[ CAN I SECOND AND THIRD EVERYTHING EVERYONE'S ALREADY SAID??? It's exactly as you say, you don't sugarcoat the bad but don't make him unrealistically apathetic either. He seems willing under most circumstances to put his feelings aside (which is v different from them being entirely absent in the first place) for his goals. Also what a stud. ]
I want you to know that your last sentence murdered me and for that you get my sexiest cat icon. Look at that face. In any case I’m really, really glad that the “putting feelings aside” part comes through, because I really do try to write the feelings, explain them, and also explain and show how he sometimes puts them aside, and other times almost entirely disregards them, and in some occasion they’re even visible. So I’m glad that you noticed and enjoyed that.