and we read so much of it

(2/2) “It’s very difficult to talk about adoption on the Internet. No matter what you say, somebody will say the opposite. We adopted Axel last January. He had spent three years in the orphanage. The staff loved him and were desperate to find him a family. We were the only ones on the list for an older child. We knew it was going to be difficult. I had read a lot of literature on the difficulties of overcoming early neglect. And we’re making progress. We’re teaching him that our home is a permanent home. We are learning that touch is a good thing. We are learning that hugs can make you feel better. And I’m learning to not put so much pressure on myself. At first we felt so much pressure to love him. It would hurt me when he didn’t want to be hugged. I wanted to immediately love him as much as our biological son. And I felt guilty because it wasn’t happening right away. But then I stopped pressuring myself. My husband and I decided to focus on basics. We focused on providing food, shelter, and education. And once we stopped pressuring ourselves to feel a certain way, we discovered that we already loved him quite a bit. It’s a rollercoaster. But I feel like we’re heading up. Adopting an older child is difficult, but every child is difficult. My biological child was difficult. Only this time, after several months, I’m sleeping through the night, my boobs don’t hurt, and I don’t smell like diapers. So I feel like I should be doing a victory dance.”

(Santiago, Chile)

anonymous asked:

poetry book recs, kind sir?

ooooooh YES!! 

ok so I’m going to leave out stuff that’s Too Obvious, which means a lot of this is niche (to me) or contemporary, and… I recently had a canary on twitter about how much ~*~modern~*~ poetry GETS MY GOAT. I’m reading a lot of New poets/collections this year purely because I… didn’t really read that much contemporary stuff before, and I thought I should branch out. (so far I’m dubious.) so, yes – obviously Plath, Blake, Hughes, Sappho, Eliot, Keats, Shelley, etc. etc. ad nauseum, The Greats, yadda yadda, here’s some others.

so far this year I’ve read (and ENJOYED - I’m not reccing the ones I wasn’t into/thought were pants, soz): 

  • Letters From Medea by Salma Deera
  • Grief Is the Thing with Feathers by Max Porter
  • Hold Your Own by Kate Tempest (I actually LOVED this) 
  • Mouthful of Forevers by Clementine von Radics

I’ve also read and loved:

  • Teaching My Mother How to Give Birth by Warsan Shire
  • The Melancholy Death of Oyster Boy by Tim Burton
  • The Curse of the Vampire’s Socks and Other Doggerel by Terry Jones
  • Love Poems by Carol Ann Duffy
  • Let Us Compare Mythologies by Leonard Cohen

my personal 10/10 all-time go-tos are:

  • Crush by Richard Siken (despite appearing on every single tumblr graphic between 2011 and 2013, it still gets me in the heart guts)
  • The World’s Wife by Carol Ann Duffy (which I have loved wholeheartedly since I was 17 years old)
  • pretty much any collection of Great War poetry: Up the Line to Death, Men Who March Away, Lads: Love Poetry of the Trenches (the Great War poets are my favourite. like, of all poetry, ever)

my favourite individual poems, as we’re on the subj, are: 

finally, a heads up: youtube literally anything by Brave New Voices, sit back, prepare to be Shook. ‘Transcript of Civil Rights’ by Shanita Jackson and Dakota Oder still DESTROYS ME five years later.

THERE YA GO. not much, but not nothing! enjoy!! maybe?!?

anonymous asked:

I live on campus in a house with both guys& girls and one night my friends had ppl over and this guy that I hook up with was there & we left to go back to his room but went to the public bathroom instead. we started making out, I sat on top of the sink and he fingered me till I was soaked. He started fucking me so hard and covering my mouth bc I was moaning so much. There was a knock on the door &he slowly kept fucking me and was talkin to his friend from outside the door. It was so hot

Have you ever thought about how much time David Duchovny probably spent with making sure that Gillian Anderson doesn’t fall…

anonymous asked:

Would you mind writing one of your little AUs for got7's jinyoung? (Only if you got enough time !! I don't wanna stress you or keep you from learning for school or smth else!!!!!) I really adore you and your scenarios and hope that you enjoy writing them as much as I enjoy reading them 💐💌💕💕!!!!

