and i'm suffering from a case of the feels

anonymous asked:

Can I request how the slbp lords (plus hotaru, kotaro, nobuyuki, and shigezane, if you can manage it) react to an mc that has depression? I'm sorry if it makes you uncomfortable, my depression has gotten really bad lately and I need something to cheer me up.

Anon, I am so sorry for taking so long to answer your request. I have friends who suffer from depression, so I’ve heard a lot about how devastating it can be. I sincerely hope that you’re feeling better by now, but in case you are not, here you go <3 Sending you love and good vibes on behalf of the lords!

…that said… I am not really all that familiar with depression… so I sincerely apologise in advance if any of these are unhelpful/offensive :( please let me know if they are, and i’ll remove them!

How the lords deal with a depressed partner

  • Honestly, Nobunaga is kind of shit at such things. He’s totally the type to tell you to get over it, but when he sees what a tough time you’re having, he feels really bad about how he’s been treating you. He tries to spend more time with you (if you’re willing) and comes up with ways to show you how much he cares about you and how important you are to him.
  • Mitsuhide is familiar with mental illnesses. He understands that everyone is different, so he asks you exactly what you would like him to do for you. Give you some space? Cuddle? Take you out somewhere? He’ll do anything to make you feel better.
  • Yukimura is confused as hell. Why are you feeling so blank? He really wants to help you. He does his level best to make you smile again! Maybe kittens will help you feel better?
  • Saizo wants to give you space. He smooths a hand over your hair, kisses your forehead, and tells you that you know where to find him if you want him. He’s willing to give you whatever you need to feel like yourself again.
  • Masamune understands completely. He has dealt with it before, and he doesn’t want you to have to go through it any longer than you have to. He gently holds you and suggests things that might help you come back to yourself, but no pressure at any point in time. He understands that it’s hard.
  • Kojuro wants you to know that he’s here for you, always, whenever you need him. He will make sure that you eat and shower, and he’ll take care of you if you don’t feel up to doing it yourself. He knows you will make it through. He showers you with affection whenever you’re willing to accept it.
  • Hideyoshi hopes that getting out and about will help you feel better and take your mind off things. He takes you out to town for shopping, flower and vegetable picking in the forest, picnics on clifftops and long walks beside the river. He just wants to spend time with you and wants you to know that he loves you, even when you don’t love yourself.
  • Inuchiyo loves you so much, and he really hates that you’re going through a tough time. He wants to support you, but he doesn’t know how. He just kind of awkwardly hangs around you until you tell him what to do.
  • Ieyasu knows that mental health can be a fragile, fragile thing. He spends a lot of time with you, holding your hand and just being quiet. He’s patient and supportive until you’re back on your feet - and then he’s going to demand a pile of strawberry daifuku in recompense.
  • Mitsunari is all too familiar with how pervasive and difficult mental health issues can be. He’s terrified that you’ll end up like his mother, cut off from the world, and he’s determined not to let that happen to you. There’s a lot more physical affection from him than usual, both to comfort you and himself.
  • Kenshin has been depressed before. He knows how tough he is, but he tells you that he’s there for you every step of the way, and he’s always ready to support you in any way he possibly can. It’s okay to lean on him.
  • Shingen wants to wipe away all your troubles, but in this situation, he can’t do that for you, so you’re going to have to be strong for yourself. But he’s going to stick with you. You’re going to be back to your real self eventually, because you are more than your illness.
  • Nobuyuki is very understanding about the situation. He gently encourages you to stick with your daily activities and leave your room regularly, and he tries to make things as easy on you as possible. He doesn’t want you to be caught in a spiral of dark thoughts, so he wants to be able to keep an eye on you and intervene if that’s happening.
  • Shigezane is crazy worried about you. He doesn’t want you to collapse like Masamune did. He makes sure that you eat and sleep as regularly as possible, and asks what he can do to help you.
  • Hotaru becomes incredibly sticky with you. He doesn’t want to leave you while you’re not feeling well. He just really wants you to feel better, and he’s going to take care of you until you’re okay. He doesn’t want you to feel like you’re fighting it on your own, because he’s there with you and he’s always on your side.
Can't move
  • Jin : Yoongi, it's 12pm wake up.
  • Yoongi : I can't-
  • Jin : Why? Just get up already~
  • Yoongi : I physically can't hyung~ I feel so stiff I can't move~~
  • Jin : Omg Yoongi are you alright?? Are you ill?? What should I do ???
  • Yoongi : Yeah do you mind coming over and help me hyung?
  • Jin : Of course not!! How can I help?? What happened?
  • Yoongi : I believe I'm suffering from a severe case of "morning wood" and-
  • Jin : And out the room I go.
  • Jin : Just fyi this is not even morning anymore!

