and it ends badly

in-latebras-paganus  asked:

I was wondering if you had a good spell/ritual that could be done with relative no needed extras (crystals, candles, etc.). I'm a pagan in hiding that has been dealing with a some-what bad breakup for several months. We didn't end it badly (in fact, me and my ex are still very good friends), but I am still in love with her, but she does not feel the same way. Are there any spells you can think of for moving past this? Blessed Be! -Mare

Hi!

There are definitely options for limited supplies! 

  • One of the most classic, simple spells out there is to focus your energy, write down the thing you want to stop doing on a piece of paper, then quickly tear it up or burn it and throw it away. 
  • Something I have found that really helps me overcome spiritual and emotional blocks in life is to just sit outside with my back to a tree and feel the energy move through it and really think about my situation. Being out in nature really shows you how precious your life is. Nature always seems to go on regardless, and it can show you that you can as well :’)
  • Meditation is really great for this kind of stuff. If you can, get into a meditative space in your head and try to go deep into the parts of yourself that still hold these feelings. Closer contact with them will help you evaluate them and start to move forward.
  • Cleansing rituals are bomb. If you lack incense or any method of smoke cleansing, you can just do this in your bathroom. On a full moon, feel the energy of the lunar night come down and fill your body. Then take a bath or shower and visualise the water and the moonlight still inside you washing the hurt away, leaving you with a clearer head. Using ya favourite shampoos and bathstuff is nice for this also.

A non witchy thing I can suggest as a fellow human who has been in a similar situation to you in the past is to try to talk to ya buddies more often and to pick up a new hobby. Distraction can be the best medicine. 

So I know a lot of us use self deprecating humor as a coping mechanism (I do it too) but….I think at a certain point, you have to really think about if constantly calling yourself worthless trash is doing more harm than good. Because if that’s the only way you ever talk about yourself, your confidence will never improve. For years I felt like worthless garbage and just kept telling myself that I would only have worth once I did this thing or accomplished that thing…make this grade, graduate college, get that job…but it’s never enough. I would meet my goals and then just set new goal that I had to accomplish before I was ‘good enough.’ I could never do enough to earn worth. It was a never ending cycle, and through it all I always talked badly about myself, always referred to myself as trash. And at a certain point, I realized I was just stuck in an endless loop of negativity, that the problem was really all in my head, and I was only making it worse with my constant self depreciation.

I’m not saying you can’t talk about yourself that way because sometimes that’s how you cope, but sometimes you have to stop and try really hard to see the good in you and embrace that. It doesn’t have to be big things. It can be that you’re kind to animals, or you can cook really good cookies, or you’re loyal to your friends, or you’re passionate about your hobbies, or you’re good at apologizing and admitting when you’re wrong, or you’ve been strong enough to survive some really hard times. There are good things in you, but sometimes seeing them for yourself can be a lot of hard work, especially when you struggle with self esteem issues and/or mental illness. But I promise you, there are good and beautiful things in you. When you feel like worthless trash, try to look deep and find those things.

You have to try, because it will never get better on its own. You won’t just magically wake up loving yourself one day. It’s something you have to devote effort to. It’s okay if you aren’t ready to do it right now, but it’s something you should think about working on. Work on speaking more kindly to yourself, about yourself. It’s taken me years, but for the first time in my life, I LIKE me. I still have bad days, but for the most part, I feel like I’m a decent person who’s worth my space in the world. Getting to this point took hard work and lots of introspection, but it’s so worth it. Please, try to find the good in yourself, try to see your own strengths. That’s how you grow.

Today in chemistry lab we were working in groups of two and I was with my (Russian speaking) friend. We were waiting to get a pH meter and were bored as hell. So she (the friend) gets a cereal bar from her bag and starts eating it and I’m like “omg Alina don’t, we’re in a lab, there are *acids* here” but she ate it anyway.

On one hand that’s against safety guidelines and could end pretty badly, but on the other the inventor of saccharine discovered it when he noticed that the bread he was eating tasted sweet and remembered that he didn’t wash his hands after working in the lab.

Like… at least she washed her hands.

anonymous asked:

You know what's a good queer ship that everyone forgets about? Dappletail and Whiteye. I mean, they basically went on a date in Code of the Clans (even if it ended badly) and even little Bluekit was able to recognize they were basically joined at the hip. Plus, them being together means we can ignore all the squick that comes that with Stormtail/Dappletail and Patchpelt/Whiteeye. Imagine them being as in love with each other as the day they met as elders. Thunderclan's resident gay grandmas. <3

Here’s praying they aren’t related bc of Goosefeather’s novella bc that sounds like a good ship

~beebs

anonymous asked:

I really hope they're just super close friends, but I have this sinking feeling that Lili and Cole are dating. They're hanging out with the same people today again. And it just has to be mean something more. (Maybe I've been spending too much time scrolling the shipping tags for them, but still. I was really hoping they weren't.)

