and i think i won't be able to graduate

anonymous asked:

I'm trying to get into dental I'm a little bit behind, I won't be able to graduate with a bachelors until 2019. I have a GPA that's pretty decent, if I work really hard this upcoming year I can have a competitive GPA. My parents are disappointed in me for graduating late and when I told them I switched to dentistry, they said, "what makes you think they'll accept you?" In a harsh tone. I think I'll have to move out eventually. How do I handle toxic parents while living with them?

First off, whether you graduate in two years or sixteen years, your degree is your degree. When you go for a job, no one cares how long it took they just care that you have it
When it comes to your parents, I think there is this idea that parents are allowed to say whatever they want to you and you have to take it. There is a way to speak up for yourself without being rude or disrespectful. Most parents just want what’s best for you and may not realize how much their words hurt. So if I see you I’d just say, “I’m trying really hard to accomplish this goal, and your negative comments are making that hard for me. It’s tearing me down. And what I really need is some encouragement.”

blurrywhore  asked:

Got any advice for an upcoming college freshmen? I'm actually going to a super conservative Christian college in the fall. And I'm super nervous I won't be able to make friends or that I'm not religious enough. Do you think religiousness affected friendships you've had? I'd like to know your thought since you said you were an atheist 😁

I’ve got tons of advice for college freshman but here’s like my first five things I wish I’d known when I went to college:

  • Don’t get too hung up on your major, don’t get hung up on life after college, don’t get hung up period. Relax. It’s just college. You’ll look back on high school now that you’ve graduated and realize how ridiculous some of the stuff that gave you the most stress was. When you graduate college, you’ll feel the same. Enjoy the ride.
  • Push yourself out of your comfort zone. Go dancing. Kiss the person you think is out of your league. Write your actual opinion for the school paper. Apologize when you’re wrong. Fall in love. Fall out of love. Work a shitty job. Learn the value of money and then don’t worry about it too much. Go to the school musical. Then learn to take care of yourself as well. Go wild but always come back to your roots. Meditate. Hydrate. Believe in yourself. 
  • Man who cares if you fail your final?  You’ll never remember that. It’ll be the biggest deal in the world until it’s not. 
  • Get. work. experience. Work an internship. Kick ass at it. Give it your all. 
  • School spirit. Love the ever living shit out of your school. I went to the third best state school in my home state and I fucking act like I went to the best school in the country. Because I did. It was the best school for me. I love it, I bleed my schools colors, I scream my face off for my team. That’s my home. That’s where I became a person. And I’ll be proud of that time in my life until the day I die. I want that for you too. 

Religiousness has not really affected too many relationships in my life because I’m pretty relaxed about my atheism and most of my religious friends are relaxed about their faith. 

Join a club in college. That’s where I made all my friends. And then go to the meeting every week. Never miss a meeting. Never miss an outing. You’ll make friends, I promise. 

anonymous asked:

Hii! I was wondering what course you take at uni and what your thoughts are about going to art universities in general. I'm thinking of switching over from sciences to pursue an art degree, but since I draw in a semi anime style, I'm worried I won't be able to take classes and learn new things without being criticized..Art universities also seem very expensive so I'm very insecure if I'll make the right choice, (what is 'right';;;) Thankyou for reading anyway and sorry for this weird question;

I took an Animation course at the Arts University Bournemouth ^-^ I graduated this year, and honestly speaking, I’m pretty sure Art Universities vary from place to place and their level of rigour/workload will also vary not just from institution to institution, but from course to course.

My Animation course was really heavy duty. We worked 5 days a week, from around 9am til 5pm every day, and by 3rd year, when we were working on our own film in teams, we made our own schedules and had to be very self disciplined. So days became more of a 9am til 7-9pm, and I’d often be going in on Saturdays to keep up with work/do more to alleviate some of the workload that was gonna be coming our way by the end of the year. I know many classmates who were taking work home with them to keep on top of their Animation too. There were many sleepless nights..

So it really really depends on what kind of art course you want to pursue (I can only speak for Animation!), and what kind of institute you’re thinking of looking into! Animation was fantastic in how it incorporated life drawing into its curriculum (which I’ve seen many art courses do, like Illustration, Fashion, Model making etc), and the tutors were great at explaining the basics and getting us to understand the tricks and rules to human anatomy! But once we learned those rules, they encouraged us to break them so that we could develop and hone our own styles, so I think in terms of your concern about your own style…if you’re willing to learn the basics and practice the ‘rules’ of anatomy, and face constructive criticism on how to improve, you’ll be fine! 

