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      「   THEME #020 : CORONA CELESTIS by angelicxi   」
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      ❥ the link to the codes is in the sidebar description.

      Continuing a trend of mine I desire to transition into tradition, I am celebrating my twentieth theme milestone with another pack. This time, we’re taking off to the stars with an ingenious theme-and-page combo that only appear to be minimalistic.

      FEATURES
      [ + ]  option for 300px / 400px / 500px / 700px posts;
      [ + ]  slot for a main title & subtitle, which you can opt to hide;
      [ + ]  when content (posts) is active (displayed), you also have a slot for a secondary title
      [ + ]  …an avatar (80 x 80px)…
      [ + ]  …and a short description slot;
      [ + ]  no less than fifteen constellations to choose from: the twelve of the zodiac + cygnus, lacerta, and ursa minor;
      [ + ]  the number of links you have depends on which constellation you have enabled — they range from five (Cancer) to seventeen (Pisces);
      tip : play around with them until you find one that you like and suits your needs. :)
      [ + ]  posts are styled after the new dashboard format, so reblog chains are untangled;
      [ + ]  post title backgrounds can be either plaincolor or gradients;
      [ + ]  ditto for audio posts backgrounds;
      [ + ]  post backgrounds can be either opaque or transparent;
      [ + ]  option for a gradient background;
      [ + ]  option for a fullsized wallpaper background;
      tip : disabling both will reveal the background color, which means you can have a plaincolor bg.
      [ + ]  option to overlay the background with a transparent texture;
      tip : uploading a solid texture or pattern means you can also have that type of background.
      [ + ]  all of the color options and then some;
      [ + ]  option to invert tumblr controls.


      「   ALL-IN-ONE PAGE #001 : DELPHINUS by angelicxi   」
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      ❥ the link to the codes is in the about section description.

      This being an all-in-one page, the code is, as you can imagine, quite long. I advise extreme caution when editing; some knowledge of css/html is also recommended. I’ve left instructions inside, but if you have anything you want clarified, message me. I will reply as swiftly as I’m able.

      FEATURES
      [ + ]  about, ask/faq, tags & blogroll sections stylized as pop-ups to conserve space;
      [ + ]  the about comes with: an avatar (168 x 168px), a slot for your name, a “keyword” or tagline slot, header & footer titling slots, three “traits” that you can customize using fontawesome icons, social media buttons, an ample description slot that is set to overflow;
      [ + ]  the ask comes with: question & answer stylings and your embedded askbox;
      [ + ]  for the tags, you have panels consisting of section title + lines of tags. I recommend swapping them around and keeping columns of similar length on the same row so they line up well;
      [ + ]  the blogroll is manual — meaning you have to insert each blog yourself. i chose to do it this way so it’d work for sideblogs as well as main ones. you will need an icon for each blog (80 x 80px), but that’s about it! ^^ you can have more blogs than I do in the preview, as well.

      「  PLEASE LIKE  /  REBLOG  IF USING.  」
      Do NOT:
         —  remove the credit
         —  use as a base code
         —  repost/claim as yours
      Respect the maker’s work, please.
      This theme is optimized for Mozilla Firefox & Google Chrome.
      It is best viewed on a 1366x768 screen resolution.

CONTEST RESULTS!

Thank you guys so much for your patience! Got stuck at work longer than expected, but I’m here and I’ve got the results of the contest for ya. Before we jump into it, I wanna say I loved each and every one of the entries I received, and it wasn’t easy at all to pick — I’m gonna have a little blurb on each, and everyone reading, please, please be sure to follow them and shoot them some love for their work! Everyone did fantastic and I love the results.

Firstly, anyone not selected in the winner results below, please still e-mail me at ashtraydentist@aol.com — you will be receiving a notecard drawing of Sam and some stickers for your participation in the contest! Just let me know who you are, your entry, and your address, if you’re comfortable with that. 

The winner of the contest for the prize of the comic prompt is @withthedemonblood! Please e-mail me and we can get your unique Sam-centric comic started for you, your eyes only! Unless you wanna post it when you get it. Y’know. Whatevs.

The two winners for the fanfiction category is @brothersapart and @womanoflettersinthebunker ! The two winners for fan art is @sketchydean and @fioreitaliano (which is not letting me ping you, what a butthead tumblr is). The two winners for fan edits are @samprincesschester and @jaredbottoms!  Let me know if you would like The Little Golden Hunter’s Book or a grayscale copy of Ask Sam Stuff Volumes 1 or 2. If you would like to wait, you can request to have grayscale Volume 3 when it is completed! If you would rather have a drawn piece that is SPN-related, let me know, we can work something out that is non-book-related.  

(IF YOU ARE NOT ON THE LIST BELOW, PLEASE LET ME KNOW. I will add you and you will still be able to get a gift for partaking for your hard work — a Sam notecard of thanks and stickers! Apologies to the helpful notes left on the previous post before this one; I was at work so I couldn’t respond. :’))

Fanfiction:

Metal by @waytoomuchanalysis : A fantastic continuation of the bend the spoon entry, it dives into the potential of Sam stil having his powers! Look out for the warnings, and enjoy a dose of hurt!Sam, too! I love me some hurt!Sam.

The Long Road Home by @brothersapart : A wonderfully well-written ‘novelization’ of here and here, where Dean died as a child in the fire with their mother. Really awesome to tackle this one, and you did a great job conveying additional things in the narrative!

I’m Okay by @ultimatefandomtrash61 : A gritty and heavy covering of the entry involving Sam’s feelings after Toni’s deceit in 12x02; heed the warnings at the start! It’s a tough subject for sure, but it’s done very well!

As Dreamer’s Do by @withthedemonblood : Really wonderful descriptions and details as this goes, this takes what is a pretty silly entry and adds a lot of personality and weight to it; I love me some weechester stuff, and there’s even a little hurt!Dean in there for you guys who like fairness in torment, haha.

Manoir de Mes Reves by @captain-sodapop : I gotta say, I didn’t even remotely consider the http://asksamstuff.tumblr.com/post/118043076689/an-interesting-afternoon-at-the-mills-residence twister entry on Sam’s Birthday bash would end up as an entry! Great humor and a fun concept, check this one out.

I Love You, Too by @manuscript-or : Based on Sam's addiction to coffee (dude sometimes there’s such a thing as too much), this AU of the pilot episode is pretty cute and full of Jess and Sam goodness! And y'all know I’m a sucker for Jess and Sam. Check this out!

Happy Halloween by @womanoflettersinthebunker : Based on the halloween post about Abby the little sassy cowgirl with read hair and freckles! I really love the alternate route this took, and it gave Sam a fun little adventure to boot — love the details of Sam naming trick-or-treaters in this head! Fantastic work. ♥

Proud Defense by @my-pen-is-my-sword : Very, very neat — an expansion of this strange creature from a pre-series comic! I’m impressed with the attempt to tackle this one, since it was one of the more vague and mysterious comics I’ve thrown out there, but it ended up being a really great piece! Excellent job.

Scars by @samsexualdeancurious :  A short but sweet Jess/Sam entry, exploring a panel in this entry a bit more. Did I mention I’m a sucker for Jessica and Sam? Because I am. Great job on expanding on that entry, and great writing.

A Long Night (Part 1 | Part 2) by @borrowedtimeandspace : A lovely write-up of a section of the Ask Lil’ Sam Stuff plotline; I really loved doing that story, and I’m tickled to see that it was chosen to be done for the entry! They’ve done a really good job adding little narrative touches to this, and it’s a nice addition to the bitty!Sam collection!

Fan art:

BANANA SAM by @fioreitaliano : Based on this. I cannot believe my eyes. A+ banana!Sam. I’m so happy to have laid eyes on him in all his wonder.

No but Really, Call Me, Cont’d by @saintedsam : The cutest little continuation of Max Banes and Sam Winchester, from my entry of Max hitting on an oblivious Sam. And here he is, continuing to be oblivious! What a cute art style, I love it! (And that shirt, Max.)

The Purple Dog Shirt, Pt. II by @sketchydean : What a great follow-up to the purple dog shirt comic! It can be tough to whip up comics, but this is done extremely well and feels like such a solid continuation, I love it. Now - where the heck did that shirt go!!

Dean, I Made You More Pie by @h3dgehogjohn : Isn’t this so cute? A picture of little Sam from this entry making more 'pie’ for his brother! I love them in their little socks; great job, and a+ freckles. ;)

It was a long night by @dovesdanceatdusk  Banana!Sam strikes again!! This time with some backstory! I love the way Sam’s drawn in this, what an excellent style, and — yeah, it was a long night.

I’m Gonna Rip Your Lungs Out! by @nisaki-chan : Oh man, protective!Dean, weechesters, and the threat of lung-ripping. Our favorite! Great art style and an excellent choice in topic. I approve.

Take Care of Yourself! by @dozmuffinxc : Look at this cute entry! A Sam swathed in blankets! A really adorable art style, and a good point to keep in mind for everyone, especially over-working little Sam.

Samulet? … Deanmulet? by @sakurinn : Based on this post, sakurinn made an excellent video of Sam getting his own personal samulet! A Deanulet? A wonderful shout-out to you for making a video entry!! This is her first post on tumblr, so please be sure to send lovely wishes and a welcome to the community! ♥

Edits:

Lack of Agency by @jaredbottoms : An excellent study in gif-form of some of the lack of agency in Sam’s life, based on this post — it’s crazy to see it all laid out, and important to remember. Great selections for a strong gifset.

Cute-o-Meter by @samprincesschester : Something a little less serious — a good ol’ cracky screencap comic, based on this cracky lovefest of a post! I love the humor in this, and I love the team effort going into reminding everyone what a cutie-patootie Sam is. Thanks a ton, Team Freely Loving Sam Winchester.

Once again, give everyone a hand and some reblogs/notes/follows, they’re all super awesome and I’m so happy to have seen their work! Again, if you have an entry that isn’t here because I’m a dipstick and missed it, or I lost it while pasting together this monstrosity (so much linking, so much writing, ieieeeiee), message me and let me know! You’ll certainly still get yourself some stickers. ;)

Until the next contest??? Maybe??? 

I’ll just see you next entry, haha.