you’re so sweet, thank you !!~~

  • amusement park!au with jinyoung 
  • in which he gets dragged along, by bambam and yugyeom, and you get dragged along by your friends
  • and it’s like,,,,you don’t know each other but somehow you’re now in line????? for the biggest roller coaster you’ve ever seen in your life?????? with three upside down loops????? and a drop that looks like a heart attack waiting to happen???
  • and jinyoung is like “ill sit this one ou-” but yugyeom is like nO we,,,bought all day passes  we cannot let them go to WASTE and bambam is just dying to see jinyoung scream
  • and jinyoung,,,,,,,,,wants to be a responsible Adult and not smack yugyeom upside the head so he’s like fine whatever,,,,,,and yugyeoms like hMMM ARE YOU SCARED and jinyoung is like WHAT NO FIGHT ME RIGHT NOW YOU CHILD
  • and your friends also pestered and annoyed you into coming on the line
  • but when it’s finally your turns,,,,bambam and one of your friends gets paired together while yugyeom and your other friend are next 
  • and somehow you end up sitting next to ever handsome,,,,,,,look like his eyes might pop out of his head jinyoung
  • and you don’t know his name and he doesn’t know yours but you can feel the mutual “oh fuck what did i get myself into” vibe going on 
  • and you’re like “,,,,,,im guessing you were forced onto this?”
  • and jinyoung swallows and nods and you’re like “friends are the worst,,,,”
  • and as the ride jerks into motion you’re trying to focus on not like passing out when suddenly you feel someone grab your hand
  • and you turn to see the boy next to you,,,,eyes closed shut to the point where wrinkles are forming around them and his lips are pursed and you kinda,,,,,,wanna laugh because he looks silly
  • but then you notice you’ve reached the top of the first drop and before the laugh can escape you, your squeezing his hand back in fear and you’re screaming as  the ride picks up speed
  • and jinyoung is squeezing your hand back and refusing to open his eyes
  • and you’re both like trying to hold onto your lives while bambam and yugyeom and your friends are throwing their hands up having a Grand Old Time
  • and somehow you make it out alive
  • but when you’re off the ride, you notice how you and the boy are still holding hands and it’s because you’re both in too much shock to let go
  • and when you finally do, after walking off the ride he’s like ‘o ,h,,,,im sorry!!!!’ and immediately bows after letting go and he introduces himself as jinyoung and you say your name too and he’s like how rude of me,,,,to just hold your hand without even knowing your name
  • and you’re like jinyoung it’s fine we were both literally ghosts of ourselves on that ride and he’s like touche
  • and you’re both talking and bambam is elbowing yugyeom like,,,,,hey,,,,,,,,,look at those two
  • and your friends are grinning too and you and jinyoung don’t even notice
  • because he’s like “let me get you snack for all your trouble!” and you’re like “i don’t think i could eat after that, how about some soda?” and he’s like deal! and you guys completely forget about yugbam + your friends because hey,,,,,cute boy offering to buy you something
  • and bambam is like “i bet you this is gonna turn into a date real fast.”
  • yugyeom: “jinyoung isn’t smooth enough for that”
  • yugyeom,,,,,,,,,how wrong you are,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,hehe 

RAVIOLI - ashol birb champion

Well it’s been a while hasn’t it?  I’ve been drawing quite a bit through these past few months (mostly through pages and pages and files and files of scribbles and doodles though) but not really uploading anything here.  I hope to change that (how many times have I said that?!) so here is a drawing I did of @sonicmega‘s character from the new Zelda game, which I have been playing to death.  This guy is a dick but I love him (Revali that is.  His VA is the nicest)  Wanted to experiment on the style since there’s been so much Zelda fanart out recently and after watching the new gorillaz video I really wanted to do something lineless so here we are!  Thanks for reading my rambles. ^-^

the dregs as texts i've sent
  • kaz: my brother was in my dream last night i woke up cryin bc he told me im always in his way in life and he wishes i were dead so i told him to just strangle me next time
  • inej: id literally rather die than read a single page abt entitled white men
  • nina: actualy i can cause so much more pain i just choose not to bc i have a fragile heart
  • matthias: i came to talk to yall for once and u know what? im leaving
  • jesper: honestly ive aged four decades since i graduated high school
  • wylan: this just in: im gay as fuck
  • (bonus) kuwei: none of us [asked for this life] yet here we are all of us quietly suffering thru our own miseries
read this cuteness

ok, i feel the need to post this because it was so adorable. there are these two boys in my science class and i ship them SO MUCH. they flirt with and stare at each other all class. one of them has longer hair, and the other one plays with it and they are just perfect for each other. a few days ago, we were working in groups at lab tables and they were HOLDING HANDS UNDER THE TABLE. i almost cried. they were sitting on one side of the table and the girl they were working with was on the other, and she had no clue. she (from what i’ve seen) has a huge crush on one of them, and i felt bad because she had no idea that they were doing that, and they were making little inside jokes and references that she didn’t understand. anyway, my school doesn’t really “allow” gay anything, so im just proud of these boys for being together. sorry i made you read this, it’s not johnlock, but me and my friend were fangirling over them all day.

