Do you think there really is a reason why Katie doesn't tell us her birthday? I mean, don't get me wrong, I really don't care when it is and I think it's rude to ask her but I've seen many people saying that she keeps it secret for a reason and I actually think she didn't care if people knew until she realized her fans had made a big deal out of it. I think she's just playing now, again that doesn't mean that people should ask her or bother her about it but I also don't think it's a big secret
I wanted to address these questions together because my answer to both are somewhat similar in theme.
Firstly, when it comes to her birthday, I think when we say she keeps it a secret for a reason, we aren’t necessarily indicating that it is some big secret that she wishes to keep. I think the more important message is that her reasons for not telling us when her birthday is are her own. It isn’t up to us to question why, but instead to respect that for whatever reason, she does not wish to say. That fact and whether or not it ever changes is her prerogative and hers alone.
Onto the second question, the one thing we do know is that she enjoys interacting with fans – that much is a given. Being presented with people that love her/her work and appreciate the projects that she is part of is something that she has always shown joy in doing. And she is always incredibly gracious in doing so.
What many of us in the fandom have been discussing lately is the limit to those interactions. I am generally new to fandom, but from interactions I have had with those that have been around for quite some time, I can understand that there has been a dramatic shift in the way fandoms work.
The argument of “Keep it in the fandom,” has become more or less of a moot point because of the way people interact on social media and how fandom has been extended to those mediums. Rather than only interacting with other fans, we now have “access” to the celebrities that play the characters that we love or hate. We have access to the creators of the material that we enjoy or dislike. I feel like with that access comes a sense of entitlement – more often from the younger generation than not. The idea of boundaries being placed and respecting them, along with the privacy of those we seek recognition from has become obtuse to so many insofar when it is even suggested that they are out of line, they take an offensive stance.
“They would laugh at the jokes too.” “They’re an adult on social media, they can take care of themselves.” “This kind of thing happens all the time.” All examples of excuses we see made every day to justify behavior that many find inappropriate while those that engage in the behavior feel they are within their right so long as they are gratified. Too often do we see the line between fiction and reality being danced upon or even erased by some. Empathy goes out the window because oh look! I have NSFW fan art signed by my fave!
People have different ideas of boundaries. And I have seen too many people in fandom indicate that they reserve the right to say what is and is not offensive or inappropriate. Some of them follow me. So if you’ve made it this far, remember this: It’s not up to you to decide. Nor is it your place to ridicule or laugh at those that are offended by what you do.
TL;DR - So to put it bluntly, it is not, nor will it ever be my place to presume how Katie feels about something. It is better to think about this. How would you feel if a complete stranger approached you with a nude drawing with your likeness and asked you to put your name on it? How would you feel if a stranger approached you and made a criticism about something you couldn’t change? How would you feel if multiple strangers approached you and asked about something that you have clearly decided not to disclose?
All I can say is that it is a question of common decency and considering the feelings of others. We don’t own these people. They owe us nothing. Treat them with the respect that they deserve.