and i honestly advise you not to read it

Tackling Piles of Readings

Beautiful Instagram-worthy study pictures and colorful pen sets aside, tackling piles of course reading is something that very few individuals look forward to. Before I go ahead and tackle my homework for tomorrow, I thought I’d share with you all a brief set of tips as to how I get it done. 

  1. Sit in a place that’s cozy, but not too cozy. For me, that place is my dorm bed. I live between three different places and my bed at my parents’ home (which is only 30 minutes away from my university) is definitely not the place for me to be studying. For some reason, however, I can study perfectly fine on the bed in my dorm room. This isn’t the case for everyone. Lots of people advise against studying in your own bed. For me, I think it’s honestly just a personal preference. What I do make sure to do, however, is to not read under heavy blankets. Instead, I’ll do my reading while I am wrapped up in a thin blanket and am sitting up against my pillows. 
  2. Make sure everything you need is nearby. For me, everything includes a light snack and refreshing or soothing drink (today I’ve chosen bubble tea). Other items that may be useful while reading include pens and highlighters for annotating and a notebook/computer to take notes in. 
  3. Illuminate the room with light. Try to read in a place full of light. That way the darkness doesn’t trick your brain into falling asleep. 
  4. Have a notepad at hand. Write any random, distracting thoughts unrelated to your reading in this notepad. That way, instead of getting side tracked by sudden thoughts, you have them all written down in one place. 
  5. Music? No Music? Up to you. Just make sure that the music is instrumental only. Music with words might throw you off as you read. Keep it on low, if possible. I like to listen to tracks that repeat themselves constantly. That way I don’t get distracted by new chords. Here’s a particular favorite track of mine: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lX8QVBl-ZG0&t=205s
  6. Keep a dictionary at ready. Look up words you don’t understand as you go. Jot down notes into your reading. The more confused you are, the less you’ll gain from whatever you are reading. This is why clarifying terms is important. 
  7. Take breaks every so often. The human brain is like a sponge, but even sponges have limits to the amount of liquid they can hold. Similarly, your brain has a limit to the amount of concentration it can sustain in one sitting. Take a break when you start feeling brain dead. But time yourself. Make sure your break stays limited. And don’t check social media in this break (unless absolutely necessary). What I like to do is actually get something done off my to do list (like sending an email or filling out a form). That way, I feel better and more accomplished after I’ve taken my break. If I’m feeling too lazy to do that, I usually just jam out to non-instrumental music for a bit or watch a cooking video. The type of video you watch is important because you don’t want to go down that familiar rabbit hole of distraction. That rabbit hole, for me, is comprised of study bloggers, beauty vloggers, etc. Cooking videos just happen to not be rabbit hole videos for me. Find yours. 
  8. Don’t get down on yourself. Don’t get down on yourself if you’re having trouble reading or if you don’t find your reading interesting. Not everything in the world was written to be a thrilling piece of literature or an excitingly well-written research paper. Some pieces of work are just boring – and that’s okay. What’s important is that you finish the reading so that you understand tomorrow’s lecture or get a better understanding of a concept being discussed in class. You won’t always have fun studying. Studying is hard work and hard work is just that: hard. Just keep on at it. In the end, you’ll be glad you did. So will your GPA. 

Those are my eight tips for tackling reading! Happy Studying!

With love, hugs, and good wishes,

Huda

some fluffy & funny fics for you

i’ve had enough of this mess so if anyone else feels like they need a bit of a distraction, i’ve got u covered!

here are some of my fav fluffy and funny fics that i’ve read, here if u wanna forget about everything for a little while x

freeze this moment in a frame and stay like this (5.6k) by tolvsmol / @rosesau

Harry (not so) secretly crushes on the cute footie player and fills pages with sketches of him.

so so so cute !!!!!!!! just pure sweetness for 5k words. 10/10 recommend

Ever Since (10k) by @letsjustsee

a very fluffy AU where Louis finds a lost dog that he wishes he could keep - until he meets his owner, who he wishes he could keep more.

one of the cutest things i’ve ever read in my entire life go read it now

if i had the chance, the things i would do to you (14k) by @missandrogyny 

AU where Harry and Louis compete in the Lip Sync Battle

this is possibly one of the funniest (and hottest) fics i’ve read this year. i love this author, check out their other, longer fics too, they’re all hilarious

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Behind the Walls (Chapter 3)

Chapter 1 Chapter 2

Pairing: Professor!Bucky X Reader

Words: 3,087

Warnings: Cursing!

