and in the middle

Meersburg in Baden-Württemberg, Southwestern Germany, lies on the Bodensee (Lake Constance). It’s known for its medieval old part of town. The lower part of town (Unterstadt) and upper town (Oberstadt) are reserved for pedestrians only and connected by 2 stairways and a steep street. The name means “Castle on the Sea”, referring to the castle which, according to a tradition from 1548, was built here in 630 by the Merovingian king Dagobert I. The commune obtained the status of free city in 1299. In 1803 it was annexed to the Land of Baden. After WW2, it was part of the French military zone.

I’ve wanted to shave my hair really short for years. I never did it because my husband was very hesitant about the idea. Not in a bullying, “No wife of mine,” kind of way, but you know how fragile masculinity can be, and he’s my husband and I don’t want to fight with him or make him feel bad about something so meaningless and shallow, so I just let it go. (And tbh I wasn’t sure about it myself.)

Anyway, in the last year, his opinion has changed and I have shaved my hair off. What made the difference? Instead of saying, “I want to shave all my hair” I told him, “I want hair like Furiosa or Negasonic Teenage Warhead.” When I was able to say it that way, he didn’t think, “weird bald wife” or “Britney having a breakdown” he thought, “awesome badass wife.”

I’m just so happy we’re getting more variation in the presentation of women in media. More women, and more kinds of women and it just makes me so happy and my head is so much cooler now that it is shaved.

Husband calls me Negasonic Middle-aged Warhead.