and yes i have a problem

Before I go to work I wanna address a few things for the haters

YES I’M FAT
YES I HAVE A BOYFRIEND HE LOVES ME FOR ME
HE’S SEEN ME WITHOUT MAKEUP HES SEEN MY NUDES MY FATTY PARTS AND STILL LOVES ME
HE WON’T LEAVE ME
I’M HAPPY WITH HOW I LOOK IM HEALTHY
PLEASE UNFOLLOW ME IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH ME

This Always Happens

Brain: Wouldn’t it be so cute to draw this?

Drawing Ability: If I actually could, yeah

Brain: Okay, what about this?

Drawing Ability: Nuh-uh

Brain: Or this?

Drawing Ability: Nope

Brain: Can you actually draw anything?

Drawing Ability: Yes but not any of your ideas ;)

Brain: -_-

@torgaydowarning (sorry it got cut off when I took a pic ;-;)

But yES
I actually really, really like the Leo Trio as a whole because of all their problems and just….love for each other? I’m not necessarily a shippy person but when it comes to these guys they’re just so fun and good for each other. They all have convoluted pasts that would probably be enough to break them, but they carry each other through it. They respect each other and fuck around and it’s just so lovely to analyze. Very well written characters

anonymous asked:

Hey!! So i was wondering if you could help me out: I'm North African and my hair structure is very... frizzy. I mean, I have curly hair but there's a lot of frizz and flying hair. I usually straighten it but it's just so damaging, and I was wondering what I could use to maintain my curls and not have so much friZz( especially in the scalp area)? I thought maybe you could help me out since you probably know someone with the same problem or even had it yourself?

yes I had this same experience!!

  • probably obvious but I didn’t know until a v nice Latina hairdresser told me: do not brush or comb your hair when it’s dry!! not all hair needs to be brushed every morning! I just brush it (carefully) in the shower when it has conditioner in it and then rinse
  • find a rinse-out conditioner that works for you. most conditioners probably won’t have the moisture content that you need for yr hair & so I recommend using products geared towards natural / black hair if you’re not already. I personally use a rinse-out conditioner for natural hair from cantu and also a leave-in conditioner that I use after I take a shower. you can also do deep-conditioning treatments every month or so
  • dry your hair with an old t-shirt, not a towel (which are too drying and can cause frizz)
  • there are also hair styling creams that you can use–again I’d go with ones geared towards natural hair, but you can always switch if you find them too heavy. I usually don’t bother with these though except for special occasions
  • get a satin bonnet to sleep in or a satin pillowcase

keep in mind that a lot of North African hair just is floofy and flyaway and that’s the way it’s gonna be. these are things that can cut down on damage to your hair and help hold curls together but chances are you’re not going to get rid of frizz entirely and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. a lot of my curls still do dissolve into floof especially towards the back and I think it’s cute

anonymous asked:

there's one big problem i have with the ac games: they always kill my favourite character. Like Federico? Check. Mary? Check. Ziio? Check. I'm playing ac3 at the moment and guess who is my fave character? Yes, OF COURSE it's Haytham... now i don't know what's going to happen but with him being a templar?? And Achilles constantly reminding Connor of his duty to kill him? Yeah I'm screwed... (if I have to kill him myself i'm quitting the bloody franchise i swear to god)