Dating Tyler while you're in college

-he’d try not to text you while you’re at school but it gets kinda hard because he misses you so much
-he memorized your schedule
-so he knows when we can text you and not take your attention away from your lecture
-sometimes he comes to your campus to eat lunch with you
-he’ll help you study best he can even if he has no clue as to what he’s reading
-rewards you when you get good grades on your exams and papers
-if you get good score on your midterms and finals he really goes all out with the rewards
-nice dinners, gifts, special alone time *wink wonk*

✦send me requests or ideas for headcanons or imagines✦

Originally posted by notsogrumpy-curls

I REALLY hope people take this the right way. I feel like a small portion of people might misunderstand or have a kneejerk reaction to this and think that Jack’s saying he’s tired of interacting or wants us to back up for a while, but I don’t think that’s the case.

Quite the opposite, in fact. I think Jack’s saying that he wants to do everything he can to make sure he’s genuinely engaged when he’s interacting with us rather than just clicking like arbitrarily without actually reading or looking at posts. And that he doesn’t want to become so inerred to the constant praise and/or serious personal stories that it stops making him feel anything or drives him to a point where he doesn’t care about fans individually and we all just become a blob. It seems to me that he cares so much that he’s horrified about the possibility of not caring, if that makes sense.

But what that means is that he can’t be up to his neck in tumblr and twitter and comments every single day. Not because he doesn’t enjoy it or want to do it, but because pure psychology and human nature decree that overexposure breeds apathy and numbness. If he buries himself in constant interaction and fan service, he’ll eventually reach a branching point where he either gets exhausted/stops feeling it and quits that stuff or he turns into a machine that likes and reblogs and comments meaninglessly out of habit or uninspired desire to be likeable. That’s just a fact, and he couldn’t help it at that point, regardless of how genuine he is at heart.

So I’m glad he understands and acknowledges that concept now and wants to try to avoid that. If he needs to take breaks or whatever sometimes in order to stay emotionally connected or to add life to his future interactions, then that’s OK. It’s good, actually. It’s nearly impossible for public figures to remain grounded and actually give a shit about fans/fan creations. It’s unlikely that any public figure can maintain compassion and/or interaction for their entire career. So whatever balance Jack needs to take or actions he needs to make for himself and to push that potential burn out further into the future… I wholeheartedly support and appreciate. The nice thing is I think most everyone else here will too. We’re a pretty rad community.

I want @therealjacksepticeye to stick around in his career and be happy with it for as long as humanly possible, so whatever helps that and him is something I can 100% get behind.

I love this girl so much. Her continued devotion, still rocking the merch long after all the other kids have given it up. Still telling them to shut up and stop reading the sun when they tell her it’s all over, and the boys hate each other. Inside that bag is a 1D lunch box, with a 1D water bottle, and a 1D notepad with 1D pens, along with her Harry Styles colouring book. Bless her ❤


Chip??? Why no chip??

Working as a cashier I slowly realized how many people don’t know how to swipe a credit card. The grocery store I work at has card machines that don’t read the chip on cards even though they have the card slot, and each one has a big sign that says “No Chip Just Slide”. Even then at least 100+ times a day all the cashiers get asked “chip or swipe?!?”. At this point we all just say swipe and some people don’t know how to do that! They swipe the card upside down or with the black band facing the wrong way. One guy even told me “omg I use the chip so much I forgot how to swipe!!!”. Some customers don’t even ask they just straight up rip the sign off the machine and try to stick their card in. Now it’s become an inside joke among the cashiers and whenever one of us goes to buy something before we pay we ask “chip??do you take chip??but I have a chip??” We might laugh it off this way but it really gets on your nerves.

okmeamithinknow  asked:

45-49 for Nessian.

45. Who is more likely to get drunk?

Hmm I think Cassian? But he’s never like…that much more than tipsy to be honest, he knows his limits. Nesta just…doesn’t like losing herself that much? She’ll maybe have a glass of wine with dinner but never any more than that? I don’t actually see either of them being that much of a drinker now. Cassian might have been when he was younger but not any more? 

46. Who has the longer food order?

Cassian typically. But usually it’s less a food order and more like…him showing off what he’s cooked? So this is what he reads out when he’s presenting Nesta with dinner at nights? It’s this very long, very intense, very flowery way of presenting it and she just ‘Cassian it’s chicken and potatoes. We’re having chicken and potatoes.’ Cassian is offended. But when they’re out Nesta’s is maybe longer because I think she’d be a pickier eater than Cassian? If it’s well cooked Cassian will eat pretty much anything, there are very few things he doesn’t like, Nesta is fussier. 

