”

Peter looked from you to Ned multiple times before shaking his head up and down, signalling his agreement with Ned, “We just can’t.”

What was he hiding?

You felt your tension rise, ruining your previous thoughts, “I would never keep a secret from you two, ever,” you let out sternly, cracking your knuckles.

Lies. You’re such a liar.

Peter and Ned both looked at each other quickly before shooting you a guilty look for what felt like the thousandth time in a matter of five minutes. Your Y/E/C eyes pierced through Ned’s quickly, then shooting toward Peter’s gaze. Y/E/C pierced into his sparkling brown gaze and you felt disconnected with your best friend for the first time in your life. You share everything with each other, why not this.

You felt excluded and betrayed. Picking up your backpack, you roll your eyes in their direction once more before muttering, “Whatever. Guess we’re not as close as I had thought,” the words dripped like venom off your lips, anger bubbling deep inside you. You whisk away quickly, not looking back at what you had thought, your best friends faces.

The next few days, you felt the build up of tension between you and Peter. Every time he would see you in the hallway, he would give you a stern look before slamming his locker shut, ignoring your distant presence, and go to class. You began to realize your slight crush on him was fading, fast. You couldn’t believe how your two friends could keep anything from you, and Peter couldn’t believe you would be mad at him for something as little as an untold secret. He knew you would never keep anything from him, but this was just too big of a matter.

Or so he thought.

“Call Mr. Stark, Jane” you told your suit, yanking your mask off, revealing your sweaty face in the mirror gazing back at you.

“Calling Tony Stark..” Jane, as you liked to call her, initiated the call to Mr. Stark. You slumped down onto your bed, lying back on your pillow in complete exhaustion from this weeks past events.

“Miss Y/N, what can I do for you today?” Tony’s voice now evident in your ear.

You sat up immediately, wrapping your arm around your bedpost, “Yes, Mr. Stark, I was wondering if you had anything for me to possibly do? I’m very… bored,“ you said hesitantly but confidently, yearning for Tony to give you something to do to take your mind off everything going on around in your ‘normal’ life.

Tony’s breath was steady in the earpiece for a few moments before sighing heavily, "Okay, Miss Y/L/N, I have something, well someone I want you to meet. I’ve been wanting to do this for a while, but haven’t gotten around to it. Another… project.”

Your eyes lit up and your heart quickened at the thought of another superhero, “Yes, Mr. Stark! I would love to! Anything I need to know about this other… project?” you questioned, arms bending down to take off your blue and yellow suit, preparing for the mission.

“Yes, actually. They’re around your age, kind of annoying. Rather… talkative,” he said with slight annoyance in his voice.

You chuckled lightly, “Bye, Mr. Stark see you soon!” you yelled a little too excitedly before ending the call as you quickly shoved your suit into your bag. As soon as your foot hit the door mat, your mind instantly began to wonder into thoughts of this other super-human.

What were they like? Were their powers similar to yours? Not many people can teleport and or telepathically communicate with one another. Were they a guy? Oh god, what if he’s hot? Well, may be nice to have some eye candy your age on missions. What if I know them? Oh, c'mon, that’s almost impossible.Th chances of that happening are like a billion to one.

When you arrived at Stark Tower, Tony leading you to your so called 'mission’, your excitement ran up and down your veins. Your stomach did somersaults ever second as your feet kept a steady pace behind Tony.

Interrupting your thoughts, Tony, turned around to speak to you, still walking, “So, Miss Y/L/N, I have had this in mind for quite some time now. I just thought with being the only two teenagers on the team, if you met someone similar to you, you’d feel more comfortable,” he continued, typing in a pass-code on a tablet as you approached a huge gray door.

“But, you know of Spider-Man, right?” he questioned, eyebrows raised at your nervous gaze. Your eyes widened as the name rolled off his tongue.

“O-Of course, I mean he’s a new legend here,” you attempted to let out calmly as Tony still looked at you. “I had no idea he was so young.”

“Oh yes, he’s your age. That’s who I wanted you to meet today, but not 'Spider-Man’. The character behind the mask.”

Your stomach’s somersaults picked up. Oh my god, Spider-Man is a legend. You were a new trainee, so you looked in awe at this young yet legendary person behind the red mask.

Tony opened one last door, turning to you and stopping once you were inside, “Okay, I’ll send him out here. You stay here,” he smiled slightly at you as your head nodded vigorously in his direction. He walked behind yet another large door to retrieve your new colleague.

Okay, act cool. He’s just someone who’s just like you. Tony may even send you on missions with these boy, so you got this. When he walks in, just stick your hand out politely and say to him, “Hello, I’m-”

“Y/N?”

Your ears instantly heard the familiar sounding voice echo into your ears like something so delicate it would hurt if you didn’t understand what was standing right in front of you. The scratchiness of the tone hit you like a bus, interrupting your thoughts. Slowly yet threateningly, you turned around, glistening brown was what hit you first as your best friend Peter Parker stood in front of you, holding the unrecognizable blue and red suit by his side.

“Oh my god. You’re a superhero?,” you let out, eyes widening at the boy standing in front of you.

Peter blinked rapidly, his mouth barely able to let out any words at your figure holding the blue and yellow suit, “I-I don’t even know what to say.”

You nodded your head in agreement, slowly walking towards him. Your heart rate sped up and your face turned a bright red, due to the fact Peter knew your secret and you know knew his. Your eyes captivated his in a gaze for what felt like years, your breaths now mingling at your close proximity.

You were surprised by your next set of actions. Lifting a hand towards his face, you set it on his face softly, your hands laying on top of his muscular jaw bone, your voice in awe, “I just can’t believe it’s you.”

He smiled softly at your actions, his eyes scanning your face, looking for some kind of explanation. You then realized you now knew what kept you two from talking for a week. Your lips curled into a sly smile, “So, this must have been one big lab Mrs. Smith had to grade.”

His expression switched to a joyful one, reaching forward to wrap his arms around you. You followed him, your arms enveloping him in a bone crushing hug as he muttered in your ear, “You have no idea.”