Summary: You are currently getting your PhD in Art History, your dissertation being about The Power of Nudity in Art. Your advisor recommends you switch from being her TA to another professor because she feels her health is declining and wants you to get the best help/advice from someone new. She recommends Dr. James Barnes and believes he will be of great help to you. Things don’t turn out as you plan.

A/N: No one is commenting!! Please people tell me your opinions.

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okay so we always talk about theatre kid aus but they are always the same and honestly wouldn’t happen, so allow me to give you aus based off of my three years of being in my high school’s drama club

  • you bought a copy of the script when you found out what we were going to do so you would be prepared at auditions and got the lead. i would be mad about your advantage except that you’re really cool and i think i might be falling for you
  • oh god, your significant other just broke up with you during a five minute break in the middle of rehearsal and now you’re crying in the greenroom and clutching your phone. shit, i’m sorry, but it’s your cue. um, you know what, i’ll just go read for you
  • i walked in one of the bathrooms while you were changing into a different bra/binding for one of your costumes and i am definitely not thinking about your tits whenever we talk what are you talking about?
  • our adviser/director this year hates tech/crew and you keep ranting about what a bitch she is when i’m not on stage or practicing my lines and you’re honestly adorable when mad
  • we are co-directors and i can’t believe that we’ve been friends for years because you are the last person i wanna see rn
  • okay you are a good actor and might be cute but you do not know how to memorize lines so i’m trying to help you and now it’s a love scene and this is awkward
  • two cast members were dating irl and just broke up and i s2g the show is falling apart bc of the small civil war splitting up the cast and crew (bonus points if the narrator actually likes one of them because that always happens in my club)
  • the entire game of “honey i love you” gives you situations like these:
  • this is the first time i have spoken to you and it’s during this stupid warm up game and now you have a boner which wouldn’t be so bad if i didn’t have a crush on you
  • we fell because you climbed on me to try and make me crack and almost did the anime kiss thing
  • i swear i usually don’t crack but you’re hot and i might be in love with you
  • and the more accurate version of love interests being played by enemies:
  • i’ve had a crush on you for years and now we’re playing worst enemies and i should not find our arguments this hot

feel free to add more because i could go on

anonymous asked:

I don't know how to French kiss or introduce tongue when kissing. HELP! Does this make me a bad kisser?

First of all not knowing how to french kiss doesnt make you a bad kisser. A lot of people dont really like french kissing, its all down to personal taste. If you wanted to get really good at it have someone to maybe practice with, and how you introduce your tongue might just come naturally to you.

When you start kissing the other person dont immediately go in with your tongue. Start off gentle and slow and when you feel like the mood is good try opening your mouth a little during the kiss. Dont fully opening your mouth like youre trying to eat them, but something similar to pursing your lips. When you finally want to go in with your tongue DONT just shove it in ok. Poke your tongue out a little and lightly lick their lips while kissing them. Keep doing this lightly and slowly add more pressure until they start doing it to and then BAM french kissing achieved. 

Honestly this is a little awkward to explain and id fully recommend asking a friend or whoever you want to help you practice. Tell them that you want to try and learn how to french kiss and if you dont have anyone to practice with use your hand and try it out. :)

Jupiter in Scorpio 2017-2018 Part I

| This will have 4 topics: Introduction to transitions, Jackson Wang, GOT7, Bangtan - so feel free to go for the part you want most but do read the Introduction.

| This will involve loads of theory about transits and some guessing about GOT7′s and Bangtan’s futures so don’t read if you’re not into that. :) The Part II will give overall definitions of how it might work for you, but I honestly advise you to read this one first so you can fully understand it.