— Ashlee

P.S. Happy birthday, Sam. Congrats on being alive somehow in your canon!

anonymous asked:

(I'm sorry in advance for this long ass Sprousehart rant!) Honestly, all this controversy over whether or not SH are dating, needs to stop. I know most people stick to their lanes, but judging by things Lili has quite uncomfortably stated, they quite obviously see tumblr posts picking at every minor detail in their personal lives. Fans literally look for something Cole related in whatever Lili posts/says and vice versa. And the fact Lili can't like or enjoy certain poems or quotes

[CONT.] (even though I feel some of them are suspicious and lead me to believe she is talking about Cole - the one about a CW actor, one’s about not expecting to feel what she feels, about ‘being in deep’ - I honestly can’t imagine her talking about someone else because fans are super crazy and dive deep into celebrities personal lives, we would know if she was seeing/talking about someone else romantically) without feeling violated/nervous to do or post about things she enjoys (hello??

[CONT.] she is clearly extremely close with Cole, something she probably would share more with the world if people didn’t react the way they did) just gets to me.. The whole situation is very delicate and ‘picky’ for me. Because one part of me can’t help but slightly blame Lili & Cole (as bad as it sounds, hear me out).They have repetitively flirted in public, made heart eyes (I get that’s something they maybe can’t/shouldn’t have to control,

[CONT.] But they should at least expect/not get too offended when people don’t mean to sound so invested/forceful in their relationship), called each other ‘friends’ but avoided the dating question (if it wasn’t something more, they’d be like Holland Roden and Dylan O'brien - Stydia’s actors, people who clearly have a bro-like relationship and make sure the world knows it, as well as Madelaine who said ‘God no, Cole is like my brother!’ when asked the dating question Lili pointedly ignored)

[CONT.] been proved to spend intimate evenings together (going on date like lunches too) and mysteriously disappearing on the same weekends we later find out they spent together. I’m all for whatever the hell they are, they clearly respect, trust and deeply care for one and other, and in my opinion, that’s all we need to know. But Cole, being someone who’s been in the spotlight almost his entire life knows what being a celebrity means and how people act how they are going to act

[CONT.] (you can’t change that, or ignore it) so the biggest most effective move I feel the could make is say ‘Hey, we’re together. We make each-other happy. And shouldn’t have to treat one and other like a secret just to enjoy simple privacy.’ and I feel, for the most part, things wouldn’t be as crazy as they are now. I don’t know.. just the fact that they swerve around dating rumors and work the word ‘friend’ into every conversation they have about the other seems to allude to them

[CONT.] (along with all the obsessive ‘breadcrumbs’ I probably shouldn’t even know due to some obsessive detective work) being more. I just wish everyone on Tumblr/Instagram/Twitter realised where it isn’t so bad to support potential real life couples, it certainly isn’t okay to harass them on comment sections and in interviews, and it certainly isn’t okay to super analyse everything the say or do. Sprousehart, I feel, as much as I love and support them no matter what also need to take partial

[CONT.] blame (now that they’re realizing that people don’t just 'ship’ them because they’re together on the show, people aren’t that naive/biased/delusional)and realise whereas they deserve their privacy and the right to do whatever the hell they want, not everything needs to be so blown out of proportion that they feel they can’t express what they are. I don’t want it to come to the obsessive and crazy stage Nian/Larry stans reached and potentially ruined friendships and story-arcs as well as

[CONT.] causing implications in real life relationships. I feel SH shippers could reach that level if all this obsessiveness doesn’t change. Idk, these are my long assed thought’s.. what do you feel? I’m sorry if this is too much, or if you don’t agree or want to share this. I’m just shy posting such thoughts on my account (one I’m sure you’re aware of) and hope to be told all my notions and thoughts on the mess the fandom is all helping to build aren’t completely wrong or misplaced.

[CONT.] Thank-you so much if you actually took time to understand or share your thought’s on that extremely long and crazy rant that I needed to get out. Thanks for even just reading or listening in general. I know you have certain opinions on SH - one’s I agree a lot on. And you are very kind and understanding so I thought this was the place to go. I didn’t mean offense by any of this. I was just questioning where the blame falls and that every SH fan no matter how small has contributed to this

i’ve gotta say when i woke up to 11 messages i was like “oh, shit, i really pissed somebody off.” so, thank you for not being anonymous hate. my blog is definitely a place where people can share their thoughts and feelings on whatever, even if i don’t personally agree or know how to respond to it. i’m glad that you’re not excusing the fandom for making everything lili and cole do about each other. a lot of people on this site (and i can only really speak for this site because i don’t venture very deep on twitter and i don’t have an instagram) have turned lili and cole into a ship rather than individual people, and that’s just not right. i do disagree with some of it, though, like it being partially lili and cole’s fault 

they shouldn’t have to change the way they look at each other, or talk to each other, or interact in anyway because it might give people ideas. that’s almost like victim blaming– they were acting flirty, so it’s only natural that people would think they’re dating and analyze everything they do to try and “prove” that they are. they don’t have a right to be upset or uncomfortable about it because they were asking for it with all those shoulder touches. can you see why i don’t think that’s quite right? i know you’re not saying it to that extreme, but it does kind of imply that 

as you said, cole has been around this his entire life– so he likely knows that no matter what they do (confirm or deny) it’s not going to stop the harassment. if they deny, people will call them liars. if they confirm, the harassment will just change form. instead of constantly asking them if they’re dating, people will start asking them if they’re still together. either way the bombarding doesn’t stop. perhaps they decided (as friends or more than friends) that the best decision was just to ignore the dating rumors. there’s nothing they can do to stop that analyzing. that’s on us. i’ve been around long enough to know that them declaring that they’re together would not stop the fans trying to make everything they say or do about each other. in fact, a new level of harassment might be added if they were to come out as “in a relationship.” people would spam their twitters and instagrams with comments like “WHY DO YOU NEVER POST PICTURES WITH COLE” and “HOW COULD YOU PHOTOGRAPH HER WHEN YOU HAVE LILI” and “ARE YOU GUYS STILL TOGETHER?” on tumblr people would start freaking out that they broke up if they went too long without liking each other’s pictures or being spotted out at lunch together 

as far as i know, last night was the only time either of them have implied that the over analyzing bothers them. they’ve actually been quite chill about it. it’s their friends, family, and co-workers that are getting openly upset/annoyed for them. their response to it seems to only have been to post less of each other, which i find very sad. something i think you agree with. if people didn’t make such a huge deal out of everything they do and spam their social media accounts, we’d likely get to see a lot more of them. they’d be more comfortable sharing photos and videos with us, like they are with cami and kj. i also think it needs to be pointed out that kj and cole go on long weekend trips together all the time and cami and cole also have that teasing vibe lili and cole have– so what makes weekend trips with lili and cole mean more than weekend trips with cole and kj? what makes lili teasing cole mean more than cami teasing cole? the trips, the teasing, the lunches, the touches– they’re not just exclusive to SH. those things shouldn’t be considered “proof” unless you’re also willing to admit it could mean something for the other pairings. i see people argue that they’re much more secretive about doing those things with each other than the other cast which is sketchy… but they don’t get harassed about cami and kj the way that they do each other (or at least not as much). that could be why they don’t post as much when they’re together as easily as it could be they’re trying to keep their romance hush hush 

as for the quotes lili likes on instagram– sure, she could have liked them with somebody in mind, but you don’t have to be in a relationship to appreciate a quote or poem about love. i save a TON of romance quotes on my pinterest and i’m not in a relationship. i’ve never been in love. that’s part of what i think she was talking about yesterday. she doesn’t want to share her poems because she feels like we’re going to declare that she wrote it with somebody in mind or try to apply it to somebody in her life when it could actually just be an arrangement of words that she liked. i mean, foster the people have a song about a school shooting, but that doesn’t make me think they’re homicidal 

i definitely agree that things need to change before we become toxic and take a toll on irl relationships. cole and lili ending up like nina and ian is like nightmare #1. i don’t want bughead to suffer because lili and cole had a falling out, especially if part of that falling out was because we were stressing them out so much and making them uncomfortable. i also don’t want to stress them out and make them uncomfortable. they don’t deserve to feel that way. they deserve to have a little privacy, and should be able to post pictures (with or without each other) without people screeching about sprousehart. i don’t think that there’s anything wrong with thinking they’re cute and appreciating their relationship and maybe even thinking they’d be good together, but there’s a line between appreciation and obsession. a line between appropriate behavior and inappropriate behavior, and this fandom is really starting to struggle to stay on the right side of those lines 

How to happily Ask blog:

