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i love morrigan

I don’t care what her character has done in the past? I don’t care what she may do in the future? She’s literally my fave character in this series and I don’t care who she ends up with or who she has sex with (or not) I just really need to see my Wife and “Morrigan from the war” happy and avenged and to get whatever she wants from life.

If anything happens in these books to make people attack her character again I’m going to flip out on a fucker. Just. So y’all know.

A thought

I miss talking to you frequently guys, it part of the reason why i’m on tumblr and i don’t feel good isolating myself like that

So do you guys have any question for me? Tell me about yourself too! -in my ask box, or even submission if you have something cool to show me-

I’m always open to discussion! if you want to share something with me i’ll always be happy, really!

I decided yesterday (kind of at the last minute as we were filing our marriage license application) to change my name when we get married and I’m having a lot of feelings about it.





Since a couple of you asked for them and I replied with just random pictures and a couple of names, I decided that it was time for me to properly introduce my babies to you. 
It’s gonna be a very long post, so if you wish, everything’s under the cut!

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anonymous asked:

Perhaps I'm grossly over simplifying this, but I'm pretty are most people know the difference between what is acceptable and what isn't. No matter how many times a kid shoots people in a video game, I don't think most will ever think that doing so is acceptable in real life. No matter how many dark stories you read, are you ever going to stop seeing them as dark? I mean horror stories seem to hold up pretty well over generations *because* they're horrifying.

I’m not talking about acceptable, though - I’m talking about what’s normal. Like, look at shaving your lady bits, and your lady bits needing to be perfectly symmetrical OR ELSE. I’m supposed to be working rn, so I don’t want to look for statistics, but I think we all know neither was a thing until, I’m gonna say, ten years ago? Fifteen? When I was a teenager, people used to shave those little tufts of hair that have the audacity to peek from a bikini bottom - if that. The idea of ‘trimming the bush’ or, God forbid, wax yourself there, was simply not on our radar. And since none of us had the possibility of spending the day looking at other ladies’ secret bits, the idea that ours might not be normal wasn’t that widespread. Now labiaplasty is a thing, and even a common thing, and I’ve read several convincing articles which argue it all comes down to porn. We see something often enough, it becomes normal. I don’t want to step into the videogame controversy (even if I do think it’s worrying that nobody respects the 18 and over warning labels, because I’ve had conversations with young students and relatives about this and no, it’s not a good idea for a twelve-year-old to watch and use content which is restricted and forbidden to minors), but I think that romance, in a sense, is even more dangerous than violence. All those shitty books and movies out there telling us it’s alright for men to stalk women and it’s alright to sulk and bitch with your friends instead of actually talking to your significant other and it’s normal that men are only interested in football and beer and all men are like that just like all women are into shoes and period, not to mention that horrific Shades of Grey bullshit on how romantic and perfect it is to allow a man to take control of your entire life, including how much you eat and when, which birth control you’re using, if any, and that you should accept all that because in exchange you’ll get expensive gifts and mind-blowing orgasms every time he puts a finger on you - all that is dangerous. And the same goes for porn. You hear stories of people (usually young men) getting completely desensensitized, even being unable to reach orgasm with a real partner, and I feel it’s the same with smut - you read your first blood and gore noncon or zoophiliac or underage story out of curiosity and after a few months it becomes just another thing you do, another thing people write, and I’m not sure that’s healthy. It doesn’t mean I’ll go out and rape a dog any time soon, but that’s beside the point. You know, only last month I was translating Seneca with a class - he’s an annoyingly strict and virtuous Roman philosopher I used to hate when I was younger but I’m now begudgingly starting to admit he may have been on to something - and it’s this passage kids always like, because it’s about gladiators. And what I like about it is that Seneca turns the thing on its head - he does worry about the gladiators themselves, of course, but he also asks: what about me? What about my soul? Why should I have to spend my lunch break watching men die? How will that make me a better person? Really, sometimes I think that what he wrote two millennia ago is mostly what I think about venturing into the seediest parts of AO3 (which are, by the way, the easiest to find, because the filthiest the story, the more hits it has).

I turned in to the games one mid-day hoping for a little wit and humor there. I was bitterly disappointed. It was really mere butchery. The morning’s show was merciful compared to it. Then men were thrown to lions and to bears: but at midday to the audience. There was no escape for them. The slayer was kept fighting until he could be slain. “Kill him! flog him! burn him alive” was the cry: “Why is he such a coward? Why won’t he rush on the steel? Why does he fall so meekly? Why won’t he die willingly?” Unhappy that I am, how have I deserved that I must look on such a scene as this? Do not, my Lucilius, attend the games, I pray you. Either you will be corrupted by the multitude, or, if you show disgust, be hated by them. So stay away.

So, really - it’s a society-wide thing. We’re often disappointed in kids when we hear them say all they want in life is to be rich and famous, but Michelle Obama was right - if those are the things we watch all day long, if those are the things we read about, well - it does have an influence on you. I mean, would we be okay with videogames where you play a concentration camp guard and you gain points by pushing prisoners into the gas chambers? Would we be happy with AO3 stories where one of our beloved characters gets his kicks and sexual satisfaction by enslaving black people, or performing ‘healing rapes’ on lesbians? I don’t think so, and I don’t know why so many other awful things have become so normalized in our community. As I said, it’s human to have weird thoughts form time to time, but I don’t believe it’s particularly healthy, in the long run, to share everything we feel with everybody.

I channeled some of my rage and despair into this piece today, it helped a little. To all my sisters marching tomorrow, stay safe, be aware of your surroundings but most importantly, show them that we will not be stopped, we will not conform. This battle rages on. Stay Angry, my friends.

