so my girlfriend just broke up with me and im dead idk why im really writing this because i dont know you and ur just the first person that appeared on my dash not of my friends are online and i dont know what to do
I’m so sorry anon :( I’m rly bad at advice so here’s some from my friend:
Try to see a counselor or a therapist if you can. Taking a break from looking at the person’s things, like their blog or their fb. Don’t message them or talk to them if you don’t want to. You don’t -have- to talk to them, or stay friends with them. You can do what is ok for you. If you want to still be friends but can’t at the moment, that is ok.
Don’t feel bad if getting over them takes longer than a year or more. Sometimes it takes a long time. Practice self worth. Remember that you were a cool person before you dated, and a cool person during, and that you will be a cool person after. It’s ok to just be you.
Mm.. Another big thing my counselor said to me was like.. Not to believe things I make up in my head that have no truth to back them up. Like for instance thinking that my past partner hates me now, or that I was a bad girlfriend and that’s why we broke up. There is no factual support for those thoughts, winding myself up with them will only hurt me.
When I was worried about if my friends might not want to be with me anymore, or what they might say about me when I couldn’t stay friends with my past partner, my counselor also said to not think about what people might say, or might do. We can control what we focus on.
Spend time with friends who care about you and make you feel loved.
I often wonder if I’ll be worth loving to another person, like if anyone will ever care about me again. But I think - yes. me! I can be that person. And if I love me, and other people did love me, another person will love me if that’s what I want.
both of us hope you’ll be ok <3