sometimes i forget why zutara and now shallura are so important to me, and then i remember that i grew this attached because these are abused characters, characters suffering with ptsd, traumatized characters, being loved and nurtured by other characters that help them grow into better people and over come their trauma. 

idk i’m just seeing a lot of shit trying to tear both apart lately and it’s extremely disheartening. people like me that suffer from mental illnesses often don’t get that sort of representation (case in point that neither of these ships are actually canon) so we create these. this feels like a ramble to me but everything i’m seeing shitting on these pairings is really bumming me out and i doubt i’m the only one experiencing that.

Honestly this might be controversial but i think any ‘identities’ under the TQ+ are choices.

If there are GNC people who do not identify as trans, then that means there is a choice, because the trans umbrella itself allows anyone under it who simply declares their gender to not be 'cis’. If trans only meant 'dysphoric’ then it wouldn’t be the case, but the modern trans movement does not include this requirement anymore.

If there are people in the aro/ace community who are exclusively opposite-sex attracted yet do not 'identify’ as qu**r, then again, it means they chose not to.

LGB people do not have this choice. Our same-sex attraction exists regardless of how we feel about it, even when we suffer from internalized homophobia, stay in the closet, etc

anonymous asked:

I think I suffered a lot of spiritual abuse growing up, and I'm just recently starting to realize that that may be why I've always had such low self esteem. I've found some affirming churches and I'm trying to think about spirituality differently, but I'm scared. Part of me wants to try breaking off from religion entirely just to see how I feel, but I'm too afraid to even think about God differently just in case my old church right and I am going to Hell. How can I even approach this?

Hey there, dear. I am so sorry that you were put through spiritual abuse. It breaks my heart that the God of love, that Jesus’ message of welcome and fuller life, are used to cause so much harm. 

If your church used Hell as a way to scare you into staying – that’s not God’s will. Fear is not a tool of love. 

I wish I knew enough to tell you for sure what would help you. You may need the help of a therapist; I believe there are some who specialize in recovering from spiritual abuse. A secular therapist or a progressive Christian therapist/counselor could offer you the professional help that I can’t give. 

If you need to take a break from religion, that’s okay. God is patient, and will love you whether you attend church or not, I promise you that. There is very little I can claim to know for certain, but I do know this: God’s love truly is unconditional, and God doesn’t “punish” us, especially not when we’ve been hurt the way you have. God has so much compassion for you and what you’ve been through, and They’re with you even if you need to leave religion for a short or a long time.

I think that sometimes a consequence of surviving spiritual abuse or any kind of abuse is to make reckless, rash decisions. Please, keep yourself safe as you navigate what you want to do. Know that if you make a choice one week, you can always change your mind at any time. If you have someone you trust, ask them to hold you accountable – to check in on you and offer you support. 

I will be praying for you, anon. If you do check out one of those affirming churches, I pray they’ll help you heal and grow in faith. And if you have to step away from religion, I pray that you’ll find healing and joy out there too. 

Does anyone know more about how to recover from spiritual abuse, or have any resources or encouragement for anon?

  • what she says: I'm fine.
  • what she means: harry james potter dealt with an abusive home and teachers, lost a significant amount of people he truly cared about including his parents whom he had never met and his godfather that he only knew about after twelve years, watched cedric being killed right before his eyes and made a promise to bring back his body to his parents, suffered from PTSD and got mistaken by a whiny teenager which could've easily been the case because harry james potter was a freaking 15-year-old boy with feelings, spent every year in hogwarts listening to people gossiping about him, making fun of him, thinking he was a liar or simply crazy, made it out be the biggest joke of the century on the national wizardry news yet he was legitimately one of the kindest and purest and loving souls to ever exist on this planet. harry james potter deserved better.

don’t just eat at any garbage fast food place u can get a burger from, kids. bc you’ll get a bad case of food poisoning and puke your guts out! and afterwards you’ll feel rly cold and won’t be able to stop shaking.

don’t be like me.

