Today's shadow work topic is: perfectionism and how that fucks you up
My fellow perfectionists, lend me your ears
I have some thing I learned recently that is very fucking helpful and explained a thing to me
What is your exact thought process when you start a thing? I don’t care what the thing is, whether it’s a new exercise regimen or a job or a new relationship
If your thought process is “I need to succeed at this thing” you are automatically approaching the thing the wrong way, because imposing arbitrary standards on yourself with ideas like succeeding at things that don’t have metrics for that divorces you emotionally and mentally from the thing
Basically, what I’m saying is the soul really likes to shrivel up and die in conditions in which your goal is “success”. You might be happy when you perceive yourself doing “well” at the thing, only to experience the crash later if you get fired or the relationship ends or something else and the problem with this is in some degree you probably placed some of your self worth on a thing can can end or be taken from you
The healthier thing to do is embark on a thing, like a new job or a move or a relationship and tell yourself “I’m just going to try this new thing, and if it doesn’t work out, it will be a learning experience and I will have some new memories to look over”
If you approach a new experience as a playful thing, and not this hyper serious obsessive desire to succeed at the thing, the soul gets a chance to be engaged and you begin to live the experience for the sake of the experience, and not for the ideal of succeeding or being respected or some kind of external validation that becomes, later, a dependency issue that rears its ugly head when you get fired or broken up with or fall on hard health times
Basically, if you approach things in your life as opportunities for growth instead of a constant barrage of tests that if you do well enough on, out will come your happiness tokens, you will generally accidentally fall into happiness before you even notice, and start living for the sake of it and appreciating the people in your life more for who they are rather than what they can do
I don’t think I’m a perfectionist because if you try for perfection, it’s too much pressure. But I’m probably a nightmare to work for … I tend to tell people something once and then I expect that it will be done correctly from that moment on. But I can’t help it – I see things other people don’t and I know how to fix it, how to make it look better. I don’t know how I know that, I just do.
an: I literally don’t even know where this came from but all of a sudden I’m writing Disney World fluff and Captain Hook is riding Splash Mountain with Prince Charming and all was right in my world. I hope this counts as domestic fluff, @odonorude, because it’s what came out.
It is on Emma’s birthday that she finally gets to
go to Disney World. She’d always dreamed of going there as a kid, but never
thought she’d have the chance. But, thanks to Regina and some magic trickery,
Emma finally has her chance.
Granted, it’s only for the weekend, and it’s a huge family
trip, complete with schedules printed weeks in advance and guide maps
memorized, as well as traveling partners assigned.
So, I was asked to show how I colour my gifs and thought I’d put together a little tutorial.
I will be going from this:
I’m using Photoshop CS6 Extended and will be using the timeline animation to make my gif. But if you use the frame animation that works just as well. Just make sure you’re standing on the first frame when you add the layers.
I put the full tutorial under a read more because it got a bit lengthy. I hope you like it! (p.s. this colouring works on a lot of different shows and movies)
welp, this has been my first attempt at Bucky Barnes, and hopefully next time will be less frustrating. also, if this scene from TWS doesn’t still destroy you, nearly two years later, then I think we are just fundamentally different people.