and tami and eric and julie

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TV MEME REVISITED; 4 FAVOURITE FAMILIES

THE TAYLORS
You know, you and I have the exact same amount of experience being parents. We’ve been doing this job the same number of years and months and days as each other. And the truth of it is that we just don’t have any control. You know, for the most part we’re just winging it. And, you know, I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what to do in this situation. But I’ll tell you what, the most important thing to me is that my daughter be able to talk to me. A girl is entitled to that with her mother. My mother used to tell me that I was gonna hell if a guy ever even touched me. And you know that didn’t work. I’m sure as hell not gonna do that to Julie. And we raised a smart, responsible moral girl. And I have faith in us. And I have faith in her. Now we just gotta let her go.

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No matter what happens, no matter where you go, no matter what you do, I’m always gonna be behind you. Always and always and always.

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Friday Night Lights- Emmy Awards trailer

If you’re a Friday Night Lights fan and you haven’t watched this, you really should.

This trailer shows everything that I love about this show.  It’s not just a show about a football team, it’s a show about people and what we all have to face in our own lives.  I really hate it when people think this is just a “football show” when this show probably had a bigger impact on me than any other show I’ve ever watched, because it’s so real.

“Clear eyes, full hearts…”

bisexualgreyjoys  asked:

top six friday night light characters and/or ships?

Characters

  1. Matt Saracen
  2. Tami Taylor
  3. Eric Taylor
  4. Julie Taylor
  5. Vince Howard
  6. Smash Williams

Ships (basically the only show I have never multi-shipped characters on)

  1. Matt/Julie
  2. Eric/Tami (the BEST MARRIEDS)
  3. Not a romance ship, but literally every Coach/Player relationship is amazing
  4. Tim/Lyla/Jason
  5. Vince/Jess
  6. ….I don’t think I have a sixth, actually

anonymous asked:

in terms of healthy, abusive, toxic relationships etc which ships would you say are healthy but at the same time might have some toxic moments (but are resolved) and which ships would you say are unhealthy but are good at recognizing that they are in fact that? and then which do you think are just plain toxic relationships that are suppose to be epic love and do you think that there is an epitome of a healthy relationship on tv?

Wow! Haha. OK. These are intriguing questions.

I think that Eric and Tami Taylor on Friday Night Lights is an epitome of a healthy relationship:

Their marriage is sort of the foundation of the series and of the town in a lot of ways because they’re sort of the “Mom and Dad” to Dillon as much as they are to Julie and to the football players; the strength they find in each other and in their relationship allows them to withstand the toxicity of this small football town. That isn’t to say they don’t have their struggles and that they don’t find themselves on the opposite sides of issues a lot of the time, they do, it’s a very realistic marriage, they bicker and they argue but every single fight they have feeds into the strength of their marriage because they learn to appreciate each other and respect each other even more.

Gallavich is probably the one relationship that is toxic and healthy at the same time because the growth in that dynamic is astounding. When we’re first introduced to Mickey and Ian, Mickey refuses to acknowledge that he’s gay and because of that he refuses to admit to having any feelings for Ian and that causes a lot of toxic and abusive behaviour in the relationship:

and it’s complicated because when Mickey’s dad finds out he’s gay, he beats the shit out of both of them, calls a female prostitute and forces Ian to watch Mickey have sex with her:

and then she’s pregnant and Mickey marries her:

Which prompts Ian to leave and Ian leaving wakes Mickey up to the fact that he’s in love with him and he begins to accept loving Ian and being gay:

But I mean they’re still Mickey and Ian, this is still Shameless, so their relationship isn’t exactly healthy

and it in fact implodes, which is also complicated by the fact that mental health issues are involved

and their dynamic changes because of that, which one person is OK with while the other isn’t.

As I say repeatedly, Stefan and Elena go through some toxic moments in their relationship in season 3:

But they transition out of that toxicity because Stefan actually works on being better and piecing himself back together and he doesn’t use Elena to do this, he stays away from her because he doesn’t want to burden her with his redemption and he doesn’t want to run the risk of hurting her while he’s still trying to figure out his life and that allows him to be a shoulder for Elena, it allows him to be patient with her and non-judgemental and to be her emotional support when she needs it:

Jane and Michael on Jane The Virgin are another couple that goes through their toxic phase although I wouldn’t say they were toxic, I would say that Michael exhibited toxic behaviour that caused them to break up because he lied to Jane about something crucial but then Jane starts up a relationship the very night they break up so they hurt each other, I would say, they did a lot of things that hurt each other:

But through their time apart and their various relationships, they both grow and mature and their relationship evolves, they learn to communicate better, build their foundation in honesty:

Jax and Tara in Sons of Anarchy is an interesting relationship because their dynamic is both good and bad depending on the point of view. For Jax having Tara and his sons is a good thing because they’re his hope, they’re what he’s supposed to fight for, he’s supposed to be changing his way of life for him, they are what is supposed to make him strive to be a better man, they’re his redemption:

But for Tara, her relationship with Jax consumes her, she loves him deeply and truly:

they never stopped loving each other despite spending ten years apart and their chemistry really shows that bond and you get it:

you get why she would love him the way she does because he would do anything for her:

anything except walk away from the Sons of Anarchy, which doesn’t only put Tara’s life in literal danger:

but it causes her to morph her identity to try and fit in with his life, she goes through an evolution or devolution depending on how you want to look at it, she starts breaking the law for him and for the club, which has repercussions in her own life, it begins to ruin her career:

and she’s a very different person because of what she does and what she sacrifices because she loves this man:

So I think that goes in the category of relationships in which the show understands that they’re toxic, particularly since there isn’t a happy ending involved.