Criticism kinda goes hand in hand with art - you can’t escape it and you shouldn’t, honestly. You won’t improve as fast, or in as many areas, without feedback and helpful pointers. I’ve had a fair few cruel teachers, and there’s a massive difference between helpful, constructive, fair criticism, and being taken down ten pegs and having strips torn off your esteem. Everybody draws differently and for different reasons, don’t feel ashamed of the way you draw!

As for choices…nobody can make the choice but you Anon ;; I can only give you my 2c and hope the advice/my experience gives you a small morale boost. Art is a really tough career and course-choice to pursue, and if you’re being worked hard, that usually means you’re at the right University (I’ve heard some courses can be very lax and that personally doesn’t seem worth the money you’re putting in if the teachers aren’t as dedicated as you are ><). It really depends on what you want to do at the end of it all! There are MANY fantastic artists online who’ve taught themselves and learned from peers and tutorials, without attending any kind of art institutes, and that is also a very valid and plausible path you can pick! The decision is ultimately yours, and I hope some of my gurglings have helped even a tiny bit ;;

sarahbody  asked:

I'm currently going to college to be a teacher but I'm suddenly so nervous that I won't be good at it and that I don't even know how to teach. Do you thinking possible to learn how to teach?

YEAH BUDDY!! No one knows what they’re doing at the beginning. My first year of teaching, I was mostly winging it. Like seriously making it up as I went along. It sounds bad but I don’t have a problem admitting it now. My students learned, they had fun, and I was able to figure myself out and learn from my mistakes and my successes. No matter what anyone says or how many friends from your college graduating class are pretending to have all their shit together: early years are teaching are survival years. And that’s okay.

I’m still learning how to teach, and I get better at it with each passing day. Here’s one of my best pieces of advice for beginning teachers: YOU DON’T HAVE TO WAIT FOR NEXT YEAR TO TRY SOMETHING. For some reason, people are always saying “next year I’ll do this” or “next quarter I’ll do that”. Why not tomorrow? Why not next class period? If it’s something that you want to try, then try it. Go for it. It could be life-changing, and you don’t need to wait. I feel like your first couple years of teaching are the prime time to try literally everything you can think of to see what works and what doesn’t. Make changes. Be messy. It doesn’t have to be perfect, and you shouldn’t hold yourself to those perfection-level standards. Sometimes things bomb. Who cares?! The best thing I’ve learned is to let go of failures. I have stopped activities halfway through. I have scrapped projects days after assigning them. Guess who cared? No one. My kids forgot. We moved on to things that worked, and we were happier and better for it.

You’ve got this, I promise. Be open to trying new things, watch and listen to the people who know what’s going on (and by that I mean classroom teachers, NOT your educational theory professors who’ve been out of the teaching biz for decades…sorry profs, but you can be slightly out of touch sometimes), and you’ll be great. You won’t always feel great – in fact, you’ll probably have many days where you feel like you made the wrong choice, that you aren’t a good teacher, that you don’t belong in the profession– but take it from me: even if you don’t feel great, you ARE great. Never stop trying to improve and you’ll always find your way.

anonymous asked:

I remember reading somewhere that you were an English major. I'm considering pursuing that major but I'm worried I won't be able to find a job afterwards. I don't think I want to teach for a living and I'm attending an expensive private university so I'll graduate with loans. What do you currently do? Does it have anything to do with your college major?

Hey there, thanks so much for the question. I was an English major.When I was applying for colleges I thought I wanted to go for film production and Screenwriting. I really had immersed myself in all things film. I was writing critics for a local newspaper, making shorts and writing scripts constantly.

When I looked at what schools were really ace for Film and in my area (I didn;t want to leave Pennsylvania, I applied to Drexel and realized that their tuition was insane. Insane because I didn’t know if I really loved film, loved production and everything about it.

So, I went with the safety choice of the State School I attended and went in Undeclared, I got most if not all of my general classes out of the way my first year and a half and was able to discern that I loved Literature, theory, discussions and research. I also loved debating and helping others. So, after a rocky attempt at being a business major and very close to declaring theatre as my major, I went into study Secondary Education with a concentration in English, later graduating in a the concentration of some altered thing called Literature in adaptation to media and youth lit. I don’t really remember. I remember my Senior Semester Colloquium was written about my relationship with film, the internet, blogging, gender theory and media. 