:)) -Mod Connor

i guess another reason i’ve been stressing the importance of fanworks so much - especially fanworks by and about women of color - is also because i’ve been thinking about legacy a lot. This is probably me getting old but I worry a lot that the newer generations of fans of color will enter fannish spaces and think that Discourse and arguing is all they have because Discourse and arguing constitutes 90% of the online archive about characters of color. Yes, it’s absolutely important that younger generations of fans be given the tools to think critically about media, but it’s just as important that they be shown models of fandom creativity. For every post discussing the racism that characters like bonnie bennett or abbie mills faced on their shows and in fandom it’s just as important that there be fics and art where these characters get to have agency, love, development. Fics and art where they get to have real stories. Years down the line if a young brown girls starts watching TVD and falls in love with Bonnie Bennett and feels outraged at her mistreatment in canon, I want them to log on to tumblr or ao3 or ff.net and see that not only did people speak out against this mistreatment, they actively created stories for and about bonnie, stories that are far more creative and expansive than the show could ever hope to be. I’d want younger fans to see that, despite the racism and marginalization we experienced as fans of color, we still created and told stories and made art. That even when white media and racist fans didn’t care, we cared and we told our own stories. And that no matter how the face of fandom and media changes (or doesn’t change) our creative freedom pushed back against the narrow scripts and tired tropes that showrunners tried to force on us. So i guess this is me just wondering out loud: what kind of legacy are we leaving for newer and younger fans? what kind of example do we want to set? what kind of community do we want to model? I’m not perfect by any means, but i just want young fans to know the creative power they have that no one can interrupt or destroy.

anonymous asked:

What angers me the most is when CY's say "SNOW TOLD HER TO USE THE POTION TO SAVE KILLIAN! IT'S SNOW'S FAULT!" like... yes Snow said Hook needed it more than they did (but that's another problem) but... EMMA DIDN'T HAVE TO LISTEN. She should have used it on her parents and they could have all worked together to find Hook.

So, like, 99% of the time, when there’s only so much X and one main character tells their loved one that THEY should take the X and be saved, character B refuses to take it, takes a third option,  and somehow through that refusal they both escape. (Example: Katniss and Peeta at the end of The Hunger Games.) 

I honestly would never expect one of those scenarios to go with Person B saying “Sounds good, see ya!” Even on OUAT…Ruth had to TRICK Snow into taking the last of the healing waters for her own benefit. 

Not Stepford Swan, though. 

anonymous asked:

Whenever a series gets more books after The Couple is finally together, I always worry that one of them will die, or that they will break up, or that the author will introduce another woman/man to cause problems or have one of them cheat. I love getting more time in a world&seeing the characters/couples I love, but I hate Petty Relationship Drama after a couple has already gone through shit to be together...just let them face problems as a team ok? (as you can see I am worried after the SM news)

Petty relationship drama is annoying, yes, but realistic relationship drama is what i live for. Like it makes sense that warnette will face challenges in the next books. It makes sense that we will see them grow and progress, but also, we can’t expect them to be happy all the time? We can’t expect there not to be any drama? I mean there are reasons that authors don’t just write about happy couples who are happy all the time, because that doesn’t make for an interesting read and it isn’t very realistic? Relationships go through ups and downs. 

There’s definitely a difference between petty drama, like introducing another man/woman, and realistic drama. I mean…yes it’s taken warnette a long time to get here, but they’ve been together for a very short amount of time, so I think it’d be odd if they had no problems? I mean i like seeing couples as a team as well….but it really depends on how heavily weighted in romance the next three books are. Warnette can just be happy for 3 more books, if Mafi wants to focus the plot on other things. But if she wants to focus it on romance…than she’ll have to expand the warnette story and throw them some curve balls and drama. Because it’s not interesting to read 3 books about a couple just being happy…unless there’s a lot of other stuff going on. 

I do think that Mafi excels at relationships rather than plot, so I think we *might* need to gear up for some drama tbh. 

anonymous asked:

Hi Sam! My boyfriend and I have had trouble in the past with cheating etc.. right now we are doing better but whenever i think about the future and the idea of having a family with him, it makes me worried. He has some history of psychosis in his family and he himself struggles with aggression problems and lying, i dont know if these things can be passed down to children or if it would be a good idea to start a family with him in general considering the numerous past events of cheating,thoughts?