  1. Do you. Make an Ask blog about your favorite Pokemon, even if it’s an Eevee and there are already 50 Eevee blogs. Only complainers care, and they’re not worth your time anyway. Absolutely don’t let people tell you what characters and/or species should be on your blog. You may be interested in these characters if you’re lucky, but chances are, if it’s not something you want to do, it’s not going to work.
  2. Take your time. This is something I had to learn was okay for me to do. You don’t need to update every day. Or 24/7. Or every other week. You can let your blog sit for a month even. Doesn’t matter. Take your time. Ask blogs are for fun and you don’t owe anyone answers to Asks or plot updates or RP responses because you can’t snap your fingers and be done. Those things take time. People are generally patient; they will wait.
  3. Character count doesn’t matter. Have as many or as few characters as you want, because it’s your blog, you do what you want. And if you DO have a lot of characters, you can always put them on Ask rotation, that way you and your followers won’t be overwhelmed!
  4. Take a Hiatus if you need it. Your health is more important than your blog. Take care of yourself, mentally and physically. It can be as long or as short as you like. You can also be like me and be hella notorious for taking a Hiatus and IMMEDIATELY COMING OUT OF IT. Because apparently announcing that I’m going on Hiatus gives me a boost of inspiration for the blog I’m Hiatusing from. Don’t ask how that works Ihavenoflippinclue.
  5. If seeing other blogs update stresses you out, unfollow them. Please do not let yourself get stressed. There is a reason I follow a minimal amount of ask blogs. When I ran Wandering Fairy Twins I almost drove myself to the point of tears because I wasn’t updating as quickly as the other blogs. Please don’t stubbornly follow 500+ blogs. Follow your favorites. Unfollow everyone else. Seriously. You can always make a list of blogs you like and stalk them instead, like I do. Of course, if it doesn’t cause you stress, then don’t feel like you have to unfollow people either. I’m just speaking from personal experience, and I am happier following maybe 5 ask blogs and stalking everyone else. I really don’t care if they’re your BBF from 900 years ago, if seeing them update stresses you, unfollow them. Hell unfollow my blogs if they stress you out. Pls. Stalk me instead. I’d rather that you have less stress than me have 500+ followers.
  6. If you run multiple blogs, you don’t need to update them all at once. Section it out. And if you’re in the mood for doing stuff for one blog, but suddenly get a drive for another, update the one you suddenly have a drive for. And if a schedule works for you, you can do that too! You can even set aside certain days to work on specific things for specific blogs. Or work on all the references for your blogs at once. Whatever works for you.
  7. If you run multiple blogs, and it’s causing you stress, start dropping blogs. Do not make a blog for every new character you think of. Put them on a pre-existing blog. Move characters around. Merge blogs. Cut down on the amount of blogs you have. Sure, there’s no limit to how many Ask blogs you can have, but if it’s starting to be a problem, start letting go. You can always use those other characters for other things. But drop blogs. Save your info, your plots, etc, but drop some of those blogs. Doesn’t matter if it’s your most loved blog. Drop it. Say bye. It’s not worth your time if it’s causing you stress.
  8. Don’t be afraid to start a conversation. I apologize though because I’m bad at this, and so are a lot of other people. Tumblr’s messaging system makes it easier to interact with other bloggers though! Keep in mind that a lot of blogger’s can be busy, so they may not respond right away. That doesn’t mean they hate you. They might also be sleeping because Time Zone’s a bitch. But you can’t always wait for people to come to you. Just make sure you check the FAQ and Rules on each blog before you start reaching out. Some people may dislike being approached. Respect that.
  9. Having a friend circle in the community is okay. You do not need to be friends with everyone here. You don’t need to talk to everyone here, or send them asks, or start RPs, or anything else. If you find five people you click with and that’s it, then that’s it. You got those five people you click with and you are still awesome and cool and don’t let complainers being antsy about “popular” people not interacting with “unpopular” people get to you. You get your little circle and be happy with it. Or your medium circle. Or big circle, IDK man for all I know you are like super good friends with 300 people and you manage to plot with all of them and honestly YOU GO you do that. But I really can’t stress enough that you ARE NOT under ANY CIRCUMSTANCE REQUIRED BY TUMBLR LAW to befriend / talk to / plot with / ship with / friendship with / meme with every last person in the Ask community. You are allowed to be picky. You are allowed to be picky. You are allowed to be picky. Nobody gets to be friends with you because they decided so and you’re a bitch/bastard if you aren’t friends with them. Block those people. Just no. Bye. Also don’t be that person. And if you aren’t accepted as anything more than an acquaintance move along my dude, move along. Being acquaintances is just as good as being friends. You don’t have be friends with everyone out there, having 900 friends does not mean you have shallow, meaningless friendships just like having 2 friends is not a direct reflection of your worth. Either way, you are worthy. And either way, you are amazing.
  10. Having a friend circle doesn’t mean you can’t interact with other people either. The friend circle is more in regards to who you click with, who you really like, and who you are ultimately able to plot with easily (or you do the thing where you just yell at each other in frustration because HOW DARE YOU GIVE ME FEELINGS). You can still send asks to anyone, and you can still start RPs with anyone, and you can still ask for asks from anyone (especially if they make a post that they’re sending out Asks. Get IN ON THAT).
  11. There will be people out there who dislike you. Or your art style. Or your writing style. Or your headcanons. Or your subspecies. Or your designs. Or your hyrbids. Or all of the above. Or none of the above. Or they dislike you just because they dislike you. They’ll complain about you. They’ll probably send you anon hate. Ignore them to the best of your ability - because you have more people who adore you. And if those dislikers ever send you hate, delete it. Get rid of it. Don’t post it, don’t give them that pleasure. Delete it so that they can sit and wait and agonise over the fact that their mean comments meant so little to you that you didn't even need to grace them with a response.
  12. Remember, you are cool, my dude. You are cool.

That’s everything I can think of O:

one-hell-of-a-kawaii-potato  asked:

I've been looking around for a while and I don't know if minimum wage would be enough to get an apartment, buy food, and take care of all my cats and it's just generally stressing me out and now I'm wondering if I should even think of living alone

Take a deep breath! While not ideal, living on minimum wage can be done. My advice to you would be to look for some sort of roommate situation as opposed to living on your own. You could also rent a room in a house which would be significantly cheaper than a one bedroom apartment. Your cats shouldn’t cost you more than $50 extra a month, and they will give you such relief and comfort. Moving out of your parent’s house and living on your own can be stressful and feel overwhelming- you’ll want your furry friends by your side!

Budgeting on Minimum Wage

Overview

The average minimum wage in the US is $7.25/hr. Even working full time at 40 hours a week, that’s only a profit of $290 before taxes. This is not a fair living wage! You are worth way more than this amount! I strongly encourage you to start looking for another job that pays better, look for something around the $10-$15 range.

While $7.25 is atrocious, thousands of people around the world support families on much less. If they can do it while supporting children, so can you! To live off a minimum wage budget you need to declare yourself independent. If your parents are still claiming you as a dependent YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO DO THIS. I also recommend that you have the highest amount possible taken out of your taxes so that you get money back from your state at the end of the year, instead of being in debt to them. 

What I’ve done is come up with a budgeting plan based off some made up factors and my own personal experience.

Housing

1. City life. Forget about the city! Apartments located in cities can be three times as expensive as apartments in small towns or villages. On top of the extra expense, they’re much smaller and have less amenities included. I’d much rather live in a one bedroom apartment with a dishwasher and a conveniently located Laundromat, than a literal closet with no windows on a fifth floor walkup. Look for apartments twenty minutes to a half hour outside of your closest city. Now you have the close conveniences of a city, with none of those pesky city prices that your budget can’t handle.

2. College towns. Shop around and look at apartments by local colleges. Large colleges with have apartment complexes within walking distance of the school grounds. Landlords know that college students have less money (you might even be a college student yourself) and adjust their prices accordingly. Even apartments next to ivy league schools are priced this way, so don’t be discouraged by the institution’s “prestige”.

3. Locale. Your safety is more important than your bank account. It doesn’t matter if you live in Section 8 housing or in an affluent suburb. Some apartment complexes and neighborhoods are just safer than others. I live in a heavily populated and upper middle class suburb, and the first year I moved in, a drunk woman tried to throw a beer bottle at my car. Thankfully this is the only time this happened to me, but it made me feel unsafe in my environment. Before signing a lease, walk or drive around your prospective home’s neighborhood at night. Take in the atmosphere, and make sure it’s one where you could comfortably run to the local supermarket at 10:30pm and pick up toilet paper.

4. Roommates. Living on minimum wage requires that you find one or two roommates to help split the rent. The more the better! Get together with your more responsible friends, so at least you’re living with people whose company you enjoy. There are lots of “roommate wanted” forums and message boards for you to browse on the internet, but always bring a responsible adult with you before meeting a stranger. Please. Bring your mom if you have too.

Food

1. Low-spoon food. I created this post a few months ago which offers lots of suggestions about cooking and shopping on a budget.

2. Online recipes. Here are some of my favorite online Tumblr cookbook resources.

3. I also regularly update my cooking on a budget tag.

Misc Expenses

1. Gas. Shop around and find the cheapest gas in your area. Avoid gas stations next to colleges, highways, and in touristy areas. Look into getting as gas rewards card from your favorite supermarket. I get 10 cents off a gallon with Stop & Shop every time I do a big shop.

2. Dollar store. Get to know your local dollar and bargain stores. You can buy everything from pots and pans to bed sheets there. These stores often sell bulk ramen for $1 and large cans of crushed tomatoes for 75 cents. That’s enough food for you to live off of for several days. When shopping, I make three grocery store stops to ensure that I spend the least amount possible on my pantry needs. I go Dollar Store, Stop and Shop, and then to my local organic grocery store. I’m going to make a list of things that I buy at Dollar Stores and things that I don’t buy at Dollar Stores soon!

3. Cable. We are living in the digital age- you don’t need cable television. Use Netflix or Hulu or whatever. It will save you tons of $$.

4. Internet. As far as internet speed goes, if you’re living with roommates you will probably need a higher speed. Living by yourself, choose a lower one. Most internet companies offer large discounts to new subscribers. These typically only last a year, but will save you serious money. Make sure to take note of when this discount expires, and contact the company before it does. If you don’t, they’ll begin charging you the full amount without notice.

5. Verizon. I just want to take a moment to talk about how much I love Verizon because they have literally saved me so much money in the three years I’ve been with them. After you sign a contract with a new internet company, they charge you a bunch of ridiculous fees like “activation fees” and “installation fees”. I called Verizon and was like “I’m a poor college student, I can’t afford this” and they were like “don’t worry, we’ll waive the fee”. I signed a two year contract with them that saved me $80 on a high-speed internet bill per month (my price being only 50.99 a month). After the contract expired I call them and they put me on a month to month, keeping the price absolutely the same. TLDR- get Verizon if you can.

6. Utility. Get on a monthly budget with whatever utility company services your new apartment. Although it may seem like the cheaper option, paying the actual amount of electricity you spend per month is the more expensive. It’s also unpredictable, and a minimum wage budget won’t allow for it. See this for more info.

7. Amazon. I buy a lot of my beauty, cleaning, and cat products online. Amazon offers Prime shipping free for a year with a student email address, and then offers it at a greatly reduced price after the year. If you are a student, snap up that free deal ASAP. If it’s in your budget, I’d greatly recommend investing in Amazon Prime.

8. Saving money. It’s so important to attempt to break way from the “paycheck to paycheck” vicious cycle. Living this way does not allow for emergency expense money, and trust me, sometime soon you will need emergency expense money. Your cat might get sick or your car may die, whatever it is, it’s always smart to have at least $500 squirreled away. I’m gonna level with you, things have been tight for my budget and I haven’t been able to save anything for the past three months. But this month I will!

Example Budgets

Full Time

Working with the $7.25/hr and 40hr/week model, here’s an example budget for living on minimum wage. That’s $1,160 a month without taxes.

Housing: Let’s say you’re sharing an apartment with two close friends, the rent being $1,500 without any amenities. That rent split three ways is $500 each.

Gas I commute twenty minutes every day, and I drop about $20-$25 a week on gas. That’s $100 on gas a month.

Food: I do one big shopping a month with my boyfriend. We drop around $180 and that’s including toiletries and soap and stuff. So maybe you’ll spend about $100 a month on all your shopping needs.

Cable/internet:  Hopefully you took my advice and skipped cable. Let’s say you’re paying around $50 per month for internet. Split three ways that’s $17 each.

Laundry: Hopefully you’re not like me and are only spending around $20 on laundry per month.