You're gone from me and I'm starting to become okay with that

You just need to feel pain
I’m a firm believer in that
I learned recently that the concept
Once was a tenant of Christianity
The suffering was part of the act of worship
It was believed to enhance your connection with God.
I don’t see why
That shouldn’t be the case today
Some beliefs are meant to stand the test of time

Maybe that’s the case

With you
This pain has a higher calling
Its purpose is to make our connection more powerful

Here’s the trust

You’re not a Goddess
At least not mine to worship
Maybe once
But not anymore
It’s regret masquerading as
Something else
That’s far more

You know the thing I’m the most excited about for having Hey Arnold on DVD now?  I can now watch my favorite scenes frame by frame, because, honestly, so much just happens in an episode that you miss things the first time.  I remember just watching the goddamn tango scene in “April Fool’s Day” so many times I have lost count, because everything happens so fast, that it takes a good few times to notice all the subtleties in the animation.

One thing I never noticed before this new-found ability was this gem:

Out of all the frames I looked at, this had to be my favorite.  I couldn’t not stop laughing when I saw it.  Just look at Helga’s face.  And, oh god, Arnold.  Just.  Everything about him.  His face.  That posture.  He really means fucking business.  Shit is going down.  And I can’t recall a time when he was this angry.  Maybe angry’s not the right word; more like…passionate.  I mean, I know he’s dancing the goddamn tango, which is a pretty intimate dance on its own right, especially when done properly.  However, the fact that not only is he not afraid of holding her close, he’s also doing so while looking her straight in the eye, like he’s hoping to convey his frustrations telepathically or something.

It’s just.  God, they are only fucking nine years old probably ten but who even cares at this point.

…And I know I’m just a pathetic, sleep-deprived adult shipper looking way too much into this.  And also suffering from a major case of the feels.  Because seriously.  All this is only seen in a single frame.

anonymous asked:

I've been suffering from persistent depressive disorder for 4 years now and it's gotten to a point where I don't feel any emotion... And if I do, it's usually negative. I don't have a mum or a dad and I don't want my sister to leave for uni and I don't know where I'll go if my grandma dies. I feel so alone. I have no one. I want to kill myself. I'm 13.

Some medical conditions are so severe that they need to be handled with the help of professionals - i’d say this is one of those cases. 

I can’t imagine how hard it is to have encountered so much at such a young age, but from the looks of it, you’re a fighter. I have so much respect for you. 

Just know that you are never alone, we live in a world where its actually impossible. There are so many resources online to use when you’re feeling your lowest, there are so many friendships to be made online (of course be safe as its the internet). I for one will always be here for you and there are so many other bloggers who would love to foster friendships with you. 

If you ever loose the support system at home, you can always seek it out at school. I know its summer right now, but you have your sister during the summer. I’m assuming you’ve been to the doctor already as you’ve been diagnosed with depressive disorder, but maybe talk to your doctor about how severe your conditions have gotten.

Contemplating suicide is the biggest indication that you need more help or a new approach to the help you’re getting. 

Best wishes! I’ll be here whenever. Keep me updated on how things are going - yes… i really DO care <3 Try to talk to new Tumblr users as well, eventually any loneliness you feel will drift away :)  

anonymous asked:

I have a big issue... I suffer from depression and anxiety and most of the time I'm not emotionally stable. I feel like it doesn't matter what I do, if my intent is strong or if I phrase things accordingly, my energy is low and the only outcome is failure. I've always read that in this case you should wait until you feel better but for me it doesn't really happen and I don't want to put magick aside forever... Do you or any of your followers know if there's something I can do? Thank you so much!

The only thing I could say is to try to fight your depression and anxiety in those moments, try to think more positively about your magic, and be certain that you will succeed rather than fail. That can be really hard to do with those illnesses - trust me, I know - but feeling confident in yourself and your magic, and believing it will work, is a huge component in witchcraft. 

You can always try casting spells for depression / anxiety / energy, but getting over that first hurdle of confidence can be a challenge. 

Are you doing anything mundane to help out with your depression / anxiety?

Followers, any more ideas?

The fact that 95% of my dash today has been Mass Effect and that everyone is just a suffering mess of feels really warms my heart. I’m so glad I’m not the only one who’s been low key screaming all day.