Yes, mental illness does run in families but this is no guarantee that your children would exhibit these disorders. You either trust or don’t trust. If you can’t trust him then leave now. Building a relationship without trust is like building a house on shifting sand. 

no offense but it’s extremely shitty to say that the concept of a favorite person is abusive or shitty

if you’re using the concept of an fp to be a dick and guilt your fp? yes, that’s a problem.

if you have an fp and you communicate with them and DON’T actively guilt them and you respect their wishes? good! fine! that’s fucking bpd for you.

people with bpd can’t just will away a facet of the disorder. that’s not how it works. we can’t just shut down the feelings. it doesn’t work that way. nor is repressing it going to do anything but make us self-destruct. that’s like telling someone to just stop being depressed. it doesn’t work that way and telling people it’s bad just makes them isolate and self-destruct or wither away.

being aware of the effect it has on others? good. necessary. the existence of the feelings? natural.

communication and respect are essential. working together is essential. so long as your fp is aware and you work things out, and neither of you guilts or tries to control the other, that’s good.

straight up saying the concept of an fp is abusive or shitty? that’s bad. that’s a lack of understanding. that’s like saying “being dependent on others is abusive and shitty.” news flash: it isn’t. it can open up avenues to be shitty, but it isn’t, in itself, bad.

not to mention all the shit i’m seeing about “don’t manipulate others for attention.” literally all human interaction is manipulation: you’re affecting someone else in order to receive a response.

i manipulate others for attention. how? i give away art freebies in exchange for attention and positivity. it’s manipulation and i know it. it’s better than methods i had when i was younger and less aware, but it’s still manipulation, because i’m making people give me attention.

i know there’s different contexts, and i know some manipulation can be bad or abusive. but again, all human interaction is manipulation, and a desire for attention is not abusive. some people treat anything as abusive manipulation if the goal is to get attention, and that’s poor understanding of bpd and a need for attention. “seeking attention is bad” ought to ALWAYS be replaced with “turn to constructive methods if you desire attention.” awareness of attention-seeking is a good thing, and can help one turn to better methods.

i’m tired of people both in and out of the community being so nasty about bpd. like there is no dialogue or nuance, and it’s all “this bpd trait is always bad and abusive”. it’s nasty, and people need to step back and say “okay, people say this is bad, but is it always harmful and can it be helped?” consider those things before coming to a conclusion.

anonymous asked:

I will be honest, I am not the biggest fan of Chris Thorndyke, but the amount of backlash Chris gets just makes me want to reblog and create Chris related content out of spite. I think instead of hating on Chris people should find or create ways to make his character better for them. In my opinion Chris is not a bad character. In fact I love the idea of his character. He was just written and handled poorly.

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Almost done with SAY YES TO THE MARQUESS, and I’m having that problem with romances that I always dread: I like the romantic rival much, much more than the love interest. Piers is a freakin’ secret agent who was killing enemy agents, who comes home after eight years to make good on a long delayed marriage promise? And he’s going gray? Sign me the fuck up for that.

I can so easily chart out a story where he’s the love interest, too–and it can be romantic suspense! A bride left waiting for eight years plans an unconventional life of independence on her own. Her husband-to-be returns after nearly a decade’s absence, weds her, and freely accepts her choices (much to her surprise)–but any bliss they have falls short when all his dark secrets follow him home. The awkward, icy distance between them must be crossed if they’re to survive both the marriage and the enemies that stalk their halls~

DON’T TELL ME THAT SHIT ISN’T COMPELLING

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This is a friend over on Instagrams doing!! She posted a pic of Varric smiling and I had to see what smiling Solas looked like… So yeah! This is what he would look like if he really liked showing us those gnashers… 🤔 I feel very conflicted… Nice to see him smile and all but hmmm…. Also, I think we should all ignore the fact that he looks a bit like Gargamel in the bottom left pic… Yes… As you can see, I have had a very productive morning and got many, many important things done… *pats self on back*

