and i hated onslaught

I lied before, apart from the soldier thing, there’s one more thing that bothers me in this post-otayuri age. Forgive me for rambling, it’s three in the morning and I got hit by an onslaught of annoyance.

I’m hardcore hating how many artists and writers are turning Yurio into a stereotypical uke role now that he can be paired with a more stereotypically masculine character.

The reason is obvious. Otabek is a character that presents very typically masculine: deep voice, short hair, square jaw, bikes, leather jacket, fails at ballet, national hero etc etc. In comparison, while Yurio has “masculine” personality traits -namely his aggressiveness and competitivity-, he still has more effeminate qualities: long hair, fair complexion, Russian fairy, likes cats, very flexible, aces ballet, has delicate choreographies etc etc So it’s easy for y’all to put them in traditional heteronormative roles even while shipping them as a same sex relationship

That alone is already terrible, but it’s only worse if you consider the fact that Yuri on Ice is a series that has been challenging gender roles since day one. Yuuri’s Eros, Victor presenting as androgynous in his youth, Georgi’s male-female costumes.  

In this latest episode, we got to see how Otabek was impressed by Yuri Plisetzky who “had the unforgettable eyes of a soldier” (a very typically masculine metaphor) while doing ballet, a stereotypically feminine activity. Otabek never looks down on Yurio’s effeminate qualities, nor mocks him for them (in fact, no one but JJ does), quite the contrary, Otabek has massive respect for Yurio and never forgot about him.

Yuri on Ice characters aren’t trapped by gender norms. They can have stereotypically masculine AND feminine traits and neither detracts from who they are. And no one ever thinks they’re “less” for showing traits that don’t align with their assigned gender, quite the contrary, these traits often make them stronger.

So why are people coding them with gross heteronormative seme/uke tropes? Why did people go from portraying Yurio as agressive and dominant “top” to whiny and submissive “bottom”? Just because now there’s a “macho” character to pair him with?

Ugh I’m not making any sense but I’m sick of this gross fetishization and heteronormativity and fandoms make me sick sometimes.

Good morning everyone! This wasn’t something that I was planning on discussing on my blog but after an absolute onslaught of hate comments about my weight (??!!) I decided it was worthwhile revisiting this topic. The pictures above were taken almost 2 years apart - one in 2014 and one about a fortnight ago. They both show me, the same girl. The same girl with the same aptitude for languages and the same friends, still dating the same boy. The same smile and the same thoughts and feelings. The only difference in the photos is how I look. 

The first time I thought about my weight I was 10 years old. I remember searching through my primary school class photo when I was 11 trying to find someone ‘as fat as me’ so I didn’t feel so bad. When I was 12, my school gave me a questionnaire that would be hidden and given back to me at prom. One of the questions was ‘where do you want to be in 6 years’ and I instinctually wrote “I want to be thin”.  I was bullied all through high school. When I was 14 I wore sports bras every day because I was told my boobs were ‘saggy’. I was told no one would want to look at them, and I would die a virgin. When I was 16 I starved myself then binged on food when I couldn’t take any more. I fed my sadness with second portions and midnight snacks. My weight went up and down more times than a rollercoaster. I opened the time capsule when I was 18 and I cried because I still hated my body. I went to university and loaded up on cheap alcohol and the calories that came along with it. When I was 19 I stepped on the scales and the numbers told me I was clinically obese. I pulled on my favourite top and it ripped trying to squeeze my body through. At 20 I deleted all of the photos from a holiday because I couldn’t look at myself.

I don’t condone losing weight in an unhealthy way. As you can see, I lost my fat very slowly and I’ve certainly not lost it all yet. For some unknown reason hateful people on my blog have felt the need to tell me in many ‘creative’ ways how fat I am. So I guess I just wanted to share this because I’m in a really confident place with my body image just now. Body confidence isn’t about numbers on scales or clothing sizes, it’s a mental thing too. I’m strong enough to not let these horrible anons hurt me by talking about my weight like it’s something that I don’t think about already. All they have done is encourage me to share a story that makes me proud of myself. 

(Photo credits Chicago Blackhawks)

It’s been about twenty-four hours since Patrick Kane accepted the Hart and Lindsay trophies at the 2016 NHL Awards - since he made history and was honored and celebrated by his peers and media and family and friends and teammates. And sadly but not surprisingly, I have watched ignorance spread by people who continue to irresponsibly refer to him as anything other than the victim of false allegations last summer. And while it won’t make a bit of difference to such blinded and hateful people, I get to say what’s on my heart.

This hateful onslaught post-Hart award comes as a surprise to no one - not his family, not his fans, not his team, and certainly not him. But the mere fact that we all had to accept that it would come is such a level of unfair bullshit that it is almost incomprehensible.

