Honestly I loved who Elena was when she was with Stefen. She loved him, but she didn't let that relationship rule her entire life, you know? She cared deeply about the people around her and she had a lot more depth. With Damon I honestly kinda find her pathetic, like she's bent all of her morals and all of her codes to be with him. she had her annoying faults in the first seasons but she wasn't a hallow person. Damon ruined who she was as a person to me. I kinda wanted your inside on this this.
Well what was great about Stelena was that both Stefan and Elena could be there for people who depended on them because they had each other to go to home to, they relied one another, which made them strong throughout the supernatural shenanigans, allowing other people to rely on them, they could be the rocks or the “power couple” so to speak so lie they do this first:
so Elena can do this after:
and they work together to protect people
so Elena was more involved with her friends and family when she was with Stefan because it was a relationship that enhanced life, not shrink it down so that the only thing that mattered was the other person.
Now, there are relationships that do the whole you’re-my-entire-world-all-I-need-is-you dark, toxic relationship well, as I’ve said repeatedly, DE isn’t one of them and it isn’t one of them because Elena just becomes bland. She’s just there for Damon to win over and she doesn’t make it hard for him and if she ever is with someone who isn’t Damon, they’re just talking about Damon.