(ex fo4 friend anon again) nah i never did it obnoxiously or anything just a few reblogs every now and again which i DID tag so they could be blacklisted. tbh though i dont miss her anymore esp bc she just became a toxic unlikable person since fo4s release
yeah sorry if i sounded skeptical or accusing, i didnt actually mean to! but i have been on the opposite end where ive had no opinion over something and someones constant berating (over ships no less) made me just hate the whole series all together. so its just something i pointed out since i dont want anyone feeling discredited if theyve had that problem!
but tbh i havent explored the fandom past a handful of random people, i try to stick to a certain niche of lgbt fnv fans because i have really obvious criticism over fo4. and i cant really handle people who victimize themselves and take it personally because its legitimate and has nothing to do with fans, but has everything to do with it being a videogame i bought! i even kinda tried to get into fo4 fandom at the beginning but there was a blatant disregard for like… lgbt fans? specifically lg and t though. like i bought the game because people were saying the companions were bi/poly and i guess i should’ve realized what that ACTUALLY meant but everyone kinda taking that to face value and using it as “representation” rubbed me so wrong. like im pretty fucking sick and tired of people using bisexuality as a means to end all “shipping discourse” and throwing lesbian/gay people under the bus, but also like… ive never seen anyone develop and make any character have agency with their bisexuality past just saying theyre bi so it really feels like no one actually cares about “representation” and only whether the character can be shipped with men and women. it makes me end up in this weird predicament where i prefer gay/lesbian characters and headcanons because it feels more genuine, even though i do really want bi characters since bi characters are pretty much none existent in the whole series.
idk sorry about the rant on fandom but im pretty much saying you dodged a bullet! and its too bad fo4 fandom is “like that” because it is enjoyable with the right niche of fans but i think the right niche is too busy on there 100th playthrough of fnv :P
okay so my sexuality's a complicated deal so let's just call me queer as hell
nono I wanna know can't you explain it
well ok mainly I am asexual which means I don't want to do the do nor do I long for it, so it has nothing to do with lack of confidence or anything like that, I simply don't find anyone sexually attractive
but I'm also bi romantic. The sexual and romantic attraction are different, and I still fall in love and want to have physical contact with my partner, I just don't need the hanky panky
right cause you have a girlfriend that's pansexual right
exactly and as long as we're both happy with not doing the rumba naked, that's a valid relationship
I get it, I get it... I didn't know the entire sexual and romantic orientations were different
yeah I know it was an eyeopener for me when I found ou-
Lady behind us in line:
excuse me so sorry but I couldn't help but overhear but I didn't know half of what you just said and I was just wondering what that thing your girlfriend was is, pansexual?
*awkward glance at friend* oh uh I'm not an expert or anything and uh ok so basically it's similar to being bisexual, but there's less value in what gender the one you're attracted to is, at least as I understood it. So a bisexual would be attracted to a person despite their gender, a pansexual wouldn't really care at all in a way uh I'm sorry I'm bad at explaining
Lady behind us in line:
that's alright I can look it up myself later you gave me a general idea! So where did you find out these things, you're pretty young?
well, Internet. Once you're a bit confused about what you might be you usually go looking for explanations...
Lady behind us in line:
so uh in theory... It's fine if you don't know, I just want to check with you... Is there a thing called aROMANTIC? like you're asexual, is there a equivalent to the romantic orientation you mentioned?
oh yeah, absolutely! You can be both asexual and aromantic, or aromantic and heterosexual, literally all combinations are possible!
Lady behind us in line:
*smiles LIKE REALLY GODDAMNED GENUINELY* thank you so much, I did not know that. *fishes up phone from pocket* now if you excuse me, I'm going to call my mother and tell her I'm not crazy for never having been married or stayed with one guy for long despite being 50+ but still has three children! *steps out of line and walks off while dialing*
wow that was... Amazing
see how happy she got? That's the power of right information.
And that's why I've been smiling since this happened.