47. Who has the more complex coffee order?

Nesta but that’s only because she actually does it properly Cassian just: ‘Coffee.’ ‘What kind?’ ‘Coffee kind.’ ‘…What flavour?’ ‘Coffee flavour.’ ‘You don’t want anything else with-’ ‘Just coffee.’ ‘But-’ ‘Coffee.’ Nesta asks for ‘the one with all the foamy shit’ according to Cassian. (it always gives her a little foam moustache when she drinks it and that makes Cassian’s day every time..which is why she never tries to stop it happening) 

48. Who loses stuff?

Hmm. Cassian will lose more general things around the house like his keys or his wallet because he does not have a Place to put them (this is why we have a dish Cassian!!!! just put them in the damn dish!!!) Nesta is more likely to forget things when she’s out (especially if she’s on her own) because she’ll get absorbed in a book or a conversation or what she has to do next and will get up and forget her scarf of her jacket. Cassian spends half his life reaching down and grabbing up the purse she doesn’t realise has dropped out of her pocket while they were sitting talking as they start leaving the restaurant and Nesta has drifted out without noticing. (he doesn’t mind at all, he thinks it’s endearing) 

49. Who is the driver/ Who is the passenger?

Hmm, Cassian I think will tend to drive most of the time? Nesta navigates more (Cassian is not a good navigator no-one trusts him) so Nesta gets the map and the directions sorted and Cassian drives. I also think Cassian loves driving whereas Nesta is just…it gets me from A to B but Cass enjoys it more than she does so she doesn’t see any harm in letting him drive them around when it makes him happy. 

The worst kind of excitement

Our house has a carriage house in the back, and for the past year we’ve been renting it out to an acquaintance of mine (when we started I would have said friend, but read on) at significantly less-than-market rates on the condition that he’d do some electrical work to update the wiring in the place (it’s close to a hundred years old, and much of the wiring is knob and tube, which is so old that you’ve never heard of it.) I was also doing him a favor as he’d fallen into some legal trouble related and had difficulty passing a background check.

This morning the police kicked in the door and arrested him and his boyfriend.

This is after two weeks of politely knocking on the door and asking him to surrender. 

Long story short, he owes me nearly three grand in back rent and power bills, is currently in jail, didn’t perform the work, and I’m gonna have to hire a lawyer, aren’t I?

Fuck. I hate having to be an asshole.

If anyone has suggestions for navigating this shit, I’d certainly welcome them.



Please enjoy some real life footage of me trying to deal with feelings:




And now I will go to bed.

anonymous asked:

I feel like that's especially the case considering just how little we actually do know. How would we know if harry didn't wanna do this until louis was free but louis told him to do it? How do we would we know if harry didn't purposely wait this long because it's almost over? we don't. We don't know anything, and when people are choosing not to celebrate harry because of louis, louis is probably right there being Harry's number one fan and vide versa. Until we know, I try to just be happy

Just the fact that we don’t know so much alone is enough for me right now to give a generous benefit of the doubt. Time and time again stuff comes out after the fact and we “oh well now that makes sense”. There’s just too much we aren’t privy to for us to have a truly accurate read on what’s going on. And i think it’s unfair and kind of unreasonable to form any solid opinions of whats going on BTS based off what we do know.

anonymous asked:

i've noticed you apologize a lot for so many things, especially to mean people who send you angry asks about updating faster. you shouldn't do that -__- you guys are the ones giving us the privilege to read the translated chapters so we should be thanking you!! srsly, thank you so much and please try not to push yourselves too hard for us c:

But I feel so sorry for making you wait, I can’t help it xD
That’s just because I’m still a normal reader like you guys and I know how it is to wait for your favorite manga, or even just a manga you like, to update. 
Although I’m super patient when it comes to waiting for updates on manga I like, I want you to have updates asap xD
Which can be quite difficult because DAMN REAL LIFEEEE

And as long real life doesn’t let us scanlate in peace, I will probably keep apologizing hehe

Thank you so much dear Anon-san for this sweet message <3


anonymous asked:

I really love your blog! When I was younger my sisters would read Jane Austen to me and we would have long discussions about plot and characters, and now I'm the only one left at home, and finding this blog with all the asks + your answers was like going back in time. Anyway! I wanted to know how you feel about Austen villains, and who you think made the most effective villain/antagonist?

Thanks so much! :) No-one in my family wants to listen to my rants, so this is a great outlet for me.

Most effective antagonist has got to be Lucy Steele. Achieved her dreams and still managed to worm her way back into Mrs. Ferrars’ affections. I dunno how she did it, (possibly connected to the occult,) but I have to respect her for it.

lucky--black--cat  asked:

Hi again, so I was looking at bending moments again because it's great (so many little details 👌🏻) but it got me thinking, who's the avatar during this period? Anyway love your work okay bye 👋

Ah so the avatar is…..

Dude I dunno. Haha ok, ok, so the avatar definitely exists, but they’re not in the main cast or relevant to the story, so they just won’t be mentioned. Like its probably an earth bender, and if we could hop inside the bending moments universe and ask Lance or allura if they’ve met the avatar, yeah they totally have, but it won’t ever be discussed.

I did play with the idea of Lance or Allura being the avatar, but just felt that would be too many elements to juggle in an already crowded plot.

Hope this answers your question! Thanks so much for reading my comic!