and hope and shit

anonymous asked:

I just read the pledius statement update and stayed up waiting for it... there's been more and more people standing up for dongho and I wanted to ask for your update opinion?

Hey, bud, I also stayed up for it rip my sleeping schedule.

I am so relieved Pledis has responded with clarifications about some of accuser’s evidence. I also appreciate that they’re taking full legal action and aren’t going to accept settlements so at least there will be closure. 

My stance, however, is still the same: I will not take sides- I will not defend nor condemn him or the girl. I will also not condemn anyone who does take sides, though. My staying neutral is honestly for more personal reasons. 

The only thing left to do is wait- but the fact that they’re taking action and investing time and effort into this does help settle my nerves some. Hopefully Pledis has conclusive evidence and the case doesn’t get dragged out. However there is still a lot of uncertainty in terms of how this will play out regardless if he is innocent. There’s no escaping this without some form of damage.

I am very very very depressed about the implications for real victims in the future though. :/ The fact that this might all be a lie to slander him coupled with the reception it’s gotten is going to make it harder for real victims to come forward. I’m also hoping that people who are siding with Dongho, which they are allowed to do as is their right to express their opinions, aren’t using dismissive logic to support him (i.e. victim waited too long so they’re clearly not a real victim, etc) because that kind of thinking is prevalent and the reason why it is hard for real victims to come forward. We should have faith that things will work out in the end and justice will be served to whoever is the liar (and I’m hoping it’s not Dongho). 

Personally, it’s very hard to me, as someone who was a victim, to side with him blindly until there is closure or something more concrete because of the cognitive dissonance that these situations create. I’d either have to use some the same logic that was used on me (i.e. dismissing based on waiting too long to talk, keeping in contact with harasser, treating harasser normally, confabulation, family glossing over events, etc) or I’d have to support blindly and both make me deeply uncomfortable. Both sides are contradicting each other and I have a lot emotional investment in Dongho which is at odds with my own personal experiences that are biasing how I perceive the accusations. I can’t choose a side without some part of me feeling extremely guilty about my choice. 

However, I do acknowledge the inconsistencies in the accuser’s story and I’m hoping very, very, very, very hard that the truth will be revealed in court and that Dongho will be okay in the end if he is innocent (which again, I am hoping very very very hard that he is). 

I love Dongho with all my heart and I want nothing but the best for him, so I hope anyone reading this doesn’t assume that my neutral stance means I’m against him or siding with the girl. This entire situation makes me very very uncomfortable because of my past and I already had a panic attack when it broke. To save myself from any more cognitive dissonance (that’s honestly wrecking me)- I’m trying hard to be neutral and detached throughout the entire situation. 

Again, if anyone wants to discuss this further, feel free to send me a private message. Also I apologize for any typos or parts that may not be clear.I had very little sleep last night and it looks like I won’t be getting much again tonight.

anonymous asked:

Im kinda worried that they are basically erasing Chloe's romantic feelings for Rachel in the first game. You don't think oh Rachel and Chloe were just really good friends when you hear her talk about Rachel. You have to be painfully in denial. Its total bs.

i think they were more than friends but less than girlfriends n it was kept ambiguous for a reason. whether or not rachel acted on those feelings for her doesnt change the fact that chloe’s crush was 100% there and real…….i dont care what deck nine says or does ? like….. she said she loved her n whatever else. that all comes after before the storm, it’s canon.

the status of their relationship wasn’t cleared up and i dont think it’ll ever be due to the choices they’re inserting into the game. im choosing to look at it as chloe keeping her feelings to herself versus not, and tbh i think? it fits in to what theyre doing? considering amberprice wasnt ever officially confirmed ? unless it turns into gal-pal territory im choosing to just sorta…float in the grey area until it comes out so we can see fr ourselves what happens

anonymous asked:

Out of morbid curiosity how did you actually kill Destiny or your save? Did you just use Master Controller or did you legit have to kill her off another way? I was just curious because she does have a ghost.

I used Master Controller, yeah! From there I just selected a random death. I think it may have been hunger…?

Because I’ve basically been told to upload this. I needed to prepare tho. :’D My Sh//eith shipper soul is crying somewhere in the corner. But what you don’t do for special people.


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thanks for inviting me to the party. if you need me, i’ll be in the corner, drinking & trying not to make eye contact