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wolffyluna  asked:

I'm currently writing a fan fiction, and I'm trying to reconcile the original author's depiction of torture with something that at least makes *some* real life sense. A character is tortured and bribed into giving up the location of a secret city, and he does tell his interrogator the secret. I know you mentioned that the London Cage likely had an unusually high false confession rate because it also bribed people, but I don’t know how plausible that would be in the case of information? (part 1)

The bribe is something the character really wants, like ‘this is almost this character’s defining motivation’ level of want, though it’s arguable that the interrogator could actually give it to him. This character is also ambivalent about the secret city/keeping the location secret. (His father was killed to preserve the secretness of the city, and this character’s movement is severely restricted also to keep the secret safe). (part 2) The interrogator has also tortured + bribed a lot of people unsuccessfully before finally finding out the location from this character, so it would be possible to narratively portray this character’s confession as unusual or ‘torture may only have 0.001% chance of getting correct information, but if you torture enough people, it might happen.’ (part 3) I was wondering if this combination of factors make the giving up the secret at least vaguely plausible, especially if the narrative (if not the characters) makes it clear that this situation is unlikely? (part 4. Sorry about the extra long ask, I didn’t expect it to be this many parts.) 


It’s OK, I actually prefer to have something long like this so I have all the details of the situation. If you’d tried to summarise this in one ask I’d probably have gotten completely the wrong idea about the situation.

Now the way I would play this situation would probably be by skipping the torture entirely and relying solely on bribery. But you’re working with an unrealistic piece of canon so that’s probably not an option.

Because without torture I’d say that it’s perfectly realistic for a character to give away information under these circumstances. It seems as though this character wants to. He has no real ties to the people he’s protecting, he might resent them for limiting the way he lives his life and (from his perspective) he has a chance at something he wants above everything else if he betrays them.

That’s a perfect scenario if you want a character to change sides.

But torture really changes that. We know it makes people who are willing to give up information both less willing and less able to do so.

I’m going to go on a small tangent for a moment regarding giving away accurate information under duress.

We don’t really have data on accurate information obtained under torture. There are a lot of anecdotal accounts that apologists (and torturers) love to point to in order to ‘prove’ that torture ‘works’.

I found reading Rejali’s analysis of these quite interesting partly because I hadn’t realised how much torturers manipulate their data.

One particular ‘success’ story that comes to mind is a case where a young man was arrested and the police got hold of his phones and computer equipment. He was tortured and after he found out the police had his computers he gave up some useful information. Now the torturers claimed this as a ‘success’ but the key point is that all the information the victim gave away was on his computer.

The victim assumed that they’d actually checked his emails. They hadn’t. The police had wasted weeks torturing him, when they’d have found the information they wanted if they’d bothered to boot up a computer. It was a terribly botched operation with a lot of wasted time; a classic example of police departments losing basic investigation skills when they resort to torture.

But the torturers portrayed this as a success.

Depending on how the author wrote these scenes I think you could do something similar. Because torturers are extremely unreliable narrators and tend to have a very inflated idea of their importance.

If the scene is written from the victim’s point of view, or if it’s described in a detailed blow-by-blow fashion….then you probably won’t be able to use this without contradicting canon.

But if there’s a fade to black, if the scene is written from the torturer’s perspective, if the scene skips over a lot of the details- then there’s room for you to work around the author’s mistakes.

What I’d suggest is that the victim character is tortured, says nothing and the torturer goes away in a huff after attempting to bribe the victim. The victim then gives all this information to someone else who works with the torturer (it could be an interrogator who doesn’t torture, it could be a cleaner or a guard). The torturer then takes the credit because of course the victim was only willing to give up this information after being tortured.

You could then use the victim’s point of view (or indeed the person they gave the information to) to emphasise that the victim would have told these people anyway. If the people who’ve captured this character had asked nicely they’d have gotten the information more quickly.

Another possible scenario (and again this depends on how the author wrote their scenes and what exactly happened) is that the victim agreed to be tortured.

This is something that occasionally happens in conflicts- an individual with sympathies for the ‘enemy’ wants to give up information (or act as a double agent) for their own reasons. In order to protect themselves from reprisals they ask to be obviously beaten (or otherwise hurt) by their ‘enemies’. When they go home they then show off the bruises, claim they were captured, tortured and ‘forced’ to give up information.

This is a strategy double agents have used for a long time.

Either of those would be perfectly reasonable, realistic scenarios that could fit with the kind of canon you describe. Torture doesn’t obtain accurate information in them and you should be able to show that clearly in your own fiction.