There are others but this is getting too long, if you want more examples just send a request, lol.

Ben Wyatt's Nonexistent Eric Taylor Problem

One of the more subtly appreciable moments in the Parks and Recreation series finale came towards the end, when Ben decided to scrap his and Leslie’s plan to let a coin toss decide which one would be Indiana’s next democratic gubernatorial candidate. His impulse decision to surprise her (and the parks gang) with news that she accepted a DNC rep’s offer to run for governor of Indiana was a sweet, if forgettable moment amid a cascade of sappy, satisfying character resolution.

The fact that this wasn’t one of the hour’s biggest bombshells, that a husband can willfully set personal ambition aside so his wife can live out a four-decades-old dream is still pretty new, and yet par for the Parks course. Ben was never going to run for governor over Leslie. He was never even going to let it come down to chance. Though the audience might have been pleasantly shocked at the way Ben dropped the news (I was), we were not at all surprised.

It harkens back to a recent series finale of a show that also revolved around a larger-than-life power couple whose noble work and incremental efforts to better peoples’ lives in their little town was met with indifference at best — Friday Night Lights.

That series finale begins with Eric and Tami Taylor’s marriage atypically strained, the two of them struggling with the decision to remain in Dillon so that the former can coach a high school football “super team,” or to move to Philadelphia so the latter can accept a dream job as dean of admissions at a prestigious college.

Tami begrudgingly acquiesces to her husband as she’s done for two decades, but Eric — sensing his wife’s and the audience’s ultimate frustration — recognizes it was long past due to that her ambitions took precedence over his own. He rushes to find Tami in the mall before heading off to State (look, it’s a TV show after all) to tell her it’s a done deal: They’re Pennsylvania-bound.

In 2011, this was surprising. It wouldn’t have been crazy to assume before that very moment that Tami might have come around. Maybe Eric wins State, Julie and Matt have a change of heart and move back to Dillon, she gets re-promoted to principal of East Dillon High and finds renewed purpose to stay in their Devil Town. They all live happily ever after in Texas, forever, and we’re none the wiser.

But the fact that what did happen was a bit of a shock, albeit a welcome one, is a testament to how well both shows handled a modern American relationship and marriage (we’re dealing in heteronormative terms due to our parameters, but also to highlight how well each show carried the banner for female empowerment) and how far such handling has come in just four years.

Friday Night Lights is not Parks and Rec. As wonderful and rounded a character as Tami was, Eric was the show’s first-billed and undoubtedly its protagonist. He anchored the story and his dynamic relationships with his wife, daughter, players, friends and townspeople were its focal points. Parks, of course, is carried by a female lead. It’s a show is centered around Leslie and her dynamic relationships with her husband, co-workers, friends and townspeople. There’s an innate feminist sensibility built into a show about a smart, shamelessly ambitious and powerful woman (or just a woman at all), that Friday Night Lights just didn’t have in its DNA.

But that Peter Berg and Co. had to string the audience along the way they did before getting Eric to realize he wasn’t exactly seeing his marriage with clear eyes, contrasted to how effortlessly Ben not only relents to Leslie’s whims, but is a co-conspirator with her (he’ll be her campaign manager!) speaks volumes. I love Friday Night Lights and don’t fault it for its handling of the Taylors towards the end. It was true to the climate of the show, progressive in its own right. As much as Eric loved his wife and as much as the audience felt his decision wasn’t as hard as he made it out to be, his struggle was palpable and believable.

Friday Night Lights was the kind of show whose ultimate conflict, spanning over a few episodes, was whether or not a husband would make a grand sacrifice for his wife. Parks, very much Lights’ thematic cousin, was the sort of show that devoted two minutes to the issue before telling its audience, “Of course Lesie is running for governor instead of Ben. What, haven’t you been watching the same show we’ve been making for the last seven seasons?”

It’s also the reason why those secret service agents at Garry’s funeral in 2048 were there for Leslie, not Ben. Without question. Whether or not she was a sitting or former U.S. president, or some other official who warrants a security detail isn’t the pressing matter. It’s up to your imagination.That’s part of the charm of Mike Schur’s admitted “Sopranos moment.”

The takeaway is that the spoils went to Leslie, because these spoils were always going to go to Leslie. Ben became a congressman and a successful board game mogul, entering a high strata of success himself. But the ultimate success was Knope’s. A high-ranking job in the federal government, perhaps Chief Commanding Officer, was her endgame, not Ben’s.

And it was begot by a breezy decision her husband made to let her run for a high office they both had designs on assuming, instead of letting the fates decide. Although I think we all know which way the coin would have flipped.