and the parents don't care

Dear parents of autistic children,

No, your child doesn’t do weird things “for no reason”. They do it for a reason, you just don’t know it yet. You have different brains, different perspectives, so sometimes things that are obvious to them are a mystery to you. But you don’t have to ignore it and blame it on them. You can make an effort, reach out to them and figure out the reason.

Do they scream in public when it looks like everything is okay? Well, there’s probably a reason for that. Maybe the situation is overwhelming to their senses, it’s too loud, to bright, to crowded, and they need some space and time to recover. Maybe they can’t stim because other people keep telling them it looks weird, so they end up exhausted much faster. Maybe you are breaking their routine by being outside at this time. Or maybe you are going through the supermarket “the wrong way”, not how you usually do it. Maybe they forgot their comfort object at home, and just realized that. Maybe they are in pain and can’t communicate that. Maybe they are very hungry and don’t realize that yet because it’s hard for them to recognize their needs and emotions. Maybe it’s a combination of those, or something different altogether.

Either way, they probably don’t do it “for no reason”. You just don’t see the reason. Make an effort to communicate. If they are verbal, ask them. If they can’t speak with their mouth at the moment or ever, use alternative methods of communication. If they can’t explain it, consult other autistic people, including autistic adults who probably have a bunch of ideas as to why your child does that weird thing. Don’t dismiss it, don’t complain about it, don’t blame your child for doing it. Try to see the world from their perspective. Respect their needs and feelings. Learn more about autism from other autistic people.

And life will be much better and easier for both you and your child.

To all my overachievers who don’t get praise from parents and loved ones anymore because it’s just expected of you to do well: I’m proud that you passed that test, I’m happy you graduated with honors, I love that you try your hardest all the time.

I know sometimes the lack of support and encouragement from those whose opinions matter the most to you can be disheartening, but keep pushing through and being the amazing person you are.

there's gonna come a time when their opinion doesn't bother you anymore. keep going. you're doing great.

ey yo what if yoko like

drives down full speed towards zarc

takes one good look at him

and then she just like

“i’m not your mom, and you sure as hell ain’t my son, but you sure as hell bout to give him the fuck back”

When people buy your hatchlings and give them lore and apparel.  

Originally posted by iamchloejean

@storybycorey I think it’s been like a millions years since I’ve actually posted a photo for you of Gillian and this one makes me happy

@ parents who blame their child for their problems instead of helping them like an adult: how does it feel to know that your kid doesn’t trust u

@ parents who think their kid is too old to be helped but too young to make their own decisions: how does it feel to know that your kid doesn’t trust you

@ parents who constantly compare their own childhood ( a completely different generation mind u ) to their kids: HOW DOES IT FEEL TO KNOW UR KID DOESNT TRUST U

@ parents who don’t let kids do the things they enjoy: ur an asshole

My parents scream at me. they say mean, terrible, horrible things to me. Then they look at me and scream and ask why I am crying. I don’t know what to do anymore. They yell at me if I make too much noise walking, If I take too long a time to close a door, little things that kids shouldn’t be screamed at for. They call me names and they’ve hit me. I just I thought your parents were suppose to be these good people that helped you, that cared for you, but obviously not my parents, they hate my guts.
—  Posted by Anonymous

yall claim to love leia and her being a rebel princess but i wonder… where exactly do yall think she got the title of princess? what royal house is she part of? whose war is she fighting? who inspired her to join a rebellion that they helped create? where did she get her determination and love for democracy and everything it stands for? hmm???

  • Linda: *smug* Oh Keisha, it seems you weren't able to bring something to the fundraiser again. Having family troubles? Must be hard without a husband in the house. If you're having troubles with your kid you can always tell us.
  • Keisha: *glaring* Listen here Linda just because I didn't bring something to the fundraiser doesn't mean something is wrong. And don't bring Jamal into this; at least I pay attention to my kid you put yours in a fucking dog leash just lemme tell you something Linda-
  • Sans: Chill chill I got this one Keisha just don't play Linda's game that shady hag will drag you down to her level and beat you with experience
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Gay Marriage

I wish parents wouldn’t say “when you find the perfect husband” etc. Why does marrying a man have to be the default? It should be “When you find that perfect person or individual.”