Random expenses: Because there always are some. Especially when you have cats. Let’s just tack on another $100.

With everything added up, you still have around $290 left before taxes! That money can go into a savings account, and after several months, you’ll have that $500 worth of emergency money saved.

Part Time

Working with the $7.25/hr and 25hr/week model, here’s an example budget for living on minimum wage. That’s $725 without taxes.

Housing: In this case, you need to look for apartments in the $800-900 range. In my area, one bedroom apartments go for around $1000, so you may need to get creative with your roommate (I don’t think you could have more than one roommate in this situation). Buy dividers to split the bedroom or studio in half! Let’s say your rent is $850 with nothing included, that’s $425 each.

Gas You’re still looking at a large gas bill per month, so it may be more inexpensive to ride a bike or use public transportation. Let’s say you use public transportation, and spend around $50 a month on that. Or maybe you and your roommate can split gas expenses and share a car?

Food: Pinch those pennies! Use some of those budget cookbooks I linked above to help you cook healthy and delicious meals for under $4 each. See if you can only spend $80 a month on groceries.

Cable/internet:  Hopefully you took my advice and skipped cable. Let’s say you’re paying around $50 per month for internet. Split two ways is $25 each.

Laundry: Hopefully you’re not like me and are only spending around $20 on laundry per month.

Random expenses: Because there always are some. Let’s just tack on another $100.

That leaves you $25 to put in your bank account, if that. This is a paycheck to paycheck situation, and you will probably need to get another source of income to feel secure. But you can still do it!

anonymous asked:

Ramadan Mubarak:) I am a Muslim from birth, but my mother is Catholic so we often neglect certain holidays for her sake. I don't agree with this myself, but when you're young pleasing parents is usually a bigger priority. I'm now seventeen and don't know how to pray at all, I don't know any passages from the Quran, and I'm old enough now to do things on my own. I'm so lost, but I know what I believe. What can I do?

Wa Alaikum Salam, my Dear Sister ♥

I am so happy to read this message as it shows me your Emaan, ma shaa Allah ♥ May Allah SWT reward you and give you a good life and afterlife, Ameen ♥

It is ok that you do not know how to pray (Salah) yet ♥ as you always need to start somewhere ♥ but Sister it is better that you are making the effort to make Salah, in shaa Allah, and that is very admirable, ma shaa Allah ♥

You need to start off slowly and with the basics my dear Sister ♥ because you know Islam and all that is required of you, you might not know where to start, but it is all very basic ♥ just take it one step at a time and in shaa Allah you will cover miles Ameen ♥

So the first thing I would show you are the Miracles in the Quran ♥ They are scientific, mathematical, biological (you name it)! Sitting and reading through some of these Miracles is a lot of motivation to know Allah SWT and start praising Him ♥ In shaa Allah ♥
Please go to the following website:
www.miraclesof thequran.com


Once you know some of the Miracles and In shaa Allah feel closer to Allah SWT, you can start making some Du’a and talking to Him ♥
Please read the following blog post on how to make Du’a:
http://islam-for-girls.tumblr.com/post/64386622603/salaam-i-am-struggling-with-how-to-properly-make

Now it is for the Salah ♥ There are five a day ♥ and they come at very specific times and last for a certain amount of time only ♥

Fajr – Before Sunrise
Dhur – When the sun is highest in the sky
Asr – Late Afternoon
Magrib – Sunset
Esha – Nightime

Each prayer has a certain amount of Rakaat ♥ A Rakaat is a single up and down movement done with prayers being recited ♥

Fajr – 2
Dhur – 4
Asr – 4
Magrib – 3
Esha – 4


In order to make Salah and perform these Rakaats, you need to know some certain Quranic verses and chapters (short ones for now, you can always lengthen it if you wish) ♥ So if you want to start making Salah, you can start by learning these prayers from the Quran ♥

If it looks like too much, don’t worry Sister, start off slowly ♥ Try to put these prayers somewhere you can easily access them, and recite them as much as possible for protection, guidance and forgiveness ♥ The more you casually recite the verses, the quicker you will learn them ♥ in shaa Allah ♥

You pronunciation does not need to be perfect, as long as you understand what you saying, that is what is most important ♥


The Fatigha ♥
This is the opening Surah (Chapter) of the Quran, and it is what you recite at the beginning of each Rakaat ♥

Transliteration:
Bismillaah ar-Rahman ar-Raheem
Al hamdu lillaahi rabbil ‘alameen
Ar-Rahman ar-Raheem Maaliki yaumid Deen
Iyyaaka na’abudu wa iyyaaka nasta’een
Ihdinas siraatal mustaqeem
Siraatal ladheena an ‘amta’ alaihim
Ghairil maghduubi’ alaihim waladaaleen
Aameen


Translation:
In the name of God, the infinitely Compassionate and Merciful.
Praise be to God, Lord of all the worlds.
The Compassionate, the Merciful. Ruler on the Day of Reckoning.
You alone do we worship, and You alone do we ask for help.
Guide us on the straight path,
the path of those who have received your grace;
not the path of those who have brought down wrath, nor of those who wander astray.
Amen


Al-Ikhlas (Purity)
This is a short Surah (Chapter number 112) which you can recite after the Fatigha, for one of the first two Rakaats only ♥

Transliteration:
Bismillaah ar-Rahman ar-Raheem
Qul huwallaahu ahad
Allahus samad
Lam yalid wa lam yuulad
Wa lamyakun lahuuu kufuwan ahad


Translation:
In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful.
Say: He is Allah, the One.
He is Allah, the Eternal,
Who was never born, nor ever gave birth.
The One beyond compare.


An-Naas (Mankind)
This is a short Surah (Chapter number 114) which you can recite after the Fatigha, for one of the first two Rakaats only ♥

Transliteration:
Bismillaah ar-Rahman ar-Raheem
Qul a’uudhi bi rabbin naas
Malikin naas
Ilaahin naas
Min sharril wawaasil khannas
Alladhee yuwaswisu fee suduurin naas
Minal Jinnati wa naas

Translation:
In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful
Say: I take refuge in the Lord of mankind,
the Master of mankind,
the God of mankind,
from the evil of the secret tempter
who whispers in the hearts of men,
of the jinns and men.


Now to learn the movements and when to say those Dua’s:

You need to be facing the direction of the Qibla with wudu (ablution) and you need to be covered as prescribed, so that is everything except your face, hands and feet (from your ankles are veiled ♥
You need to be standing on mat which is clean and to be kept clean, for prayer in shaa Allah ♥
Please read the following link on how to make Wudu (ablution) ♥
http://www.wikihow.com/Perform-Wudu

If you are confused about in which direction the Qibla is, there are apps which you can download such as Salatuk, which use GPS to direct you what direction the Qibla is in and give reminders of the Salah times ♥ especially if there are no mosques around you ♥

Please read the following link on how to make Salah ♥ (it has pictures which is very helpful, ma shaa Allah):
http://www.wikihow.com/Perform-Salah


Aaytul Kursi ♥
This Du’a is a section of verses from the Quranic Chapter two, Surah Baqara ♥
This prayer you should recite frequently for protection, this prayer is not necessary for Salah though ♥

Transliteration:
Allahu laaa ilaaha illaa huwal haiyul qai-yoom;
laa taakhuzuhoo sinatunw wa laa nawm;
lahoo maa fissamaawaati wa maa fil ard;
man zallazee yashfa'u indahooo illaa be iznih;
ya'lamu maa baina aideehim wa maa khalfahum;
wa laa yuheetoona beshai ‘immin ‘ilmihee illa be maa shaaaa;
wasi'a kursiyyuhus samaa waati wal arda wa la ya'ooduho hifzuhumaa;
wa huwal aliyyul ‘azeem

Translation:
Allah! There is no god but He - the Living, The Self-subsisting, Eternal.
No slumber can seize Him Nor Sleep.
His are all things In the heavens and on earth.
Who is there can intercede In His presence except As he permitteth?
He knoweth What (appeareth to His creatures As) Before or After or Behind them.
Nor shall they compass Aught of his knowledge Except as He willeth.
His throne doth extend Over the heavens And on earth,
and He feeleth No fatigue in guarding And preserving them,
For He is the Most High. The Supreme (in glory).


Sister, I would just like to repeat that I have given you alot of information and I don’t want you to become overwhelmed by it, so take it at your pace in shaa Allah ♥

Start off with getting familiar with the prayers, by reciting them as much as possible ♥
Become familiar with the movements by imitating them, first without saying any prayers and then by simply saying the name of the prayer in the place where it should be in as you do the movements ♥

When you are ready to pray properly, do so ♥ The ideal is that you know the prayer off by heart and recite them from memory in Salah, but if in the beginning you need to read the prayers off from somewhere while making Salah, Allah SWT is Most-Merciful in shaa Allah ♥ 

If you need more help or are confused or too overwhelmed, please contact me over Tumblr chat or Kik (username: Merhmayd), or send me another question via the ask-box as this one; in shaa Allah ♥ Ameen ♥ Please just make reference that you are the one who sent this message, just so I know who I am talking to as this message is anonymous ♥ 

In shaa Allah all will be well with you, Sister ♥ Ameen 

♥♥ Ramadaan Mubarak ♥♥

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When upcoming YouTuber Lucy Heartfilia finds herself collaborating with popular channel Fairy Tail, she ends up getting more than she bargained for. ( ff.net // ao3 )

aka the youtuber au no one asked for but i’m delivering anyway

Lucy presses the ’upload’ button, then proceeds to fall face-first on her keyboard, her energy completely drained. “I never want to edit another video again in my entire life,” she whines, turning her head towards her bed where her dog Plue is sitting. “Do you wanna learn how to edit videos, Plue? You could be my star editor.”

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anonymous asked:

So I'm a Canadian who will be moving to Scotland later this month for university and I'm wondering: Do you have any tips for getting settled in a new country? This will be the first time I'm buying my own groceries and not using student loans so budgeting advice is also welcome.

This ask has been sitting in my inbox for like at least a month… I’m so sorry! Some posts take more time to write then others. I actually have about four asks that are all essentially this same question, so I’m going to just combine them all into one post. 

As for budgeting… here’s my two cents, in terms of Minimum Wage.

Budgeting on Minimum Wage

Overview

The average minimum wage in the US is $7.25/hr. Even working full time at 40 hours a week, that’s only a profit of $290 before taxes. This is not a fair living wage! You are worth way more than this amount! I strongly encourage you to start looking for another job that pays better, look for something around the $10-$15 range.