Basically, This is Basically What Every Dr. Phil Episode is Basically Like Basically
  • Dr. Phil: Hello, I am Doctor Philip, and today we'll be tackling an issue that is very widespread, but rarely spoken about. Gaming addiction. Now, I know many of you know at least one person in your life who plays video games, whether that be a child or, in some cases, a spouse.
  • Audience: *laughs*
  • Dr. Phil: But, when unregulated, gaming can lead to serious addiction. Today I have with me a mother who's home life has been torn apart as her very own son descended into gaming addiction.
  • Mother: *sniffing and wiping tears away* Hello, doctor. Will you cure my son?
  • Dr. Phil: Well, dear, that's... uhh. Let's just bring the boy out already.
  • *dramatic music plays*
  • Gamer: My name is Gregg, I'm 19 years old, I'm a gaming addict, and I don't give a f*ck.
  • Audience: *gasps*
  • Gamer: Yeah, I game for 19 to 20 hours a day and the other four hours I use for looking up sick gaming strats or beating it to anime porn. I once sucked off a dude because he offered me minecraft diamonds. I don't give a sh*t, I would've sucked him off even if he didn't have the diamonds.
  • Audience: *gasps louder*
  • Gamer: Do I hate women? Yes, I hate women. I've emailed Anita Sarkeesian my address. She knows where I am if she wants to fight me. Feminists, square the fuck up. People always ask why I don't do anything other than gaming. I ask them why don't they mind their own f*cking business. I don't think I have a problem. Dr. Phil can honestly eat my whole an*s.
  • Gamer: *walks out onto the stage*
  • Audience: *boos*
  • Gamer: F*ck all y'all! I don't give a f*ck! *flips off the audience*
  • Dr. Phil: Please take a seat, son.
  • Gamer: *sits very disrespectfully*
  • Mother: *starts bawling*
  • Dr. Phil: Son, do you think that was acceptable behavior?
  • Gamer: The only behavior I care about is the behavioral patterns for enemies in the S.T.A.L.K.E.R. series. I love video games: Master chief, Mario, uhm, Blinx the Cat... Blasto. Love those guys!
  • Audience: *boos*
  • Gamer: I don't care! You think I care! F*ck all y'all!
  • Dr. Phil: All these people are booing you, doesn't that make you feel bad?
  • Gamer: Are you deaf? Have I not articulated the fact that I absolutely 100% do not care about anything except for video games? I. DON'T. GIVE. A. F*CK.
  • Mother: He's always like this, there's no changing him. It didn't used to be this way... just *starts bawling harder*
  • Dr. Phil: I think there is a way to change him, and we'll find out more about that after these messages.
  • *Dr. Phil theme plays*
  • *The lights dim and every goes empty eyed and slack-jawed*
  • Gamer: Heh, this is weird. *nudges mom and whispers to her* Hey, we're getting paid for this, right. Hey, mom? ...Mom?
  • Mother: *completely unresponsive*
  • Dr. Phil: *completely unresponsive*
  • Audience: *completely unresponsive*
  • Gamer: Heh... this is REALLY weird. *looks around nervously*
  • Audience member: Hey!
  • Gamer: Huh?
  • Audience Member: I'm in the audience! Over here! My arms are strapped to the chair! You have to help me!
  • Gamer: *runs to the audience member*
  • Audience Member: Thank god, I thought I was the only one here left with any brains.
  • Gamer: *hastily undoing the straps* What the fuck is going on?
  • Audience Member: I don't know, but this definitely isn't Dr. Phil's show.
  • Gamer: Then what is it?
  • Audience Member: No clue, but we have to get out of here before the commercial breaks ends.
  • Gamer: *successfully undoes the straps*
  • Audience Member: C'mon! Let's go. *grabs the gamer by the arm*
  • Gamer: *resists* Wait a fucking minute. Why am I supposed to trust you?
  • Audience Member: Because I'm normal and everyone else is braindead if you haven't noticed.
