and really though

Like, I love a bit of black humour as much as the next craven swamp witch, but there’s a difference between jokes that exploit a taboo for comic relief, and jokes that single out a specific vulnerable person for dehumanisation and ridicule.

The point of black humour is that we’re all squishy humans who could die or suffer horribly at any minute thanks to the malice of our peers or the cool indifference of fate. Death’s out there waiting for all of us, so instead of cowering in the corner, we clown around and mimic its walk. We use humour to turn the things that scare us into harmless playthings. Jokes like that may not be to everyone’s taste, and by their nature they’re likely to attract disagreement over where the line is, but the key thing about good black jokes is that they’re not wilfully malicious. Lots of people get a kick out of violating taboos. Black humour is about finding the fun in shitty situations.

But if you’re pointing at a specific someone in horrible pain and encouraging others to laugh at them for what they’re going through, that’s not you sticking it to the inevitability of your own demise or enjoying a bit of naughty fun - that’s you being a sadistic arsehole. It’s not funny and it’s not clever, and I don’t trust anyone who can’t see a significant and important difference between ‘lol cancer’ and ‘lol that specific dying cancer patient over there’. Like, get a grip. Stop trying to play off your active desire to see people suffer as a fun silly joke.

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[In order of comming out: Jared to Evan- eight grade. Evan to Jared- sophomore year. Connor to Zoe and Zoe to Connor- senior year. ~mod c]

To all the people out there telling those hurt by everything that we’re reaching, that we’re overreacting, that we’re stupid for being upset, or any variation thereof, I need you to listen to me super carefully here:

That sentiment you’re sharing right there? How your poor little white celebrity puppies did nothing wrong and that it’s solely the lgbt fans fault? 

That is exactly one of the biggest reasons why what he did was harmful – regardless of his (later) apologies or not. 

Because his words, his song, his original apology, they validated your belief that people who ship fanon pairings are not regular people with real feelings. They validated your belief that we are all monster lgbt people who want to make everything gay. They validated your belief that we had this coming and that it was our fault for shipping something we knew wouldn’t become canon. 

They validated your belief so much that here you are, sending people hate, making ugly instagram posts about how you’re an ally to the community because you know gay people. They validated your belief so much that you think you can be an ally because you know gay people and if one gay person wasn’t offended, the rest of us shouldn’t be. Why not if one of us is upset, the rest of us should be? Because it’s the narrative you want. It’s the narrative that fits what your belief is.

His comments were rooted in heteronormativity and homophobia. I don’t think he is homophobic, I think as a straight person, he just doesn’t get it, and being raised in a homophobic society, we all have microaggressions that we have to constantly unlearn, and with any luck, he is now unlearning one of the many he probably still has left to unlearn. His comments were rooted in homophobia but the thing is, it’s allowed people to be openly and happily homophobic. 

It isn’t allowing people to say things that are rooted in homophobia where the people don’t know better. It’s allowing people to actually be homophobic

Jeremy is no longer the problem here. It’s every single person leeching off of this and telling lesbian, bi/pan, and gay people not to be upset. 

You are the problem. You were always going to be the problem in the first place. 

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I only have three episodes left of Lie to Me and I’m pretty sure I’m gonna be a disappointed emotional mess afterwards.

Originally posted by fraddit