While $7.25 is atrocious, thousands of people around the world support families on much less. If they can do it while supporting children, so can you! To live off a minimum wage budget you need to declare yourself independent. If your parents are still claiming you as a dependent YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO DO THIS. I also recommend that you have the highest amount possible taken out of your taxes so that you get money back from your state at the end of the year, instead of being in debt to them.

What I’ve done is come up with a budgeting plan based off some made up factors and my own personal experience.

Housing

1. City life. Forget about the city! Apartments located in cities can be three times as expensive as apartments in small towns or villages. On top of the extra expense, they’re much smaller and have less amenities included. I’d much rather live in a one bedroom apartment with a dishwasher and a conveniently located Laundromat, than a literal closet with no windows on a fifth floor walkup. Look for apartments twenty minutes to a half hour outside of your closest city. Now you have the close conveniences of a city, with none of those pesky city prices that your budget can’t handle.

2. College towns. Shop around and look at apartments by local colleges. Large colleges with have apartment complexes within walking distance of the school grounds. Landlords know that college students have less money (you might even be a college student yourself) and adjust their prices accordingly. Even apartments next to ivy league schools are priced this way, so don’t be discouraged by the institution’s “prestige”.

3. Locale. Your safety is more important than your bank account. It doesn’t matter if you live in Section 8 housing or in an affluent suburb. Some apartment complexes and neighborhoods are just safer than others. I live in a heavily populated and upper middle class suburb, and the first year I moved in, a drunk woman tried to throw a beer bottle at my car. Thankfully this is the only time this happened to me, but it made me feel unsafe in my environment. Before signing a lease, walk or drive around your prospective home’s neighborhood at night. Take in the atmosphere, and make sure it’s one where you could comfortably run to the local supermarket at 10:30pm and pick up toilet paper.

4. Roommates. Living on minimum wage requires that you find one or two roommates to help split the rent. The more the better! Get together with your more responsible friends, so at least you’re living with people whose company you enjoy. There are lots of “roommate wanted” forums and message boards for you to browse on the internet, but always bring a responsible adult with you before meeting a stranger. Please. Bring your mom if you have too.

Food

1. Low-spoon food. I created this post a few months ago which offers lots of suggestions about cooking and shopping on a budget.

2. Online recipes. Here are some of my favorite online Tumblr cookbook resources.

3. I also regularly update my cooking on a budget tag.

Misc Expenses

1. Gas. Shop around and find the cheapest gas in your area. Avoid gas stations next to colleges, highways, and in touristy areas. Look into getting as gas rewards card from your favorite supermarket. I get 10 cents off a gallon with Stop & Shop every time I do a big shop.

2. Dollar store. Get to know your local dollar and bargain stores. You can buy everything from pots and pans to bed sheets there. These stores often sell bulk ramen for $1 and large cans of crushed tomatoes for 75 cents. That’s enough food for you to live off of for several days. When shopping, I make three grocery store stops to ensure that I spend the least amount possible on my pantry needs. I go Dollar Store, Stop and Shop, and then to my local organic grocery store. I’m going to make a list of things that I buy at Dollar Stores and things that I don’t buy at Dollar Stores soon!

3. Cable. We are living in the digital age- you don’t need cable television. Use Netflix or Hulu or whatever. It will save you tons of $$.

4. Internet. As far as internet speed goes, if you’re living with roommates you will probably need a higher speed. Living by yourself, choose a lower one. Most internet companies offer large discounts to new subscribers. These typically only last a year, but will save you serious money. Make sure to take note of when this discount expires, and contact the company before it does. If you don’t, they’ll begin charging you the full amount without notice.

5. Verizon. I just want to take a moment to talk about how much I love Verizon because they have literally saved me so much money in the three years I’ve been with them. After you sign a contract with a new internet company, they charge you a bunch of ridiculous fees like “activation fees” and “installation fees”. I called Verizon and was like “I’m a poor college student, I can’t afford this” and they were like “don’t worry, we’ll waive the fee”. I signed a two year contract with them that saved me $80 on a high-speed internet bill per month (my price being only 50.99 a month). After the contract expired I call them and they put me on a month to month, keeping the price absolutely the same. TLDR- get Verizon if you can.

6. Utility. Get on a monthly budget with whatever utility company services your new apartment. Although it may seem like the cheaper option, paying the actual amount of electricity you spend per month is the more expensive. It’s also unpredictable, and a minimum wage budget won’t allow for it. See this for more info.

7. Amazon. I buy a lot of my beauty, cleaning, and cat products online. Amazon offers Prime shipping free for a year with a student email address, and then offers it at a greatly reduced price after the year. If you are a student, snap up that free deal ASAP. If it’s in your budget, I’d greatly recommend investing in Amazon Prime.

8. Saving money. It’s so important to attempt to break way from the “paycheck to paycheck” vicious cycle. Living this way does not allow for emergency expense money, and trust me, sometime soon you will need emergency expense money. Your cat might get sick or your car may die, whatever it is, it’s always smart to have at least $500 squirreled away. I’m gonna level with you, things have been tight for my budget and I haven’t been able to save anything for the past three months. But this month I will!

Example Budgets

Full Time

Working with the $7.25/hr and 40hr/week model, here’s an example budget for living on minimum wage. That’s $1,160 a month without taxes.

Housing: Let’s say you’re sharing an apartment with two close friends, the rent being $1,500 without any amenities. That rent split three ways is $500 each.

Gas I commute twenty minutes every day, and I drop about $20-$25 a week on gas. That’s $100 on gas a month.

Food: I do one big shopping a month with my boyfriend. We drop around $180 and that’s including toiletries and soap and stuff. So maybe you’ll spend about $100 a month on all your shopping needs.

Cable/internet:  Hopefully you took my advice and skipped cable. Let’s say you’re paying around $50 per month for internet. Split three ways that’s $17 each.

Laundry: Hopefully you’re not like me and are only spending around $20 on laundry per month.

Random expenses: Because there always are some. Let’s just tack on another $100.

With everything added up, you still have around $290 left before taxes! That money can go into a savings account, and after several months, you’ll have that $500 worth of emergency money saved.

Part Time

Working with the $7.25/hr and 25hr/week model, here’s an example budget for living on minimum wage. That’s $725 without taxes.

Housing: In this case, you need to look for apartments in the $800-900 range. In my area, one bedroom apartments go for around $1000, so you may need to get creative with your roommate (I don’t think you could have more than one roommate in this situation). Buy dividers to split the bedroom or studio in half! Let’s say your rent is $850 with nothing included, that’s $425 each.

Gas You’re still looking at a large gas bill per month, so it may be more inexpensive to ride a bike or use public transportation. Let’s say you use public transportation, and spend around $50 a month on that. Or maybe you and your roommate can split gas expenses and share a car?

Food: Pinch those pennies! Use some of those budget cookbooks I linked above to help you cook healthy and delicious meals for under $4 each. See if you can only spend $80 a month on groceries.

Cable/internet:  Hopefully you took my advice and skipped cable. Let’s say you’re paying around $50 per month for internet. Split two ways is $25 each.

Laundry: Hopefully you’re not like me and are only spending around $20 on laundry per month.

Random expenses: Because there always are some. Let’s just tack on another $100.

That leaves you $25 to put in your bank account, if that. This is a paycheck to paycheck situation, and you will probably need to get another source of income to feel secure. But you can still do it!

anonymous asked:

Hello, I am getting ready to make a Seeking arrangements profile. I'm not sure what to put down or what kind of pictures to post. Do I keep some of my personality? I would love to hear your thoughts. Thank you!

I put together a “starter kit”, called Sugaring 101 (real imaginative and original name, I know, lol), and it’s copied below for you.  This really is a good group of guides and tips that take care of all your SA profile questions and when you start to receive messages!  But, as a quick and direct response to your specific ask, let me quickly say the following:

Good photographs are the key to any good profile.  Include at least 1 face picture and a couple of good quality full body shots so that a guy viewing your profile has a “good picture” of what you look like.  Make at least one “public” and you can make the others private, if you wish.  Guys are visual creatures.  We need good photos!  No duckfaces!  lol (that’s just my personal pet peeve!) and no blurry selfies!

And, yes, in the written section, give us a sneak peek at your wonderful personality!  Be witty, clever, serious, whimsical, or creative!  But, for your own sake, keep it short!

Sugaring 101 – all in one place!

I think a good place to begin when doing some basic research into sugaring happens to be … well, on my blog! And here are a couple of links that will “get you up to speed” relatively quickly!

First, we have the basic discussion of what sugaring is about and how to set up a profile:

How does sugaring work?  Honey, let me take you by the hand …

Second, here are a couple of links to discussions about the POT types you simply have to avoid and run away once you spot them!

The things POTs say when they’re trying so hard not to pay!

MORE of the things POTs say when they’re trying so hard not to pay!  (Part II)

Third, we’ve got an exam to see how you’re progressing!

Newbie passes her first exam!  Find out what she did right in handling this “POT”

Fourth, and, finally, for now, we have the reverse of that coin; here are links to help you spot and focus on real POTs!

Spot the real POT:  Things to look for that will tell you that he is for real!

Spot the real POT (Part II):  How a real POT handles the “meet and greet”

Spot the real POT (Part III):  How a real POT handles the “allowance talk”

cloud’s p.o/mailbox is now open !!!! ~

i am so very happy to announce that you can now send me and cloud things to a safe mailbox!! (rules and stuff below)

and yes we will reply to EVERYONE because we want this to be an exchange of gifts between people who support us and we are excited to send things out!!

things you can send: 

well, anything within reason, but here are some suggestions: 

  • doggy treats - cloud favourites are bones she can chew etc, but she enjoys anything that is dog friendly!!!! (please make sure you buy them in like a sealed packet, so they can get to us safely and make sure they are 100% safe for cloud, or i probably can’t give them to her)
  • doggy toys - now cloud is quite, uh, destructive, so she likes harder toys that don’t break easy, like kong toys or balls, but anything would be welcomed, just… can’t guarantee how long it’ll survive lmao
  • art / creations - a few people have said they would love to send something but would rather make it and that is so so so fine!! we would welcome art and creations and love them so much, so if you would like to draw cloud that would be amazing, or if you want to write us a letter or make anything else that is welcomed very greatly too!
  • other - a few people have offered to send me (carlyle) some gifts too, like candy from your country, and other stuff etc, and that is very fine and i’m honestly so honoured you’d want to aaaaahhhhhhhhhh!!!! pls don’t worry if you can’t/don’t want to though, like at all, i don’t mind.

you can send things physically or from online, just enter the address i provide and it will be aokay !

replies etc:

what we will reply with:

i really wanted to get cloud involved in the reply as much as possible, so i was thinking we would reply with a personal picture of cloud (taken on a polaroid sort of thing, so each photo is original) and on the back, cloud’s paw print and a little thank you message from me!

what to include to get a reply:

whether you’re sending online or physically; we need a safe return address so we can send things back out to you!! if you don’t want a reply that is totally fine, but if you do and i haven’t got your address/somewhere to send it back to, it would be impossible to reply, and i really really want to send something out to everyone who wants it

adding a note inside with the return address on would be great, or add to the extra comments/notes whatever section if you’re sending from online - also would be great if you could include your name (just first/preferred name) preferred pronouns just incase, and tumblr url so i can make the reply more personalised!

