and i feel like i should tell people it gets better

anonymous asked:

hi! I'm a different anon but I'm sorry I didn't understand what you meant by jin being too confident and getting used to his confidence actually means that he has low self esteem. could you please reiterate? thank you!

I’m referring to this mornings chatroom and VLIVE with Seokjin. It means he has been so used to being called/looking handsome that it wasn’t making him as happy/confident with himself. He needed change in order to feel as if he looks good. It was pretty much same old, same old type of thing going on. “Anything I do, I’ll just be called handsome. Am I really that handsome or do people just tell me this?” That’s why he gave himself “ugly” bangs so he can train himself to believe he is handsome. He better explains it in his VLIVE, so watch that. It’s actually a serious talk with Seokjin which I liked. I think it shows more of who he is. They eng sub should be up by now.

I want to tell you about what it’s like to talk to frank iero.
  • He will make sure all of his attention is on you from the moment you walk up to him. (I had to wait for three people to walk in between us before actually stepping up to him and he watched me the whole time.)
  • He leans in to hear you better and speaks softly in reply. 
  • His eye contact does not drop for a second.
  • I’ve never met anyone who’s made me more calm than he did. Especially with active anxiety, I should’ve been freaking out. But his entire demeanor was soft and calming. 
  • He let’s you know he is not in a rush.
  • If you tell him something, he will become truly interested. He prompts you to elaborate and answers enthusiastically.
  • Also, if you get the chance to make him laugh, do that. His eyes get squinty and his laugh is beautiful in real life.

Overall, he was one of the coolest people I’ve ever met and I’m grateful I got time to talk to him. Please feel free to add!!

ONE MORE because people think they’re so smug when they point this out but whenever I see someone going like ooomg ur style hasn’t changed in x months/years!! I laugh bc yeah congrats on noticing, I like drawing in this style so generally speaking it will improve but look the “”same”” to you, I don’t feel the need to be inconsistent and jump styles all the time lmao

(not to mention whenever people say this stuff they usually expect artists to “step up” and draw everything in a realistic/more detailed style which is not something I’m usually into and really disrespectful to cartoon artists)

what I’ve /actually/ been trying to change/get better at is anatomy, the general movement and flow, and I know it’s been getting better

so I don’t need you to tell me what /you/ think I should be changing, I CAN draw in other styles, I simply use this one because it’s what makes me happy

so miss me with all that bullshit

This blog protects Lukas Waldenbeck from the people who says that he needs to just ‘get over’ and that he should ‘fuck off’ and those people who shit on his appearance. Just no. Watch the live chat with the cast and listen to what James Paxton says, he talks about how this internalized homophobia rings so deep into Lukas that the decisions that he makes are irrational. I don’t think what he’s done to Rose or Philip is right, but I also don’t think from his point of view that he thinks he’s wrong. He’s so focused on not being perceived as gay that he doesn’t care what he does as long as his peers and his father doesn’t figure out. You don’t think Lukas feels like crap? You don’t think Lukas sits there at night and thinks about this beautiful boy he’s met whilst having the words ‘why do you have to be so different?’ ringing through his mind? You don’t think Lukas cries himself to sleep because everytime he closes his eyes all he can hear is gunshots and feel philip’s lips against his? And all that time wondering which is worse, witnessing murder or coming out. How bad must his father make him feel for Lukas to think that covering up a murder is the lesser of two evils.

So you know what, don’t tell Lukas to just get over it, tell Lukas to work through it, tell Lukas that it’ll get better, tell Lukas that there will be a time when he can be himself, tell Lukas that he’ll be loved for who he is, tell him that one day he’ll be able to sleep without feeling like he can’t love someone he wants to. But do not for a second think you can sit there and tell him to get over it or just come out because that struggle is his alone to bare.  

hey guys, i get that our main goal here is to spread positivity but can we.. not degrade ppl who mainly feel negatively? like, telling ppl “being negative will only bring about bad results!!!” isn’t helpful or going to make ppl feel better. in fact, if anything, it’ll only make ppl go, “well then why bother, i’m always depressed and upset,” and that’s not what we want.

instead, we should push positive reinforcement. don’t shame ppl for feeling bad— tell them how to feel okay. show people the positivity we want to spread instead of telling them ‘it’s bad to feel bad’.

If I tell Emma what I did she won’t want to marry me
— 

Hook in promo for 6x13

So this is redemption is it?

Caring only about whether or not he gets what he wants? What about David who’s father he killed? What about how it affects the entire family? What about redeeming himself because he wants to be a better person for himself not just because he wants to look good for Emma. 

This is why I will never like CS. 