@beronica-love has mentioned multiple times that usually during the first season of a show, actors need to sign a contract to not date because their relationship could end badly and reflect on their work life. Besides, can’t a man and a woman be friends without everyone thinking they’re dating? Like Lili hangs out with KJ alone, Camila hangs out with Cole and KJ individually. I personally don’t think they’re dating, and until they say they are then I’m not gonna assume

anonymous asked:

I was given my diagnosis back in early March. I haven't had a meltdown for months but the other night I lost it and ended up hitting my head badly then biting into my hands.. I'd been doing so well but there was too much going on and I was panicking too. I'd love some tips for myself and also my boyfriend on how to help me as an autistic person as he feels very useless sometimes.. I also Stim a lot, and I was wondering what stim toys you'd recommend and how to bring them up to family (I'm 18)

I’m going to start with the stim toys. @stimtastic is a wonderful place for stim toys; you can visit their webpage here. I’m super fond of their spinner rings and their chewable jewelry, but all of there stuff is going to be high quality.

For meltdowns and how your boyfriend can help you, that is going to be a very personalized experience. I can tell you what works well for me to give you some ideas, but ultimately you are going to have decide for yourself what to try and what not to try.

First, find a stim toy that is comforting to you, that makes you feel content or safe, and keep it with you at all times. Put it in your purse, put it in your backpack, attach it to a key chain, if it is jewelry, then wear it. This way, no matter what you do, you have a stim toy on you at all times that can deescalate an overload or meltdown.

Make sure your boyfriend knows what stim toys can be used to soothe you, so that he can bring them to you, and make sure knows to remind you to use them.

For me personally, I like someone to sit with me when I have a meltdown, even if they don’t interact with me. I also cannot stand when people touch me without permission - doing so can cause me to react violently - but I also crave touch during a meltdown. Having someone sit with me to keep me company until I can respond in text or verbally to simple questions so they can ask for permission to touch me (put a hand on my knee or shoulder, for example), is a huge, huge, help.

If you are non-verbal during meltdowns, or cannot accurately communicate if you are verbal, get Emergency Chat so you can use text if you are able. This allows you to set a message that you can show to anyone so they know what is happening, what to do, and what not to do.

If you like this app, help your boyfriend learn to recognize when it will be easier to use it, or when it will be easier to chat with you over phones, etc., rather than using your voice. That can help a lot with meltdowns, even if you are not particularly sound sensitive.

After meltdowns talk to your boyfriend. Tell him what worked, what didn’t. Even if you don’t know why it didn’t work. This is what my wife and I did for a while, and now we are pretty good about handling the other person’s meltdowns, even when we have meltdowns at the same time.

If you have more questions, send us another ask!

- Sam

@ MLM guys who are in their teens/early twenties

• Don’t worry if you haven’t had a boyfriend yet
• Don’t get hung up on the idea of having a high school/college sweetheart like in the movies
• Don’t pressure yourself to have a relationship with someone who isn’t your type just because you want to be with somebody

Literature and the media glorifies the idea of young love so much that it can make you believe that you should have some kind of romance as part of your teen/young adult years. But you don’t. There is no timeline for love.

Stupid Overwatch Headcanon

Jesse McCree is, like, AMAZINGLY good at stealth. That’s why he was recruited to Blackwatch. When he wants to, he can move perfectly silently. 

This was an asset in the field, but it was becoming a serious problem on the base, because you had all these trained soldiers with hair-trigger reflexes who reacted badly to people appearing suddenly behind them.

They ended up making him wear spurs so they could keep track of him. If he ever takes them off he’s a ghost. 

  • me for the entirety of the last year: idk if i even care about getting more x files the last season ended so badly??
  • fox: here's 10 more episodes u ungrateful bitch
  • me: inject your garbage alien show into my veins
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Angel (Cafe Ver.) // Haechan

keith why
  • ((Lance and Keith have been dating for a while now))
  • Keith: So, um, Lance, I've been thinking, and, we've been like, dating for a while now, so I think- of course, you don't have to say yes, but- I think it's time for us to move on to the next step.
  • Lance: And that is?
  • Lance: (in his head) BOYFRIENDS BOYFRIENDS BOYFRIENDS
  • Keith: Um, space ranger pardners.
  • Lance:
  • Lance: Okay, no. I might have let you go if you said 'partners' like any sane person, but 'pardners'? That's it, you've crossed the line, you've (ranting)
  • Keith:
  • Keith: Y'ain't being too kind 'bout this, y'know?
  • Lance: ENGLISH, KEITH, ENGLISH!