and with this post i lose respect of all the social justice bloggers. all of them


i’ve seen a lot of people make posts talking about how It Gets Better is bad, like really bad, and the message it sends is bad and its useless and awful, and the people in charge of it are also awful

while maybe the message of privileged white people telling everyone that it got better for them is something you dont see as effective and good and powerful of a message as it could be, other people might be helped a lot by it

and if a privelaged white gay person saying that their life got better eventually helps someone, makes them want to live through to see if it actually does get better, to not kill themselves, or even just the courage to come out and tell people and lift the weight of it off their shoulders

then to me its far from useless, ok

yes it doesn’t cover every identity and orientation under the sun and every trouble a kid might have about themselves while growing up and in that sense, yes, the message is quite useless for a gay person to be telling you that it got better for them when your problem is that you’re not gay, you’re one of the many many other complicated orientations or identities or some other things i don’t understand 

don’t dismiss the entire thing because it doesn’t cover every area a LGBT organization should cover or even if “It gets better” does absolutely nothing to help you personally, because while that may be true it could very well mean the world to someone else and in that sense it’s a very good thing


anonymous asked:

Thank you for explaining what katblaque was trying to say, without sounding like an arrogant "know it all" asshole. Tact and diplomacy go a long way and maybe one day that'll be conveyed in her arguments. Your writing helped me understand a lot.

I’m glad you were able to understand my point. I’m always glad when people understand racism. 

That said, I’m WHITE.  I’ve studied race theory along with other social justice theories as an undergrad as part of a thematic pre-law minor because I hoped to become a civil rights lawyer. In law school I was Vice-President of our chapter of the ACLU, and studied law with an eye towards civil rights. I’m very informed on these matters as an advocate - BUT these are not MY experiences and I will never be as qualified to discus them as a black person. 

Some might say, because I’m not part of a marginalized group I shouldn’t say anything at all, because we don’t need white people speaking over or speaking for minorities. 

The reason I said anything on that post was because I disagreed with her stance on bullying because I feel there should legal redress against bullying (i.e. if a kid is “bullied to death” the parents should be able to sue the school) so I don’t sign on to “suicide is their choice” because I think it can be driven, and that you can find liability (again, my background is law and policy). So the point of my post was treat bullying the same as any other assault, without disputing katblaque‘s entirely correct argument. 

It’s easy to have tact and diplomacy when it’s not your own experiences being minimized. It’s not a black person’s job to educate you on racism, let alone without getting angry. 

I’ve made it my job to educate people I’ve chosen to be an advocate, to argue cases, and to fight injustice. (You know Privilege theory? Coined by a white scholar - not made up by black people - it’s meant to be a tool for white people to realize how racist the world they live in is and push for change). As a white person, it’s easy for me to say - HEY OTHER WHITE PEOPLE STOP 

And because I am white people are more likely to listen to me. You may say it’s about tone, but how many time ares minorities written off as taking things too personally, or having a victim complex. The fact that I will be given more legitimacy, than someone talking about their own lived experiences is really messed up.

katblaque is a really great person. She’s a social justice scholar as much as I am, and she’s chosen to educate others through videos that are very clear and tactful. Honestly, she’s probably one of the most patient bloggers I’ve seen on tumblr, and I respect the heck out of her for that. Because it’s pretty hard to lose patients when again and again over and over you try to explain what racism means to people who are stuck on a pre-school level understanding (hating someone for the color of their skin is wrong) when that limited understanding obscures the real, huge, pervasive issue of institutionalized socially ingrained racism. 

I applaud Katblaque for her patience, I recommend her videos to everyone, and shouldn’t need me to or any other white person to explain racism to you, you should listen to the black person, they understand it, I promise.