Hook’s redemption just always seems half-assed and lacklustre. It always feels like he only does good to prove something rather than because he actually wants to/should do. 

Regina on the other hand started her redemption for her son and continued it for herself. She made amends and cultivated relationships with the people she hurt most and does good to protect the people she cares about regardless of whether it gets her rewards. 

She has always been a better fit for Emma. They have grown together over the years and helped each other be better people. They give support, honesty and respect - none of which that line from Hook suggests at all.

Yet A&E expect me to believe that Hook is what’s right for Emma? 

I don’t want to believe that. 

Maybe like Regina I want to believe in a happier ending! 

So I probably should be asleep, but I needed to say this. I’m just a guy from nowhereville Illinois, nothing real special, and yet here I am with almost 200 followers, and that gets closer and grows more each day. Idk what you all see in my blog, it’s nothing special, but I wanted to thank you. Because it shows me that I’m not as weird as I think I am. And so I just wanted to take a moment to say, to all the kids like me, you are beautiful people. Both those who follow me and those who don’t. I know what it’s like to be an outcast, and it doesn’t suck like it sometimes seems. So if you’re struggling or have problems or are feeling lost, I tell you from experience that it gets better. It gets way better.

Infp here, just gonna throw this out there;

Extroverts? They’re not stupid. They’re not shallow. They’re not annoying.

What defines an extrovert is the fact that they are energized by social interaction. By being with people.

And again, I’m an infp, I don’t experience this. But I do GET it. And I feel like more of us introverts should make an effort to.

We’re always telling extroverts to understand us better and treat us the way we want to be treated but shouldn’t we be willing to do the same for them?

They aren’t some form of lesser creature, they’re people. With emotions. And thoughts. Don’t trample extroverts’ feelings just because their needs are different from yours. That’s exactly what all we introverts have been asking - to have our needs respected.

If you need to recharge, do it. I lock myself away every now and then and put my headphones on and there’s only one person allowed inside my metaphysical bubble when I do that, because I’m recharging (she isn’t around physically at the moment but still). But let’s be honest guys, we don’t need recharging all the time. And somebody wanting your attention/time is not an attack, no matter if it feels like one. That means, probably, that they like you.

Extroverts aren’t vampires. They’re not bad. They’re not stupid.

The smartest person I know is an extrovert. She’s dynamic and talkative sometimes. She’s also quiet when it’s the time for it. She’s thoughtful and loving and kind.

Stop belittling extroverts.

Dear offended christian, from a very tired christian

Letter by John Pavlovitz

Dear Offended Christian,

I’m terribly sorry that your feelings are hurt again. I feel badly about that. None of us likes to be criticized, so I totally get it.

I know I’ve said some pretty hard words to you recently, and maybe I’ve been somewhat less than “cheery” in my delivery, but that happens when you’re tired.

And I am really tired:

I’m tired of hearing you telling gay people that they can’t simultaneously be both gay and Christian.

I’m tired of having to explain what “Transgender” means to adult Christian people, who I’m quite sure have Internet access and should know better by now that it ain’t “a guy in a dress”.

I’m tired of arrogant pulpit bullies who believe they’re entitled to tell people where they can pee and who they can marry and whether they really love Jesus or not.

I’m tired of you being more outraged by red coffee cups and department store restrooms than by poverty and racism and gun violence and our crumbling school system.

I’m tired of gay people being accused of the kind of predatory behavior that straight men have been exhibiting, since the man cave was—an actual cave.

I’m tired of reminding you that the number of times Jesus spoke about gender identity and sexual orientation in the Gospels—is zero.

I’m tired of having to explain to people that although I am a Christian, that I’m not that type of Christian; the kind that is generous with damnation and stingy with Grace.

I’m tired of LGBTQ teens cutting their forearms and jumping off buildings because they’re told by their church friends that God hates them, because their Christian parents told them, because their Christian pastors told them.

I’m tired of followers of Jesus who don’t seem interested in cracking open a book to see what we’ve learned about the brain and the body in 2,000 years, or to realize that gender identity and sexual orientation don’t equal the word “homosexuality” in the Bible.

I’m tired of all the time I have to spend undoing the damage the Church has done to queer kids and their families.

I’m tired of religious folk who seem to want small government everywhere except the bedroom and bathroom.

I’m tired of Scientific ignorance being treated as if it’s a Christian virtue.

I’m tired of hearing you preach verbatim the gospel of Fox News.

I’m tired of high-profile pastors blaming gay people for 9/11 and Hurricane Katrina and ISIS and child obesity.

