and telling me i should make it

anonymous asked:

Ok so, I have this friend who has been dating a guy for a month and has already gone all the way with him and told him that they love him, I don't want me friend to get hurt but I don't know how to tell them that maybe they should slow down...

Babe I understand where you’re coming from but honestly I don’t see how it’s your problem or that it’s a problem at all frankly, nor is it your business. If she’s happy with the guy, let her be. By saying anything, you’ll just upset her and push them closer together. The best thing you can do for her is let her make her own mistakes & be a shoulder for her to cry on if she ever needs it 

adhdklunk  asked:

if ppl dont stop comparing queer to anything that isnt "the norm" im gonna lose it?? kinks and fetishes arent fucking queer, u assholes. why this,, im so tired,, of ppl shitting on queerness and trying to tell queer ppl what being queer means,, or also making it all abt sexual shit like,, stop. s t o p

yea!!! ok this is just my experience, but all 20 times i came out, mom started yelling at me about sex and screaming “WOULD YOU EVER HAVE SEX WITH A GIRL??? YOURE JUST H*MOROMANTIC ACE IF ANYTHING!!” and that’s the sort of shit the “queer = sexual” mindset does!!! a full grown adult, was telling me, a goshdamn child, what my sexual feelings should be, because i told her i was a lesbian. that’s fucked up my pal

anonymous asked:

so I'm like super white passing Cuban and anytime I talk to a non-hispanic/latinx they are always like "so... you're Cuban? That's crazy you don't look Cuban!" One person met my dad and heard me speaking with him and seriously said "oh I thought you were joking." But anytime it's one of us they are just like *nods* makes sense. I've had strangers tell their friends for me "we come in all shades!" I feel like Lance's race is basically this conversation as discourse and it's so frustrating!!

anonymous asked:

Hi, Firez, I've been following your work for years now, I love your work and some thing I always see when I see one of your paintings is "it's by firez," no matter what I can tell who made them. I just made 2 paintings and though I learned a lot doing them, I'm frustrated because they turned out to be carbon copies of the things I studied and I have no idea how to make my own interpretation of things. Should I be stressed out about having a style or... how do I approach this? Thank you.

Hi anon

Thanks for your comment, I appreciate letting me know I have a distinctive style

This may sound contradictory but I never cared about it. I consider style a byproduct of my approach towards art. I want to convey mood, state of being, something that rings true. So in that sense trying to fit into a style seems counterproductive to me.

I also wanted to be surprised, make something out of the fundamentals that I could tweak in an easier way since it is the product of my own pursuit.

I know this isn’t everyone’s case but imo you should not stress at all about style.

You mention that your studies are carbon copies but I wonder if this was said to you or it’s your own conclusion. In any case, I think that whatever approach you employ to do your studies will be beneficial in certain aspects of your craft. For instance, trying to match a piece by painting by the numbers will be great to learn about rendering. If you try to match the lines of other drawing you might not learn a lot about form but you will probably understand at some level why those lines are aesthetically pleasing, why the composition works so well, etc…

Please don’t be discouraged, improving takes time and effort but as long as you keep working you will definitely notice it.


I would like people to just stop. 

Like, stop telling me I should be happy because I have only a few months of this left to go through. 

It is getting harder and harder the closer it gets, part because of the work, but mostly because me and Benj just can’t stand it to be separated anymore. It’s hard. It’s getting harder and harder and we are both slowly going crazy over this. 

Probably because we know it’s so close yet so, so far, and because we’re both going through shit and it piles up slowly on our head, because we’re both anxious needy people who make each other freak out when they’re not well (BTW, he answered, I can go to sleep now). 

Seeing each other only once every two weeks is becoming harder and harder. 

Also because on both our sides we are seeing other couples disintegrate over stupid acts, little things, and even if we do trust each other (no matter the jokes…….), we are even more anxious of pulling through, and that in the end we will not be able to live together again? 