The idea that people would have any kind of entitled right to continue to defame his name based on what we now know to be false allegations is beyond arrogant. These screeching self-proclaimed champions of their cause hide behind the self-righteous veil of fighting against rape culture but at the end of the day, they are blinded bullies motivated by their own agendas (at best) or pride (at worst). They refuse to accept that they are wrong and continue to try to destroy the life of man who is the actual victim. That makes them no better than the rape apologists they are so quick to label everyone who opposes their opinion.

The only thing that makes this ridiculous hatred endurable is the fact that he has clearly found a way to make the irrational hate just not matter. He took to the ice and quietly and humbly played through the torches and pitchforks mentality. He put his head down and heard the mocking and the booing and the unfair ridicule but didn’t let it affect his game. He has worked harder and dedicated himself to his craft and the sport he loves. And what infuriates me to the point of tears is that while he didn’t let it destroy his performance on the ice, he deserved exactly none of that treatment off it.

And last night, the people with the opinions that actually matter to him made their statement. The men he plays against and with on a nightly basis named him as the top player in their fold. The Hart is important but the title I would wager matters far more to him, is the one voted on by his peers. The Lindsay is the best way to tell Patrick that what he has accomplished is awesome in the truest sense of the word. And unlike the mindless hate and accusations of strangers who hide behind the anonymity of the Internet, he actually cares about the voices of the players.

Patrick Kane is the 2016 Art Ross winner.

Patrick Kane is the 2016 Hart Trophy winner.

Patrick Kane is the 2016 Ted Lindsay winner.

History will remember him these things. No amount of hurtful crap spewed by people who can’t even bother to research the case before spouting their bullshit will ever, ever take that from him.

I hope he heard us cheering last night. I hope he knows that he is admired and loved. I hope he is aware that there are far more fans who appreciate and believe in him. I hope he knows how absolutely bone-deep proud of him we are.

But if he doesn’t, that’s okay. Because last night, he found out what the people he most cares about had to say about their pride and admiration. And last night he got to look in the mirror and see a man who deserves that pride and admiration - especially from himself.

Congratulations Patrick. We are blessed to be part of the family that calls you our own and we are awed to get to watch you shine….

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Markiplier Fandom Chaos

 I logged on this morning and my heart nearly broke…

Two people I consider dear friends have left because of this petty nonsense. You should be ashamed of yourselves behaving like fools and breaking up the warm community that we all were so proud of…

I know me ranting about will do nothing but get me unfollowed and a onslaught of hate mail…So I wont waste my breath on that.

 Instead I will continue to post what I always post…and be here for the good people in the community who are feeling the stress that others have caused. Remember each word you say mindlessly can seriously effect others, others that maybe fighting battles and use this fandom as an outlet. I WILL BE HERE FOR THEM and pray that MARK will come out and say something to stop this foolish mess.

So with that said… I will wish you a good day….

Momma

Man I hate seeing hate for my favorite character.
Thinking of unfollowing a couple of the Teen Wolf blogs I follow because there has been a sudden onslaught of Parrish hate because of tonight’s episode :(((( Why would you want such a cinnamon roll teddy bear dead? He literally has done nothing wrong. Yeah he has visions about Lydia, some of which aren’t exactly PG. but you know what? If Stiles were having these dreams y'all would be jumping out of your seats and screamin about how much Stiles loves Lydia.
Here are just a few things that I have to get off of my chest about this subject:
1) You have no control of what you dream about. Sorry. And even if you did, Parrish’s visions about Lydia have been less than ideal. I don’t know about you, but when I day dream about kissing/banging my crush it doesn’t end with their skin melting or them telling me someone is dying/something is coming.
2) Parrish isn’t that much older than Lydia (who is a consenting adult btw) they have maybe a 6 year difference. That’s not a lot. And it isn’t even a confirmed romance at this point. Just a bunch of visions Parrish has no control over.
3) Lydia IS part of Scott’s pack. She has been for a good amount of time now. I recently saw a post that was like “Lydia would be a part of Scott’s pack if it wasn’t for this Parrish shit” like??? Have we been watching the same show???? She is a central part of the pack! It was her powers that were key in the storyline last season.
4) Parrish has been nothing but respectful and courteous to every one. He has helped Scott and the pack numerous times. Yeah he has a stronger friendship with Lydia because they hung out more. But he has helped tremendously with figuring out the chimeras and getting Lydia out of Eichen House and I’m sure him being on supernatural clean up is going to be a very helpful thing in the future.
I just remember when Parrish was first introduced, he was very well liked. Everyone had a good time trying to figure out what he was and I think he was called like “Detective Pretty-Eyes” or something. But GOD FORBID he be written to like Lydia (both platonically and romantically).🙄