and the way she grows

He will only be a story that I tell my daughter when her heart gets broken the same way mine did. He will only will be a story that I tell my daughter when she is pining over some who breaks her the way he broke me. He will only be a story that my daughter will hear as a way to grow, and know that she will be okay. He will only be a story.
—  Cas, He will only be a story

Real talk though I am so super impressed with the way they handled Yohane’s and Chika’s characters in this episode as well as the moral over all. They don’t throw away Yohane’s chunni as some dumb thing that she needs to hurry up and grow out of. The only one who does that is Yohane herself and in turn the only one unsatisfied with the way that she is is herself but not because she doesn’t like it. She wants others to like her, she wants to fit in and have friends but she feels that she cannot as she is now. 

Chika teaches her that it’s ok, not only be yourself but to love yourself in all that you do. That it’s ok that she likes to do rituals and calls herself an angel because she’s happy and she’s not hurting one. Chika even says that if she’s not comfortable with something that Yohane is doing she’ll say no. Chika’s love and accepting is something that I really wasn’t expecting from her character and I’m really impressed with the way she’s turned out. She takes Muse’s “love without hesitation” and brings it to life with the people around her. 

Yohane is really a character that I want the kids watching to really look at it. To see her struggle with being “normal” but to find people that love her and want her to love herself. That its ok to not be conventionally normal and to surround yourself with people who love you for who you are so you can learn to love you. To not be afraid and express yourself and love yourself is all such a good moral and I’m so happy with how this episode turned out. 

preston garvey is a full body hugger, he just wraps his arms around the sole survivor and squeezes gently. there’s no real rush in his hugs, and the sole survivor can take as long as they like

piper wright is also a full body hugger, and no matter the size of the sole survivor, she’ll try her damnedest to squeeze the life out of them and lift ‘em off their feet. if she can get away with it, she’ll swing ‘em around

john hancock throws his arm around the sole survivor, pulls them into this half-body lock/half-hug thing, and only lets go when the sole survivor starts squirming to get out

at first, cait’s not a hugger. nope. no way. until she and the sole survivor grow close, and they discover she gives the most monstrous of bear hugs, but only for a split second (any longer, the sole survivor swears they’d crack a rib)

maccready prefers a side hug, one arm looped around the sole survivor’s shoulders before dropping to their waist, to pull them tight against his side for just a brief moment

deacon likes to drape his arm over the sole survivor’s shoulders. he’ll use that as a tactical advantage to suddenly give them a wet willy.

danse takes awhile to warm up to hugs. but one day he stops the sole survivor and pulls them into his arms, head against their shoulder, and just buries them in one

curie is tentative about hugging, but eager to try, arms tight around the sole survivor’s neck, cheek against cheek, face warm and reddening as they both laugh at her new experience, and how she plans to catalogue that in her observations

codsworth is a little difficult when it comes to hugging, but he never says no to the sole survivor suddenly draping about him. if the mechanics of his arms allow it, he’ll sneak in a quick pat when he can

strong eventually learns what a hug is. it takes a few lessons from the sole survivor to learn that it is not, in fact, a new way to break an enemy’s spine in half. but the way he gives them, lifting the sole survivor in the air, arms pinned to their side, one would think he’s trying his best anyway.

how to get x6-88 to hug a person is still a mystery. very brief, quick to step back, but his hands linger, still reached out just a bit, giving the sole survivor permission to initiate first.

nick valentine likes to hug from behind. one moment the sole survivor is talking, the next, they’ve got a chain smoking synth half-draped over them, chin resting on top of their head, as he listens in on the conversation. definitely the best companion to go for hugs on cold days

dogmeat loves hugs, but loves employing sloppy puppy kisses more

morrigan was raised by an abusive mother. we know that she was emotionally abused and subjected to forms of neglect

although you may not like her, its important to realize the reasons behind her cold demeanour and somewhat harsh beliefs. flemeth was a horrible mother 

the warden, if befriended, is her first friend ever. she’s never before been in constant contact with anyone but her abusive parent

the way she grows with the warden is reason enough to reevaluate whatever previous thoughts you’ve had about “how much of a bitch she is”. she develops a sense of caring and loyalty. her growth is an important part of her character arc when you take into consideration her isolated and cruel childhood 

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Darth Vader didn’t leave Ahsoka alive as an act of kindness, mercy, or weakness.

He left her there because that would make her suffer the most.

To kill her would simply be to end her life; but to leave her alone on a desolate planet, believed dead by all who knew her, would be to make her life worthless. There is no one she can help, there is nothing she can do, and if there’s one thing constant in Ahsoka’s life, it’s her need to help people.

Even if it involves breaking character to help a tortured slave or breaking political treaties that say “Don’t get involved”, Ahsoka can’t sit back and do nothing while others suffer. She was always less adept at playing the waiting game than Anakin Skywalker–while he was upset at orders to avoid meddling in the affairs of a threatened village, he understood that he should follow them in order to protect the Greater Good. This was a short-sighted weakness, and Darth Vader would use this to punish her for the rest of her life. She could give up and die if she wanted, but she would never be able to help anyone else–and that satisfied his rage far more than simply going back to kill her. 

