and it's never a matter of 'we still accept you'

When I first joined Tumblr, what struck me most deeply was how accepting the people were. You identify as homosexual? You are welcome and appreciated on this site. You’re depressed? We’ll make you feel better. You don’t know yourself? Don’t worry, take all the time you need and then some.

Today, after watching the latest episode of Black Mirror, I came online expecting to see a few rants about the plot, some plot holes that no one would ever notice, theories and discussions about soulmates and maybe some memes about true love and shit. What I found instead, was this endless list of people comparing it to San Junipero and how SAN JUNIPERO was better, not because it had a better story or execution or something but because it showed a homosexual relationship. They completely overlooked the real meaning behind the episode. That true love can be found, that soulmates exist and sometimes, just sometimes, you can even find them.

I am not saying San Junipero is not as good as Hang the dj or anything. It was brilliant and revolutionary and had a very deep message to project, but they are very different in their approach to love and life and the only seemingly common link between both episodes is that they each potray a bisexual character. Yes, Amy is bi but ya know that stands for LIKING BOTH MEN AND WOMEN DON’T YOU? Just because her ultimate compatible other turns out to be a man does not mean you can demean her character, her sexuality and her love for Frank. You can’t just go ‘sooo hetero lol’ and expect people to be okay with it. A bi person is still bi whether they decide to be with a guy or a girl. You CANNOT just wipe out their identity like that. And even if it was a straight relationship, so what? Yes we joke about heterosexuality being shit and all but that is STILL A SEXUALITY. A majority of the population identifies itself as such and they are in relationships that are passionate and caring and loving. Love is love no matter how or through whom its expressed and it shouldn’t be raved about only when its depicted through homosexuality. So I never thought I’d say this but TAKE YOUR HETEROPHORIA AND SHOVE IT UP WHERE THE SUN DON’T SHINE.

For people who regularly preach about equal acceptance, you sure are fucking prejudiced.

yaboishanes  asked:

Talking about abuse, don't you feel like all the gang suffered from some kind of abuse at some point? Of course, Hyde's is like... the worse kind. But I feel like all of them went through some bullshit no kid should go through. Maybe Eric the less but sometimes the way his dad's toxic masculinity rules got him was... not good. And this is said by a Red fan.

They all did, yes. One more obvious than others, but yes. Which kind of creeps me out because the show used this to make jokes, so the depth of it got lost in the laugh track.

Kelso’s parents had a lot of kids and ignored the older ones to take care of the younger ones, this make him grow up with a sense of competition about everything and being jealous of every single good thing anyone has that he doesn’t have, even if things he doesn’t want.

He grow up having zero consequences for his bullshit, so he thinks everything he does is okay because no one will ever tell him otherwise. It all starts with the absent parents that probably forgot his name at some point.

Donna’s parents got married at a young age because Midge got pregnant. At the time this happened, it was the damn 60s. A teen girl pregnant in the 60s in a small city. Of course, her parents probably made her get married right away and she couldn’t make a career of her own, and she got married to a sexist pig.

The weirdo part of their relationship is not even close to the fact that Midge was unhappy, and all that will always be reflected in the kid, people like it or not. Tons of doctors will tell parents that if they aren’t ok, their kids will not be ok either. And Donna grow up with this tension of “I HAD to marry this dude/this woman”. 

And then she abandones her. Straight up, doesn’t care, she just leaves her daughter to find herself and fullfill her dreams. This is bad written, though, I don’t think an in character Midge would do this, but still– it happened. Donna’s character suffered a lot her parents divorce and Midge leaving her to the point she slept with Eric to feel better, she had to sleep with a guy to feel better. What kind of sexist bullshit is that? The That ‘70s Show writers, of course.

Fez… I don’t know. For what he says, his parents actually did a lot for him by sending him to the USA and wanting for him to make something of his life out of their island. Yet, they never comunicate with him, it’s a kind of abadoment, too.

We have talked about Hyde already, so let’s go with Jackie… Jackie’s house life is horrible. Her parents doesn’t love each other, they probably got married for convenience and thought her shallow, egocentrical, cold and silly. 

Noboy finds it sad that Jackie’s biggest dream is to be loved? How is that anyone realized that HER DREAM is to be L O V E D? That’s a cry for help. A big one. Oh, my God.

She’s abandoned by her mother like Donna and Hyde, her father is thrown to jail and it is know the guy was basically never home anyway, never make it to her birthday, nor spend any time with her. While her mother? Fuck Pam Burkhart. She’s disgusting.

Pam uses her daughter to play victim and have the chance to take everyone’s attention, making her look like a cruel child that can’t accept her mother. Again, bad writing, but still– this woman left her child alone, without moneyr or food, to go fuck half Mexico and drink all the Tequila she could find. FUCK PAM BURKHART!

And… Eric. Complicated matter. What you mention, YES, I agree and I want to talk about it properly and in its own post, so bear with me, we are talking toxic masculinity and The Formans in the next post.