I’m tired of waiting for you to show up in this world and actually show the freakin’ love of Jesus to people the way he did and told you to, without excuses or caveats or theological tap dancing to avoid it.

I’m tired of this wasteful, fruitless, mean-spirited, unprovoked, unbiblical attack on the LGBTQ community, that is squandering so much time and life and beauty in the name of a God who is supposedly Love.

I’m tired of so many people believing that “Christian” and “bigot” are synonymous—and not disagreeing with them.

I’m tired of a Church which seems to be so ambivalent toward the teachings and example of Jesus.

I’m tired of a Christianity that is making me more and more embarrassed to be associated with it.

So I get that your feelings are hurt. I understand that you’re offended, and that’s not my intention.

But listen, if you’re going to tell a group of people that they’re going to Hell simply for existing, and you’re going to continually target those people through the Church and the Law and your social media accounts, don’t get angry with me when I tell you you’re being hateful and judgmental and ignorant.

It could be worse.

At least I’m not damning you for all eternity.

Sincerely,

A Very Tired Christian

I know there’s lot of people out there telling you who to vote for but I’m not here to do that. Read up on the candidates and decide for yourselves what feels right.

However, what I will say is that if you’re thinking about not voting at all out of hopelessness for these candidates (and I know many people feel like this, trust me I get it) please go vote anyway!! There’s a lot more on the ballot than just a president, and if you’re wondering what’s at stake in your area you can google “view my ballot” for all the things you should read up on!
There’s a bunch of amendments and Supreme Court justice seats up for consideration and more! So I’m not here to influence your vote in any way, but if you live in the USA i do hope you consider voting if you weren’t thinking about it because there’s still some time left to get out there.
Happy Election Day everyone. I hope the world only becomes better as time goes on. 💙 // and thank you @npc_courtney (instagram) for the shirt! VOTE ARCHER 4 PREZ!! Lol 

Stop the tøp drama
  • PLZ REBLOG
  • Have you noticed though everyone hates on Stressed out because it was on the radio the most? Clique members calling other clique members fake because they found them by the song and actually like it? I wonder if it hurts their feelings to be honest. They made the song to help other people get through things and all the members do is hate on each other for it. I feel bad for the people who did find them that way because all they do is get hated on for it. The song is about when you were young, everyone tells you it gets better and you're waiting for it and in the end, you just end up stressed out about it. It has got a good tune, good meaningful lyrics and some people are getting mad because it became famous. We should all be happy for Tyler and Josh for making it this far. All I know is that I'm proud of them, and I'll listen to it as much as I want.
  • PLEASE reblog! This needs to be seen my every fan a need to show josh and tyler we're better than this... people said they were going to rape josh. ... Tyler was beat up by ppl....they are probibly not very proud of us guys...we can do better please please spread the word tell every qluiqe member you know

anonymous asked:

i've just started to research spirit work and along with discovering spirit companions and spirit shops. i came across some people saying you should never use a spirit shop to get a companion because theyre scams and i feel like i'm scared away now... is there any way to tell?

There is a lot of drama in the companionship community right now stemming from a few people that are trying to stir the pot and cause drama. Its just causing a panic and nothing more, and it definitely is possible to find a shop that is a scam, there are ways you can protect yourself as well. I do have my recommended shop list that you can check out, all of those shops I have personally worked with and trust. If you want to do a little research of your own, thats even better, because its best to go with a shop you trust as equally as well! Ask the conjurer questions! Check if they have a FAQ on their website first and see if that covers any questions that you have, but you can ask things like:

  • How long have you been conjuring?
  • How long has your shop been open?
  • Do you conjure on a regular basis?
  • How do you vet your spirits?
  • How long have you been working with X type of entity/spirit? (If you have a specific spirit in mind or a specific type of spirit in mind)
  • What is done to ensure the safety of the buyer?
  • What is done to ensure the safety of the spirit/entity?
  • Under what circumstances is the binding allowed to be broken?

Obviously that is not an exhaustive list, but those are good questions to start off with. Good indicators of a legit conjurer is how long their shop has been open, and how often they conjure. If a shop has been around for awhile (think a year+) there is a good chance they are a legit shop. Scam shops tend to be more pop-up and aren’t around for very long because they can’t keep customers due to the fact that they aren’t legit. There is no correct amount of time for a person to have been conjuring, as everyone progresses differently, but some decent amount of experience is a good thing, and they should also conjure on a semi regular basis as well before opening their shop.
Don’t expect your potential conjurer to tell you everything about how they vet their spirits and their entire process, but they should be able to tell you a little bit about the process. or what is done/how long they hold the entity before sending them to the buyer. They should also be able to tell you what is done to ensure BOTH your safety and the spirit/entities safety as well. 