me and isi @isisisak like to yell at each other abt who is big and lil spoon in evak and we have decided that both do both, #equalspoons, here is just some words about it
situations in which isak is the big spoon:
-even still sometimes has a habit of getting up in the middle of the night, and isak doesnt like waking up to an empty bed with no idea where even has disappeared off to. its not that isak doesnt trust even, because he really really does, he’d just rather not wake up to an empty bed ever. if he gets to be the big spoon he can pull even closer against him and stop him going anywhere. at this point in their relationship he can always tell when even’s gonna have one of those nights where he’s slightly more restless than usual, and they both know it calms him and helps him sleep better if isak is curled around his back, one arm around his waist and his face pressed in the back of even’s neck (its not always 100% effective. isak is a heavy sleeper and sometimes even wriggles out early in the morning. in these situations when isak wakes up, he ends up having to be the big spoon while standing up, while even makes them breakfast. this usually earns him the affectionate nickname of koala or monkey, depending on how even’s feeling)
-sometimes, even has really bad days when he doesn’t have energy for a n y t h i n g. all he can do is snuggle under the blankets and try and shut his brain up. isak knows he can’t really do anything in this situation, its just the horrible part of even’s illness that comes out sometimes, but they also both know that it feels at least a little bit like something if isak gets to be the big spoon, so he can hold even close, keep him safe and warm and held, so that even knows he isn’t alone because he can feel isak around him, and the rational part of his brain, althhough it can get buried pretty deep under the heaviness of depression, knows that isak loves him so much and is always always going to be here for him
-sometimes even has days he wouldn’t call bad bc he knows with his sickness what really bad days are. but he has had a confrontation with someone, his parents fought (even tho even wouldn’t admit this bothered him to the extent it does), a teacher was unfair or any little thing that adds to that day being draining or annoying. he sometimes pulls isak’s arm around him then and sometimes just falls asleep on his side and when he wakes up there is a warm warm boy wrapped around him (sometimes arms aren’t enough and there’s also a leg around him, its like a cage but he warm kind where you don’t want to leave and if you have to pee well you better hold it, bc that soft boy sleeps like a rock once he managed to fall asleep)
situations in which even is the big spoon:
-isak has his fair share of sleepless nights too, he doesn’t like to admit it bothers him this much but when he has a test coming up that he isn’t prepared enough for (and who’s fault is that, even?) he won’t be able to sleep much the night before. being the little spoon in this situation won’t always help him sleep, but it will help him relax to feel even pressing soft kisses into his hair, whispering quiet words of encouragement and love in his ear because “you’re going to do incredible baby, i know it” and “i love you so so much and i’d love you even if you got a 1″
-sometimes, to his own annoyance, isak gets affected by comments on his sexuality. it pretty much doesn’t happen any more, and isak is so so proud of being gay now, and even prouder that he has such a wonderful boyfriend by his side always (even if not always in a physical sense) one day, they meet jonas’ old friend elias in the street, and isak is so happy to be able to say loudly, “yes, elias, i am gay. is there a problem?” while holding his boyfriends hand and makingg no attempt to be subtle. but later that night it all comes out. even asks isak what exactly was that guys deal, and isak explains (just a few comments here and there, nothing that he should be getting worked up about) except he does get worked up, and even feels a bit useless to be honest, he wants to feel like he can protect isak somehow, so he wraps isak up in his arms, safe and sound, and draws little patterns onto isaks stomach as he waits for his breathing to steady and his eyes to close.
-when Isak is drunk he is always very cuddly and somehow suddenly looks about 20cm smaller (which even would never say out loud, his life means something to him, thank you very much) and also very needy for affection. so before drunk iiak goes to sleep he buries his face in even’s chest and demands that even is stroking his hair (which would happen anyway bc drunk isak purrs like a little kitten when he does that but hes ‘just following orders here’) and when he fell asleep he’ll turn around and end up being the little spoon.
and there you have it
some days (or rather nights but also NAPS are a thing so) its a conscious decision and some it’s an instinctive thing.
if you need clarity on other situations or scenarios please write one of us
@caspercassiecas okayy so this is what I came up with- he’s a loser adult dude (like ig young adult..? 27 at least-) He looks the same from when he was in high school but he changes the color of his hair every few months. He has some nerdy frens maybee,,
I feel like once he gets squip!jeremy it’ll take a bit to actually be successful in life n all w a business soooo ig when he’s like- late thirties..? or so..? is when he finally thinks about putting time into the AI projects for squip!jeremy.
He’s always been a tech geek and all but he never exactly knew how to use his.. talent..? To actually make monies and all so the squip will help him out with that..
okay like I have a really difficult time understanding why people find Chaol’s character to be interesting /at all/. I find him to be so annoying because he’s like that moderate liberal white boy who thinks women should be allowed to have abortions but also wants a wife who stays home in the kitchen. Where she belongs. He’s like, a total Dean from Gilmore Girls. He’s /so/ convinced that he’s a nice guy who knows what the right thing to do is all the time.
Like even in Tog and CoM he’s that textbook guard character who is bound by some unrealistic sense of honor and duty and thinks he understands the ins and outs of morality. But of course that honor doesn’t allow for things driven by emotion. That honor doesn’t allow for survival unless it plays by his rules. That honor doesn’t allow for power in the hands of women. And that honor doesn’t allow for killing those who have wronged you. Chaol is like…the least likely character to succeed in a zombie apocalypse. He holds everyone to some moral code, and damns them when they don’t live up to it (he does this with Celaena in CoM and basically all of QoS). Inflexible morality and honor inevitably leads to problems because it doesn’t allow for understanding of emotional conflicts, nor does it allow for forgiveness when those emotions drive people to do bad things. Chaol damns Celaena for killing Nehemia’s murderers. Rowan just accepts it and is like “good.” Chaol thinks Aelin’s power makes her a monster. He thinks less of her because she is fae. Rowan is like “okay you’re fae. whatever. show me what you’ve got.” Rowan is infinitely more interesting than Chaol, as a love interest, and a man, because where Chaol’s sense of honor is based on some hard lined Moral Code™, Rowan’s sense of honor is based on protecting those close to him. Once he claims Aelin, its clear that his moral compass now has one direction: protect and help and love and serve Aelin Galathynius to the best of my abilities, and the rest of the world be damned. Chaol’s love for Aelin is bound by his inability to reconcile her past as an assassin and her fae heritage with his immovable and someone flawed moral code.
In the end, it becomes clear that Chaol is just pissed that Aelin is so much more than he is. Greater than anything he will ever be. Rather than supporting her and attempting to help her, he pushes her away, damning her for not fitting into his carefully crafted view of the way humans are supposed to act.
Maybe some ppl like Chaol and his sense of honor, but I’ve read enough books on medieval chivalry to know that that bullshit ain’t for me.