You know why bisexuals need more recognition?

• because when I was little I thought being into girls AND guys felt normal for me so long that I had a really hard time trying to u der stand why I had to ‘choose’ and better choose for boys

• because I learned I was bisexual when I was 11 and it was a wonderful moment cause I felt like there are people like me and it was great. Until I found out that only very few people speak up and speak up for us

• because I felt like the oppression I felt was just wasn’t justified because I had the ‘passing privilege’

• because I felt like I didn’t have a place in the LGBTQIA community, even though I wasn’t hetero and even though my sexuality is a part of that community

• because when I was walking down the street with my mother and baby brother and she projected her hetero sexuality on him I tried to intervene asking if it would be bad if he’d be homosexual. She denied and said she’d love him. Then I said he could be also bisexual to which she furiously answered I shouldn’t say such stupid stuff, bisexual people were just greedy and just can’t decide and should pick a side.

• because in this moment at 13 years old I was sure they’d kick me out the second the found out and said to myself that I’d never come out to them

• because I had friends that continuously called me lesbian even though they knew very well I’m bi but insisted telling everyone they new and I just met that I’m a lesbian

• because when male famous persons outs themselves they are gay and when females out themselves they are lesbians

• because people say that coming out as bisexual isn’t a real coming out and isn’t as hard as coming out as gay or trans

• because when bi people come out other say ‘you’ll change your mind’ 'it’s just a phase’ 'get over it don’t be greedy’

• because when I like a girl I’m a lesbian and when I like a boy I’m straight

• because every character that has bisexual tendencies get directly marked as gay or as the 'cliché greedy bisexual’ or their sexuality doesn’t get mentioned

• because when there is ONE character that’s canonly bisexual my heart skips a beat cause someone cared enough to openly use the 'b-word’ (even though it’s not in the TV but during an interview or such)

• because for little to no time I felt like I really had to decide wether I 'want’ to be hetero or homo

• because we have to fight hate so hard within our own community

• because there are tons and tons of bi kids out there going through the same thoughts and stuff I went through or even worse things

• because we are part of the invisible unit of the LGBTQIA community that’s mentioned but never recognized or accepted

• because passing privilege justifies being an outcast

• because way too much bi people feel like they will never fit in no matter where

• because a search for bisexual support groups is long and hard and even if you find one its a million miles away

• because people think we are half straight half gay when we are neither

• because people still argue with 'bi means two’ and won’t accept the correct definition of bisexuality

• because bisexuality is the attraction to two OR MORE genders

• because we can be attracted to boys and girls and nb persons but no one believes we can cause they think being bisexual means liking boys and girls and that’s it

• because even though we are part of the community it’s hard for a bisexual in a hetero LOOKING relationship to come to pride without being discriminated

The list goes on and on and I encourage you to add your own experiences and thoughts

