look I ain’t even seen moonlight yet (going to see it tonight!) and I know just by the concept and the beautiful gif sets I’ve seen that it deserves to win best picture over fuckin la la land, which I have seen, and did actually enjoy a lot (or hidden figures should win—is hidden figures nominated for best picture? It should be because it was so good)
but I just wanna share that la la land is an incredibly peaceful thing to watch while ace, because the love story just has no overt sexual references…at all. they did not make out against a wall, or tumble into a bed before a fade to black. no side characters talked about how “hot” one of the mains is. no sex jokes. mia and sebastian’s instant chemistry and connection is shown not through a sexual attraction, but through them being able to dance in sync so soon after knowing each other. they cuddle on a bed and they kiss gently and they dance. they dance among the stars together. and it felt beautiful.
i guess I’m just used to fiction reminding me at every turn that love is inevitably sexual, that that is a natural part of Every Single romantic relationship. it took me a while to realize why it was so relaxing to watch la la land—because I didn’t have to have that little ugly moment of “oh right. I won’t ever have a relationship as nice as the one in this story”. the movie didn’t make me have that feeling.
it’s a tiny thing, and definitely not purposeful on the part of the writers, as I’m sure neither character was ace, but it’s something nice, and I felt nice watching it.
I don’t want my future loves to be dependant on sex, but god, do I ever want to dance among the stars with someone