Personally I like the first scenario, where the victim gives the information to someone else and the torturer takes the credit. It’s realistic, I think it’s versatile enough that it can be slotted in to canon as if it’s a deleted scene and well- fiction doesn’t really show torturers taking the credit for other people’s successes very often, which is something they do a lot in real life. Fiction also tends to assume that torturers generally tell the truth about their success rates and circumstances, when usually they don’t.

I think it’s the closest to realism the scenario you described can get and probably the best way around it.

We know torturers lie and are unreliable narrators, so assume anything from the torturer’s perspective in the canon is inaccurate and reported in a way that makes the torturer look more competent, powerful and intelligent. (As an example of how out of touch with reality torturers can be Les Centurions is a novel by a French torturer from the Franco-Algerian war in which the ‘heroic’ torturer not only saves lives by torturing accurate information out suspects but also uses torture to make a beautiful Algerian woman change sides and fall in love with him. They are honestly that deluded.)

If the victim character is willing to give up information then torture would make him less willing to do so. But worse than that is the effect on his memory, he’d be less capable of giving accurate information after torture. There’s a real life account I read a while ago with a victim who tried to give her torturers the address they wanted, but after torture she honestly couldn’t remember the address.

I strongly advise you try to work memory problems and difficulty actually remembering the relevant information into your story if you can.

Basically- most of the time canon leaves some wriggle room for interpretation, use every inch that’s there. There should be some.

If there’s no absolutely way around it: if the author gave a clear, blow by blow narrative of torture producing accurate information, well even with all the circumstances you’ve described it’s unrealistic. The best you can do in those circumstances is probably exactly what you suggested, emphasise that torture isn’t what made this a success.

The personality, beliefs and motivation of the character are what made it a successful interrogation, they got their information despite not because their interrogator tortured. It would also be reasonable to reduce as far as possible the amount of information the torturers actually got.

The final option is to ignore some of the canon and go with something more realistic. It’s the simplest solution but I get the impression from your ask, not one you’re comfortable with. I can understand that.

I hope I’ve given you a variety of solutions and one of them at least fits your story and the canon you’re working within.

Good luck. :)

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anonymous asked:

do you have any favorite Otayuri AU?

Absolutely!  There are so many though! 

No particular order - And I could sit here and list stories all night, but I will just add a few!

Heart Break Beat - @boxwineconfession caught my attention when she started this - and I gag so hard for it when ever it is mentioned!  The pool shark AU that nobody asked for.

to be young and in love - @yours-julie - something about this hits so hard home with me… I can’t help but scream at her every update!!!! – Small Town Otayuri I love so much!

On the Cusp of Dawn - @penciltrash - I’ll be honest, I did not think I would like this at all - I am not a ABO fan, and this really is NOT ABO - which is prob why I love it so much! — Just SOOOO GOOD!

Prima’s Pleaseures - @cashryley - I am such a slut for escort/stripper AUs (having written a stripper AU myself)   Having almost everything he could possibly want, a very wealthy Otabek Altin decides to do something he’s never done before: hire an escort.

Unsteady - @victuri-oh-nice - Another one I thought I was not sure about, and honestly, started reading it to be nice (Im such an ass, I know) but once I got into it, I found I couldn’t stop and dammit - Feel in love with the author too!  I feel lost not having updates for this anymore! SOOO good!  Rockstar AU

I know this is not all of them - I mean I follow SO MANY stories and authors, but these are my absolute favs for Otayuri! I always stress as I feel I have missed out on people I love and authors I love!  AAAHHHH!  Anon what are you doing to me!!!!???? 

I do advise to check out my lovely friends who write Otayuri at the Otayuri’s Writers Collective - 

OTAYURI WRITERS COLLECTIVE

Okay, you guys. I did it. I wrote the ridiculous Starkquill (or Starklord, as @tisfan​ insists) A/B/O fic that I dreamed up. All of you who wandered in here to tell me to DO THE THING, you are hereby obligated to read it and comment nice things, because I still can’t believe I actually write an A/B/O fic.

For Something Like a Second

Words: 7047
Rating: Explicit
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Relationships: Peter Quill/Tony Stark
Characters: Tony Stark, Peter Quill, Gamora (Marvel), Rocket Raccoon, Groot (Marvel), Drax the Destroyer
Additional Tags: Alpha/Beta/Omega Dynamics, ill-advised liaisons, offscreen canon Gamora/Tony, stolen from the comics, Romance, ill-advised battle plans, Oral Sex, Anal Sex, I honestly can’t believe I did this, another square for my trope bingo i guess, Plot What Plot/Porn Without Plot, okay there’s like a teaspoon’s worth of plot, but really it’s just an excuse for the porn

Summary:
Tony’s really enjoying his tour with the Guardians of the Galaxy, especially since Peter’s about as nontraditional an Alpha as Tony’s ever encountered.