  • Gamer: Yeah, but I'm not going anywhere until I know what's going on. Being on Dr. Phil is a huge opportunity for me to, y'know, advertise my brand. I'm a gamer if you haven't noticed.
  • Audience Member: Are you insane? Have you had a look around you? Does this anything happening right now seem normal to you? Who cares about your "brand". Do you even remember how you got here?
  • Gamer: Well... now that you mention, I can't really remember exactly.
  • Audience Member: Yeah, now let's get the fuck out of here.
  • *the gamer and audience member run through the back exit into the hallways*
  • *the Dr. Phil theme blares as the show returns from commercial break*
  • Gamer: My ears!
  • Audience Member: Move it! *jerks gamer's arm*
  • Gamer: Okay, calm down.
  • *the entire audience screams in unison*
  • Gamer: What the fuck is that!?
  • Audience Member: It's the reason we're running! Quick, in here!
  • *the duo duck into a cramped broom closest*
  • Gamer: Listen, you have to tell me what the fuck is going on right now!
  • Audience Member: Shh.
  • Gamer: Don't shush me!
  • Audience Member: *covers the gamer's mouth*
  • *agonized screaming and violently rumbling passes by the broom closest*
  • Gamer: Holy shit!
  • Audience Member: Stop yelling.
  • Gamer: How can I not yell when it sounds the gates of hell just passed by us!
  • Audience Member: You want it to turn back around and find us?
  • Gamer: Alright. I'll calm down... I'll. *start sobbing*
  • Audience Member: Please, please stop crying. You're too loud.
  • Gamer: I can't! I'm under a lot of stress!
  • Audience Member: You'll be dead if you don't shut the fuck.
  • Gamer: I never wanted any of this, I just wanted to go on Dr. Phil so people would recognize me on YouTube and I could become a popular Let's Player!
  • Audience Member: If you don't shut up right now, I'll-
  • *a snake bites the audience member's neck*
  • Audience Member: *eyes roll up*
  • Gamer: *screams like a baby*
  • *snakes slither under the closet door*
  • Gamer: *stumbles out of the closet and falls into hallway covered with snakes* Fuck me! Fuck me!
  • Gamer: *attempts to run away but falls beneath the snakes and into and empty void*
  • *agonized screaming echoes from all around*
  • Gamer: Am I in hell? I have to be in hell. You don't fall through a pool of snakes and wind up anywhere else but hell.
  • Dr. Phil: THERE IS NO HELL.
  • Gamer: Doc, is that you? If this isn't hell then where am I?
  • Dr. Phil: YOU'RE IN MY REALM SON. *Dr. Phil's face appears glowing in the distance, his eyes are empty sockets and his mouth hangs open*
  • Gamer: What the fuck are you?
  • Dr. Phil: I'M DOCTOR PHILIP.
  • Gamer: You're not Dr. Phil!
  • Dr. Phil: I NEVER SAID I WAS, SON. *a wall of gray human bodies lights up surrounding Dr. Phil's massive head, dr. phil's giant snake body slithers towards the gamer and opens its third eye* I'M DOCTOR PHILIP.
  • *the wall of bodies screams in unison as Dr. Phil devours the gamer*
  • *Dr. Phil theme plays loudly*
  • Dr. Phil: THE NEXT EPISODE IS STARTING. I'M LATE. *slithers into the wall of bodies and his snake body slowly transforms into a normal Dr. Phil's body*
  • Dr. Phil: *crawls onto the stage*
  • Dr. Phil: *dusts himself off* Woo, I went on quite an adventure.
  • Audience: *laughs*
  • Dr. Phil: I'm glad we can all find some time in our lives to laugh, but today's episode is covering something that is most certainly not a laughing matter. It's one of the most serious addictions striking America today and it's rarely talked about. I'm talking about people who love to pee on their mattresses and then pay people exorbitant amounts of money to suck their disgusting mattresses clean.
  • Audience: ... *someone clears their throat*
  • Dr. Phil: What's the matter?
  • Cameraguy: Spsss, Doc. That's not what the episode is about. It's about people with terrible gambling issues.
  • Dr. Phil: Oh, ah, fuck! Cut to commercial!