And most of all people ask me (but I’m sure they ask him too), what I’m going to do after the PhD. And they are never happy with my answer. 

I’ll go home. 

I just want to go home. 

Fuck the job, fuck my so called “potential”, fuck your stupid false/twisted feminist arguments, I just. Want. To. Go. Home. 

anonymous asked:

I'm a 16 year old bisexual girl. I am so in love with my friend who is also a girl. I don't know her sexuality but sometimes it seems like she likes girls but it's very hard to tell. Should I ask her out? What if she thinks of me as different since I'm bi.

Personally I think it would be best if you asked her what her sexuality was before you made the choice to ask her out, she might not be LGBT and asking her out might be awkward for the both of you, but if you know her sexuality first you can make a more informed decision ^^
If she wonders why you’re asking what her sexuality is, just say you’re curious about it that’s all and you apologise if it makes her uncomfortable. :3
With love,

anonymous asked:

(I love your profile picture) Is Saihara-chan a good cook?

Aha~ Saihara-chan is a great cook actually he can make a lot of dishes but he’s not very experimental….

…..he follows everything by the book (which he won’t ever let me touch) and even kicks me out of the kitchen, telling me I should play elsewhere till he’s done….

….but I guess I can forgive him since he’s trying to focus and can’t do that easily when i’m around ~Nishishi~

Also thanks, credit to @xerokin for making such an adorable icon

anonymous asked:

Hello, I'm a Dangantalia addict. Can you please tell me what the Nordics' best talents are? And if anyone happens to find this ask... DENMARK SHOULD BE THE MASTERMIND BECAUSE HE AND THAT LITTLE BEAR HAVE GREG AYRES AS THEIR VOICES.

Iceland: I can answer this. Den’s is his charm and the fact that he can make anyone laugh when he wants. Nor’s is his… I don’t know, cool atmosphere I guess? And his magic. Fin’s his hugs; without a doubt. As for Swe… Woodwork. He’s very good at that. Mine is surfing the web and procrastinating.

I want to tell you about what it’s like to talk to frank iero.
  • He will make sure all of his attention is on you from the moment you walk up to him. (I had to wait for three people to walk in between us before actually stepping up to him and he watched me the whole time.)
  • He leans in to hear you better and speaks softly in reply. 
  • His eye contact does not drop for a second.
  • I’ve never met anyone who’s made me more calm than he did. Especially with active anxiety, I should’ve been freaking out. But his entire demeanor was soft and calming. 
  • He let’s you know he is not in a rush.
  • If you tell him something, he will become truly interested. He prompts you to elaborate and answers enthusiastically.
  • Also, if you get the chance to make him laugh, do that. His eyes get squinty and his laugh is beautiful in real life.

Overall, he was one of the coolest people I’ve ever met and I’m grateful I got time to talk to him. Please feel free to add!!

  • Moon in the 1st house:
  • "I'm emotional. The sky must feel it and know it. I will make rain
  • Moon in the 2nd house:
  • "I'm emotional. I need to spend all my money on lipstick and dresses and anything on 'sale"'
  • Moon in the 3rd house:
  • "I'm emotional. I better make a long blog post or tell everybody"
  • Moon in the 4th house:
  • "I'm emotional. I need my bed. I need my home. I need my pillow. I need cuddles"
  • Moon in the 5th house:
  • "I'm emotional. It's time to perform!"
  • Moon in the 6th house:
  • "I'm emotional. But why do I have feelings at all when they are so disordered and vulgar. They should be better"
  • Moon in the 7th house:
  • "I'm emotional. And everyone around me has a sad face too. Look what I do to people"
  • Moon in the 8th house:
  • "I'm emotional. Voices from the unconscious are ridiculing me again"
  • Moon in the 9th house:
  • "I'm emotional. I need to run away. I need to be anywhere but here"
  • Moon in the 10th house:
  • "I'm emotional. Let's evaluate all the ways I have failed"
  • Moon in the 11th house:
  • "I'm emotional. I need to save the world"
  • Moon in the 12th house:
  • "I'm emotional. I better hide, I better get away from people, or it won't stop"

anonymous asked:

I have no idea how my future will be. I have no clue what I'm going to do can you help me?