That’s good, because Omega pheromone/heat suppressants are pretty hard to come by out here in space.

...and so it begins.

“If I had a dollar for every minute I spent in a doctor’s waiting room then maybe I would be able to afford these outrageous medical fees.” - Myself.

Hello, and welcome to my blog. Now before we begin, in true Lemony Snicket style, I would like to advise you that the hospital life is not as intriguing as it may seem (despite what the sheer number of cancer movies may have led you to believe). In reality, it’s mostly filled with endless waiting, unanswered questions, and relentless pain (both emotional and physical). Let me assure that this does not make for an interesting story, but if you’re interested, or if you’re a spoonie yourself, read on.

Speaking honestly and openly about chronic illness is something that society does not allow, it defies the typical ‘sick role’ an individual usually plays in society. (I’m going to get technical for a minute so bear with me). In our society there is a concept called ‘Sick Role Theory’ that pervades Western Healthcare. This concept was coined by Talcott Parsons in 1951. ‘Sick Role Theory’ has two main rights and responsibilities being that an individual is exempt from normal social roles and is not responsible for their condition, and that the sick person should try to get well and must co-operate with medical care. This theory comes drastically unstuck when chronic illness (among other things) is thrown into the mix. When an individual’s illness is never going away, are they expected to play the 'sick role’ their entire lives becoming an unproductive member of society? It sounds ridiculous right? But this is what happens. Individual’s with chronic illness are expected by society to fall into this 'sick role’ for healing to occur. However, as the time for acute healing passes and individuals remain in this state of chronic illness, they are held personally responsible for this failure.

We are a society that prides ourselves on productivity, we pride ourselves on showing strength through adversity, and we pride ourselves on personal success. But chronic illness has physically weakened my body; I am not always able to be productive, never ending displays of strength are exhausting, and sometimes I don’t succeed. This is not something to feel ashamed about, it is not something that should be ‘shoved under the rug’ so to speak. It should be spoken about, discussed, and normalised.

So if you get a thrill out of challenging societal norms, stick with this blog as I endeavour to make living life with chronic illness a public discussion.

theunrealinsomniac  asked:

Hi, I'm trying to reinspire myself to reenter the NaruSaku fandom as a writer but I'm so disheartened. Do you ever get the feeling like it's not dissimilar to poking a gaping wound? I mean all I want is to take my view on how it should have ended and make some happy but thinking about all the shit from the NH shippers who just want to kill another ship because they disagree ... I am so sorry I opened a wound there lol

You don’t open a wound if you don’t let NH fans do that. I can understand your feelings quite well, accepting canon ships is one thing but with rude shippers telling your ship to burn in hell (and you as a shipper along with it) it gets frustrating and discouraging to even be in a fandom.

I can only advise you to block every asshole out there who posts shit about your ship so you don’t see their posts anymore. Block everyone trying to message you/tell you that NS is shit. Just block. Don’t even try to argue, don’t even read their hate.

Many people, dumb people, will consider that weak and silly but honestly? Those accepting NH haters salt and letting them reopen our wounds are the real dumb ones.

Once you distanced yourself from all that stupid hate that comes from both sides, you will be able to write your fanfic without any haters nagging you and making you feel wary of yourself.

Narusaku is a great ship. Every ship is, it all depends on our subjective view. Don’t let anyone tell you it sucks just because it is their opinion, and theirs alone. Naruhina being canon changes nothing about that. Naruhina did not become canon for being the ‘better’ ship. It became canon because Kishimoto subjectively preferred it for whatever reason. Never forget that!

It needs time to get over the haters, I know that for myself. But you can do it. If you ever do, send me the link to your fanfic so I can read it :)

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buho-midnight  asked:

Your comics give me life. I love them! 😍❤💯👌👌👌 Btw i'm starting to draw smut comics as well do you have any advice? I tend to get really carried away with 'action' scenes! How do you do them?