EDIT: would be really helpful for me if you could send a post stamp as well!! it is not Super Required but, yeah, would be helpful thanks

other things:

  • you can send things to us wherever you are in the world, and we will reply back always - we don’t mind sending replies overseas
  • it’s fine if you can’t or don’t want to send anything this is just for fun <3
  • it is open for a few months and i will post plenty of warnings and stuff if and when it is closing, so it’s ok, i won’t let you send anything to nowhere
  • if you have any questions at all, please do message me and i will answer!

ADDRESS TO SEND STUFF TO:

Carlyle & Cloud
Suite 360
38 Sunbridge Road
Bradford
BD1 2DZ
England, United Kingdom 

I'm Yours : Zig x MC fanfic

So I promise I’m working on the prompts for my giveaway…well the one that’s been decided on already. It’s nearly done, I swear. In fact, I should be posting it today or tomorrow, barring any unforeseen events. But, this new chapter for The Freshman appeared and my single MC and Zig had a moment toward the end of it and inspiration smacked me over the head so I had to get this out.

This little one shot picks up right where that section of the chapter left off when my single MC and Zig go to the backseat of his car but she asks him to hold her rather than take her. I personally prefer that choice and so here is my version of how I would want the rest of that night to play out for them. If you would like to see those screens, check out my blog…I have the whole thing posted there.

Anyway, please feel free to leave feedback and any suggestions for improvement. But, overall, I hope you enjoy it!

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Sitting in the back seat of Zig’s car and not having sex was a bit surprising to her. It wasn’t that she expected to just jump in the sack with him every time she laid eyes on him. Most times maybe, but not every time. It was just that, no matter what their plans were, usually their intense desire for each other would win out and they’d find themselves naked and entangled in the nearest private space. Yet, tonight was different and this moment felt more right than any other. As she lay on top of him, she breathed in his scent and let his words echo in her head:

…like I said before, I’m here for you, no matter what.

He’d proved that over and over to her. Punching out Sebastian for grabbing her, supporting the student council initiative she was helping with, talking her through her feelings about her friendships changing, spending the evening with her when all her friends were too busy, stepping in to help her babysit at the last minute…the evidence was overwhelming. Even tonight, all she’d sent him was a text message asking him to please come pick her up if he was still awake because she couldn’t sleep and needed some company. He’d been at her door in an instant, no questions asked.

Zig carefully sat upright and repositioned himself in the back seat, making sure she was comfortable as well. He continued to hold her in his arms as she rested against him contentedly. She’d grown so close to him over the past few months and now she wanted more. But what did he want?

“So, did you have a nice day with James?” Zig questioned and she smiled, grateful for the distraction from her current train of thought. She gave a slight nod.

“I did. We ate at this great restaurant and found this silly photo booth and then went to the park. I did have a little run in with his agent, but I’ll tell you about that some other time. Anyway, I enjoyed spending the day with him. It was…um…” she trailed off, images of the cemetery suddenly flooding her brain. A heaviness settled in her chest and her eyes misted over. She hadn’t noticed how long she’d been silent until Zig stroked her cheek. She glanced up at him and he was looking down at her, his eyebrows furrowed in concern.

“Hey, tell me what’s on your mind.”

She sighed, reaching for his hand and intertwining her fingers with his. “Remember when I was telling you about Professor Vasquez?”

“Yeah. He’s the one you were working for when you started school, right? He passed away recently?”

She nodded. “Yeah. It’s his book that I’m working on now.” She paused, before continuing hesitantly. “James and I decided to go to his grave site.”

Zig squeezed her hand and she instantly felt tears well up. Earlier with James at the cemetery she had expected herself to break down completely. Somehow in that moment, her need to be strong for him had taken over and she’d managed to hold back her emotions. But here with Zig, she felt comfortable and safe letting him be strong for her.

“Neither of us had been to visit him yet and the funeral was private so we couldn’t attend. Tonight was a good time to say our goodbyes. It was our best chance to do it together.”

He nodded, a somber expression on his face. “I’m glad you both got that chance.”

“Me too. It was nice to get closure. But, Zig…it was…really hard.” Her voice wavered and then broke as the tears that had welled up earlier finally spilled over. She buried her face in his chest, feeling both ashamed and relieved at the same time. But she knew if anyone would be accepting of all of her feelings, it was him.

“I know,” he murmured. He gently traced circles on her back with one hand as he held her close with the other. She clutched him tightly, crying silently into his shirt. Her breath hitched in her chest and Zig stayed steady, continuing to cradle her in his arms. He occasionally pressed a gentle kiss to her temple that sent a warm rush through her each time he made contact. With every second in his embrace, she gradually felt herself starting to relax. Momentarily, her tears died down to sniffles and she pulled away, wiping her eyes.

“I’m sorry about all this. You’d think he was my dad or something, the way I’m carrying on.”

Zig tilted her face toward his, gently swiping at a stray tear. Then he searched her eyes. “He meant a lot to you. It’s okay to miss him. And it sounds like you never really got a chance to mourn his death”

She nodded, glancing out the window. A fresh wave of sadness hit her, causing her eyelids to sting. “I don’t say it all the time, but he did a lot for me. He challenged me and forced me out of my comfort zone. He helped me learn to trust myself. He’s also the only reason I was able to stay in school in the first place. I wouldn’t have made all these wonderful friends…” She felt her temperature spike as she looked back at Zig. “I wouldn’t have been here to meet you if not for him.”

“Then I owe him a huge debt, too.”

They smiled at each other as she settled back against him, feeling much lighter. It was as if her burden had been lifted and she knew it was because he was willing to share the weight along with her.

“Do you mind telling me a little more about Professor Vasquez? I’d love to hear it.” Zig’s tone was curious as he trailed his fingers along the length of her arm. She smiled gently.

“Well, I already told you that Gabriela is his daughter. But, what I didn’t tell you is that they were estranged until I interfered and helped reunite them.”

“Really?! I’ve got to hear this.” He sounded completely shocked and she chuckled. She went on to briefly explain how she found Vasquez’ letter to Gabriela in the trash and contacted her about it. Retelling the story reminded her of how much she’d meddled in their lives and she felt slightly embarrassed. But Zig shook his head in awe.

“So, it really was all because of you.”

She shrugged. “Yeah, kind of. He got very angry with me when he found out what I did and I was sure he was going to fire me. But once I told him Gabriela was pregnant and convinced him a little, he truly wanted to reconnect on his own. Shortly after that, his cancer secret was revealed and he was finally able to talk with her. He ended up being there to see Rico come into the world and Gabriela got to spend time with him before he passed away. In fact, Rico is named after him.”

He gazed at her, an unreadable look in his eyes. “Wow. You’re amazing.”

She returned his look, though her eyebrow was cocked up in confusion. “Huh? Why do you say that?”

“Do you have any idea what you did for them? They got to be together again and say their final goodbyes because of you. His daughter is able to be at peace with him because of you. He got to meet his grandson because of you. So, yeah…you’re amazing.”

She blushed, a small smile coming to her lips. “Thanks, Zig. But right now I don’t feel amazing. I feel like kind of a mess.”

He smirked. “Well, then…you’re my mess. A beautiful one, at that.” He gently traced her jawline with his fingertips and her body temperature sky rocketed. She sat up slowly, her eyes locking with his. This felt like the right moment to say what had been on her mind for weeks now.

“Zig…I really care about you.”

“I care about you, too.” He eyed her uncertainly but she pushed forward, fighting against the knot in her stomach and the lump in her throat.

“And I know we only met a few months ago but it doesn’t feel like that to me. You said it last week and it’s true….it’s like I’ve known you my whole life.”

At some point, he’d reached over and taken both of her hands in his. The warmth of his touch gave her the courage to keep talking. “I’m so happy every time we’re together and I miss you so much when we’re apart. I just want to be with you. Only you. Does that sound…possessive?”

He grinned. “Yeah. But I want that too. I’ve never wanted to be with someone more than I want to be with you.”

Her nerves had dissolved into giddiness and she grinned back at him. “So we’re…you know…a thing now?”

He chuckled. “Yes. We’re a thing now.” Then his expression softened as he caressed her cheek. “I’m yours.”

She slid onto his lap, her arms wrapping around his neck as she gazed into his eyes. She couldn’t stop the smile that spread across her face. “And I’m yours.” She pressed her lips to his and he returned the gesture, gripping her waist. They shared several soft, gentle kisses before he pulled away.

“So right now it’s either really late or really early, depending on how you look at it. I know you need to get James to the airport in a few hours so what do you want to do?”

“I want to stay with you.”

He squeezed her waist, smirking. “I want you to stay with me too, but we need to make sure you get at least a little rest before you have to leave for the airport.”

She sighed, giving a mock pout before smiling. “You’re right. I should head back home. And maybe you can get some sleep before your next shift.”

“I’m closing tonight so I’m good to go. It’s you I’m worried about.” He kissed her gently once more and her entire body tingled. Leaving him tonight was going to be harder than she thought.

“Alright, fine…” She couldn’t hide the disappointment in her voice and he caressed her shoulder.

“Hey, don’t sound so sad. I fully intend to see you later on today.”

She glanced up at him hopefully. “Are you sure? I don’t want you to get burnt out on me.”

“Impossible.” He gently ran his fingers through her hair and her entire face heated up. She would never get enough of his touch. Then he took her hand as he opened the car door. “Now, let’s get you home.”

She exited the backseat and followed him to the passenger side of the car, his hand still encircling hers. She couldn’t remember feeling so delighted and content in her life. Just as he was about to open the door for her, she stopped him, pulling on his arm. He paused, turning back toward her questioningly.

