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anonymous asked:

Can we talk about how Mai being abused made her how she is? Calling an abuse victim abusive for acting a certain way because of their abuse is victim blaming. Mai isn't a bad person her parents are.

Thank you for sending me this ask, anon, because it’s something I want to talk about.

There are abusers who were themselves abused, and who abuse out of a misguided attempt to cope with their own abuse.  Such abusers absolutely exist, and Avatar: the Last Airbender has a few of these, most prominently Azula.  However, this is not Mai, and I have already written a lot about how Mai’s behavior is not abusive.

But here’s the thing, Zuko, during his time in the Fire Nation before leaving to teach Aang, is not happy, and for that matter, Mai isn’t happy either.  This is only to be expected.  Not only are Mai and Zuko both trying to deal with the abuse their parents heaped, and continue to heap on them, but they are both in a current abusive relationship at the time, with Azula.  Both of them are under tremendous stress from this past and continuing abuse, and neither was magically able to be happy in spite of currently being abused because they had someone who loved them.

This is held up by anti-Maiko shippers as proof that Mai is wrong for Zuko, and even abusive.  Obviously she’s the wrong girl, because if she was the right girl, Zuko would be happy and cured of all his woes, even though all of the troubles he had before are still going on, and out of Mai’s control.  This is both rank sexism, and a wild misunderstanding of what love is like.

In fact, abusers like Azula are corrosive to all the other relationships their victims have, especially the relationships between their victims.  It’s incredibly difficult to sustain a relationship in the face of an Azula.  This is why Mai and Ty Lee’s friendship, and also Mai and Zuko’s romance are so remarkable.

And both Mai and Zuko act in tremendously unhealthy ways throughout their time together before Zuko leaves to teach Aang.  This behavior isn’t abuse, but there are lots of unhealthy behaviors that aren’t abuse.  Both of them are still being abused.  They don’t have the safety to step back and say “is this coping mechanism doing me good?  Is it good for the people around me?  does it work?”  They are both still living in that state of fear and crisis that abuse brings.  Holding Mai responsible for this is the very height of victim blaming.

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anonymous asked:

i know it's been a while since you've drawn ulysses with a baby, but have considered ulysses and the courier swinging the kiddo between them

friend i know you sent this like a million years ago but!!! i did it!!!!!

Really toying with the idea of going full Eleven when I cosplay her this year

It would be nice for the hotter part of summer and it would all grow in healthy (i really fried it when I did the red go figure lol) and even. I’ve done something almost like it before…. decisions

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Originally posted by whyparkjimin

A/N: here it is!! this took forever to craft but i’m so so happy w how it turned out and this is just the beginning! i hope you all love it as much as i do <3

wc: ~4.5K

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