Reading your tags on the ask from the Morrigan romancer gave me life. I also wish we had more tortured soul lady LIs without the excess cute. I feel like Cass had excellent potential for this, except that her romance has nothing to do with her inner struggles? It’s adorable! But I wish women were allowed to be desirable without having to be cute. What I wouldn’t give for Lady Fenris.
“I wish women were allowed to be desirable without having to be cute.” That resonates with me so strongly, you have no idea.
Part of me wonders if this is Bioware’s attempt at avoiding stereotypes… Which, at its core, is a good thing. But in doing so, I’ve seen the same queer female romance four times, when there are only five to choose from in the first place.
There’s plenty of struggle to be found in characters like Merrill and Leliana, but they always come with a side serving of innocence, as if to distract from their dark stories. And that can work. That can be great. It’s just a shame when it’s the only thing they do.
Happy endings, sad endings, betrayals, everlasting love… I really feel like it’s about striking a balance between it all in the grand scheme of things, while not being afraid of having specific female characters who are too much of one or the other.
As someone who prefers playing as females, I would give anything for a love interest like Morrigan, Vivienne, or a hardened Leliana right off the bat. A female romance who is strong in her convictions, who makes no apologies for that strength, with inner struggles, as you said, who has to deal with those struggles but doesn’t need to make up for them with sweetness or quirk.
When I think about the explicitly raw struggles in the romances of Anders, Solas, Fenris… I would love to see something like that in a female character. Women, no matter their sexuality, can be openly complex, sexual, emotional, cold or, fuck it, villainous. That’s just people, and it’s in those female characters that I personally find a lot of comfort.