“Everything okay?”

“Yeah. I just wanted to say thank you again for tonight. Well….for everything. Earlier I was thinking about how you’ve been there for me from day one before you even knew me. I still can’t believe I met you and now I get to be with you. I’m lucky.”

He pulled her back toward him, his arms snaking around her waist. “That’s very nice of you to say but you have it a little backwards. I’m the one who’s lucky to be with you.” She grinned, leaning in for a quick kiss. Before he could pull away, she tacked on two more pecks for good measure. A look of amusement colored his features.

“Now I’m starting to get the sense that you’re stalling…” His smirk had returned and she shrugged, raising an eyebrow playfully.

“What would give you that idea?”

He chuckled, pulling the car door open for her. “Let’s go, flirt.”

Once inside, Zig pulled away and headed back to campus. He took her hand in his and kissed it before placing it on his leg. As she gazed at the beautiful skyline and the wonderful man sitting next to her, she couldn’t keep the smile off of her face.

With all of the unsettling changes going on around her, this new relationship was one change she was more than ready for.

About a day ago, I had six followers. Since then, I’ve gained 184 new followers. And only one of them was a porn blog!

So, hello new folks! I’m assuming y’all are all here because of my Reaper story. I initially intended to leave it as a short story, but I’ve had a number of people asking for more (including my sister), so I’m going to see about continuing. It will probably be a little while before I can post another section. I’ll need to do some serious world-building and story planning first.

Thanks to everyone who’s messaged me or left a reply on the post. You’ve all been so lovely!

anonymous asked:

That suicide chatline is affiliated with a homophobic organization. A better alternative is the Lifeline Crisis Chat. I'm pretty sure, at least.

Hm I googled it and found a bunch of posts that said that’s true. I reblogged one and then noticed that one comment on it said, “Myself and another board member for Hopeline, the parent of IMAlive, identify as gay, and we have never had a homophobic interaction, ever, with TWLOHA. I assure you that IMAlive is a safe space for LGBTQ+ youth, otherwise I wouldn’t be on it’s BOD.”

I was like… ??? so I looked deeper. TWLOHA is short for the org “To Write Love On Her Arms”; I googled “to write love on her arms homophobic” and found this from the queer blog PunkOut:

“The anti-gay rumors stem from the fact that in its very early days, TWLOHA supported Mercy Ministries, an organization that seemed very much in line with their ideals. However, once a Mercy survivor reached out to TWLOHA and shared her story of the mistreatment she endured at Mercy Ministries, TWLOHA immediately pulled their funding and retracted any affiliation with them.” 

They also link to this tumblr post that talks about how TWLOHA’s Find Help Section includes “The Trevor Project, The Jed Foundation (Love is Louder came from Jed). They actively have supported the LGBT community. They openly state they are not a Christian Organization (twloha.com/faq).” 

So it looks like it is all a misunderstanding from their early says thank goodness. 

While I was at it I figured I’d google “lifeline crisis chat homophobic” and I didn’t find anything negative about it either, yay :D  

I did find a good list of various texting options from Reddit, which I’ll quote here cause more resources is good, and because the way they explain how to use a crisis chat is very useful. they also have some international phone numbers if you click through to the original Reddit post: 

“please remember that crisis does not just mean suicide - if you’re having a hard time with your anxiety, depression, personal issues, self harm, family issues, you name it - if it’s pulling at your chest and you’re in emotional pain that is cause enough call/text reach out. Your issues are not minimal they are YOUR issues and trust me when I say the person on the other end wants to help and is there for you. I have multiple versions of this list but this one is broken into region, and I’m not even finished with it I have but here it goes (I hope this copies over ok)

“Suicide/Crisis Hotlines Phone/Web

USA

“Crisis Text Line | Text “START” to 741-741
Text option 24/7 crisis support by trained crisis intervention people (staff & volunteers)

“Common Ground | Call: 800 231 1127 | Web Chat 
“Mental health services for youth offering phone & web crisis lines - help with suicide, bullying, depression, anxiety, and other issues. Hours: M-F 4pm-10pm EST

“Lifeline Crisis Chat | Online Crisis Chat
“Hours: 2pm to 2am EST 7 days a week

“Suicide Prevention & Crisis Line | Call: 800 273 TALK | Online Option**
“Hours: M-F 6pm to 9pm EST

“Iowa Crisis Support | 24/7 Crisis Line: 319 351 0140 OR 855 325 4296 | Crisis Chat | Youth Crisis Chat
“Chat services in both English and Mandarin. Crisis chat hours: English: 2pm - 2am EST Everyday | Mandarin: M-F 8pm to 10pm EST

Australia

“Lifeline: 24/7 Hotline: 13 11 14 | Live Crisis Chat

Canada

“Crisis Support Centre | 24/7 Distress Line 780-482-HELP (4357) | Rural Distress Line: 1-800-232-7288 | Live Crisis Chat

“Distress Centre | 24/7 Hotline: (403)266-HELP | IM Chat for adults |Connecteen for teens

“Kid’s Help Phone | 1-800-668-6868 (English Version)
A Canadian site for youth up to age 20, offering crisis counselling via phone hotline, or IM Chat

“Manitoba Support Services | Toll-Free Stress Line: 1-866-367-3276 | Online Chat
“Telephone & Online counseling for Farmers, Rural and Northern Manitobians.

“Tel-Jeunes | Tel: 1-800-263-2266 | Text: 514-600-1002
“French-Canadian phone hotline, text hotline, and online chat as well as forums for youth (18 and under)

“United Kingdom

“The CALM Zone | Nationwide: 0800 58 58 58 | London: 0808 802 58 58 | Web Chat London based crisis site for men in the UK - crisis support is 5pm-midnight 265 days a year.

“Childline | Call: 0800 1111 | Online Chat A 24/7 helpline for children and youth who live in the UK. Includes a phone hotline, message boards, email, and web chat services. Also features an “Explore” area with mental health info, and a “Play” section with games.

“Get Connected | Phone: 0808 808 4994 | Web Chat UK based crisis services offering phone, email, text, and live chat for 25 years and younger.

“Leeds Nightline | Listening Service: 0113 380 1281 | Information Service: 0113 380 1380 Web Chat
“A peer support service run by and for Leeds students, during term time in the UK. Offers a phone hotline and IM chat. Hours: 8pm to midnight GMT currently closed for summer to open back in a month or so

“Leeds Survivor Led Crisis Services | Helpline: 0808 800 1212 |Chat Line Crisis respite home & help line with live chat available. Hours: IM available 6pm - 1:30pm BST

“Strathclyde & Caledonia Nightline | Phone: 0141 55 22 555 | Chat Service
Confidential phone & online hotline/info service run by trained students of the Glasgow Caedonian & Strathclyde Universities. Hours: 7pm-7am M-F GMT

India

“Maithri | + 0484 2540530
“Operates in Kochi in the state of Kerala, south-west India offering crisis support via phone, letter, and face to face contact.

“Lifeline Foundation | Helpline: 24637401 / 7432
“Lifeline India has email & phone support for people around Kolkata.”

(and of course there are a ton of international suicide hotline masterposts floating around Tumblr for people who can talk on the phone)

“piano jam” theory

okay so, first of all, i’m absolute trash, and i know way too much about mcr, but also….

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here-i-study-in-4-languages  asked:

Ok so I'm starting the IB as of tomorrow and I'm taking HL Chemistry and freaking out about it. I have never considered myself fit for any science related stuff and me taking the class now is, well, maybe not so well thought out. Anyways, the point's I've never rly paid that much attention to chemistry and... Well. Things I should know, resources, advice, anything about HL Chem?

Hi thanks for your question!

Chemistry HL is notorious for being a course that requires a lot of dedication and commitment and as someone who is in her second half of the course, it does require a lot of additional study. Despite what my schedule might indicate to my viewers, I am not a science-centered individual at all in fact, I definitely prefer (and excel in) my arts’ courses over my science ones. Due to this fact, I have a ton of great resources I can share with you as well as advice and additional tips! If anyone can add anything new to the discussion, please feel free to rb this post with your own advice especially if you have successfully completed the course!

Advice

Do not expect to excel in assessments: This was probably the hardest thing for me to accept last year, especially as a student who previously encountered little to no issues with chemistry. IB is very nit-picky about how assessments are addressed in Group 4, specifically with the way answers are provided by students. For assessments, teachers are provided with criteria as specific as keyword indicators and/or full sentences for full marks and without including these key phrases in your answers, you will not get full marks. In addition to this, IB has their own repertoire of definitions and language for the sciences that are a requirement for usage in the course. For instance, IB has their own definition of defining cooling and heating as well as chemistry-related words as ionization. (Trust me, these are not the everyday-definitions you would expect and prefer.) When responding to prompts, you must adhere to these definitions and language for even the most basic of marks. As such, scoring high consistently in assessments can be difficult. 

Resources (+ my personal notes!)

  1. Richard Thornley’s IB Chemistry: This guy is the MVP of the IB Chemistry world and provides detailed video tutorials, how-tos and instruction related to the chemistry curriculum.  
  2. Textbooks: My school uses the Oxford 2014 edition for lessons, but I prefer the Pearson Baccalaureate edition for study. If you have the opportunity to, “shop-around” for a textbook that suits your personal study time and with the curriculum across the board being identical, it’ll help you succeed. (Remember to make sure you are choosing resources with the most updated curriculum though! Since the publication of this post it was last updated for the 2016 examinations.)  
  3. Chemistry guide: This guide is a thorough outline to the lessons to pay attention to and those you can summarize in a few lines. What I like to do for review of every chapter/unit of study is match my personal notes and textbook lessons to the guidelines listed in this document to determine what’s important to know for assessments and what’s just a fun-fact. I reorient/rewrite/curate my notes to match the guide prior to every unit assessment and in the end I’ll have a stack of notes perfect for final examination review!
  4. @sciencescribbles Chemistry HL notesThis is a great resource for quick, beautifully drawn reminders and summaries of the syllabus. 
  5. Your fellow IB peers: Some students find that Chemistry HL comes to them fairly naturally and if an opportunity arises, ask them if you can study with them for the next assessment or you can peer-review together. Trust me, this can be a lifesaver! I’ve included a link to @katsdesk and @studiversal‘s STUDYBLR INDEX, more specifically to the IB section of the blog which includes a list of IB subjects and bloggers that have experience in those classes and can offer you additional advice/resources/notes if you send them a message!