I honestly dont know what to advise because my story just came to me really natural, and also for the angle and the panle ;__; Perhaps if you read smut a lot you will kinda know what to draw. Also when you practice drawing often (I drew almost nonstop since September last year) you will eventually know what to do.

All the best!

Originally posted by tqw236

Honestly making a “before you follow” page is kinda out there, I get it, but it relies on the assumption that the sort of people who you don’t want following you are gonna read it and listen and most of the time with the stuff on those lists, they’re just gonna read it and get mad and yell at you

But having a “before you UNfollow” or a “don’t unfollow unless you–” is absolutely unreasonable, manipulative, and if you see someone has one of those I advise you to not follow that person in the first place and if you’ve already made that mistake then it wouldn’t be the worst idea in the world to block them immediately

[TRANSLATION] PSYCHO-PASS the Movie: Balcony Scene

This was NOT included in the movie!!

I’ve heard this has been translated already but several cute anons and some users insisted that I did it anyway and I couldn’t just ignore them or refuse. So there you have it. ^_^“

Too bad they didn’t put this in the movie. It would totally blow the fandom away. I may not be a shinkane shipper, but I genuinely enjoyed this complete version of the scene. It has a nice the-old-PP vibe to it. Especially this exchange was very nice:

“You’ve really grown up,” Kougami muttered heartily.

“Is that so?”

Tsunemori already feels embarrassed as she says this.

And the part about how, even though they finally met as fellow humans, there’s a case getting in their way. Lol. What were they thinking, leaving it out? Anyway, I hope you’ll enjoy this. <3

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Evening in the rebel army base. The light’s turned off in Kougami’s room. Tsunemori was using the bed, and Kougami was trying to fall asleep, lying on blankets on the floor. At any rate, it was after he had struggled through the battlefield. Once he calmed down and tried to think, he felt fatigued. The next morning Kougami planned on having a talk with Sem about their further actions.

“…”

Kougami Shinya and Tsunemori Akane. A strange, barely tangible tension drifting between the two couldn’t be brushed away. Even despite the fact that she was tired, only Tsunemori’s mind was clear of nervousness. No, was it clear just because she was too exhausted? Anyway, Tsunemori couldn’t fall asleep and left Kougami’s room.

She was looking out the window of a roofed passage.

“Ah…”

The number of power generators seemed insufficient. The Guerillas kindled real fire instead of using lighting equipment. It was those traditional watch fires.

The night sky was beyond belief beautiful. The silhouettes of the stars were sharp as jewels. The lighting at the Guerilla camp was at any rate poor. Speaking of lighting intensity, these watch fires would be less than a tenth part of street lights used in the Tokyo metropolitan area. When the ground is dark, the sky is clearly visible.

“The sky is awesome.”

Kougami was also awake.

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Heaux Fa Sho'...Ho Tactics and other Ho Reads

Pleased to see so many sb’s getting into the swing of things with reading one of my favorite heaux books, Ho Tactics. I have been telling girls to read this book since last summer, but I see some of you ladies just needed to experience the book on your own time. If you haven’t read the book I highly advise you read it. You don’t have to be a Sb to utilize the lessons within the book, honestly I feel all women should have this in their book collection. It is an authentic perspective on how men way too often view women and how to stay steps ahead of the games and manipulation that play.

I think I am most pleased because the book is actually written by a man and he doesn’t sugar coat anything (see what I did there lol). He also has another book called “Solving Single: How to Get the Ring and Not the Runaround”. That is also a great and informative read. If you still need more advice from this brilliant author go over to his blog blackgirlsareeasy.com. He has plenty of posts from dating, breakups, Ho tactics, relationships whatever. If you look close he also has added extra chapters that compliment his books. One is called “Dick Tactics” and runs about $5.99. I highly recommend you purchase and read this as well. If you are new to the sugar bowl, seasoned vet, or just getting back into the swing of the dating world you should read what he has to say. Over are the days of Steve Harvey sprinkling fairy dust in your eyes, get on board with G.L. Lambert a Ho Mentor lol.

anonymous asked:

hi! do u know some classic drarry fics? i'm pretty new in drarry fandom and want to read something rly good. Thanks!