I’ve been searching the internet for search sites and apps that could help me with this indecision.

I found this app called Good & Co. It helps you find out what kind of person you are, it has a lot of short quizzes with various scenarios. After you do it, you will get a score that will tell you what traits you have. What type of jobs you may be interested in, and the best college for you and more.

Thanks to Good & Co, it made me understand what kind of person I am, what kind of college I should go for, and make myself more confident. I know what I want, to finish my law school and be a great lawyer. I am very grateful for the Good & Co. app.

For those of you who are undecided about what you want for life, you should give Good & Co. a chance.

Maybe you can find out something about yourself that completely changes your life, and change it for the better.


707 thoughts

What if when Seven starts pushing you away in his route, what if when it gets really bad, you have option to run away and like Saeran captures you.

Instead of torturing you he kind of brain washes you to sort of forget the bad things Saeyoung did, not as badly as he was.

But slowly you grow to love Saeran (consensually) and the reason he brain washed you was because he didn’t want to see you hurting.

He had loved you the entire time, and seeing his brother hurt you, hurt him. So when Saeyoung comes to rescue you, I have a question.

Who do you choose?

If you aren’t my god damn doctor

If you aren’t my god damn doctor, you don’t get to tell me what you think of my weight.

If you aren’t my god damn doctor, you don’t get to lament what my weight means for my health.

If you aren’t my god damn doctor, you don’t get to tell me what medical procedures I should or shouldn’t have. 

If you aren’t my god damn doctor, you don’t get to give me your opinion on whether or not I should ever have an abortion.

If you aren’t my god damn doctor, you don’t get to tell me what birth control, medication, or treatment options I need. 

If you aren’t my god damn doctor

If I don’t have to make appointments to see you

If I’m not submitting insurance claims to your office 

If I’m not paying you a copay

Shut the fuck up.

I’m a feminist because...

I’m a feminist because everyone should be.

Growing up, my parents would always tell me to be properly dressed around my brothers. Never mind that they were walking around in short boxer briefs, it was me who had to be presentable. I was the girl, after all.

In school, I was always taught that the way I dressed affected a boy’s education. I was taught that the slight peek of my shoulder was enough to get me sent to the head office. It was much too distracting, because after all, a boy’s education had to be more important than a girl’s. At least, that was what they were teaching me.

This is why I’m a feminist.

I’m a feminist because it is 2017, and when I talk about how unfair it is that a professional athlete gets to walk away from the accusation of raping a girl without a single ding to their career, I’m some sort of radical that needs to calm down. Because that poor girl’s life will never be the same, but said athlete’s career is perfectly intact.

I’m a feminist because my aunt says things like, “Oh, those feminists, they just need to shave their armpits and get over it.” Because somehow the grooming of my body hair has everything to do with the rights I’m fighting for.

I’m a feminist because people still think you must have a vagina to be considered a woman.

I’m a feminist because I am 20 years old, and when I tell people I’m not sure I want to have kids, they look at me like I just defied all womankind.

I’m a feminist because when mothers choose to work rather than stay at home with their children, they aren’t doing “enough.”

I’m a feminist because when fathers choose to stay at home with their children rather than work, they somehow aren’t as “manly.”

I’m a feminist because parents still won’t let their sons play with Barbies.

I’m a feminist because young boys are taught that crying is bad. Showing emotion is bad, better to bottle it up and never feel. If you cry, you’re a girl, and no one wants to be a girl.

I’m a feminist because when my family talks about the Women’s March that happened yesterday, they say things like, “What’s protesting going to change?” and “They’re honestly just wasting their time. Nobody’s going to listen to them.” Never mind that the country we are living in found its freedom through protesting—No Taxation Without Representation. But I suppose that’s okay. It was men protesting then.