This is why Darth Vader left her alive. Anakin Skywalker was dead, after all, so there was no possible way that it could have been reluctance to murder her like all the others…

I fucking love Anders doing general women’s health stuff

but please let’s not forget about Wynne

Wynne teaching the young mages about birth control

Wynne mixing up warming poultices for menstrual cramps

a blushing teenage mage girl coming to Wynne and Wynne pulling a book off the shelf for her explaining how to have lesbian sex safely, and in doing so showing her where all the rest of those books are, and setting up a system so students too shy to ask to check those out the usual way can do so in private

Wynne talking in hushed tones to a Sister in the chantry about how it’s okay if she isn’t feeling like chastity is a sacrifice, that asexuality is an okay way to be

Wynne realizing that the number of Templar “guards” around when she was doing sex ed seemed rather high, and that they were intimidating the students, offering to teach to them too, and opening that up to the folks in the Chantry too

Wynne whipping up a potion for a transgender mage so she can grow up looking the way she wants to

Wynne

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I saw people calling Charlotte shallow and greedy so naturally I had to draw her getting married to someone she loves and is gonna treat her right (◡‿◡✿)

Can we talk about this for a moment? 

Because this is important. 

The fact that in a series where Lucy is the narrator and main character, the series has just acknowledged her flaws and drawbacks. It acknowledges that she is not her mother, and that Aquarius was never truly happy with her, because she was given to Lucy rather than earned. 

Aquarius wants to leave, because she can’t offer Lucy anything more, and she can’t keep saving her butt all the time. It’s time for her as a person to grow up, and that means stepping aside. Aquarius is ready to let her be on her own now, because she knows that it’s the only way that Lucy will grow up. 

The fact that any series blatently pointed out the flaws of their protagonist like this in such a serious manner is a signal that as a character she’s about to get a ton of growth, and I for one cannot wait. 

As a character that has become stale in many ways, and often seemed to be an afterthought, she’s getting serious development and I’m ready for her to become an A-list player alongside the others. 

No, but Luke and Leia must have had the conversation after the fall of Ben. When Luke’s clothes still smelt of smoke and ash, and death clung to his skin like it hadn’t for years now.

How Luke had seen the destruction, the loss, the bodies. How far somebody, Ben, must have fallen, his nephew, to be able to gouge out a hole in the force that way. A single strike. A cry to the heavens, as all of those lives, children younger and smaller than him, were snuffed out by his hand, by his orders, in an instant. 

And Luke doesn’t think that he can…

Vader, Leia says. You believed in Vader.

And Luke looks at his sister, older and wiser and completely and utterly heartsick at the thought of her son. He holds her in his arms, lets her cry and sob into his shoulder and says simply, I know.

Acceptance is the opposite of giving up

I’ve seen a disconnect between parents and self-advocates when we talk about disability acceptance:

  • Advocate: Disability acceptance is really important. Disability is part of who I am.
  • Parent: You mean I should just accept that my kid is suffering and can’t do anything and not even try to help them?!
  • Or, even worse: Yes, it is. My kid is my special little pillow angel and I love her just the way she is. It’s great having a kid who will never grow up.

By acceptance, we do not mean either of those things. What we mean is more like this:

  • Kids whose development is atypical get treated like they’re failing before they’re even old enough for kindergarten. (See all those checklists that say “by the time your child is 2, he or she should be…”, and think about what it’s like for a child’s earliest memories to involve adults thinking they were failing)
  • Being disabled isn’t a failure, and it shouldn’t be seen as one. There is no should in development, and there is no should in bodies.
  • Childhood isn’t something you can flunk
  • Magical thinking will not help, and neither will centering your life around searching for a cure
  • Children with disabilities who live to adulthood usually become adults with disabilities
  • They need to be prepared for disabled adulthood, not encouraged to think that if they work hard enough they will be normal
  • It is ok to be a disabled child, to develop atypically, and to become an adult with a disability
  • You can have a good life and be ok with your actual brain and body
  • Imagining that you will have a fundamentally different body one day makes everything harder
  • Life gets better when you accept yourself and work with your body and brain rather than against it
  • Shame is not a cure
  • Disability is not an emergency, and panicked intense early intervention will not make disability go away
  • Early education can be important, and kids with disabilities need appropriate support and care, and in many cases medical treatment
  • But their life needs to contain things other than treatment; people with disabilities need to do things besides be disabled and get therapy
  • Their life is already worth living and they don’t need to be cured to be ok
  • Don’t panic

tl;dr Acceptance isn’t about denying that some aspects of disability can be awful, and it’s not about categorically rejecting medical treatment. It’s about working with yourself rather than against yourself, and pursing life now rather than waiting for a cure.

how can anyone hate taylor swift????? like have you listened to innocent???? or clean???? or fifteen????? or watched her stand up for feminism and equal rights during interviews???? or watched her adorable and hilarious Instagram videos??? or read her replies to fans over social media???? or witnessed her overwhelming need for everything to be grammatically correct????? or watched her dance awkwardly???? or noticed that she named her cats after two of the greatest TV characters of all time???? or seen how classy she is with everything from fashion to the way she interacts with others????? or seen the way she smiles when she looks into a crowd???? or watched her grow from a cowboy-boots-and-Sharpie-eyeliner-wearing country girl to an incredible, powerful woman who inspires everyone she encounters?????????

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the comparison tho don’t touch me

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Stolen glances