Yes I do !!!!! Welcome to the drarry squad <3 I have a lil starter pack in my fic rec that I’m going to copy paste here because I feel Very strongly about this starter pack of great fics. I don’t think its what a lot of people consider the #classics but they’re my gold standard for what I think ideal drarry fic is based on like writing quality, relationship development, characterization and charm.

At Your Service - faithwood - 95k - this fic does it right !!! Summary doesn’t begin to cover how truly excellent this fic it. It’s a great crash course for everything drarry fic should be.
Summary: Hogwarts students are in danger; Harry is determined to save them all. There’s only one thing he knows for certain: Draco Malfoy is somehow involved.

The Stately Homes of Wiltshire - waspabi - 57k - The tags on this are ‘pining’ ‘mystery’ and ‘humor’ and honestly if that’s not enough to get you to read this Shining Gold Star of a fic we r not on the same level as people.
Summary: Malfoy Manor has mould, dry rot, and an infestation of usually historical poltergeists. Harry Potter is on the case.

The Way Down - 70k - lettered - this fic is one of my absolute favorites. It just AFFECTED ME MAN.
Summary: Malfoy’s all, “Come out of there,” the way you say to a cat who is badly behaved. And Harry’s all like, “No, what, I’m a hermit! And I have a chest-monster! And I am crazy magically powerful!” and Malfoy’s all, “We all have problems, bub.” (thoughtfully) “You are crazy though. I’ll give you that.”

Running on Air - 74k - eleventy7 - This fic is like receiving such a gentle and beautiful gift its like being tucked into bed or handed a cup of hot cocoa at the exact perfect temperature it is The drarry fic honestly. (its a lil less emo than the summary imo but just as beautiful as it sounds)
Summary: Draco Malfoy has been missing for three years. Harry is assigned the cold case and finds himself slowly falling in love with the memories he collects.

I’d say these are great places to start ! I have a more lengthy fic rec if u make it through those and u want to read more. There’s also a ton of stuff out there and I’d definitely advise you to explore rec blogs like @capiturecs @dragontamerdrarry and @mxlfoydraco for more niche stuff beyond the classic fics. I think starting out its really easy to stick to the big authors (lumosed_quill, faithwood, sara’s girl, lettered) and they are great !! But I definitely think that there are so many non-classic fics that should be getting just as much love.

anonymous asked:

I saw a post talk about losing weight and honestly I as a feedee 100% struggle between gaining and losing. In my family it's common for heart disease and diabetes - and being fatter increases those risks. I'm a closeted feedee and so I don't feel like I have anybody to talk to about this, so I hope u don't mind. I feel so torn because i can see 2 types of happiness and myself. I want to fight the deep desires of feedism but the more I try the more I want to gain which upsets me more. Any advice?

I’m glad you feel comfortable enough to send me a message! Honestly, people like you are why I make the posts regarding weight loss. I think it’s important and there needs to be a space in the feedism community for it. 

I’d like to start by saying I’m not a doctor so I can’t advise you or anyone to gain weight a certain way and guarantee perfect health in the process. Any research or articles I’ve read seem to all have conflicting results so I don’t think I could advise you based on what I’ve read even if I wanted to. 

Physical health concerns are up to you to manage. Only you and your doctor will be privy to that information. I guess one piece advice I have for those that are concerned about the risks that come with gaining weight is: be self-aware and educate yourself. Know your numbers. Find out your blood pressure, insulin levels, cholesterol, etc. Be aware of your family history, educate yourself on nutrition. Talk to a doctor or nutritionist if you have questions. 

My second piece of advice is: don’t let a feeder bully you into gaining. Make your concerns known from the beginning. If they bail because you wanna go slow or stop at a certain weight, then they weren’t worth your time anyway. If you start to feel uncomfortable, tell them! Keep communication open. 

Third: be conscious of your mental health as well as your physical. Weight gain may put a dent in your confidence levels (yes, even if you enjoy it as a kink, the “real” world is an entirely different environment). Personally I find too much junk food and lack of exercise makes me moody but that’s purely anecdotal (though there must be science to back this up? I don’t know). Some people find being fat limits their ability to travel or engage in certain hobbies. Missing those things could make you feel depressed or angry. I could go on and on. (These are just examples! I’m not saying everyone will experience all of these as consequences of gaining weight)

Finding a balance can be tough. My weight has fluctuated a lot over the years, both intentionally and sometimes not. I received a lot of shit for it and it used to piss me off but it doesn’t anymore. I’m happy now and that’s all that matters to me. 