Hope this helps!

Please stop telling me how to grieve!

I’ve read so many times over the last few days that the creators never promised me anything and owe me nothing.

Well, guess what, this works two ways.

And if someone is insulting me and my intelligence, then I don’t have to accept that. Respect is something that has to be earned.

My grieve is mine. I do it for me, to cope, to work through all the hurt and pain I’m experiencing right now. It’s not my duty to make creators happy or fellow fans feel better.

Don’t judge other people’s coping mechanisms by your own standards. If you don’t like what you read, scroll past, block, get off tumblr for a while. If you are appalled by the negativity erupting on tumblr in the aftermath of S4, do something positive, for example, sent an encouraging tweet to Mark Gatiss or a letter of appreciation to Hartswood if you are so inclined.

But stop lecturing me how I should deal with this! I am already hurting. I don’t need anyone to tell me that my kind of grieving is wrong, that I’m bad at it, that I should be ashamed of how I feel and act, that I should be able to cope better, that I am failing as a fan. That is really not helping.

I don’t have to live up to anyones’s standards but mine. And I would really appreciate if I’d be left in peace to do so.

Am I still not good enough?

A/N: First of all,I want to tell that I am not a writer - at all. I just had this idea in my head,because I think they could’ve explored the ‘not good enough’ plotline if the show was not on DC since it’s a pretty common issue. I for one am always afraid that people will pick someone better or prettier over me and I feel like this is the way Riley feels sometimes,or should feel with everything that is going on the show. Th story is more of a Riley centric one but I still hope you will like it. There might be a lot of mistakes, which is normal since I do not have this writer flow and English is not my first language but I hope that you can get past that and give this a go.Also,I would love to know what your thoughts were so feedback is appreciated :)
Enjoy xo

Part 2

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It was a typical afternoon. The group of friends was gathered at Topanga’s for a study session but Maya, Farkle and Isadora had to leave a little earlier today. Riley excused herself and headed to the restrooms. A few minutes later, she was coming back but got held back by the new pastries her mom had ordered some days ago. That’s when she heard words that her mind used to repeat so much just a few months ago.

 “I made a huge mistake, Zay. I should’ve picked Maya .. things with Riley are just not working out.“  

Lucas’ voice came like a splash of cold water for Riley, she froze on her feet and was unable to move but was also sure she didn’t want to be there for the rest of this conversation. Her curls floated before her in the room when she took a few steps to get into the room in a hurry. 

“Hey, guys .. my parents need me at home asap. I have to go.“   

With these words Riley grabbed her backpack and flew out of Topanga’s as if the floor was crumbling behind her.

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I'm very, very lucky to do what I do. Everyday, I make a gratitude list of 10 things that I’m grateful for. I’m so grateful for my family, my mom, my stepdad, they all made it possible for me to come here. Plus the the opportunities I’ve had, for my friends, for the fact that I’m living in New York, in my own apartment in the city. I’m also grateful to have people that believe in me the way they do; it’s also a friendly reminder that life is has got to keep going, you should never feel like you’ve arrived. You gotta stay hungry. It’s all over for you the moment you don’t. And in my job, it’s also about exploring yourself. Films are an incredible medium where you get to talk to people. I have these great fans, they write me everyday, telling me about their lives getting better from watching my movies. To me that’s more important than anything else. And as a man in the world, you have to leave something behind, if not what the hell am I doing while I’m here?

I Love You

There’s a lot of hate in the world right now. There always has been, but it seems to be running rampant right now, and I can’t tell if that’s because more people are paying attention to the news and more things are being reported or if it’s just a really terrible time for a lot of people right now. But either way, there are a lot of people that have to live with and are affected by this hate, and to you I want to say that I’m sorry and I love you.

Sorry’s don’t help, I know. “Keeping you in my thoughts” won’t help you deal with the loss of a loved one or the fear of being targeted because of your appearance. I’m not the easiest person to talk to, and I doubt there’s anything I’d be able to say to make you feel better if you did try to talk to me, but I’m here for you if you need me.

You’re strong. You’re beautiful/handsome/amazing. You matter. You can’t stop terrible people from doing terrible things, you may fear for your life based on decisions your government makes, and you may even have to fear celebrating with friends/family/your country because one person could decide to ruin it. But you can’t let that fear control you; you deserve all the happiness in the world and you shouldn’t let anyone keep you from achieving that. But please, stay safe, protect the people you love, and don’t let anyone tell you that you aren’t worthy of the things you deserve, whether that be happiness, compassion, love, or respect.