Don’t invade people’s personal space because you ship them with someone. It’s rude and invasive and makes them uncomfortable (even if the ship is real). Ship from a distance and don’t harass your idols. Please and thank you.

I AM SO OVERWHELMED BY THE FEELINGS IN MY HEART RIGHT NOW. MY TINY HEART IS TOO TINY FOR THIS NONSENSE LIKE WHAT IN THE FUCK

EMMA IS MAKING FUCKING PANCAKES

IN A ROBE AND WE ALL FUCKING KNOW WHAT HAPPENED THE NIGHT BEFORE WHILE KILLIAN WALKS UP BEHIND HER IN AN UNBUTTONED VEST WHICH LBR IS BASICALLY HIM BEING NAKED LIKE THE NUMBER OF LAYERS ON THIS MAN AT ALL TIMES IS ABSURD BUT LIKE

THIS IS TOO MUCH. I CANNOT LOOK DIRECTLY AT IT.

THIS IS LIKE THE FUCKING SUN. I AM BLINDED BY THE JOY AND THE HAPPINESS AND THE CONTENTMENT AND THE WAY HE’S GRINNING INTO HER SKIN AND THE WAY SHE BITES HER LIP. THIS IS AHHHHHHHHH MAKE IT STOP

AND SHE LIKE FUCKING POUNCES ON HIM AND HER HANDS DON’T FUCKING STOP MOVING AND HER LIPS ARE SO INSISTENT AND 

SHE KEEPS FUCKING PULLING HIM CLOSER AND CLOSER AND WHAT T H E F U C KKKKK I CANNOT HANDLE THIS EVEN A LITTLE

ALSO CAN WE TALK ABOUT HOW WILD HER HAIR IS? SHE CLEARLY JUST WOKE UP AND CAME DOWN TO MAKE THEM BOTH PANCAKES BECAUSE THEY MUST BE STARVING AND HE GOT DRESSED HALF WAY AND CAME DOWN TO FIND HER WHEN HE SMELLED ALL THE NICE THINGS AND THEN HE SEES HER WITH HER HAIR ALL WILD AND HER FACE ALL FRESH AND GLOWY AND HAPPY AND WHO CAN BLAME HIM FOR WANTING TO KISS HER OK?

OK BUT WHAT KILLS ME THE DEADEST IS THAT SHE PULLS AWAY JUST SO SHE CAN LOOK AT HIM. CLEARLY SHE WANTS TO KEEP KISSING HIM BUT IN THAT MOMENT, SHE NEEDS SO SEE HIS FACE, TO SEE AGAIN HOW MUCH HE LOVES HER AND WHAT SHE HAS NOW AND I CANNOT LOOK AT HIS SMILE THIS IS TOO MUCH *SHIELDS EYES*

GUYS, GUYS, GUYS. I THINK SHE LOVES HIM.

AND I THINK HE LOVES HER.

SHE’S SO FUCKING HAPPY AND SHE LOOKS SO YOUNG HERE AND SO HAPPY AND IN LOVE AND SHE LOVES HIM SO MUCH OMG

HE CAN’T BELIEVE IT EITHER BECAUSE WHO WOULD HAVE FUCKING THOUGHT RIGHT? 

AND THEN SHE’S LIKE FUCK WAIT MUST GET BACK TO THE KISSING. HE’S SO GOOD AT THE KISSING. MUST TOUCH SOFT LIPS AGAIN.

AND UGH IT STARTS SO SOFT BUT PICKS UP SO FUCKING QUICK LIKE WTF AND HE JUST RESPONDS WITHOUT MISSING A BEAT LIKE THIS IS TOO MUCH FOR ME BECAUSE THEY LOVE EACH OTHER AND WANT EACH OTHER SO MUCH, IT MAKES MY HEART MELT ALSO SEEING THAT RING ON HER FINGER IS HURTING MY EYES AGAIN.

THE HANDS, THE HANDSSSSSS

WILL NO ONE THINK OF THE POOR FANGIRLS?! WHY WOULD YOU KISS THIS WAY?! WITH THE FRANTIC PULLING EACH OTHER CLOSER AND THE HANDS THAT WON’T STOP TOUCHING. WHY WOULD YOU HURT ME THIS WAY YOU ASSHOLES?!

I CAN’T TAKE IT BECAUSE THEY’RE SMILING THE ASSHOLES DO THEY NOT KNOW WHAT THIS IS DOING TO MY SMALL TINY HEART?!