It’s up to you to determine what will make you happy and what’s most important to you. I’ve seen a lot of users on tumblr with the mindset of “we’re all going to die eventually, might as well enjoy it”. That’s probably where I stand as well. HOW you choose to enjoy it is up to you. 

things that (mostly foreign kpop fans) need to stop: [particularly about male kpop groups or idols (particularly particularly talking to ARMY’s]

  • Being crass, disgusting, perverse, overly sexual, rude and all around unnecessary towards idols on a platform where they are allowed to see your comments. I can’t believe this needs to be explained but EXP: you look so good oppa i want to rape you // Fuck me oppa // you’re so sexy i hate you for making me feel this way. // *idols posts picture of them doing a peace sign and smiling* comment: GOD i want to fuck you so bad right now…  this needs to stop especially because some of yall are like 14 years old. Also, this is just tasteless and it’s actually called sexual harassment tbh.
  • Infantising or judging idols for saying things, dancing to things, that are adult or sexual when they are grown ass adults. Like, for example, Jimin & Jeongguk dancing to a song with mature lyrics about having sex basically, and so many comments like; do they even know what this song is omg this song is so sexual, i can’t believe they’re doing this….1; it’s just a song, lyrics don’t even matter, it’s not a big deal. 2; these idols are old enough to dance to whatever they want to without someone telling them they’re too young or assuming that it’s crude or weird or they don’t know. 
    • please note: this does not mean just because they are grown ass adults that you can then proceed to sexually harass them or only comment overly sexual and disgusting things.
  • Commenting the second idols post things on twitter with some unnecessary random ass english bullshit. First off all, even if they could understand over half of it, which Kim Namjoon may just be able to (or other fluent in english kpop idols) they probably don’t want to read so many unnecessary comments. NOTE: this does not mean don’t say: i love you! this means don’t say some shit like: jhope posts a picture: where is taehyung. jimin posts a video doing something random: first 8 comments are shit like: I HATE YOU FOR MAKING ME FEEL THIS WAY, why do you always do this, kiss jungkook, where’s taehyung? how is taehyung doing oppa? yall need to learn some manners honestly…
  • PS. please understand that messaging things like: I HATE YOU FOR THIS, for a foreign idol, does not look good and is not advised. Your favs probably do understand the word hate in english, and they do not know it as a good thing. Your weird tumblr or otherwise socially obtained sarcasm does not read through text. it sounds like you’re just yelling that you hate them. Use some common sense and if you’re going to yell at them don’t use sarcasm in a separate language from their mother tongue and a sarcastic, culturally separate from their own at that.
  • stop flooding the VAPP lives with 100000 english comments of a similar nature as well tbh. If you have nothing nice, relevant and simple to say just don’t. or just send a heart emoji. sometimes the level of obnoxious that the foreign fans reach is actually out of this world.
  • show support for whole groups not just your favs. if another member if out on VAPP for instance, please don’t constantly in english ask where your favorite member is, pay respect to the member currently there. This goes for twitter and everything as well…
  • literally stop going onto everything all of the time and talking shit about how it isn’t bts. just stop. like, i feel like i could go to a beyonce video tomorrow and find 4 comments about bts and at least 2 would be like; BTS IS BETTER, and the other 2 would be like ARMY here supporting beyonce let’s stick together, some of all are wild, calm down we already have a bad reputation tbh….i’m not saying don’t be proud to be ARMY or love bts (because i’m sure that’s what people will try to get out of this post and they’d be wrong) i’m saying don’t act like crazy people???
  • have some respect for BTS and all idols, and remember that they are PEOPLE. and if you’re a foreign fan, remember that they do not share the same culture as you. You may not understand their culture entirely, just as they don’t understand yours. Don’t fetishise their culture or their people, don’t fetishise their language. Don’t act like you understand their culture if you don’t. Especially if you’re new to kpop and BTS brought you in, it’s okay that you don’t understand but …at the same time, understand that their culture is nothing like ours. It really, really, really isn’t. Don’t mistake that it is. Learn the culture that you’ve been thrust into and don’t try to bastardize it. 
  • If you see them in your foreign country or town (on vacation especially…) don’t crowd them, chase them, yell at them, try to touch them.