Additional IB Resources

Hope this helps ~

On working with other people’s patterns.

I was just looking at a pattern on Etsy, and I saw that some of the reviews weren’t very nice. In fact some were rather rude about the pattern, and despite the listing saying that it was an advanced pattern, the negative reviews were people having what sounded like novice issues.

This is not a dig at novices or beginners, I’m just going to write a little bit about tips for working with patterns.


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hawkstorm1622  asked:

So, I'm budgeting hedgehog prices, and so far, it's totaled to about $375, including $200 for the actual hedgie. I've figured out a few things that lowered the price considerably, including feeding the hedgehog the same food as my dog (which I made sure is okay for it!!). Are there any good brands or tips to lower the price even more? I'm willing to message you or something to get you more in-depth about what I've managed to budget. :) Thank you!

I am glad that you’ve thought this out so well. Getting a hedgehog can be very very expensive. Budgeting yourself is a great way to figure out if a hedgehog is right for you. There are a ton of products out there that are available, but are they really worth it? Can I make something myself that will be just as pet-safe, yet less expensive? For some things, yes. For other items, it may be worth investing in a high quality item.

Things to Save Money on:

The Cage:

Cages bought in the store can be very expensive. The type and size that is suitable for a hedgehog can range anywhere between $75-$180. But do you need to buy it in the store? No. Look on Craigslist. I bought my first cage off of Craigslist. It cost me $30. New it would have cost me $80.

Another cheeper option is to build a cage. C&C cages are a very common build for hedgehogs. I will link you to another post I made on C&C cages. I explain them in much greater detail. The cube metal shelving will range anywhere between $15-30. As for the coroplast, that cost ranges depending on where you live. But you don’t have to use coroplast. I have a C&C cage and I currently use extra laminate flooring as my base that I got for free from my work. And zip ties are cheap to buy practically anywhere.

Bedding:

This stuff is costly over time regardless of which type you buy. I used to use a recycled paper bedding that was roughly $20 a bag. I went through a bag about every two months. Over the course of one year, I had spent over $100 on the stuff. Eventually I said enough with this. Time to find a better, more cost effective method.

I now use fleece and fleece strips as my cage liner and ‘bedding’. Goodwill is your new best friend. Seriously. I purchased two fleece blankets from there and cut them up into large rectangles for my liner and then tediously sliced a butt-ton of little strips (1 inch wide by 3-4 inches long) to stuff in my hedge’s house as warm bedding. I just wash them in my washing machine, putting the tiny strips into a delicate’s bag (like you would do if you were washing a bra). And voila! Reusable bedding. Just make sure you shake them out and inspect them throughly for quills before washing them.

Toys:

Make them yourself. The ever classic toilet paper roll is a great example. Just be sure to cut a slit all the way down the side so your hedge doesn’t get his/her head stuck. Take used up tissue boxes and cut holes in them to make fun tunnels. Get creative.

Food/Water Bowls:

I have no earthly idea why pet stores think I was going to buy tiny bowls for my hedgehog at $5+ a piece. Ain’t nobody got time for that. Again, Goodwill is your friend. I purchased two ceramic ramekins from Goodwill for roughly $1.25 a piece. Boom. Bowls. Done.

Items Worth Investing $$$:

Heating Source:

Whether you purchase a space heater or a CHE (ceramic heat emitter) system, this is the one hedgehog necessity worth every penny. Hedgehogs must be maintained at temperatures between 73-80 degrees F. Temperatures below 70 can trigger your hedgehog to attempt hibernation and possibly die from hypothermia and/or starvation. Even drastic changes in temperature can trigger the response, so it is very important to keep the cage temperature at a constant warm level. I personally use a CHE system, which I bought as a bundle from my hedgehog breeder for about $80. You can find all the parts (bulb, dome, rheostat, and temperature gage) necessary for a CHE system in the reptile section of your local pet store. I’ve made a video explaining the different parts of a CHE system to which I’ll link you here.

Wheel:

Hedgehogs need a wheel to run on. In the wild hedgehog’s can run up to several miles at night in search for food. It’s good for hedgehogs to remain a at healthy weight and not turn into a fat spiky lump. Hedgehog’s require wheels that are at least 12 inches in diameter. These can range anywhere from $17-35. The basic silent spinners are fine to use (but their name is misleading - not completely silent. At all.) A popular brand that hedgehog owners use is a Carolina Storm Wheel (CSW Wheel) that you can purchase on of their website. I don’t have one myself. But i really really want one. ;)

Food:

I know you mentioned that you had already decided on a food. Dog food is fine to feed hedgehogs as long as the protein levels are high enough, and the fat and fiber content is low enough. I’ll link you to my post about a hedgehog’s proper diet here. Most people feed their hedgehogs cat food mainly because the kibble pieces are small enough for the hedgehog to chew. But if you have a small kibble dog food that’s not a problem.

Buying a separate food for your hedgehog may not be as expensive as you think. Because hedges only eat 1-2 tablespoons of food a day, a whole bag of cat food lasts you for several months. I buy the small (3.5 lbs) bag of cat food (at ~ $13 a bag) at that lasts me about 3-4 months. Something to think about.


I hope this helps. Feel free to ask more questions if you have them.

anonymous asked:

Hi there!~ I'm still in the process of writing my book and I was wondering if you had any tips for how to get people interested in it before it's published? :)

Yes! So many tips! 

Building “the platform”: how to get a follow before your book is published

These tips apply either if you did not publish yet or if you published, but are relatively unknown.  Readers can’t know your book is a wondrous whirlwind of emotions, action, and insightful bits because, of course, they did not read it yet.

1-The best way to sell your book is to write more books. If people like your style, they will keep reading. The more books (of good quality) you have available the easiest it is to sell them.

Look at the most famous authors out there. Did you read the first Harry Potter as soon as it came out? Likely not. It took years for the word to spread. I read my first one when the fourth one had just been published.

In my personal marketing plan, I started publishing only once I had four books ready to go with the plan of publishing them within one year (accomplished in November 2016, YAY!).

If you look at most Indie Authors who made it big, they did so after publishing eight to ten books. In my personal experience, which I shared with you in this guide, money started to trickle in after book 2 and increased with book 3 :)

2-Develop a presence online, which does not mean scream on social media for people to buy your book(s).

DON’T! Don’t message people you don’t know, don’t bother anyone. Would you buy someone’s book just because the author asked you to? Me neither! So please, stop wasting your time and being a pain in everyone’s arse.

DO! Show readers what you can do.

HOW?

BLOG. What’s your style? I’m humorous, insightful, irreverent (or at least I try). I like to speak about important topics most people shy away from: hypocrisy, sex (the real thing, not cheesy unrealistic stuff), religion, mental afflictions, gender identity. I post writing advice, I post pictures of the places I talk about followed by lines in my writing voice, I try to entice readers by giving them free samples of what they might expect in my books.

I tried several Social Media: Pinterest, Facebook, Tumblr, Linkedin, Twitter, Instagram, etc…TOO MUCH.

Select whichever Social Media you enjoy, or dread less, and stick to that. 

Remember that it will take time! People will slowly warm to you, it might take months, even years in some cases!

Personally I have:

1-A main website (about 7,000 visits per week) populated with:

-My blog,

-A shop page that gathers all books and formats and where to buy them,

-Contact info-About section with my bio and some excerpts from various interviews and pictures from book signings and events,

-The Italian Saga section, describing the books, themes, showing reviews (and linking to Amazon, I hate to select only positive reviews, I like my readers to have a clear and complete view of the range of reviews),

-Upcoming events section with book signings, presentations, and other public appearances,

2-A Tumblr blog (3,485 followers) : I post the same content on my blog and Tumblr, but on Tumblr I have a lot of conversations with readers and writers. I love Tumblr ^_^

3-Instagram, because I love photography. To use pictures to my advantage I often write poetic lines or take pictures of my books,

4-Twitter (7,216 followers) where I push my content and try to help other writers,

5-A Facebook Page,

6-I wrote an Indie Author Guide, with all my advice, to help other writers (see below). The advice is sound and based on my experience, but it’s written in a funny, down to Earth voice

What is important: that your “handle”, the name you use, is always the same. Mine is @GaiaBAmman. I hope this helps :)

Who am I to give you advice?

I am Gaia B Amman, the author of the Italian Saga (#TIS), a series taking place in gorgeous Italy, and talking about everything I was told is impolite to talk about ;)

I published this article and many more in the Indie Author Guide (below).

Tumblrs can get it free here <3 The following publishing timeline is from the guide. Enjoy!

we have a new event for our amazing followers!

 this blog has been doing very well and getting followers faster than i could have ever imagined. because of this, Admin Shiro and i have decided that you lovely nuggets deserve something extra special! we’re so excited hold me back

when this blog reaches its next thousand, we’re going to start a fiction series for a couple lucky followers to be showcased.

you read correct! it will be a personal piece of fiction written for you and about you! there will be 2 roles to start - the lead and the secondary lead. we will post minimum one chapter a week, probably a 4/5 chapter series, that will include a fic about you and your bias (don’t forget to include who that is when you submit your application!!!) obviously the focus of the story will be the lead and their BTS bb but there will be some lovin’ for the secondary and their baebae too haHA big bangs comeback is killing me 

the lucky followers will be chosen using a random online generator. 

you must submit a bit of information about yourself. basically what you’d include for a ship, there is a template below that you can copy and paste! you can just use our inbox but submitting a selca along with your description would make it A LOT easier and way more accurate. we will ignore messages that are sent on anon - we need to be able to contact you!

so submit this info (and a selca if you feel comfortable, we won’t be posting them) you don’t need to go into extreme detail for each section!


Name:
Age:
Height:
Hair colour:
Eye colour:
Likes/Dislikes:
Defining personality traits (ex; lazy, outgoing, aggressive):
Interests/hobbies:
Music/fashion taste:
Sense of humour:
Bias:
Would you like it to be AU? (If not it would be as though you are dating them as an idol):
Anything else you’d like to add?:


ok sorry if that was a lot but characters are very important to me so I want it to be authentic!!

if you don’t feel comfortable giving out any of the personal information, feel free to note so and we will make it up!

the only rule is that you must be following jinshoulders (and obviously this blog as we are doing it for our followers) once we reach the next k we will select 2 winners so send in applications now as it’s happening pretty quickly! 

CLICK HERE WHEN YOU’RE READY TO SUBMIT!

~ admin ariel