Anyone who thinks a little thing like an engagement or a marriage will stop people shipping Swan Queen doesn’t understand femslash fandom at all. We know our couples hardly ever get together on screen - we are, believe it or not, aware of the profound heteronormativity of the society we live in. But fortunately we also know that whatever happens on screen is only the beginning of the story. Especially a marriage, which is seldom even the halfway point in actual people’s lives, let alone their happy ending. Het shippers know this too - or else why would they write fanfic? But a select few of the least pleasant conveniently forget it when they think they can use a marriage as some absolute and incontrovertible proof of ‘victory’ that will silence those pesky femslash fans.
Swan Queen fandom *is* shrinking, but mainly because of the declining quality of a show that was never very good to begin with. And also because of how shabbily the production has treated them. I know I’ve only watched about half the episodes in the last couple of years and there isn’t a single one coming up that I have any interest in.
But Swan Queen? That will always be one of my ships, just the way Bering & Wells is. Just the way Xena is. Swan Queen was and will continue to be a great story that had the misfortune to be trapped in a third-rate show written by fourth-rate hacks. Luckily in a few months or at most a year my ship will be entirely free of its anchor.