i think ive been doing a very good job of finding a way to live PAST my abuse instead of in it. i think jake is a big part of it. he doesnt focus on it doesnt make it a big deal he just keeps me positive and lifts me when im down and i am strong enough to lift him when hes down and i think thats important. i dont worry about being a burden and neither does he and thats the healthiest thing. its hard not to obsess over abuse. thats how it keeps you held down and its nice to have someone who lifts you out of it consistently.
everyone deals with abuse differently but the best thing for me besides just my own determination and jake was quitting this negative website with all these Fun Abuse Things! posts like ok i know that abuse does that do you have to remind me hahaha all youre doing is making it worse dude!