I’m a feminist because when my aunt saw a picture of a man marching with women yesterday, she snorted and said, “What’s he doing there? Doesn’t he have something better to do?” Her seven year old son was sitting next to her.

I’m a feminist because a highly qualified politician lost the presidential election to a less than mediocre businessman who based his campaign on misogyny, racism, bigotry, and slander. Because this country would rather see an over privileged, racist, homophobic, white man, whose years of experience sums up to zero, in office rather than a woman whose qualifications are more than his will ever be. Because I somehow have to have years of experience before I can even get my first job, but Donald Trump can get sworn into office without a single day of political experience.

I’m a feminist because the President of the United States speaks vilely of women and all minorities, and I’m the terrible one for disliking him.

I’m a feminist because I get made fun of for being a feminist.

I’m a feminist because I want the next generation of girls to live in a better world than mine.

I’m a feminist for these reasons and so many others.

I’m a feminist because everyone should be.


every mitch outfit: ptxperience edition (part one)

mon el usually makes me bitter and annoyed every single episode but i’m fuming after this one and i’m gonna tell you exactly why

1) “i liked being a hero bc it meant i could be by your side” mon el should not want to be a hero just bc he’s horny for kara, if he really paid attention to kara and cared about what she did as supergirl, he would know that.

2) HE SAID I LOVE YOU??? HES NEVER SHOWN TRUE RESPECT OR LOVE FOR HER, i feel like you need to at least show your love for someone before declaring it (and also in such an awkward situation… yikes™). meanwhile maggie and alex are the most supportive and loving gfs ever, have been in a healthy relationship for quite awhile at this point (probably months??), and they’ve barely gotten super intimate scenes or kisses, let alone an i love you from either of them.

3) he should not have to rely on kara to be a better person. sure she can introduce him to the idea to being a decent person and she can inspire him or whatever, but he can grow as a fucking person ON HIS OWN BY HIS OWN WILL

4) “will you ever tell me the truth?” “i don’t know” RED FLAGS RIGHT THERE BUDDY IF YOU CANT BE HONEST AND COMMUNICATE W YOUR PARTNER THEN LEAVE THEM, DUMP THEM, DROP (KICK) THEM. why didn’t kara get rid of him 10 years ago.

5) except kara can’t really get rid of him bc mon el doesn’t know the concept of listening to someone’s wishes and giving them space. he’s so entitled it’s so obvious like he always thinks he knows more than kara. she’ll tell him to do something and then he’ll go “hmm i think not” and then when things inevitably get fucked up he asks for another chance

6) speaking of “”“second”“” chances, at this point it’s not a second chance, mon el, you’re begging for mercy that you don’t deserve. kara has given you plenty of chances and undeserved guidance and you never. fucking. learn.

7) honestly this probably doesn’t even begin to cover it there are definitely some points im missing


Tupac’s first verse from “Keep Ya Head Up” 👑🙌🏿🙏🏿❤️

“Some say the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice
I say the darker the flesh then the deeper the roots
I give a holler to my sisters on welfare
Tupac cares, if don’t nobody else care
And uhh, I know they like to beat ya down a lot
When you come around the block brothas clown a lot
But please don’t cry, dry your eyes, never let up
Forgive but don’t forget, girl keep your head up
And when he tells you you ain’t nothin’ don’t believe him
And if he can’t learn to love you you should leave him
Cause sista you don’t need him
And I ain’t tryin to gash up, I just call em how I see em
You know it makes me unhappy
When brothas make babies, and leave a young mother to be a pappy
And since we all came from a woman
Got our name from a woman and our game from a woman
I wonder why we take from our women
Why we rape our women, do we hate our women?
I think it’s time to kill for our women
Time to heal our women, be real to our women
And if we don’t we’ll have a race of babies
That will hate the ladies, that make the babies
And since a man can’t make one
……He has no right to tell a woman when and where to create one
So will the real men get up
I know you’re fed up ladies, but you gotta keep your head up”

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