I love you all~

wally-iris  asked:

shadowhunters

send me a tv series and I’ll tell you:

  • my all-time ultimate fave character(s): Magnus Bane & Isabelle Lightwood
  • a character I didn’t used to like but now do: Clary Fray (I love her now, she’s grown so much)
  • a character I used to like but now don’t: No one comes to mind…
  • a character I’m indifferent about: Raphael (though i love the representation he brings to the show)
  • a character who deserves better: Luke Garroway, Maia Roberts, Isabelle Lightwood & Jace Wayland
  • a ship I’ve never been able to get into: Climon
  • a ship I’ve never been able to get over: Malec (Runner Up: Sizzy)
  • a cute, low-key ship: Simon x Maia
  • an unpopular ship but I still enjoyed it: Clace (I feel like not too many people ship it…)
  • a ship that was totally wrong and never should have happened: Izzy x Raphael
  • my favourite storyline/moment: Malec love story, Anything involving Magnus’s back story, Izzy and the conflict with her mother, Alec’s guilt and depression over killing Jocelyn, Alec’s coming out storyline, Jace’s arc this season, “PLEASE DON’T LEAVE ME ALEC”, “TYPICAL VAMPIRE, ALWAYS UNDERESTIMATING A SHADOWHUNTER. ADIOS.” “STILL WANNA TAKE ME OUT?” “I LOVE YOU” and so much more tbh.
  • a storyline that never should have been written: Izzy’s yin fen addiction and co dependent relationship with Raphael),
  • my first thoughts on the show: Cheesy but I’mma stick with it
  • my thoughts now: I LOVE IT SO MUCH

Pi and I have the same disability. We both have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. I have type III, he has type I. But it’s basically the same thing.

So it really bothers me when people come up to me and ask what’s wrong with him. Nothing is wrong, he’s disabled. I don’t like to tell people what he has because it feels like I’m telling them what I have, even though they have no way of knowing that.

The other thing is when people (and even vets!) say stuff like “oh it’s so good that you keep him and help him even though he’s disabled". I’ve even had a vet say that since Pi won’t get any better he should be put to sleep. When people act like he’s some burden on me because he’s in a wheelchair, or because he’s deaf it makes me feel bad. Because we’re the same, Pi and I. And when people like the vet say his life isn’t worth living it makes me feel like they would say my life isn’t worth living either.

I had a lot of people asking me about Pi’s chair and disabilities today and it just made me upset. He’s not a burden, he deserves the best life I can give him. And the same goes for me, I’m not a burden and I deserve the best life I can make for myself.

random-sushi-eater  asked:

Alright, I really need to get this off my chest, I feel so stupid, because I've always been so shy and I act weird around people, I also feel like I don't have anyone to talk to that'll listen, my friends don't have any advice for me, and I don't have a good relationship with my parents, plus my grades are falling. I'm telling you this because I feel like I should talk to someone I can relate to. My self esteem is also very low because I feel so alone and sad, I don't know what to do.

Hey sushi! I’m so sorry to hear that.
I’m glad you opened up to me, and I know things seem rough now.
But trust me, THINGS WILL GET BETTER.
You’ve seen how someday I’ll write posts about how I want to kill myself, but that’s because I fell so helpless and think there is nothing I can do.
But you need to remember no matter how terrible a situation is or how bad things may seem:
THE SUN WILL COME UP TOMORROW.
It sometimes feels like the world is crashing around you, but it isn’t.
I know most people will say
“You have people who care about you!”
Which is important, don’t get me wrong; But the most important person you should think about when it comes to your well being is YOU.
Only you decide.
I hope this helps, and I send you all my virtual hugs and support!

Started getting down on myself and then I was like you know what? This is the body I have today, right now. This is my face. This is my hair, my skin, my physical self as a whole.

Hating it doesn’t change it. Hating it doesn’t change who I am. It doesn’t transform me into the people I wish I looked like, nor does it make me a better person, which is what should matter most.

Fuck getting exhausted from listening to the voice in my head that tells me I’m both horrendously ugly and a bad person. I’m so tired of wasting energy on that. I’m so tired of being paranoid and upset and without confidence. So tired of feeling like a lesser person compared to everyone else.

Soooo this is me and how I look today, and I can’t really change it in an instant of hating myself. Better to be kind and patient with myself. Better to treat myself with respect, nourish myself properly, exercise because it feels good, and stop pinching myself when I’m angry.

Gonna listen to the Moana soundtrack and completely ignore that my hair is messy from the wind, my skin isn’t perfectly clear, I could be taller and leaner and blah blah blah. Today is about gracious acceptance, not hating myself