My freshman year I worked in a dog boutique in town and met Janna, my now close friend and forever mentor. She needed a dog walker, little did I know that offering myself would put me in the middle of a life changing opportunity. Janna passed on so much information as well as connections, it’s unbelievable to look back and see I had little to no direction until she gave me a nudge. She connected me to people in New York, brands, PR people, and to clothing. Janna handed down to me some of the best clothing and thrifting skills I now hold dear to my heart. Yeah, my mother taught me how to haggle for  & purchase rugs, furniture and plants. BUt Janna taught me how to commute to New York, what to wear, drink, and say. She taught me who to avoid and who to network with. She also encouraged me to be myself. 

In the summer of my Sophomore to Junior year I had interned in NYC at a web based magazine with some of the best editors and writers from Town & Country, Men’s Health, BBC, Glamour and many others. Then later went back last summer post graduation and worked under the Digital Media Manager for Maiyet, an up and coming women’s high-end sustainable fashion company. I also worked two other part time jobs to make it possible to afford to to it, and slept on couches & road on buses  back to PA, in the middle of the night. 

I won’t lie to you and tell you I stumbled on both of those opportunities, but tell you that this blog led me to getting both internships, and my most recently ended job with Art In The Age/Quaker City Mercantile in Philadelphia. My blog is the first thing on my resume, it includes my work with Maiyet, my writing, blog work with Club Monaco, recognition and reviews from brands and magazines. It’s a clear representation of my attention to aesthetics, my creativity and my general awareness of trends, consumers and merchandising. 

Now? Well, I am just starting my own business, two years after graduation college. With the help of the amazing networking and resources around me, I decided to leave a stable salary job with opportunity for a rocky road of adventure. I’m designing digital campaigns, making websites, and creating content. I’m being creative and everyday I’m about supporting local, growing local, and being local.  

Also, don’t worry about the loans too much, and if you are I know tons of people that went to get their general courses fulfilled at community colleges and saved tons of money by staying home, paying for the classes themselves then went on to graduated from other schools with the prestige and the major. And less debt. 

My advice? You will get a job if you do a couple things right: Network and represent yourself (brand yourself online), work hard at whatever opportunity is given to you (internship, or even a part time job) don’t be scared to roll up your sleeves and do the work, it will be noticed. And, realize the first job you get out of college doesn’t have to be your forever job, and if you’re unhappy, only you have the power to change up your life.

If I could go back, I probably would have minored in PR, but hindsight is 20/20. Good Luck and I hope this helped! 

anonymous asked:

Considering you have all these problems, maybe you shouldn't go on to a university. You won't be able to handle she stress and workload that goes along with working at an actual college, not a two year post-high school program. Have you considered waiting tables?

Excuse you?

I’ve dealt with many personal problems all my life, but I’ve never given up. Despite my learning disabilities I graduated from an intensive program.

If you think BCIT is easy you need to get educated. BCIT was BRUTAL.

How many courses and labs did you have at a 4 year university per semester. I had 7. And BCIT does not have electives, so guess what all seven of those courses were science and math. Ever had 7 Final exams in a 5 day period? I did; every semester.

In a typical semester I would be taking general chemistry, organic chemistry, inorganic chemistry, technical mathematics, physics, environmental science and chemical engineering. ALL of these courses had labs. EVERY SINGLE ONE.

And despite this, despite all my problems. I graduated with decent grades and never failed a course.

I’m not about to give up on my dreams just because its hard or just because you don’t have the capacity to understand why I love Science and want to make a career out of it.

And for your information I have waited and bussed tables; its not fun and its not a career choice I want to consider ever again.

What a condescending fucking asshole anon you are. Who says shit like this, seriously?

anonymous asked:

my family didn't know the real me, i always act rebellious and that made them thinking that i'm a spoiled child that didn't like studying and won't be able to graduate. but really deep down, i'm actually really hurt and so stressed, every time my family accuse and assume something about me i just go along with it because i'm so sick of explaining to them because they will never believe me.

It’s sad that they don’t let you live your life.. Maybe just ignore them.. Just do your own thing.