Abled person: *Says/does something ableist*
Disabled person: You said/did something ableist *tries to give a better way to say/do it- but are interrupted*
Abled person: Impossible!! I have a (co-worker/pet/partner/family/etc.) who has (insert disability)!
Dude, my pal, even my hearing mother- who is a great smart person-does Ableist things, even my siblings, who intend the best. (Heck even I-a deaf person with disabling chronic pain do this too! I try to not do the same thing again though.) You might be doing ableist things without realizing it. We’d appreciate it if you would listen to what we have to say and fix your ways, not tell us how to feel when you clearly don’t understand a thing about our experiences.