EDIT: by popular demand, I made this illustration available as a print and other merchandise, if you’re interested please visit my soc6 page right over >>>> here <<<< thank you for all the love and support. And to all of you that are marching today with me, say it loud sisters, stay strong and stay safe!! <3

Not really in the mood for ecchi mangas rn but I’m bored af, let’s see how bad this is gonna be-

Wait- so THE LADY ARMOR IS ACCURATE AND DOESN’T DO THE BOOB-ARMOR STYLE?! HELLO YES YOU HAVE MY ATTENTIO- no wait I’m not falling for that, could be like that one time with the anime lady’s basketball and have ““cutesy”“ weak moves and no actual powerful action-

*wheezes* ok you have 90% of my attention-

HELLO YES, NOW (combining the points from the previous statement) YOU HAVE




I never thought I’d get to see club penguin’s iceberg tip but here we are, probably 10 years since I stopped believing it was possible, and dreams have come true. (Excuse the sniff in the middle - I was holding back tears)

I might write more about this later (I’m debating about whether or not I want to give her more room on my platform when I’m so low-energy), but if you see a Kickstarter for a cutesy cartoon about and by WOC finding their place in fandom and blah blah blah floating around on this hellsite, note who the third (white) creator is and stay away from the project. 


Franzeska, the woman who wrote at least two reductive and racist meta pieces about fandom last year (the “My Vagina is a Bigot” meta and one dismissing racism in the SW fandom) is attached to the project and she has a HISTORY of being racist about fandom that somehow manages to go beyond writing sixteen thousand words (at least) that acted like racism in fan spaces wasn’t a problem and that fans of color have no agency or voice in these discussions. (Which is obviously plenty racist on its own.)

As far as I know, she has never apologized for any of the racism in her meta and she promotes an idea of fandom where no one can be critical and where fans of color are CONSTANTLY infantilized or erased. And, as a major voice in fan spaces and fan studies, she has set an example that people ARE following when it comes to erasure and antiblackness.

I get that the adorable art and two black women creating it might be a draw, but please don’t support Franzeska in this. 

Please criticize her participation and motives for the project and don’t reward her for appearing to do care about race and racism in fandom when her own work and rhetoric has proven that to be far from the case.

If anything, please support the artists for this project by commissioning them or purchasing their art if they have stores available, but don’t support the kickstarter. (If I have the energy do a longer post about this subject, I’ll link to support sites for these WOC so that you can do this more efficiently).

Franzeska is responsible for one of the most racist things I have ever seen in fandom and bigotry disguised as academic impartiality is the LEAST of the problems in her two main meta pieces and the absolute non-response from her to the women of color – primarily black women – she erased in the process of writing, sharing, and receiving back pats for that work.

If you require receipts, you can google her name and the meta. There’s a fanlore page that quotes me and other WOC (but also some anonymous assholes because ~impartiality~). 

You can also check out my “the star wars discourse” tag from the start because literally, she is one of the main reasons why I’ve been dedicating my academic and professional work to talking about racism and race in fan spaces.

Do yourselves a favor and support critical fans of color in fandom who Franzeska erased and minimized by not rewarding her with your money and time. 

There will be other, less smokescreen-y projects about race in fandom coming out, I can promise you that. Don’t support this one.

Thought of the day (while reading a “gender marketing” translation with painfully outdated views): I am really, really sick of us only talking about “gender” when women are involved.

A surprising number of important realizations could be made if we develop the habit of talking about gender dynamics even – perhaps especially – in the context of all-male or mostly-male groups.

How does it affect productivity, public image, collaboration, negotiating, client acquisition, etc. to have any group of people involved be entirely men? What effects does this drastic gender imbalance cause in its environment?

LET’S TALK ABOUT GENDER AND MEN, PEOPLE. Gender is not an exclusively female domain.

Me, interviewing the director of basically any film ever: “So let’s talk about the extreme gender imbalance in the casting of this film. What was the thinking behind that? Was there a particular statement you were trying to make, a satirical observation on the politics of society, perhaps? That kind of came out of left field, when we watched the film and all the parts but one were men. Can you tell us a little about the background of that?”

Director: “Um… I didn’t actually consciously think that much abou–”

Me, interrupting: “Come now, don’t be modest! That was a fascinating artistic decision! The drastic disparity between the number of men and the number of women in the film makes it clear to even the most casual viewer that gender is a central theme in this story. Can we delve into that a little bit further?”

Director: “…”

This would be a fun tack to take in regard to race, too.

“I noticed something very interesting about your film, which is that every single one of the leading roles is played by a white actor. Clearly there’s some conceptual message you want to communicate with this creative choice. Could you talk about that?”

Director: *sweats nervously*

Super Sappy Lines Prompt List

Because sometimes you just want to write the sappiest shit you can handle.

  1. “I’m in love with you.”
  2. “Please don’t leave me.”
  3. “It’s always been you.”
  4. “Shut up and kiss me.”
  5. “I’ve wanted this for so long.”
  6. “I can’t wait any longer.”
  7. “Can I kiss you?”
  8. “Can I touch you?”
  9.  “I missed you so much.”
  10. “Stay with me forever.”
  11. “I thought you didn’t want me.”
  12. “I want you. Only you.”
  13. “The way I feel when I’m with you…”
  14. “I’ll always love you.”
  15. “Please marry me.”
  16. “Why haven’t you kissed me yet?”
  17. “Because I love you!”
  18. “You’re the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen.”
  19. “I can’t stay away from you.”
  20. “I’ve been waiting all my life for you.”
  21. “I’m better when I’m with you.”
  22. “You make me so happy.”

PS if you write anything from this list, will you tag with #sappyprompts so I can see it? <3

did i ever show you this edit i made