TO HELL WITH THE PANCAKES. YASSS EMMA, YASSSSS.

AND SHE FUCKING PUSHES HIM INTO THE TABLE AND SHE’S PROBABLY BETWEEN HIS LEGS RIGHT NOW AND HIS HAND IS RUNNING UP AND DOWN HER BACK AND HIS HOOK IS HOLDING HER STEAD BECAUSE SHE CANNOT STOP MOVING HER HANDS

AND LIKE FUCKING SOMEONE HAS TO KEEP THEM FROM FALLING ONTO THE TABLE BUT BY THE LOOKS OF IT, EMMA TOTALLY WANTS KILLIAN TO FALL ONTO HIS BACK RIGHT THERE OK?! LIKE NOPE LET’S JUST DO THE DO RIGHT HERE. SMOOSHING BOOTIES ON THE DINING TABLE.

AND LOL THE SHOCK! THEY’RE SO DAZED THIS IS HILARIOUS

AND KILLIAN SAYING LIKE OH YOUR MOTHER HAS A KEY. THAT’S GOOD INFORMATION. YES OK. TRY TO CALM DOWN NOW.

THE SHOCK AND THE WIDE EYES LOLOLOL

BUT OK I FUCKING LOVE HOW EMMA JUST LOOKS AMUSED PRETTY MUCH THROUGH THIS WHOLE EXCHANGE BECAUSE THOUGH SHE REALLY, REALLY WANTS TO DO THE DO WITH HER FIANCE IN THEIR HOUSE (WHAT THE FUCK HOW DID WE GET HERE FROM CLIMBING A BEANSTALK TOGETHER ONE TIME FUCK FUCK FUCKKKK) 

SHE NEVER THOUGHT SHE’S HAVE THIS EITHER? HER MOTHER ACCIDENTALLY WALKING IN ON THEM AND LIKE IT’S LIKE EMBARRASSING OR WHATEVER BUT SHE’S JUST SO FUCKING HAPPY TO HAVE ALL THIS IN HER LIFE NOW? THESE MOMENTS OF PEACE AND LOVE AND SILLINESS

AND LOL SHE’S LIKE NOOOO AND KILLIAN IS LIKE HAHAHA YES WE WERE ABOUT TO BANG YOUR MAJESTY. I HAVE A SERIOUS PROBLEM RN LOL ALSO I LOVE THAT THOUGH SNOW IS RIGHT THERE, EMMA STRAIGHT UP DOEAN’T MOVE FOR FUCKING AGES AND JUST KEEPS RUNNING HER HANDS OVER KILLIAN’S SHOULDERS, SOOTHING HIM  AND TOUCHING HIM STILL AND KILLIAN’S HAND DOESN’T MOVE FROM HER WAIST EITHER

LIKE DESPITE THE DISCOMFORT, IT’S ALSO SUCH A COMFORTABLE MOMENT?! IT’S SO DOMESTIC AND ORDINARY AND EMMA IS STILL STROKING KILLIAN’S ARM HERE AND I AM IN SO MUCH PAIN *CRIES TEARS OF BLOOD* AND THEY ONLY FUCKING STAND WHEN SNOW IS LIKE UMM PANCAKES LOLOL

AND THIS ASSHOLE LOLOLOL HE IS SO UNAMUSED. I’VE LOST MY APPETITE. BRACING FUCKING SHOWER HE SAYS  LOLOLOL

THIS CHEEK KISS, THE PANCAKES, THE KILLIAN’S HAND ON HER WAIST AGAIN. THE DOMESTICITY OF IT ALL

LOOK HOW HAPPY SHE IS. DO YOU SEE IT? DO YOU SEE THE JOY IN HER EYES?! SHE’S SO HAPPY GODDAMNIT

*THROWS ALL THE THINGS*

THIS IS TOO MUCH. I CANNOT HANDLE THIS. FUCKING FUCK FUCKKK

Queerbaiting in BBC Sherlock

Note: Before you label me as a ‘butthurt LGBTQ fan’ (as if such a thing even exists), I’m straight. Because apparently that makes my opinion valid now.