mawaru-penguindrum starters
  • "I hate the word “fate.” Birth, encounters, partings, success and failures, fortune and misfortunes in life. If our lives are already set in stone by fate, then why are we even born?"
  • "There are those born to wealthy families, those born to beautiful mothers, and those born into the middle of war or poverty. If that’s all caused by fate, then God is incredibly unfair and cruel."
  • "Because, ever since that day, none of us had a future and the only certain thing was that we wouldn’t amount to anything."
  • "I love the word “fate”. Because, you know how they talk about “fated encounters”? A single encounter can completely change your life. Such special encounters are not just coincidences. They’re definitely fate."
  • "Of course, life is not all happy encounters. There are many painful, sad moments. It’s hard to accept that misfortunes beyond your control are fate."
  • "But this is what I think: sad and painful things definitely happen for a reason. Nothing in this world is pointless."
  • "At this time, I thought we were just lucky. That unfair and cruel God altered our fate with a tiny miracle on a whim. I thought we even had the right to be happy"
  • "Why are people born? If people are born only to suffer the hard life, is it meant as some kind of punishment? Or a cynical joke? "
  • " that’s the case, animals that adhere to the survival strategies programmed in their DNA are far more elegant and simple. If there really is an existence worthy of being called a God, I want to ask him just one thing: Is there really fate in the universe? "
  • "If a man ignored fate, and ignored his instincts and DNA to love someone else… Dear God, is he really human? Just wondering. I hate the word “fate.”"
  • " Survival strategy!"
  • "isten up, you lowlifes who will never amount to anything!"
  • " If it's money, I'll get it somehow! If they can't get the surgery in (blank), we can send her overseas! If she needs an organ transplant, they can use mine! So... so, please, don't say there's nothing you can do!"
  • "That hat is controlling (blank)!"
  • "This persons's life has been temporarily extended using my powers. However, everything comes with a price! I am taking the price for their life."
  • "I have come from the destination of your fate. Rejoice, for I have decided to extend this persons's life. If you want to keep the person alive..."
  • “Simply put, the apple is also a reward for those chosen to die for love.”
  • “As it turns out, living was a punishment.”
  • “Why do we continue to hurt each other with superficial words?”
  • "I realized one morning... That I hate this world. This world is made of countless boxes."
  • " People bend and stuff their bodies into their own boxes. And stay there for the rest of their lives. And eventually, inside the box, they forget: what they looked like; what they loved; who they loved."
  • "That's why I'm getting out of my box. I'm one of the chosen. That's why I'm going to destroy this world."
  • " Isn't it electrifying?"
  • "n the human world, truth and reality aren't always one and the same. Humans just call their desires and ambitions "truth". Humans will even kill other humans if they have "truth" as an excuse."
  • "Oh, I must crush him as soon as possible."
  • "Let's share the fruit of fate."
  • "No storm lasts forever. But you can't protect the people you love if you just wait for it to pass."
  • "I’ve been punished in small doses living as a (blank)… but still, we were together. We took all the punishments, no matter how small and trivial. They are all precious memories. Because the only reason I felt alive was because you were there."
  • "Because punishment has to be the most unjust."
  • "It's nice knowing someone will find you."
  • " This world is corrupt, it's all about winning and losing. Who is ranked above and below you."
  • " The profitable and unprofitable. The accepted and unaccepted. The chosen and unchosen. They never try to give up... All they care about is taking. What a miserable world we live in. "
  • " A world ruled by those who will never amount to anything. This is already a frozen world"
  • "But fortunately for us, the flame of hope is still burning strong. Tomorrow we will cleanse the world with this flame. Now's the time to take back... The beautiful world where the mankind only need true things to survive! This is our survival strategy."
  • " It's no use. It's akin to love. Akin to the first kiss. It only works once."
  • "Cry, monkey bitch."
  • " Like I said, the apple is the universe itself! A universe in the palm of your hand. It's what connects this world and the other world. "
  • "I have come from the destination of your fate."
  • "Sorry, that may actually be my fault. My bag was stuck and I yanked it out forcefully. I didn't mean any harm, but I apologize for any discomfort I may have caused... I'm sorry."
  • "Don't worry. Your days of eating dinner alone are almost over. After all, from now on I'll always be with you. I won't let you lonely. It's ok. The future is already written right here. Nothing in this world is pointless. I believe in fate."
Tsukishima Kei and the Unexpected Phone Call

My first Haikyuu fic! About Yams and Tsukki, my favorite volleyball sons, because you can never have enough getting together fics. Tsukkiyama, ~2.2k, also on AO3

Staring blankly at the blurring numbers on his math worksheet, Kei wondered if his pride was worth the effort involved in faking being sick tomorrow. Not acing a test was one thing. He wasn’t a genius, despite the persona he presented to his teammates (and really, anyone but Yamaguchi), so not being perfect in class didn’t bother him. But bombing a test? Walking into the classroom with a surety that he wouldn’t understand a single question?  Kei would honestly rather spend a weekend playing volleyball with the idiot duo without insulting them once than face that sort of humiliation.

The teen groaned, resting his head on his useless homework, ignoring the way his glasses dug into his face. This was all Yamaguchi’s fault. His friend was too shy to admit it, but the boy had an uncanny knack with numbers. Since they shared the class and spent most of their free time after school together anyway, it only made sense that they’d study together too, and wow was it helpful. Even back in middle school, Kei was sure half his reputation as a top level student was because of his new friend’s hidden talent.

Only Yamguchi wasn’t here. Instead, he was off with their captain, working on one of the older boy’s indie films. Kei hadn’t paid much attention when Yamaguchi first started prattling on about being cast as the lead; he’d assumed it was a transitory interest, and therefore not worth his time. That assumption had been shattered when their normal afterschool routine was replaced by excuses; ‘I really need to run lines, sorry Tsukki’ or ‘we have to try on costumes for the first scene, maybe tomorrow?’. Things had gotten to the point where the stupid movie was even encroaching on Yamaguchi’s weekends. In the past week Kei had only seen his friend at school, left to try to figure out what the hell a logarithm was in time for Monday’s test on his own.

Not that he minded his friend’s absence. Kei was fine being alone, absolutely fine. It wasn’t like he kept getting distracted by his room’s uncharacteristic silence, or had found himself telling jokes to empty air. Or started drawing constellations on his homework, busy daydreaming of freckled skin and sunny smiles and perfect afternoon kisses.

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i don’t understand why im here.
i don’t understand why im here.
i don’t understand where to go.
i don’t understand how i feel
i dont understand my circumstances
i dont want this.
i dont understand how it can hurt this much after so long.
i don’t understand why i cant accept it.
i don’t understand why i never mattered to you.
i don’t understand how im here.
we dont speak the same languages
me and them.
its me or them
and i still pick them
and i just wanna go to a place
where my heart doesnt beat so fast
or i dont cry til im dizzy
and i know its for a reason
it has to be
im just cracking
the center of me is eroding
and everything is falling through
and i just want my own.
i want my own.
i want my fucking own.