What is queerbaiting? 

There’s a pretty wide definition, actually, but the one that’s most relevant here is: it’s when you make very heavy references to queer relationships or even queer characters in your shows, but then you never follow through on these references. It’s done to increase viewership and draw LGBTQ fans in (because of the promise of positive representation). So basically, it’s a marketing technique, but a harmful one.

Why is queerbaiting harmful?

Think of it this way. You’re gay/bi/a lesbian, and people around you aren’t very accepting or are plain homophobic. You see these two men on TV, and you start thinking…wait, it looks like they’re in love. You go online and realize that you’re not the only one reading the show in this way - there are literally thousands of other people interpreting it the same way. So you tell everyone around you, look at these two men. They’re gay and in love, and this is a popular TV show, and it means that my sexuality and my feelings are valid, and there’s nothing wrong with how I feel. Everyone laughs at you and says “Nope, they aren’t in love. You’re delusional.” 

You think, okay, let them laugh. When this becomes cannon, they’ll know. The queer subtext is all there, and the writers wouldn’t dare not follow through on it, right? But sadly, the queer subtext remains just that: subtext. And suddenly all the homophobes around you stand validated.

But there’s no gay subtext in BBC Sherlock. It’s just a wishful ship.

Wrong. I’m not saying that everyone has to ship Johnlock, but no matter what you ship, you can’t deny the gay subtext in this show. People have written thousands of words worth of meta about it - and it all makes perfect sense. (I believe @inevitably-johnlocked has a master list - or she can link you to one). There are videos decoding all the gay subtext -  let’s take the example of TJLC Explained - 48 videos, and they add up to a total time of 37 hours, 49 minutes and 41 seconds - each one decoding a different aspect of the gay subtext in BBC Sherlock. Apart from the TJLC Explained series, there are a lot of other videos doing the same thing. Sure, a small number of such videos and meta are a little far-fetched, but the majority of them are well-referenced, well-written, and properly decode the various literary tropes used by BBC Sherlock. (Like, seriously, kudos to this fandom for being the absolute best meta-writers I have ever seen. You could turn half of these metas in as proper college essays.)

But the writers and BBC have said that there is no gay subtext.

The problem isn’t even so much with Johnlock not becoming cannon - it’s with the way Mofftiss and BBC have responded to being called out for their bullshit. Yes, they did a complete 180 around the time of season 4, saying “that is not the story we want to tell” and “it has never been implied that John and Sherlock are in love”. When so many people, literally thousands, are reading your show the exact same way, it’s because you put the subtext in there. Saying anything else is an insult to our intelligence - and again, it’s blatant queerbaiting and feeding heteronormativity and straight culture.

*yawn* Heteronormativity and straight culture are myths.

In His Last Vow, if Sherlock had come back to life for Molly or Irene Adler, everyone would insist that he’s in love with them. There would be no question about it. He came back to life for John, but him and John are eternal bros, right?

That, my friend, is heteronormativity right there.

Basically, you’re bitter that your ship didn’t become canon. 

LOL. Read above^ you think anyone would put in this much effort just because ‘their ship didn’t become canon’? The Johnlock community is literally comprised of people of all ages, sexualities, nationalities, and genders. So honestly, pegging us as ‘horny teenage fangirls’ - bit ridiculous. We aren’t waving flags and going around yelling “It’s gay because they looked at each other!”, we’re actually ANALYZING and DECODING the show. Before you label us, go read some meta, then tell us we’re still delusional for believing Johnlock could be real.

Besides, I don’t see such an uproar happening about hetero ships. You know why? Because they have representation, whereas LGBTQ representation in media is still severely lacking.

But artists have the right to do what they want with their art. 

Of course they do, but if my art offended an entire sect of society, I think I’d at least apologize, instead of blatantly denying everything and insulting the people who called me out for my bullshit. 

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